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Another shidduch related question-when is it an appropriate time for the boy’s parents to come meet the girl? What do you think of a meeting before a first date, and then telling the shadchan sorry we don’t see it?? Reg yeshivish style family
The bochurim were relaxing with a drink perhaps, because they are not busy enough. If the “system” would allow the bochurim to have an eye on the future, to consider parnassah responsibilities they’d be using their time to the fullest. I don’t think Rav Aaron zt”l imagined having boys in Lkwd not using their time productively. Maybe we have to allow them to grow up and give them some healthy independence. Anyways, their parents will probably see their beer purchase on the credti card so lets let them deal with this.
Nisyaonos teach us to be really sensitive to others. Especially when you are going through a personal-hush hush challenge in life, you see that we NEVER know what’s doing by the next person. They certainly don’t have a clue of what’s doing by you. But it’s hard to always remember that when we see things we don’t understand or like nor agree with.
The Yated this week had an excellent article about leadership and Da’as Torah. (I think it was R’Ginsberg’s article) Many of us would love to have someone to consult with on any matter, but apparently the accessiblity to these Rabbonim is not easy. So, before we call those that always do seem to have time for the Klal, we probably should think first if it is a very important matter. Filing for passports I do not think falls in that category.
I will try to talk less during Aseres Yemai Teshuva. I will try to smile more at everyone especially my own family.
I will try to work on shidduchim for eligibles in our family (girls of course). Family should make family a priority. I have never been zoche yet to make a shidduch. What a zechus!
Gut Yohr to Everyone!
Keep girls near home! Much to much running around in EY. Let the boys learn there undistracted by the crowds of noisy girls. There is no way to justify the money spent on that year (for girls)-it’s overrated. Only special cases (needy girls) should leave home for the year. We all should really be mechazek our local sems.
I sent my son to EY this zman and the “tuition” we were asked for was a small fraction of what our daughters year cost us. Boys belong in EY, not the girls. Send the girls on summer tours-thats the way to go. I dont think the Israelis love having their neighbourhoods overrun with American girls. Sem in EY is not what it used to be. Today its big business and not about chinuch. B”H our BY schools are terrific-plenty of role models for the girls right at home. Our girls are not impressionable like they used to be. Save your money. Sem in EY is overrated big time. Girls with issues used to be sent away for a year. Keep your girls home.
I sent my son to EY this zman and the “tuition” we were asked for was a small fraction of what our daughters year cost us. Boys belong in EY, not the girls. Send the girls on summer tours-thats the way to go. I dont think the Israelis love having their neighbourhoods overrun with American girls. Sem in EY is not what it used to be. Today its big business and not about chinuch. B”H our BY schools are terrific-plenty of role models for the girls right at home. Our girls are not impressionable like they used to be. Save your money. Sem in EY is overrated big time. Girls with issues used to be sent away for a year. Keep your girls home.