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  • in reply to: Why I can't daven #791269
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    Hey man don’t worry about it, come back when you can.

    in reply to: Do I tell the parents about kids being mechalal Shabbos??? #790570
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    Alot of times I see kids off the derech in the sense that they come into the Kosher store where I work with out a Yarmulka not even a cap.

    The parents I know are very active in the SHule and community.

    So in this case, the parents know. But I am upset by my attitude.

    I say to myself what is the big deal to wear baseball hat, they davka want everyone to know.

    As a parent, what with the struggles to pay their tuitions as well as all else, it seems very snotty and ingrateful that they can’t even wear a cap.

    But why do I have this holier than thou attitude? Let’s say I am even right that they are rotten kids, what gives me the right to be so judgemental?

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    For me not being on FB is a stupid idea. Ihave been in contact with old friends that I have not seen over 30 years. It gives me great joy to be in touch with and meet. One of whom helped me out with a work related issue through a contact of his. This saved my job and the past 18 months of employment. Having been unemployed and under employed since 2003 really this is not a mah bikach”

    Now I don’t do much else on there but be in contact with people.

    Some also from the Jewish music scene -other than that, my advice is dont’ post anything on your wall, and don’t comment much on other peoples. I make a comment once in a while.

    It’s true, I will look at some pictures here and there, but I can limit that to a reasonable amount maybe 2-3 times a month.

    This ban is stupid imo. WHile I am a great believer in group therapy, fellowship, and 12 steps, it can’t get nauseating.

    Can’t people exert some self control, have one piece of cake not the whole thing.

    in reply to: Why I can't daven #791267
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    I am feeling the same as you. I try to go to a Shiur before Mincha on Shabbos and then stay for Mincha. Sometimes I can go on Friday night. I have a hard time going Shabbos morning.

    I don’t actually think there is something so wrong with this. I have personal reasons why I don’t like going to a Shule. I feel better not going than if I go.

    I am open to this changing in the future but why should i force myself to be in a place where i am very unhappy?

    in reply to: Couple Meals #788181
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    funny, tell more am.

    in reply to: internet Addiction #787297
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    addiction would be if someone loses their job because they stayed home to be on the internet (this has happened). A recovering drug addict started playing video games to that extent.

    so anything like that is an addiction where you put off doing more important things you have to do, in order to go on whatever site it is.

    in reply to: Restaurant name #801537
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    How bout GOL, Grill out loud

    in reply to: Restaurant name #801536
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    600KB, you are real New Yorker, I haven’t heard SY term in decades.

    in reply to: Do you support Medical Marijauna #787972
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    I happen to be against alchohol because I had a problem with it earlier in life. i had to go to 12 step meetings for a while.

    I dont’ think it should be in SHules at all.

    That said, i recognize that some or most can control it. but i have seen alot of men in shules drink way too much for 11am.

    I also gave to my sons at the Seder since they were 13-14 yo, so that they wouldn’t be tempted to sneak it.

    I also had Uncle who dies from this disease at relatively young age although he got recovery damaage was done.

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    But we are told in this post earlier that many of these girls will NOT marry. Those are whom I refer to.

    It may not work for ALL cases but surely one girl is worth it.

    Speaking for myself, I have been on and off the derech many times in my life. TO be honest while I was at one time very highse about Yiddishkeit, and very medakdaik, i am not more tradtional. Shabbos is still Shabbos, but i have lost a lot of the passion. ( it comes out through my music though).

    I dont’ think it’s that big a deal ( maybe Hashem feels differently but this is not for us to discuss)

    In the final analysis, the best thing that ever happened to me was marrying and having children. I have ups and downs in the career, friends come and go, I have travelled the world. nothing compares to my wife and children.

    Let the girls go and marry a less frum person. So the conversation wont be bout Halacha or the Parsha at the table.

    If you are saying she should remain singel her whole life rather than marryuing a nice guy whoi is not so Fiebrent about Yiddiskeit it’s no contest, take the marriage thay you can.

    in reply to: Do you support Medical Marijauna #787967
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    enhances creativity. much alchohol causes nastyness and violence, not same.

    What about reducing of stress and headaches? this is not a category for medical marijuana but isnt’ it a medical reason?

    Migrane headaches yes but not stam headaches.

    Why do we allow an adult to buy an aspirin as needed?

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    The only real answer for those girls in late 20’s-early 30’s is to marry someone less frum. It is better than nothing.

    They have to agree in Chinuch, Shabbos, Kashrus. There has to be compromise of some kind. But isn’t it better to have children?

    I got sick when invited to a wedding recently of 31 yo bochur and 23 yo girl. I wasn’t geshmacked to be there.

    in reply to: Who needs to change? #788548
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    Check if the reason given is not the real reason but something else is bugging him. I think you should get help immediatly.

    Talk to a therapist. There should be a way to improve this situation but it requires an outside party to guide you.

    in reply to: Facebook/Twitter/ Youtube #786841
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    One of the best things about Facebook is the ease to find old friends.

    More than a year ago, I located an old friend, having not seen in over 20 years.

    I was at that time having a work problem and he alerted me to a contact of his that had the exact experience to help me and thus saved my job. I was stuck in a project and had passed the dealine already.

    So while it is true, that it can be a time waster, it also has been very beneficial to me.

    One way to avoid wasting time, is to not post that much of your own inyanim. This will cut down alot.

    in reply to: Wearing a Yarmulka in a Movie Theater #787688
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    Many people use the internet for work.

    I know some technical people who are very frum, I wondered if I should send them an article on a topic we were researching. But they often use technical knowledge web sites which have some general advertising as well. And if you start surfing for answers to technical questions you are bound to see something that you should be not be.Anyway the link was something like ‘HTML5 Does not Suck’. I debated if i should send them the link like that.

    Maybe I am naive but I decided not to. it happened to be a perfect link for us, but I wasn’t sure.

    in reply to: Making Aliyah #787907
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    I was brought there as a teenager, and I missed several things initially.

    Friends, activities, being able to function as a student.

    There were others but less relevant now what with the internet.

    I stayed from teenage years to late 20’s. Always I was not happy there but that is because of the progression, not doing well in school, not graduation from college, delaying the army, etc. I was not having any luck with Shiduchim either. I wasn’t American enough for the Americans, nor Israeli enough etc. Although I may have suffered from lack of image etc.

    However, now that I have been back in America over 25 years, I would like to go back however I would need to ensure the job situation.

    I also think, that the society is a very nervous one in many respects. Although you have great people there, there are also not so great. I know because I visit every year.

    I would need an income that would allow me to leave for a break every few months, to Europe, probably. I don’t need to come back to America any more.

    The life there can be very stressful.

    So at this point, to be honest barring a financial miracle, I will wait till I retire.

    Also my wife refuses to consider the idea so that will be a problem as well.

    The reasons most don’t move I think is that they feel very much at home in the society they are in.

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