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“Thoughts” by Rabbi Nachman Seltzer: #BringBackOurBoys & The Circle Of Hope


When I was learning in yeshiva a young Israeli soldier named Nachshon Waxman was kidnapped by Arabs pretending to be religious Jews. Their car sported seforim lying on the dash board and Jewish music was blaring from the radio. Nachshon was convinced that they were frum people. He got into their car and they kidnapped him. He was incarcerated in an Arab neighborhood adjacent to Ramot, which could be seen from my yeshiva window, right across the valley from Sorotzkin. Over one hundred thousand Jews of every stripe and persuasion gathered at the Kosel to daven for his safe release.

Mrs. Waxman addressed the nation on prime time media, where she entreated every Jewish woman in the country to light Shabbos candles that Friday night for the merit of her son. Nachshon’s father was interviewed by the media. He inspired an incredible kidush Hashem, when he replied to a question with the following powerfully authentic statement, “Hashem did answer, His answer was no.”

The Shabbos following Nachshon’s kidnapping was something that will not be forgotten by anyone who lived through it. The tension in the streets was razor sharp. Nobody talked about anything else. Nachshon Waxman was on the collective minds of the entire country. Wherever you lived, wherever you found yourself – no matter where you were, every shul you passed was lit up with people inside saying Tehillim – crying out to Hashem to save their golden child….. even as millions of Shabbos candles flickered in homes throughout the land – many of them homes where Shabbos candles had never been lit before.

On that fateful Friday night, Israeli commandos attacked the house, but their information was faulty and the raid was not successful.

Nachshon Waxman was killed.

The youth who united the nation.

He was murdered by a terrorist named Jihad Yarmur. (Jihad Yarmur would in fact be convicted for the murder of Nachshon Wachsman and sentenced to many years in prison. His release would come about when he was traded for Gilad Shalit in October 2011.)

Thus culminated a story of tremendous courage, phenomenal mesiras nefesh and a family’s supreme ability to unquestioningly accept the will of Hashem – no matter what.


On June 12, 2014 it happened again.

Three boys this time. Gilad Michoel Shaar, Eyal Yifrach and Yaakov Naftali Frenkel. Yeshiva bochurim.

One of the boys managed to get a message out to the authorities, but the manhunt only kicked into gear many hours later. Once again, Arab cities were put under lockdown, Gaza was sealed shut and the entire Jewish world united in their concern for three smiling teenagers who just wanted to go home for Shabbos.

As of Monday the 16th, a group of Gilaad’s friends congregated outside his home to learn and daven 24/7, with the intention of continuing their ongoing Torah chain until he arrives home.


On Sunday the 15th, the Jewish People (Chassidim, Mizrachi, Yeshivish – in other words everyone) gathered at the Kotel to daven for their sons safe return. To beg Hashem, “to bring our boys back home!”

Thousands of Jews stood as one, reciting Tehillim line after line and word for word. What beauty. As different rabbonim led the davening, the assembled felt their tefilos soaring upwards to shomayim. They recited Slichos, they said Tehillim and then everyone davened Maariv.

What happened afterwards was completely spontaneous.

Slowly at first, a circle was formed on both sides of the mechitza. Every single person standing in the Kosel plaza, placed their arms on one another’s shoulders and began to dance. The circle widened and more people joined. Nobody had to say a word. Nobody had to suggest the idea. It was intuitive. Instinctive. Self explanatory. The most natural thing in the world. Thousands of Yiden with their arms around each other. And they sang songs. V’hi Sheumda. Racheim. Ani Maamen. Songs from our past. Songs for our future. It was a sublime moment of family unity. It was something to remember.

We were united in sorrow, united in hope.

The power of brotherhood was awesome.




I am left with but one question.

I’m sure we’ve all had it from time to time.

Why does it take a tzara of such magnitude for us to unite – to sing together – and to place our arms around each other’s shoulders?


Yehi ratzon, may it be Your will, that we be able to form another circle, soon, with our three missing boys in it’s center.

Happy. Healthy. And home.

Rabbi Nachman Seltzer is the author of eighteen books including such classics as “The Network,” “It could Have Been You” series, “Class Acts,” and his newest book “48.”
He is a columnist for & International Hamodia magazine, where his true life stories are beloved around the world.
Rabbi Seltzer heads the Shira Chadasha Boys Choir which just released their fifth album “Am Yisroel.”
He can be reached for comments or regarding speaking engagements at [email protected]

8 Responses

  1. Thank you for the inspiring article.

    I remember as if it were yesterday, that erev Shabbos when all women light candles early and davened for a Yeshua. The words of Mr. Wachsman were heard loud and clear at the levaya.

    Chazal tells us that it is more worthy to visit a home of aveilim than a hall of simcha,,,,,,for the same reason. Just listening and feeling the words of the families is an injection of emunah, ahavas yisroel and ahavas Eretz Yisroel. Words that are so needed at this perilous time.

  2. I basically liked the article, but is the author suggesting we should have more spontaneous singing sessions when there is no tzara? Is he commenting on the fact that yidden don’t unite as much when there is no tzara? On smaller levels, yidden are always rallying around their brethren whether it is for a tzara or a simcha. Yidden united in big numbers for the siyum ha-shas or the Internet masiba.

  3. The last sentence should read “in its center”, not “it’s”.

    I don’t really understand Rabbi Seltzer’s question here.
    Shlomo HaMelech stated laKol Ziman viEis liChol cheifetz…

    Machlokes for no good reason is always abhorrent.
    But that doesn’t mean that, say, Moshe Rabbeinu should have allowed Korach vaAdaso to “win” so as to avoid machlokes.

    During normal times, it is important to learn and understand what is Torah and what is a “pseudo-Torah”.

    During this eis tzara, however, everyone’s focus is on davening to Hashem to ask for their safe release.

    So while that is not the time to analyze the particular shortcomings of the theology of any particular part of Klal Yisrael, that doesn’t make those shortcomings any less true and any less significant. It only makes them not relevant at that particular moment.

  4. Picture He davens by the Gra Rabbi Kornfeld in Beit Shemesh
    Bachman Seltzer davens by Ahavas Shalom r. Zecharish
    חס ושלום it should be their son kidnapped. You don’t give an example of someone that was kidnaped and killed. A little brain please.

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