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  • in reply to: Modernizing Slichos: A necessary adaptation or a departure from Mesorah? #2598337
    Zanvil
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    There is absolutely no shortage of translations and commentaries on Selichos. Let’s call it what it is:
    failing to understand the words is just a product of laziness and a total lack of preparation. If you didn’t bother practicing the pshat before Elul, that is entirely on you. You had a whole year to prepare. But now, suddenly, you claim to be a “mevakesh the emes”
    What is next—are we going to modernize the Shmoneh Esrei too?Enough is enough.
    I am completely sick and tired of this modern, self-indulgent narrative of “facing yourself” and “this is just who I am.” those idiots that think It isn’t deep, it isn’t entertaining, and it needs to be trimmed out of our …. entirely.
    Do not touch our mesorah . Look at Monsey, where we now have minyanim calling themselves “Selective Selichos” or “Selective Kinos.” It is absurd.
    Stop blaming the liturgy for your own lack of effort. Stand up, prepare, and respect the minhag ….

    in reply to: A reflection of an absurd thought . #2595973
    Zanvil
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    We must recognize that we are no longer facing a simple question of personal choice or education. We are witnessing an aggressive push to dismantle the very foundations of basic humanity and, specifically in our community, to aggressively reform Yiddishkeit.
    aveiros chamiros that were once universally understood as boundaries never to be crossed are now being normalized right before our eyes through the play of law and order
    . Merely teaching what is right and wrong is entirely inadequate; it treats the symptoms while ignoring the source of the root ,
    When a society relies on secular “law and order” to reshape the roots of human morality, it unintentionally dismantles the foundational pillars of Yiddishkeit.The Torah operates on an absolute, eternal framework: mitzvah vs. aveirah, and assur vs. mutar. A secular system cannot replicate this spiritual reality. Instead, secular culture aggressively redefines boundaries—erasing what was once universally recognized as immoral norm, rebranding it under the banner of “modern society,” and legalizing behaviors that was once assur.
    Attempting to utilize these secular legal mechanisms to act in our community poses an immediate danger to a vast segment of Klal Yisrael. For those whose lives are anchored purely in authentic Yiddishkeit, a terrifying vulnerability emerges: the moment a severe transgression becomes legally permitted and socially accepted by the state, the surrounding culture exerts a powerful pull in , If we allow the secular state to dictate the definitions of right and wrong, it will pull in—rachmana litzlan—countless souls “who mistake legality for morality.”

    in reply to: Was Rabbi AJ Twerski Right , the core of addiction is low self esteem? #2593982
    Zanvil
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    Is it fun to chew candy? Is it fun to drink coffee? Is it fun to feel hyper? Does it make sense to say, “It is fun to be happy”?Do you understand why it doesn’t seem related? Let me explain. Fun is more of an action—or better said, when you are doing an action to gain stimulation, it is called having fun. Happy is a feeling. So, you’re telling me it’s fun to have a feeling? I’m not always talking about an escape room, and I don’t think there is a need to escape.So, let’s break it up.
    You claim it’s fun to have a “hyper” feeling, just as you call it fun to feel cool. Everything you do has a reason. The reason you feel cool didn’t just happen in one minute; after a while, you adopted that feeling of being cool.That brings us to part one: you had a reason why you needed to have fun. Part two: you felt great after letting loose, so you felt satisfied. After repeating these two steps, you decide it is fun to have a certain feeling.Consider food cravings. A craving usually means you need a specific taste; you become obsessed with it. But is it actually fun to crave? Maybe after you indulge, you get that relief of thinking, “Yum.” Therefore, you are calling it “fun” based entirely on the after-result.We are not saying that every time you crave something, there is a need for an escape. What we are saying is that when a person feels threatened, they will do something to soothe themselves. Often, this stems from low self-esteem—where a person constantly feels exposed, judged, or emotionally unsafe, unhappy , .When someone feels unsafe too often, they become obsessed with the very thing that soothes them just to feel secure. In the long run, they will rely on this obsession without thinking because they desperately need that relief.This is exactly how addiction happens. You create a fixed path of obsession to soothe your situation. So, how did it all start? It started because this person didn’t feel safe, and they needed to soothe themselves just to feel a sense of relief. (makes sense?)

    in reply to: Was Rabbi AJ Twerski Right , the core of addiction is low self esteem? #2593246
    Zanvil
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    @ Chaim87

    the reason behind food is being hungry, and that hunger has a natural limit. There is an underlying reason for eating, and that is simple: when you feel hungry, you eat.
    However, you may develop an obsession with certain foods just to fulfill a specific craving.
    but , Feeling the need to get a “high” or a boost of happiness from food isn’t random. Obviously, if you just need to feel high or happy, it starts as an obsession.
    But the true difference between an obsession and an addiction isn’t just about fulfilling a craving you can’t control. Here is the real point: what is the actual reason behind that craving and that need for pleasure?Why would I desperately need that pleasure at exactly 9:00 PM or 11:00 AM every single day? Am I feeling depressed underneath, needing to feel “impressed” or to receive some sort of elation? Either you want to feel high just to feel cool, or something deeper is pushing you to need that feeling. If someone has a daily obsession to chase that feeling just to feel cool every single day, then it is no longer just a craving—it is a form of addiction. its all binding with how you relate to yourself , do you feel trapped or pressured etc.

    sum:Addiction isn’t a substance problem—it’s more of an escape problem rooted in low self-esteem. When we secretly dislike who we are , we use distractions just to numb the pain and feel “cool” for a moment. Conversely, people with high self-esteem possess the internal resilience to face reality directly; they don’t look for an exit because they trust that every problem has a solution, even if it takes weeks or months of discomfort to find it. Ultimately, the internal mathematics are simple: if you don’t respect yourself enough to believe you can fix your life, your only logical equation is to escape it. (whatever)

    in reply to: Non-Zionist View of Zionists #2592562
    Zanvil
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    true but I just think not everyone read his sefer ,as I witnessed too many misconceptions and misquotes from him , he was absolutely a daas yachid , good point .
    I apologize if my previous comments felt personal, but they come from three years of firsthand experience listening to the shiurim and engaging with shuirim on RIETS. I’ve seen the full spectrum of people there, including deeply serious, learners who have actively petitioned and signed letters against the university’s direction .
    I am specifically referring to those who follow in the footsteps of ‘JB’ With all due respect, his shita of Torah and secular philosophy was a distinct da’as yachid , the vast majority of mainstream gedolim and yeshiva authorities firmly opposed. (I’m just shmoozing , in life you’ll find people disagreeing with you nothing intentional )

    in reply to: Non-Zionist View of Zionists #2592182
    Zanvil
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    It is a big mistake to think the Satmar Rav believed that living in Israel was never a mitzvah. His actual point was very specific: he argued that today, moving to Israel is not a de-Oraisah , and he proved this by citing many major Rishonim, including the Rambam.
    His real battle was against the aggressive propaganda of the secular Zionists. Their agencies targeted religious families, tempting them to make aliyah with promises of a free home and a fresh start.But the reality was a spiritual trap.
    These families were sent to secular kibbutzim that completely lacked religious life. There were no rabbis, no batei medrash, and no kosher food. Surrounded by an anti-religious, socialist environment, thousands of God-fearing Jews lost their Yiddishkeit almost instantly. The Satmar Rav fought this propaganda because he saw the tragic results: innocent people making aliyah and turning completely sour. (you can fact check )

    in reply to: Non-Zionist View of Zionists #2592178
    Zanvil
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    >This is literally what Chofetz Chaim was asking in 1930s in Poland: have one kosher cheder in every town ..That is true, but you must realize that this was NOT Rabbi Joseph B. Soloveitchik’s original intention. He genuinely appreciated chochmas chitzonyos (secular wisdom) and sought to synthesize it with the Torah, truly believing that this combination would save the American Jewish youth from total assimilation.
    But between four eyes: Did he actually succeed??? have a look at YU Today, YU is a place caught in a constant, defensive battle against liberalization and secular compromise.

    Anyone listening closely to the shiurim coming out of the YU world today will notice a fundamental distortion: they routinely displace the authentic, text-driven Torah approach and replace it with a purely philosophical one.Instead of analyzing a topic through the lens of Halacha, Shulchan Aruch, and the authority of Chazal, these lectures reframe the Torah to fit modern intellectual trends. They subject the timeless truth of the Torah to Western concepts of psychology, existentialism, and human emotion. Rather than using the Torah as the absolute basis of hoiroah , they use external philosophy to validate and explain the Torah. This methodological shift fundamentally changes what Torah learning is supposed to be. It reduces a divine command into an intellectual exercise, (proving exactly why the gedolim warned against bringing chochmas chitzonyos into the Beis Medrash in the first place).

    Saying that Zionism saved Judaism is like saying Reform Judaism saved Judaism. Many do not fullyunderstand the PSAK of the Satmar Rav. As seen from his sefer Vayoel Moshe, his battle was against Religious Zionism, and objecting any theological valid sevara for a Jewish state—(especially a democratic one with socialist undertones).
    To clarify, Vayoel Moshe is divided into three distinct sections:The First chapter (Shalosh Shevuos): unmasks the concept of Atchalta De’geulah and all other apikorses that stems from Zionisim. such as having a Jewish state or voting etc. second chapter (Yishuv Eretz Yisrael): This section reviews whether settling in the Land of Israel remains a mitzvahtoday, specifically objecting the Religious Zionist claim that it is a Mitzvah de-Oraisa to settle in Israel . third chapter(Lshon HaKodesh): This section addresses the sin of modern Hebrew.

    When looking at Secular Zionism, a simple question arises: Is there a real difference between the ideology of Secular Zionism and Reform Judaism?The answer is NO
    At their core, both movements share the exact same objective: to strip Jewish identity of its theological essence and redefine it away from traditional Torah observance. On a practical level, both movements openly embrace chilul Shabbos and the consumption of treifos. etc.
    .. Therefore, supporting a democratic state run by secular Zionists is exactly like supporting a state run by Reform Jews.Historically, poiskim had a major machloke) on how to deal with this state:One view held that voting or speaking up within the government is just a practical way to protect religious needs. To them, it is not a true partnership, casting a ballot did not constitute an official partnership or endorsement of the state’s legitimacy..The Satmar Rav completely disagreed. He viewed any participation as a form of heresy (Minus). He stood by the strict ruling that you cannot compromise with heresy. He used the rule kevan de-mushcha, a-basrei—meaning once you let yourself get pulled in even a little bit, you will eventually follow it completely.While other rabbis chose to compromise to navigate this reality, Satmar Rav maintained that total separation was the only way to preserve the purity of the Torah.

    JB approach to Zionism was deeply rooted in existential philosophy, human experience, and emotion, especially in the raw aftermath of the Holocaust. not halacha , again I don’t know if you have the correct view of JB , he was mufrach , he meant good maybe , but he went his own way knowing he’s living a double life (I’m not getting involved )

    in reply to: What 50 Shadchanim Told Me #2591586
    Zanvil
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    @squreroot ,
    Your post was hilarious, but let’s be real—it sounds too good to be true! why not the other way around (fat boys and short girls). Also, there’s no way you called 10 shadchanim or have 50 private numbers. Real shadchanim keep a low profile and wouldn’t even answer a question like that.

    Honestly, most people today are just bloated from poor diets, but your post definitely gave me a good laugh.

    Zanvil
    Participant

    When an eleven-year-old boy or a yeshiva bochur feels the need to let loose, it is not just about letting loose . Rather, it is a necessary release of pressure—a way to breathe, reset, and mentally recharge. In fact, pausing to speak with others in the midst of intensive study can actually serve as a kiyuma shel Torah, because it resets the mind to learn better. Furthermore, hyperactivity has absolutely nothing to do with low self-esteem; it is just natural energy. However, using alcohol to escape yourself and force that feeling of being ‘loose’ is a 100% sign of escape and not trying to be cool .” especially when its confusing being happy with feeling pleasure ,

    I get why you disagree; you are only seeing someone having a little fun on the surface. However, Rabbi Dr. Abraham J. Twerski’s core teaching is that low self-esteem is the actual underlying issue driving that behavior, and that is because In reality, a person can relax and have fun without substances.

    in reply to: Non-Zionist View of Zionists #2591175
    Zanvil
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    “Honestly, I don’t consider Rabbi Soloveitchik’s view to be a halachic opinion on this matter. First, he didn’t issue a formal psak; his writings on Zionism were delivered as philosophical reflections. Second, within the world of standard Gedolim, his position was a distinct minority—and many would say it isn’t even halachically sound,( belonging more to a Modern Orthodox attempt to merge Torah with a secular, double life.)……
    I honestly don’t understand who your quoting , if you referring to JB , Rav Aron , chazon ish , Rav shach , Rav Moshe , Rav hunter , etc , all opposed any of his views especially in halacha ( reading his book halachik mind he quotes more goyim gemurim than rishonim ) and I would add he was totally megaleh ponim shloi kahalacha ……
    Even though many of us feel highly emotional or proud regarding a Jewish state, halacha frequently overrules our personal sevara and feelings. This is where Satmar had real clarity—he called out the spiritual dangers of a secular state when nobody said to do so. While some mainstream Chareidi leaders disagreed with Satmar’s extreme terminology, even those who told us to vote, like the Stiepler, made it clear that this government isn’t a true redemption; it’s still deep, dark galus.” and many encouraged voting , they viewed it strictly as a rescue mission. They never believed voting would transform a secular government into a holy one. Instead, they saw it as a practical shield to protect yeshiva budgets, prevent the draft of Torah scholars, and maintain a baseline of religious status-quo.
    by now everyone sees the voting has almost no affect and failed , and this was indeed what satmer- said at the begining of the whole thing ,
    ” By looking at the political reality today in 2026, the ongoing, military draft, yeshiva funding, and all other hashchasa have left many feeling that the mainstream Chareidi political strategy of voting has hit a dead end. This exact outcome is what Satmar predicted at the state’s inception. “

    in reply to: Non-Zionist View of Zionists #2591027
    Zanvil
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    i would even go deeper the zionists will use legislative power to bypass the 13 ikrai emunim , The state is actively weaponizing its legislative power to dismantle core religious beliefs. By passing targeted laws direct on the chariedim , the government shatters traditional barriers to weaken orthodoxy and force secular integration (It’s a fact!). Once these foundational boundaries are completely broken, the whole society shifts entirely—leaving people to accept and practice things that were once considered completely assur , (this is the weapon of the reform , and is happening in america as well , they use legislative power to bypass the most toievah) , however in isreal the orthodox charidim in the knesset try to use legislative power to turn back the laws
    some clarity?

    Zanvil
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    >Often its simply fun to drink and hang out with other genders. Its fun to let loose. And having fun is addcitive to some. its just people letting loose and nothinbg deeper

    Why do you always need to ‘let loose’? And why do you constantly focus on other genders? The truth is, this desperate need to escape your original self is driven by low self-esteem—whether you believe in psychology or not.” just think why you need to let loose , (because maybe the person is not happy who he is “referring to being A YID ” ) it all goes back to low self esteem .
    Up until this point, i thought the concept was that a way to process pain is what drives a person to alcohol. Now, we find that a person is actually trying to escape their own self ,
    It all needs interpretation from the way the mind processes things
    Lechatchila, the root desire to run away and constantly ‘let loose’ is a direct symptom of low self-esteem.” or low self worth. (sorry)

    in reply to: Non-Zionist View of Zionists #2590817
    Zanvil
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    To be honest, I believe that modern secular Zionism functions like a direct continuation of the Reform movement, sharing the same core values of changing traditional Judaism. Are you allowed to associate with Reform ideologies? Should you even try to debate them? Are you allowed to live in a country that is entirely rooted in Reform ideology?Claiming that the Zionists saved Yiddishkeit (Judaism) is like praising the Reform movement’s statement: “We worry for our future generations; we want diversity and acceptance for everyone.”
    Furthermore, regarding the establishment of a state, even if we put aside the Shalosh Shevuos (the Three Oaths), I cannot see how creating a state is permissible l’chatchilah. Establishing a state that requires being mechalel Shabbos (violating the Sabbath) to fight enemies cannot be one hundred percent muttar. While it is true there is a machlokes on this matter, I cannot see it as ideal.
    On the other hand, I acknowledge the opposing party that building a state is a holy duty under the concept of Atchalta De’geulah This worldview primarily stems from Sefer Kol HaTor, supposedly written by a talmid of the Gra (the Vilna Gaon). This book relies on the Zohar to argue for a “natural redemption”—a physical, human-led rebuilding of the land before the miraculous redemption.
    However, the sources are highly contested and deeply flawed. Many major rabbinic authorities (Rav Moshe sternbruch and more) claim that Kol HaTor is a modern forgery, that the mechaber never wrote those chapters, the main reason is (because this chapter is written in total modern hebrew and has a different language than the whole sefer)and that it represents a total fringe theory. There is no widely accepted, mainstream traditional concept of a purely natural, furthermore “secular redemption”.
    In fact, the Satmar Rebbe in his Vayoel Moshe brings down countless midrashim and Gemaras that completely dismantle and dispose of this concept of natural redemptions. .Therefore, while pro-Zionist halachists rely on the shita of hischlta… they already found some rishonim that they also misinterpreted ,and they use the sefer kol hator as a prime source , with this they excuse mechalel Shabbos for the military under the rule of pikuach nefesh ……., their entire psak rests on a broken foundation.
    The Satmar Rebbe makes it crystal clear: If the state’s existence violates the Oaths, the state itself is a transgression (aveirah). You cannot use pikuach nefesh (saving lives) to justify ongoing chillul Shabbos to defend an entity that halachah forbids l’chatchilah. You cannot deliberately engineer a forbidden situation and then claim pekuach nafesh !. Ultimately, forcing soldiers to constantly violate Shabbos to sustain a forbidden state cannot be one hundred percent muttar.while the other side (Rav kooks talmidim ) did not have it clear , it is also known that the religious Zionists often misquote rishonim to pasken their shalos , they often say a rambam , a chasam sofer , and its completely wrong ,

    in reply to: Non-Zionist View of Zionists #2590290
    Zanvil
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    I can totally understand the people who claim that the Zionists saved Yidden, and I am also familiar with the historical Uganda proposal. However, while many people simply do not think deeply about it, imagine what a true Jewish state should actually look like.It is simply not possible to have a Jewish state in the most erliche way without it being countered by issurim chamurim (severe prohibitions). If you really think into it, the entire idea of creating a modern state ignores established halacha. Even a melech Yisroel had strict azhorus (warnings) restricting his actions, despite his royal authority. The concept of a government taking full charge of national economics and politics contradicts the basis of Yiddishkiet .

    A state operates on civil law, which applies equally to all citizens. it is impossible to run a ultra orthodox bureaucracy—managing an economy, having international relations, infrastructure, and a military—while perfectly adhering to halacha such as basic Sabbath observance for the entire infrastructure or laws like Shmita. the concept of an ultra orthodox government which relies on absolute state sovereignty—the power to tax, control the economy, pass civil laws, and declare wars based on human political theory rather than divine mandate. placing human political authority above the Torah is a form of …you name it .
    Without a prophet, a Sanhedrin, or a king from the House of David, there is no legal halachic mechanism to form a ruling body that has the authority to make laws, levy taxes for a state, or draft people into an army. just think into it , all this is even if you would of had an erkiche state , kol shekien a modern state , and this is despite the shalos shevous , just think into it .

    I also looked into Rabbi Kook’s philosophy, and it is clear his approach centered on the idea that we are in the “beginning of the redemption.” However, it is important to note that the mainstream rabbinic authorities of his era did not agree with his position. He was simply an optimist with a revolutionary vision.Furthermore, he made several claims that sharply contradict traditional Jewish thought. For example, during his eulogy following the death of Theodor Herzl, he famously compared Herzl’s movement to Messiach ben Joseph. Finally, the timeline itself is telling: Rabbi Kook passed away in 1935 long before the State of Israel was officially founded in 1948. its perplexed ,
    I have one final note to add , there are various people historians who try to make Rav kook view tempting , Rav kook was in isreal from about 1904 many things happened in those years , how ever after he gave out his Oiros , in about 1920 , everyone came out against him including the chafits chaim .

    in reply to: Non-Zionist View of Zionists #2588733
    Zanvil
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    The History They Don’t Teach You: Zionism’s Socialist Roots
    If you want to understand the origins of Zionism, stop looking at it through a modern lens.
    Let’s add a note to history that most people completely miss: Zionism and the Haskalah (the Jewish Enlightenment/assimilation movement) went hand-in-hand as a massive historical chain reaction. And to be even more concise, early Zionism was internally built on communism and socialism.
    Here is the direct timeline of how it actually happened:
    The First Footprint: many European Jews tried everything to achieve legal emancipation and equal rights. Through the Haskalah, movement they sought total cultural assimilation. They did not succeed. Assimilation failed to stop the hatred. From the devastating Eastern European pogroms to the horrors of Kristallnacht, even the most integrated, secular Jews were targeted and hunted down anyway. Realizing that integration was a lie and no one was coming to rescue them, they stopped begging for acceptance and started creating their own defense.But here is the twist they don’t teach you: when these people went to build their defense, , .They realized international socialism wouldn’t save them from antisemitism, so they combined intense nationalism with radical socialism to build a survival mechanism.If we don’t study these exact cause-and-effect relationships, we miss the entire context of why these movements began. Stop looking at the past through modern lenses. Read the history.

    to clarify :The Haskalah (Jewish Enlightenment) promised that if Jews assimilated, adopted European culture, and integrated, they would receive equal rights and safety. Zionism is the dark shadow of that broken promise. When pogroms and state-sponsored hatred proved that even the most secular, assimilated Jews were still targeted for destruction, Zionism emerged as the desperate backup plan. It was the realization that cultural integration had completely failed, those people(the Zionists) were forcing Jews to make the aliyah .
    Zionism exists because the Haskalah failed to protect Jews through assimilation, and it was built because socialism provided the revolutionary blueprint to build a self-reliant society from scratch. and do the assimilation stronger r”l with a nationality and a defense system . this is how a non zionist should view Zionists , “a communist , socialist , left wing political group”

    Zanvil
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    “Let me clarify my point: I am absolutely not invalidating or judging anyone’s pain. I started this topic because I am tired of hearing about fatal overdoses, and I want to understand why people turn to drugs as emotional anesthesia.As an observer, I believe Rabbi Twerski was 100% correct. The core of addiction is a negative self-image, toxic thoughts, and low self-esteem.
    My goal isn’t to preach sameach b’chelko as a simple fix. It is to look at how we actually heal that core wound. I am not preaching bitachon or judging anyone . I am bringing this up because the number of overdoses we are seeing should send massive shockwaves through everyone.Something is fundamentally broken with how people cope with emotional pain and inadequacy today. They are using drugs as anesthesia just to survive their own minds and to them reality is unlivable .This is exactly why Dr. Abraham J. Twerski’s wisdom is so vital. He proved that addiction isn’t a moral failure of being a shikkur —it is a direct result of low self-esteem and a negative self-image.

    in reply to: Was Rabbi AJ Twerski Right , the core of addiction is low self esteem? #2587061
    Zanvil
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    That was his חידוש low self-esteem is the primary root of substance abuse. While it may sound like an overused line, the psychological reality is undeniable. think a moment why someone first turns to alcohol or drugs? On the surface, it often starts with social expectations and peer pressure. However, he wrote many books one book is called “the sun will shine again ” it was at the economical financial crisis 2008 , (worth reading in 2026 as well ) that book is filled with psychology , musser, and chassidus,

    it seems like people forget self esteem is someone that is שמח בחלקו low self esteem is somebody that has an issue with being שמח בחלקו . As Rabbi Dr. Abraham J. Twerski argues in his book, Addictive Thinking, “the true driving force behind ongoing abuse is a “poor self-image” that distorts a person’s logic”
    .His insight is incredibly profound. In his view, low self-esteem operates as an umbrella concept. People don’t abuse substances simply because they want to; they do it because they are desperate for an anesthetic feeling to escape painful feelings of inadequacy, peer pressure , social pressure etc. Ultimately, almost any negative behavior or self-defeating thought pattern is simply an avenue through which a lack of self-worth manifests itself.

    However it is worth saying at the other side Financial pressure , and job loss , etc . are hence not low self esteem but its rather a slap in the face , and creates anxious thoughts , those thoughts (negative thoughts ) create an emotional impact here Rabbi twerski argues to take medication . and it seems like a different סוגיא all the way .

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