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  • in reply to: The Man Inside my Head: A Candid Conversation #2260655
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    I found this to be one of the most brilliantly written descriptions of a person’s yetzer hora. Giving him a simplistic name of “Jerry” was genius. I would love to buy a book written by this author.
    Anyone that dismisses it with nasty comments like he should see a therapist, is missing the picture here.

    in reply to: HIGHWAY ROBBERY: Cost Of Shmura Matzah #1009097
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    After Pesach is over, buy a full Pesach’s amount of matzoh for very cheap and put it away for next year. Then l’shona haboh bnai chorin once and for all.

    in reply to: Shalom Bayis Question #986678
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    I’m married for 20 years longer than you are. Take it from me, it’s not worth giving it a second thought. Smile and pay for the cleaning lady. No guy in the whole world will ever fully understand why a wife needs to have a cleaning lady. It doesn’t matter if you or I understand it. when the solution to your sholom bayis is as simple as saying “sure, hire a cleaning lady if you need one” take that solution with both hands and thank H’ for making your sholom bayis solution so simple to achieve. To fight for otherwise is just being an idiot. Stop being an idiot my friend.

    Regarding all the other arguments you find yourself having with your wife and the resulting resentments, understand this: Your either going to adopt the idea that your wife is always right no matter what and have sholom bayis or your going to think that somehow your opinion is more right than hers and suffer hell in your marriage because of it. It’s as simple as that. Your wife is always right. The sooner you get used to that the sooner the 2 of you will be happy and be stress free.

    But what if she’s wrong??? So what? If your opinion happens to be more right than hers once in a while and you go with her opinion anyway, probably the world won’t come to an end and the resulting sholom bayis and happy, healthy home will more than make up for the occasional lack of choosing your more right opinion in that specific case if it should ever happen.

    Besides, women have binah yesairah and usually happen to be right. When they’re not, they usually figure it out on their own and eventually say so. So in the end, the best outcome will play out ok anyways.

    in reply to: What to wear on first date #910411
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    Wear whatever you have that you think make you look the nicest and makes you comfortable, then forget about it. If the choices of clothes and words you speak work, then the shidduch is still a go for potentially a 2nd date. If things don’t fly, then the shidduch isn’t a go and you guys call it quits. It’s really very simple so don’t worry about it. There’s no right or wrong here. Just relax and basically the date will go in one of 2 directions.

    Take 2 or 3 minutes to say 2 perakim of tehillim before you go out. I know you have a million things to do now but tefillah for a couple of minutes is a wise thing to do as well. You’ll get all the help you need from shemayim and won’t have to reach out to the coffee room for help if you do.

    If you do go out again, you might want to print out all these answers and read them to the boy for fun on a future date.

    in reply to: Overweight Guys #898417
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    A person with a weight issue is showing to a degree their personal, emotional issues as well. Most of the time extra weight is the direct result of certain middos that could use some serious fine tuning. Therefore, beyond the aesthetics which may or may not be an issue, the extra weight on a potential spouse should be a serious red flag regarding the persons middos.

    Also, having extra weight could very well have a direct impact on a persons ongoing mood and ability to exercise calmness and other nice, quality middos so the bottom line is, extra weight and good / bad middos are not really 2 separate things to consider when going out.

    in reply to: Soft drink ban #882029
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    Our freedom in this country is simply being stripped away from us by the government who “knows” better than us how we should live.

    For those of you who applauded all of the anti smoking laws that similarly trampled on our freedoms, congratulations on another round of anti freedom legislation.

    This keeps up and we will be denied our freedom to keep the torah and mitzvohs (metzitza b’peh, shabbos observance, shchita etc.).

    Why should this country stay different than every other country in history after all?

    in reply to: Texting on Shabbos could be worse than murder #794032
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    I’m hard pressed to think of another device in the Yetzer Hora’s arsenal as damaging as cell phones. They give a person the ability to Privately view unlimited pritzus 24/7. They enable people to connect with the absolute worse types of relationships that would otherwise be unreachable. They have an addictive quality to them as shown by the fact that people can’t stop using them even on Shabbos or Yom Tov. This is also evident by the fact that people routinely nurse their cell phones in their hands and hold them up to their faces even when not using them. Just take a look and you see this all the time. Cell phones, having so much power of privatized nisyoinos built in make them an emotionally attached device.

    To walk around openly using a cell phone b’farhesia is blatant chuzpah & a disregard for sensitivity to basic avoidos Hashem. This is true for all adults. All the more so for children who don’t have the advantage of fully thinking for themselves yet. Children follow the examples of their parents, adults and teachers. How disturbing is it that principals and teachers and parents walk around openly using cell phones with all the inherent taivos associated with them in front of the same children they suggest shouldn’t use them? So much hypocrisy is tantamount to psychological abuse to the children.

    Billam Harasha is one of the most evil Rashaim in the torah. not because he was a Navi who failed to use his nevius for good. Not because he took the job from Balak to curse the Jews. He is and always will be despised as one of the biggest Reshaim in Tanach for inciting the Bnos Midyan against the Yiden handing the Yiden over to the terrible nisayoin of pritzus and arayois. Are we acting any better when we allow or set up the children under our care (children, students, campers) with cell phones? They may be too immature to realize the inherent dangers involved in the long run of having cell phones but we should not be. What are we doing this for? What are we getting out of giving the children cell phones?

    I for one do not and have not carried a cell phone and do not have any of my children carry cell phones. No one in my family misses it one bit. We all survive very nicely without this horrible device that most people think they couldn’t live without.

    in reply to: Is Levi Aron crazy #786505
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    Why is it ok to insult all the truly mentally ill people in the world by suggesting that rishus and evil can only be perpetrated by mentally ill people? Why is it so hard to accept that 100% healthy individuals are more than capable of doing the most horrendous acts of violence?

    I also see no reason to blame tv or movies for planting the seeds of violence in his or anyone’s mind to do things like this. Human beings have been known to commit acts of unspeakable violence waaaay before tv and movies. Further more, if tv and movies is in fact a precursor for violence, then folks like Quentin Tarantino and all the other producers and directors of action and scary films should be killing and hurting everyone and there’s no record of this. Did the Nazis learn to be violent and cruel from TV & movies? Were all the Nazis mentally ill people?

    Each one of us has the human capacity to do horrible acts of violence if we allow ourselves to. On the other hand as humans we also have the exquisite power to perform equally powerful acts of kindness and goodness.

    Each day we all live with tests and we can go either way. Live as a hero or a villain, it’s up to you.

    in reply to: Advice line in Mishpacha Family First #750311
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    A wife / husband has no business whatsoever being the other spouses referee in life. He / she is not the other one’s mashgiach. If one has good midos and is married with a normal healthy mindset based on simple, common love (yes, I said the dirty L word) there will naturally be respect, caring and unconditional acceptance of one another.

    The very fact that this wife feels the need to ask what she should do about her husband who is sleeping late or missing daavening or learning clearly shows that she doesn’t understand what marriage is really supposed to be like. Marriage is not supposed to be a way to propel your own self image to greater heights of satisfaction based on the others accomplishments. If that’s all that its really about for you then you got it all wrong. Your being a self centered, selfish, egotist that demands those closest to you to perform in ways that fill your over-sized ego issues.

    I had a great aunt who was frum her whole life. Her husband did not keep shabbos (in the early days of America, this was unfortunately very common) she continued her entire life living peacefully with him while she remained completely frum. Of course this had to be difficult for her to manage but from what I understand, despite the difficulties they had a happy marriage.

    The point is marriage is not meant to be a list of expectations from one to the other if those expectations do not interfere with the responsibilities from one to the other. Not that providing a living for a wife is necessarily the greatest mitzvah in the world or not, but this would be an example of where the husband does have a direct commitment to the wife and he should keep it. On the other hand, he does not have a direct commitment to her that he go to shul on time or learn torah daily and as such, it’s simply none of her business to even keep track of it.

    I hesitate to even suggest that a normal wife should be overly proud of a husband that gets up on time every day as that would suggest otherwise there’s a lack of respect. Marriage is not about pride.

    in reply to: Eating late at night #746873
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    Who says it’s unhealthy to eat late at night? This is a total myth and makes no sense. If you eat your heaviest meal of the day just before going to sleep, you’ll sleep like a baby and your digestive system will be able to focus 100% of whatever energy is required to slowly digest what you ate in an undisturbed, stress free way which is impossible to do when your awake.

    in reply to: Bigger Assur Facebook or Smoking? #726627
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    Physical & spiritual; they are intertwined. what’s harmful for one will ultimately harm the other. You see it pretty clearly with unhealthy people. They unfortunately become compromised in their middos due to the physical suffering. The Rambam points this out that one can not be spiritually successful when his health is an issue. I think that long term consequences of spiritual sickness invades a persons physical health as well.

    That said, I get so tired of hearing how smoking is the quintessential definition of unhealthy living. government sponsored anti smoking campaigns have been a part of everyone’s life for so long that we are in a state of mass hypnosis on the subject. Sure there’s truth to the fact that smoking is detrimental to a persons health but it’s not the only thing bad for you and it’s not the worse thing either I suspect. We get bombarded with advertisements that smoking is so evil and bad that most people fail to think for themselves objectively. I believe that being 25 pounds overweight is a much bigger health issue than smoking and yet even with the fact that extra weight is an issue, most people have a much kinder outlook at overeating than they do to smoking.

    I don’t smoke and never have and I’m not overweight either. If I had to suffer the ill effects of one of those 2, I would take my chances with smoking and a lean body over being a non smoker but living with a load of extra weight ruining my cholesterol, blood pressure, joints and hormones any day.

    in reply to: How Do I Kasher A Microwave? #716403
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    wait at least 24 hours after cleaning it out before the 5-10 minutes of microwaving the cup of water.

    in reply to: What Cellphones Did #697959
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    They are very harmful for people in many ways. They have been proven to help cause cancer. They operate with radiation. there are numerous studies that prove that just carrying a cell phone in your pants pocket will decrease a mans sperm count by 28%. Talking on a cell phone is akin to pressing your ear against a microwave door while it is on. There are long term studies still going on to prove the long term consequences for brain cancer (20 year long studies take a while) In the meantime, the multi billion cell phone industries have the clout and power to keep things hushed up for the most part but every single cell phone sold must by law come with a booklet (that nobody reads) explaining the possibility of cell phone radiation being able to cause cancers.

    in reply to: Cell phones for children (or parents) #693610
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    Health,

    If you’re right and your child doesn’t have any bad friends that you don’t know about, does that mean the danger doesn’t exist? tomorrow another day. If you know of one person that smokes heavily and is overweight and speeds without wearing a seat belt and is in basically good shape, does that mean that for everyone in the world, being an overweight smoker who drives recklessly is a safe way to live???

    in reply to: Cell phones for children (or parents) #693605
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    I think first of all, all schools and camps should strictly enforce a no cell phone policy. They should make sure there are ample payphones available throughout. Also the teachers and principals should absolutely not walk around talking or texting on their own phones. It gives a terrible mixed hypocritical message.

    The truth is, why on earth do the teachers and principals have to have cell phones? It seems to me that other than people involved in medicine or emergency type’s of professions, the entire concept of needing a phone with them 24 hours a day wherever they go is crazy. It takes away any sense of privacy and freedom. The fact that no matter where you are or what your doing you can be interrupted by a phone call in your pants pocket seems quite odd to me.

    People that live on and support their families with tzedokah handouts all have cell phones. doesn’t this seem odd to you? Why must every man woman and child in our community have to be equipped with a cell phone? If a family can not afford to pay their grocery bill and ask for tzedoka, how is it right to openly walk around with cell phones when they clearly are not in positions that necessitate having them?

    Basically they are asking for tzedoka handouts to first of all pay for their entire families use of individual cell phones and only after that gets paid via tzedoka, do they then pay their tuition’s, grocery bills etc. It just seems wrong and totally out of control. Talk about the need to keep up with the Jonses at all expenses!

    in reply to: Cell phones for children (or parents) #693600
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    A plain Jane phone can be very dangerous. Having your own personal private phone number where anyone can reach you either by calling or texting invites the possibility of making and maintaining acquaintances one should never have.

    Imagine a teenage girl who goes to camp one summer and at the end of camp gives her friends her cell phone number. All it takes is one friend with problems to keep calling her or texting her. Her friend can also tell her friends to invite the cell phone girl to go with them to places that the cell phone girl would never dream of visiting but peer pressure is a tough thing to fight especially if she knows the girl from camp and likes her. She could very quickly via simple texting, become best friends with some of the other girls, boyfriends or girlfriends as they keep sharing and trying to get together.

    This out of control communication on a very personal, private level would never take place if the nice girl from camp would have to use her parents phone in the kitchen or a payphone at school. It’s the individuality and 24 hour availability on a personal phone number of her cell phone that makes all the trouble brought to her.

    This nice girl may never see the problems coming. She was told by her parents and maybe her teachers that having a “kosher” phone is 100% OK. She never meant to betray anyone’s trust or meant to do a bad thing but ultimately armed with her private cell phone, she is now enmeshed in a world that is very wrong for her. she has boyfriends. she has girlfriends of questionable religious backgrounds. She developed a liking to hang out with her new circle of friends she only acquired via her “kosher” phone. They text her night and day. Shabbos and Yom Tov as well if something “really important” has to be shared. This wonderful young lady with a great background and good family is on a path of ruination and she never even saw it coming because she trusted her parents and believed a cell phone is a proper thing to have.

    I can give an illustration about how owning a “kosher” cell phone for a married man or woman also gives him / her the ability to speak or text people that he / she should have no relationship with but you get the picture.

    in reply to: Cell phones for children (or parents) #693591
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    I never meant to imply that I’m better than anyone else in any way. I’m not sure how anyone even read that from what I was suggesting.

    The vast majority of cell phone users have internet and texting and stuff on their phones. If you are not by nature a person who is a customer of an updated phone, this does not mean that your teenagers or children in their 20″s are not influenced and interested in a full featured phone.

    The point is, if a kid is taught that it’s 100% OK to have a cell phone, even a plain Jane phone, he or she will quickly figure out how to get their hands on a phone with all the magic. That upgraded phone will be just as kosher in their minds as any other and you may not even know they got an upgraded phone of their own with their own account. Without the benefit of chinuch, how are the kids supposed to know to identify and stay away from such nisyonos? Does it matter if the first 6 months the person doesn’t use the cell phone to contact anyone harmful and only later on begin a downward spiral?

    The idea of having even a plain Jane talk / text only phone is downright dangerous in and of itself. The internet capabilities (which is inevitable) is just the icing on the cake that can further do harm.

    in reply to: Stocks #693320
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    If you have to ask such a question, do yourself a favor and first read about a dozen books that explain investing fundamentals. Then ask yourself if you have the particular set of middos required to succeed in the market. most people do not.

    A short list to get you started:

    – The little book that beats the market, Joel Greenblatt

    – How to value a business, Frank Singer

    – The intelligent Investor, Particularly chapters 8 & 20.

    – F Wall Street, Joe Ponzio

    in reply to: Cell phones for children (or parents) #693585
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    It’s not that possessing a cell phone glorifies physicality that’s the problem. It’s the addictive, spiraling out of control, networking feature only found when a person has their own personal phone number and personal texting abilities (not to mention private internet access to to facebook and every other dirty social website out there) that causes problems.

    With the constant, 24/7 convenience of being “on call” from every bad influence out there, a person (child or adult) is swimming in extremely dangerous waters. Kids in particular who have a hard time forecasting the reprecussions of all thier action / aquaintances are in especially high risk. It’s very simple. It doesn’t have anything to do with how much you love your child. It doesn’t matter if you respect your child. If you put your child in a position where he or she can get hurt from natural dangers (horrible “friends”, social network sites, curiosity and temptations to explore all the countless pornography available on the net etc, etc) it’s a sure bet they have a much higher risk of falling prey to devastation. In fact to call it a ‘risk” that they might utilize their private texting/phone device to respond to friends you wouldn’t want them to have and explore racy sites is a misnomer. It’s virtually guaranteed.

    We daaven every morning at the end of brochos that we should not be brought to nisyonos. At the same time we carry around a source of the most private, personal usage of unlimited nisyonos and give it to our children. Then we teach them to daaven every day to also not be brought to nisyonos??? It’s not fair to children to basically not be given a choice in the matter. If there parents give them a cell phone and the schools or camps don’t at least make sure to have payphones available, the kids who don’t know better to protect themselves from these things don’t even stand a chance. That’s unfair to them.

    Everyone speaks about “trusting your kids so they don’t betray your trust”. How about the trust that kids put into their parents that they won’t be steered wrong? By ultimately denying them a chance to succeed and giving them a non stop unlimited potential of personal, private nisyonos in their pants pocket, the parents / hanhala of the schools are effectively betraying the unspoken trust each child has in their parent and school.

    To justify the whole thing by saying its a safety issue, is grasping at straws. Is there any statistics showing that carrying a cell phone makes a person better able to survive driving a car? Less likely to be mugged? Better able to defend himself/herself because there’s a cell phone in the pocket? Common sense dictates that any distraction from awareness of your surroundings puts you at greater chance of being in an accident or being mugged. A false sense of security is a greater risks of danger than anything else as well.

    in reply to: Cell phones for children (or parents) #693576
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    Where did the question of ahavas yisroel come in? I love yiden more than anything regardless if they make mistakes or not. It’s precisely because I love yiden and care about yiden (even all of those I don’t personally know) that I care so much to see people keep themselves out of harm’s way. giving kids (and in most cases adults too) access to cell phones is a quick way to ruination. To the contrary, it’s a lack of love to be indifferent & irresponsible to the safety & welfare of yidishe children by being the “nice” parent/principal and let them have cell phones just because they want it.

    Some of you mention the fact that a yid is special if he lives a “good life” and we should be happy when we see someone is a shomer shabbos. do you know how many kids are mechalel shabbos directly or indirectly because they have cell phones? There are many reports of kids (and adults) who go under their covers or into a bathroom on Friday night and text or surf the internets most vile websites all shabbos night.

    So many of our children end up hanging out in the worse places with the worse “friends” only because they had an introduction and a continuing source of communication with bad influences. These problems came about and continue to progress because of them having cell phones.

    Its not a question of trusting your kids (or yourself) or if your kids are from a “good cut” and “wouldn’t do bad things”. Its a simple fact that if they have access and communication with the filth and addictions and problems that are so available in the world, they are then at those temptations mercy.

    As far as a yeshiva or a Bais Yaakov or a camp not having payphones for the students; I myself see most of those places making sure to have payphones. They don’t cost that much and are an absolute necessity for the schools and camps to have available. Without making payphones available for their kids, they are almost encouraging cell phones. Payphones are not all that costly. Many times they are free of charge to have them installed. Why don’t they just call some of the other Yeshivas or camps and ask where they get their payphone service from?

    in reply to: Cell phones for children (or parents) #693566
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    Ironic that so many people believe that by giving kids a cell phone they somehow have protection from all harm while it’s the very act of having a cell phone that puts them most in harms way.

    For an adult to believe that carrying a cell phone gives them safety and security (There’s an app for making a gun sound) is just too stupid to comment on. Where is it brought down that carrying a cell phone is a shmira? How will it protect you from being mugged or being run over by a bus or getting in a car accident? To the contrary, driving while talking / texting is very unsafe. walking while on the phone makes you much less aware of your surroundings and people nearby which makes you all the more vulnerable to being mugged or getting run over.

    I’ve never seen a yeshiva or camp that doesn’t have many payphones available for the kids. They are very available in schools and camps. Primarily because 99% of all camps and schools understand that cell phones are a very unhealthy thing for the kids to have and they make it their business to have an adequate # of payphones available.

    in reply to: Cell phones for children (or parents) #693561
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    Dovv,

    Which high school, Yeshiva and camp do you go to that doesn’t have payphones? It’s very uncommon for such places to not make payphones available.

    I can’t get over how teenagers constantly say they need a cell phone for safety and security reasons. Teenagers are known to live as if they are immune to virtually anything. That’s not an insult to teenagers. It’s a simple fact of life. for a teenager to think he’s not safe without haveing the security of a cell phone with him makkes you wonder where exactly is the kid going and at what times that he or she actually needs the dependency of an emergency cell phone in case “things get out of hand”?

    Maybe giving them the illusion of security and connection to thier private network of friends is ironically the most dangerous thing to give a child (or any adult for that matter).

    in reply to: Cell phones for children (or parents) #693556
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    What in the world is so bad if a kid uses a payphone to call someone? Why should a kid or an adult be taught to feel that he or she is too good to use a payphone for a phone call when they are away from home? when I was a kid, that’s all we ever used and we never dreamed we were missing out. We felt privileged that we got to use the payphone when we had our turn.

    If a person complains that the payphone doesn’t afford enough privacy, then you have to wonder, what kind of a call is the kid or adult making that they are scared someone might overhear? Calling any normal call (parents/broker/bank/harmless amusement/etc) should not be a matter of national security that the person should be paralyzed with fear that someone might have an interest to overhear. I remember using payphones when I was involved in dating in yeshiva and found it very comfortable. The very need for utmost privacy for phone calls goes towards my concerns that kids (or adults) shouldn’t have cell phones in the first place.

    Besides, payphones are set up everywhere still. There isn’t a decent yeshiva/ Bais yaakov or Camp that doesn’t make sure to have plenty of payphones available for their children. Plus I see them all over the streets and every public location. Obviously, many people are still using payphones. Why must frum yiden be too good to simply also utilize payphones?

    in reply to: Cell phones for children (or parents) #693551
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    SJS,

    More kids and adults have used cell phones and their personal private internet devices for no good than you may think or care to believe. I myself don’t carry a cell phone and have never missed it. I have children of all ages and not one of them ever had a cell phone NOR EVER COMPLAINED they were missing out on something. They were never taught by parents example in my case to feel the “need” to have one.

    to say have a loving, trusting relationship with your kids and then give them a device of unlimited temptations is ridicules. If a kid has a phone with all the bells and whistles (or even a plain cell phone) the natural curiosity and possibilities will be explored. Why do this to your kids? What do you as a parent hope to gain from putting your children in the path of problems, addictions, perverseness and dangers?

    Why is it going too far to suggest that adults not carry cell phones with them? since when did growing up mean that an adult has no temptations or yetzer hora’s? since when did becoming an adult mean that one can openly defy avoiding nisyonos? Why is it ok for adults (parents and rebbeim and teachers) to not make a good example of themselves and at least not use the cell phone in public. Owning a cell phone is openly saying “I can hide myself in a bathroom anytime I want and go on the internet and surf every pritzusdik site I want plus privately contact anyone I want without reservations”. The very possibility of this is unacceptable for a ben torah or his family.

    in reply to: Bas Mitzvah Ceremonies – Rav Moshe's psak #692667
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    There are 2 type’s of families that make Bar mitzvah celbration’s, whether they be ostentatios or even “just a shabbos kiddush”. The one’s that can afford the expense and the one’s that can not afford the expense.

    As long as making a Bar mitzvah celebration is very popular and the norm, the families that can not afford the expense have a severe problem with each time their boy hits 13. They can not afford to make anything. In many cases they can’t afford basic neccesities in their life as it is. The burdon to keep up with the rest of the world is devastating. They can’t not make anything because they as it is, have issues that they aren’t able to provide well enough for their failies like they see others do. for them to take the first stand and not make any celebration at all is asking too much from already broken down financially strapped parents / Almonos or out of work fathers’. The one’s that have to make the first stand against all Bar mitzvah celebrations are the well to do families that can afford all the basic expenses in life and choose to not spend money on Bar Mitzvah celebrations. When a well to do family spends money on even just a shabbos kiddush, they are guilty of perpetuating a tremendous amount of pressure on all of the poorer familes in our khal. Who should be bold and couragous enough to stand up and say, I will be the first (or the 2nd or 3rd)family in town who will not make a Bar Mitzvah celebration? The poor? That’s not fair and it wouldn’t work to extend over to the richer families anyways.

    I can easily afford to make a very extravagant affair for my children by the way and chose to not make even a shabbos kiddush for my 13 year old. I explained to him my thoughts and asked him his opinion on the matter. I was not surprised to hear him gladly say he wasn’t interested in keeping up with anyone else or being part of a burdon on people who couldn’t afford to keep up with us. He’s a great kid and I believe the experience (or lack of celebration experience rather) helped mold him into being a much more mature and sensitive individual. I never once saw his not having any celebration hurt his yiddishkeit or ahavas Yisroel in any way at all. He’s 15 now and everyone in klal Yisroel should have a boy with such good middos like him.

    good middos doesn’t grow on tree’s though. you have to teach it to your children. No child learnt good middos because he had an expensive affair in his honor or a shabbos afternoon kiddush in shul where everyone fresses away on cholent and kugel. Middos don’t come from fressing bouts.

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