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  • in reply to: Shlomo Carelbach #895726
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    Rabbaim: I’ve heard that marijuana will do that to people.

    We need to realize who and what Carlebach was. He was a gifted song writer (although personally I don’t enjoy may of his songs.) He also had a tremendous level of ahavas Yisrael. Actually, not just for Jews – he really loved everyone. Of course, that was a standard thing for most hippies.

    However, many people view him as a great Rabbi. Yes, when he was younger, he learned in Lakewood, and supposedly did very well there. But when he got older, things changed. The things he did with women are well known. He encouraged mixed dancing, and he used to hug and kiss women he didn’t know. He also performed with non-Jewish singers on stage (notably Bob Dylan).

    Is this how a Rabbi should be acting? Obviously not! So if you want to learn from Carlebach, learn what it means to love your fellow Jew. But don’t make him out to have been an incredible Rabbi. The fact is that not only did he sin with regard to the opposite gender, he encouraged others to do so as well.

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    YosHChayal: Beautiful! Thank you for posting this letter!

    Now, before he actually comes along:

    <Health-Joseph> But the Satmar Rebbe said differently! </Health-Joseph>

    in reply to: Shlomo Carelbach #895722
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    And why is that?

    Was this thread just bumped up because of the recent article about Shlomo?

    in reply to: YUMMY GEFEN #1030205
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    Murder-suicide FTW!

    in reply to: saying good shabbos to girls (men) #892781
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    pba: I don’t think he meant anything about sexual overtones. I think he just meant that rude girls are not for him.

    in reply to: Touro College #892340
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    It depends on your career track. Touro actually has a decent reputation among employers because a lot of very smart people go there. However, the school itself does not provide a real, high-quality, college education. If you’re going for a career which requires further studying/testing after graduation, be aware that Touro will no help you develop proper study habits, and there’s a good chance you will struggle down the road.

    in reply to: Are you a Zionist? #893311
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    Health, there you go again with the Satmar Rebbe. Please try to realize that he was a daas yochid, and most people don’t hold like him!

    in reply to: I want to eat cholov stam #891785
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    Joseph, I haven’t read it, but I’m going to respond anyway.

    Probably the reason is that the Chazon Ish lived in Israel. R’ Moshe’s psak was for the US, not for Israel. In the US, especially regarding matters that were specifically for the US, people tended to follow R’ Moshe, not the Chazon Ish.

    in reply to: Rabbonim and Shalom Bayis Problems #892913
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    I was once in my Rosh Yeshiva’s office when a fomer student called to speak with him. The guy was having some shalom bayis issues. My RY spoke to him, then returned to his conversation with me. He said to me, “One of the biggest issues today is that people think their Rebbe should do everything! If you have trouble in your marriage, go see a marriage counselor! If your Rav is trained in that, great. But most aren’t – and they feel it’s part of their job, and end up doing more harm than good. If you are sick, you see a doctor. If you need help with your marriage, go see a marriage counselor! People nowadays don’t blow their nose without asking their Rebbe first! It’s a big problem!”

    in reply to: Would Rabbi Akiva Eiger z"l wear a "kippa sruga"?so why do you?? #892044
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    Would R’ Akiva Eiger count a chossid as part of a minyan? Probably not, as he held they were apikorsim.

    in reply to: Dangerous territory #891672
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    oomis: that is part of the position of R’ Belsky. He says all cows have a chezkas kashrus until they are slaughtered. R’ Schachter disagrees with him.

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    Health: Someone did say the 3 shavuos don’t apply. R’ Meir Simcha was quoted as having said that.

    As for the mizrachi camp, why can’t it be someone from there? What if I ask you to quote someone who says the 3 shavuos are still in effect, just not from the Satmar camp?

    in reply to: Dangerous territory #891666
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    HolyMoe, I don’t know where you get the idea that “most poskim” hold the cows are a problem. The only ones I’ve seen who’ve actually publicly expressed an opinion on it are R’ Schachter and R’ Belsky. Even R’ Schachter doesn’t pasken for others that it’s not allowed, he only keeps it for himself.

    in reply to: saying good shabbos to girls (men) #892709
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    Is there a minhag in Brooklyn that when you say Good Shabbos to someone you don’t know, they’re supposed to ignore you? Whenever I visit there for Shabbos, it seems that is the minhag.

    If someone ignores me, I’ll just usually say loudly as they pass by, “That’s ok, you can ignore me if you want!”

    in reply to: Tzniut Glasses #892173
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    So your only source that it’s a false story is… wait, you don’t have one other than your own thoughts?

    You can claim it’s fake all you want. You certainly don’t have to believe it if you don’t want to. However, you won’t convince me that it’s fake without having a real source.

    in reply to: Are you a Zionist? #893264
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    ItcheSrulik, hatzlacha in the yeshiva!

    in reply to: Tzniut Glasses #892170
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    Is there anywhere where it is reported that it was a fraud?

    in reply to: I want to eat cholov stam #891762
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    Der Rav: OU kashrus is overseen by R’ Belsky and R’ Schachter. They are the ones who say the heter can be applied to other dairy items, such as ice cream. Take it up with them if you have a problem with it.

    in reply to: Who is a "Chareidi"? #891245
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    Shopping613: I don’t know where your community is, and the mods are not likely to allow you to tell me.

    in reply to: I want to eat cholov stam #891757
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    Der Rav: How do you know what R’ Moshe would have issued a heter for and what he wouldn’t have? The fact is that OU kashrus is headed by 2 huge Rabbonim, R’ Belsky and R’ Schachter. Both of them have no problems giving a hechsher on ice cream.

    in reply to: I want to eat cholov stam #891753
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    Der Rav: R’ Yisroel Belsky still allows it, although he differs from R’ Moshe in his reasoning. You can read more about it here:

    http://www.oukosher.org/index.php/common/article/rav_moshe_ztls_heter_of_cholov_stam_revisited/

    As for CY being available and its price, you’re wrong. CY milk costs a few dollars more per gallon, and it spoils much faster. I tried buying it a few times – the half gallon bottle usually spoils within 3 days. When I buy a gallon bottle from Shop Rite, it can last 2 weeks without spoiling.

    in reply to: Who is a "Chareidi"? #891242
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    So SHopping613, nobody on this site is chareidi, according to you, since they all have internet?

    As for your point of how girls dress on Shabbos, in my Modern Orthodox community, I’ve never seen anyone (boy or girl) wearing denim on Shabbos.

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    health: You say someone can’t admit that there are big gedolim who were against the medinah. Yet you can’t admit that there were/are big gedolim who are very in favor of the medinah!

    in reply to: gedolim biographies #896639
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    ItcheSrulik: In my mind, nothing. But apparently some people had issues with the book, because it was banned for a long time. The version available now is an edited version.

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    So choppy gets officially recognized as another Joseph alt, and a few days later, this new guy vochindik starts quoting from largely the same sources, saying the same thing. Coincidence? I think not!

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    Health: The crops would grow without irrigation, as long as there was water supplied. Irrigation is simply an easy way to supply water.

    Before the Jews regained control of Israel, there was nothing growing there. The arabs had turned it into a wasteland. Now the land is thriving. Why is it common sense to say that it means without irrigation? Do you have a source other than your own (twisted) common sense? Maybe R’ Yoel said it?

    I’m also wondering how you will twist the nevuah of Od yeshvu zkenim u’zkenos b’rchovos Yerushalayim. What does that mean? Sitting without chairs? Or maybe only sitting on gold-plated thrones? Because it seems to me (via common sense) that the nevuah has been fulfilled.

    in reply to: Mazel Tov to Aly Raisman #890638
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    PBA: I think that’s a first for the Coffee Room – someone convinced someone else of something! I think we should throw a kiddush!

    As for the medal, you don’t have to respect it. I don’t. I respect her for her willingness to stand up for what is right and show she’s proud to be a Jew, even when others refuse to honor Jews.

    in reply to: Mazel Tov to Aly Raisman #890637
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    Kozov: When R’ Levi Yitzchak found a drunkard on the night of Pesach and asked him for some chometz, did he make a big deal about the fact that the guy was drunk? Not at all! He only referred to the fact that even drunkards knew you can’t have chometz on Pesach!

    in reply to: gedolim biographies #896628
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    The only biographies I really have any interest in reading are My Uncle the Netziv and The Making of a Godol.

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    Health: You’re really getting desperate! Common sense that it meant without irrigation? Seriously?

    You say almost all gedolim were against the medinah. I don’t think it’s true. R’ Frank, R’ Sorotzkin, and R’ SZ Auerbach zt”l were 3 of the biggest Rabbonim of their generations. R’ SZ was considered the posek hador of Eretz Yisroel (together with R’ Moshe zt”l who was his counterpart in America). You have no problem quoting R’ Elyashiv zt”l even as a daas yochid when it suits you because he was the gadol hador, but when a previous gadol says something you don’t like, you’ll say that other argue on him? You’re such a hypocrite.

    Face facts. Many major Rabbonim held that the founding of the state of Israel was a sign of the beginning of the geulah. You don’t like it? Most people really don’t care. But maybe, just maybe, if you just disagreed respectfully instead of showing hatred towards Zionists, Mashiach would come sooner.

    in reply to: Mazel Tov to Aly Raisman #890632
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    There are stories of the Barditchiver Rav where he found good things to say about the worst sort of people. He looked for drunks on the night of Pesach. He looked for non-frum Jews on Yom Kippur. For all of them, he found good things to say about them, and turned it into a tefillah for Hashem to judge the Jewish nation favorably.

    Let’s all take a page from his book.

    Hashem, look at this gymnast! She was raised to not know what it means to be frum and follow the Torah. She doesn’t know enough to dress properly on the international stage. Yet, despite all that, look at her caring for her fellow Jews! When the world won’t recognize Jews who died al kiddush Hashem, she gets up and stands up for what is right, and shows that she’s proud to be Jewish!

    Hashem, even though we’ve fallen so far that we often don’t even realize it, please remember that we are still proud to be your chosen people! U’vchal zos, shimcha lo shachachnu! Na, al tishkacheinu!

    in reply to: Choppy #890439
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    I have a good idea – whenever choppy posts, I will donate some money to the World Zionist Organization!

    in reply to: Choppy #890427
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    You’re correct, sorry!

    Mods, can you add Csar to my initial post?

    in reply to: Tznius gone too far #890332
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    Whiteberry: People can go overboard with lashon hara and rechilus as well. There are halachos about when one is required to say things, such as pertaining to a shidduch or some other cases. Some people try to be “machmir” in such cases, which is wrong.

    Those people, like many when it comes to tznius, fall into the category of chossid shoteh.

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    The yeshiva I graduated from (a well known, respected, chareidi yeshiva) plays the national anthem at graduations. The Rosh Yeshiva said that we live in the USA, and we need to show hakaras hatov to them.

    I think it definitely should have been played at the siyum.

    in reply to: know any frum vegetarians or vegans? #918495
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    I know a few vegetarians. One is for health reasons – his body can’t digest the meat properly. I have no problems with such a person, because your health comes first. If he was able to handle it, he’d love to eat meat – he always complains about not being able to.

    Another person I knew says she doesn’t like the taste of most meats. If it’s ground up in something, and absorbs another flavor, she’ll eat it, and she’ll eat around meat – so on Shabbos, she’ll have cholent, just not the big chunks of meat that might be in it.

    Then I know people who do it because they’re stupid liberals. I argue with them, and try to convince them that they’re wrong. My wife got upset at me for not treating guests properly – she thinks I shouldn’t argue it with them.

    in reply to: Who says above knee osur #1022283
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    mdd: Why did you feel the need to write about YU when you disagree with someone’s view on tznius?

    in reply to: Who says above knee osur #1022252
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    No, because it is made especially for women. Take something like culottes. I know frum women who wear them.

    in reply to: It's All Out Fault! #889741
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    2scents:

    Maybe that’s the reason I didn’t go to the internet asifa. I hold like the Gra, and I didn’t want to be in a stadium full of apikursim.

    in reply to: Who says above knee osur #1022248
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    GAW: some argue on R’ Wosner with this. My Rosh Yeshiva told me that years ago, the first women who wore pants were not allowed to because it’s a beged ish. Now, however, there are pants made specifically for women, and it is normal for women to wear them. Therefore, it is not a beged ish anymore. He said it is a problem of tznius because women’s pants are made to accentuate certain body parts. However, he said that theoretically, someone could make pants which don’t show off the body, and they would be 100% ok for a woman to wear.

    in reply to: It's All Out Fault! #889737
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    Thank you, 42.

    I strongly disagree with Satmar’s view on Israel. Yet once when I had the chance to hear a Satma dayan speak, I went to hear it, and even went to shake his hand afterward.

    in reply to: Tznius in brooklyn #1087530
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    Toi: Generally, whenever my wife and I go to anyone’s house, we’ll dress in the way they want people to dress in their home. Their home, their rules. If we’re going to meet up outside the home (like at a restaurant, park, or something else like that), we’ll dress the way we usually dress.

    in reply to: It's All Out Fault! #889731
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    When certain Jews won’t attend because a Rav from Israel is speaking, that prevents Mashiach from coming.

    in reply to: Tznius in brooklyn #1087521
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    on the ball: I think you mixed me up with yichusdik. I never wrote that!

    in reply to: Info on Yeshivas Chaim Berlin NY #889298
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    Chaim Berlin is a good place if you are a good learner who intends to sit and learn for a long time. If you’re not the greatest learner, and have a hard time sitting through a seder, it’s not for you.

    in reply to: Tznius in brooklyn #1087507
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    Ohr Chodesh: You’re correct, I don’t want to name the Rosh Yeshiva who told me that it scares people away. It will only lead to him being attacking by fanatics like you.

    He told me that the book is full of chumros presented as halachah, and he doesn’t recommend it to anyone.

    in reply to: Tznius in brooklyn #1087505
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    There is a big difference between saying R’ Falk is a talmud chacham and saying he’s a gadol.

    His sefer on tznius has been widely criticized by many Rabbonim as being extremely (and unnecessarily) machmir. Does this mean he’s not a talmud chacham? Of course not! But it may mean he’s not a gadol. R’ Moshe Feinstein was asked what made him a gadol. He replied that people asked him questions, he answered them, and they kept coming back. When a Rav is labeled as too machmir and people don’t ask him any more questions because of it, then yes, it may mean he’s not a gadol. It’s nothing against him personally, it just means he doesn’t have that status.

    I’m not belittling him, I’m just saying that most Rabbonim disagree with him. While he’s not a daas yachid, he certainly is in the minority. I’m sure the Rebbes from many chassidic groups approve of his standards, but most others don’t.

    in reply to: Giving Wife Sotah Warning #889156
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    I don’t know. Ask your Rabbi.

    Are you having marriage trouble?

    in reply to: Tznius in brooklyn #1087462
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    I once asked a well known and respected Rosh Yeshiva about R’ Falk’s sefer. I won’t say who the Rosh Yeshiva is, because if people knew he said it, the backlash against him would be terrible.

    He said, “That sefer is only good if you want to scare people away from tznius! It contains every chumrah ever thought up and presents it as basic halachah that is required from everyone. I don’t recommend it to anyone!”

    in reply to: Divorcing Shiksa #888067
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    Actually, in such a case, it is one of the few times we encourage a conversion. If the spouse won’t convert, then we try to encourage a divorce. But we try conversion first!

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