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Again, I ask: I was listed in the first post, and have been accused again since of being “pro freikeit”. Can someone please quote something I posted which indicates this? If not, I demand an apology from all those who spoke lashon hara and motzei shem ra about me.
Be aware that the halacha is that a person has no chiyuv to forgive someone who speaks lashon hara about him until he is asked for forgiveness, and the penalties for lashon hara are very harsh.
Actually, regardless of whether you can show some proof or not, it’s probably still lashon hara, and you should ask mechila.
jent, I asked you to provide links to posts I made which fit your criteria, and you haven’t yet. Having trouble finding some?
As for illini’s posts, you keep bringing up the same one: that he said Jews are just as capable of carrying out violent attacks. He’s right! Even though we all agree the acid throwers are a fringe element, they’re still Jews, and are capable of doing these horrible things. As Jews, we’re expected to show more control over ourselves, but that doesn’t mean we’re not capable. Look at the attacks many people here made against the early Zionists, about many of the things they did during WW2. They were Jews also! And they were perfectly capable of doing these things!
joseph: No, I don’t think Rabbonim are crooks. I don’t think you should take the Torah with a grain of salt, and when it comes to Shabbos, of course you should try and keep every aspect of it.
There’s a difference between saying the Torah didn’t mean something specific, especially when you have a Rav to quote on it, and saying you don’t have to follow the Torah. One questions the interpretation, the other questions the validity. See the difference?
Regarding Shabbos, I made my position clear: of course everyone should try and keep Shabbos. However, you can’t force someone else to keep it, or any other halachah. People have to choose to keep it, not have it forced on them.
As for insulting Rabbonim, I’m sorry, but I’ve seen many supposedly frum people insult many Rabbonim. Look at the Rabbi Tendler comments for that. I don’t think I’ve ever insulted Rabbonim anywhere on this site. if I did, please point it out to me.
jent: care to post links to some of them?
Pahuteh Yid: Just to note, shaving the heads isn’t a tznius issue, it’s because they hold it’s a chatzitzah when the women go to the mikvah.
Koton, I heard from some very prominent psokim that shaving is ok. I discussed with R’ Reisman shlita exactly which shaver is ok when I needed to buy one, and he recommended a model to me.
joseph: no, you can’t impose that. You can say that you won’t have a guest who doesn’t keep Shabbos or kosher, but you can’t force someone to do it. That’s not your test, that’s the person’s test, and they have to do it. You can offer advice, but you can’t force them.July 25, 2008 5:47 pm at 5:47 pm in reply to: Shiduchim, Is giving perfect information always the best solution?? #620275
My wife and I are both Baalei Teshuva. When our shidduch was in the works, neither side wanted to mention that we both weren’t frum. Our families are all frum, we just went off for a while and are back on now.
Anyway, on one of our first dates, we both found out that the other was a BT. Definitely bashert!
It’s 100% true!!! Go to Israel, where some extremists will attack women who aren’t dressed the way they want them to be. They will pour bleach on them! You go crazy about how the Muslims are animals when they attack their women – these people are doing the same thing!
The fact is, Jews are capable of doing terrible things just like anyone else. Saying so is not pro-frei – it’s reality.
joseph, I’m not arguing with you about what tznius should be. However, you can’t force it on people. A woman or man must choose for themselves. If it offends you, then avoid it! Hashem wouldn’t have tested you if you couldn’t pass the test. Sarah CHOSE to act the way she did. Her husband and neighbors didn’t force it on her.
I just saw this thread, and need to comment. I am pro-freikeit? That’s only because you define someone who isn’t in kollel as being frei.
But seriously. Why am I considered frei? Because I defend other Jews when the kanaim here attack those who don’t live the same way as them? Because when many people attacked a YU Rosh Yeshiva, I stood up for him? (Which, by the way, my Rosh Yeshiva encouraged me to do. And no, I didn’t learn in YU.)
Believe me, I am not pro-Frei. I just don’t dislike people based on how they live. If a person wants to be frei, I will try to encourage them to be frum. If they refuse, I can’t help them. But I certainly won’t look down on them for it. Pity them? Yes. But not speak loshon hara about them, and not treat them as lower class. All Jews must be treated with respect, whether they are frum or not.
illini makes a good point: you can’t blame the women, you have to work on yourself. Hashem doesn’t test us with things we can’t pass. You have the ability to pass every test Hashem gives you. If you would be unable to look away from the woman, then she wouldn’t have walked in! The fact that she did means you have the ability to overcome your instinct. Work on yourself before you work on others.
yontel, you can tell him that it’s a separate issue. Just because they don’t say anything about weight doesn’t make smoking ok.
I have to agree with torahis1. Jews have the potential to be the greatest people. Judaism is the greatest religion in the world. Unfortunately, not everyone lives up to their potential. Even some people think they’re doing the right thing and have total disregard for others.
For example: I was visiting a hospital in NYC the other day. I was looking for parking, and finally saw someone pulling out. I moved up, put on my signal, and was about to back in, when someone came and zipped into the spot, taking it way from me. It turned out it was the guy from the Satmar Bikur Cholim, delivering food to patients. He needed the spot, as it was right in front of the hospital, and he had to carry a lot of boxes. If he’d asked me, and explained it to me, I might have allowed him to take the spot. Instead, he made a huge chillul Hashem, and probably lost any schar he would have gotten for the mitzvah that day.
He had the potential to be a great person doing a great thing. He blew it.
lgbg: Why is it a chutzpah? A normal market has a law of supply and demand. As demand grows, prices go up. Simple economics. Perhaps the problem is that Lakewood is being shown as “the place to go”, while it probably isn’t the best place for many of the people going there.
Ask your Rav. Most people who post here are not poskim, although they might like to think they are.July 3, 2008 2:54 pm at 2:54 pm in reply to: Out Of The Mailbag: (Taking Issue With School Administration) #627622
Unfortunately, this happens more often than you think.
My wife got a job at a frum girls’ school. She was told a salary she’d receive, and asked for it in writing. The principal refused – he said “My word is enough for me, and I’m an honest person.”
When it came time to get paid, my wife received far less than she was supposed to get. She confronted the principal and he told her he would never have agreed to pay her the original amount, as it was too much. My wife told him she wouldn’t have taken the job had she known the salary would be the amount she was paid. He told her it was her problem, and she could leave if she wanted. She told him, :This was why I wanted it in writing. Obviously, your word is not as strong as you claimed.” We contacted a Rav who referred us to a Beis Din. We were told not to go to Beis Din until the school year was finished, so she wouldn’t lose her job over the issue, and we’d be able to get back all the money at the end of the year. For the next few months, the principal made my wife’s life miserable. He treated her terribly, constantly yelled at her, etc. She ended up quitting.
I once asked a Rav about the CDs that have written on them “Sold on the condition that you do not copy this CD”. He told me it’s not a good condition, and I could ignore it. He told me that were I to tell the store owner that I didn’t accept the condition, and wanted to buy the album without it, he’d most likely sell it to me. Furthermore, the store owner usually isn’t even aware it’s written there! The manufacturer who wrote the message sold it to the store owner. Therefore, you can make the argument that the condition applied to him. However, once the albums belong to the store owner, the condition no longer applies.
You can’t convert a yeshiva to a public school. You wouldn’t be able to teach Gemara, Halachah, or anything deemed “religious”.