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maybe when it’s when they were playing around with the spaces between names
thanks, I had missed RY’s post.
Randomex, did you notice when it changed? I wouldn’t have even noticed, but when I go into my profile, I see both are listed as possibilities.
I think that I thought you meant that it didn’t used to do that and now it does.
But in any case, I never thought of it as an error. I thought it’s just including all the posts, moderated or not.
“Is that in Detroit or in Lakewood?”
Are those the only two places in the world?
“It does not specify what is required.”
That is why I was assuming that all are required, but maybe it’s a mistake.
In any case, it doesn’t seem to affect those of us who are already registered. The question is what happens when someone new registers.
“I don’t feel comfortable with that (personal reasons that I cannot say here).”
I get that, although I also get why they put that there. I wonder if the mods see it though or if it’s only the Editor.
Joseph – I think it always shows all the posts that have been posted even if they weren’t moderated yet. So if you post on a thread, even if it wasn’t moderated yet, it will show up in the post thread.
Is that what you are referring to?
Huju – I’m still waiting for an answer from you. If you are going to make accusations about me, I am at least entitled to know what in the world you are talking about.
apushutayid –
I saw in one of the Chafetz Chaim’s Sefarim (I think it’s called “zechor l’Miriam” or something like that, but I’m not sure) that he says smoking is assur. He gives two reason:
1. unhealthy
2. Bittul Torah.
Apparently in those days, it took at least half an hour to roll the cigars.
crazybrit – lol
ZD – I imagine hebrewbooks is different because it is straight sources. As opposed to most other Frum websites that could have things on them that are not 100%. It’s not really a website per se’ – it’s just a place to get sources.
In any case, as long as people know it’s on the OU website, they can probably find it themselves.
“You cannot celebrate during the sefira.”
I have actually never heard that given as a reason for not celebrating Yom HaAtzmaut. Do you know anyone who says that?
Even though I do not believe in the celebration of Yom HaAtzmaut, I would agree with Avi that the fact that it’s in Nissan is not a reason not to celebrate it (unless you have sources stating that this is a reason).
My argument with Avi is that he referrred to the “aveilut” of Yom HaAtzmaut which sounds like he meant the live music aspect (is that what you meant, Avi? If not, your post should have been phrased more carefully, I think), and the fact that he used the term “certainly”.
“The Torah obligation to thank Hashem for the state certainly pushes off the aveilut of the sefira, which is only a minhag.”
The word “certainly” is out of place in this sentence. It sounds like you are referring to listening to live music during sefira. While there are Rabbanim who posken that way, they are a minority. You can choose to follow that opinon if you like (and if that’s how your Rabbanim hold), but you can’t use the term “certainly” when referring to something that most of Gedolei Yisrael say is assur.
And the aveilus of sefira is halacha and not something to be taken lightly by saying “it’s just a minhag” which implies that it’s not halacha and doesn’t have to be kept.
“Socially acceptable.” Hmmm. To which society do you refer?”
“Ergo, women are misleading.”
Any time, someone uses a phrase such as “socially acceptable”, they are obviously not referring to every society in every country since time began. They are clearly only referring to the society to which they belong.
Also, I’m not sure the word “women” would be the misleading word in any case. In our society, I think it would be unacceptable for any women to smoke.
My arguments are better than yours. But I don’t use hashtags because I heard (in the CR) that they are goyish. 🙂 So it’s “sheiv v’al taaseh” until I hear otherwise.
Joseph – thank you.
ZD – One of the problems the Gedolim have with the date is the fact that it’s in Nissan when we are not allowed to mourn. That is much more important than the fact that it is yemach shemo’s birthday.
Also, as I stated above, it is important to connect it to the Churban and to view it as a continuation of Jewish History, the Churban and our Galus.
ZD: “Rav Menchem Ziemba who was one of the last Gedolim in the Warsaw Ghetto, Personally gave his blessing to the uprsing”
ZD – thank you very much for that information! I wasn’t sure what the Gedolim felt about it; all I knew was that they consider those that fought spiritually to be greater heroes. That does not in any way take away from the greatness of those who were moiser nefesh to fight physically (when it was warranted), and I did not mean to imply that it did.
I was not sure how the Gedolim felt about it so on the one hand I didn’t want to imply that they approved in case they didn’t, but at the same time, I didn’t want to imply that they were not heroes as well in case the Gedolim did feel so.
That is why I very carefully wrote “While the Torah world may possibly also consider them heroes,” in order to avoid erring in either direction.
I very much appreciate your post since I would not want anyone to come away thinking they were not heroes if in fact they were. And that was certainly not the point of my post at all.
Thank you!
ZD: “You story comes from the Yaffa Eliach (Who just passed away a few months ago) book, Chassidic tales from the Holocaust”
ZD, thanks for the info.I didn’t know the source. I did not actually read it there, but it is possible that it was reprinted elsewhere or that I heard the story orally. It’s also possible that more than one person knows the story and published it.
Either way, thank you. It is important to say over things in the name of the one being quoted – and this is THE time to be makpid on that since we learn from Megilas Esther.
WTP: “Lilmod, you missed the strongest argument about Yom Hashoa- it’s official full name is Yom Hashoa V’hagvura, meaning they are commemorating the bravery and might of the victims, hence the choice of the Warsaw uprising as the date.”
WTP – thank you for that clarification. I know of a few other reasons, but I forgot (or didn’t know) that reason.
One big reason was the fact that all major tragedies since the Churban are connected to the Churban and supposed to be commemorated on Tisha B’Av in order to emphasize the connection. The Gedolim felt that the secularists were deliberately trying to place the holocaust in its own category and disconnect it from the Churban.
I hadn’t mentioned that in my previous post because it wasn’t directly connected to the topic at hand. Your comment is, however.
There was an article in the Jewish Observer in 1977 (and no, I didn’t read it in 1977 in case anyone is trying to figure out how old I am) with a translation of a speech by Rav Hutner, zatsal explaining the problems with Yom HaShoah. If anyone is interested, you can find it online derech Google.
Were the Tags always in alphabetical order, or did they just rearrange themselves before my eyes?
Yeah Lightbrite! You’re the best!
One of the “required items” for the profile is “website”. What if I don’t have one?
There is a story told that happened before/during the holocaust. There was a certain Jew (I think a Rav)in Germany who was careful to greet everyone he met. There was a certain goy whom he used to pass every morning, and he would always make sure to greet him, “gut morgen, Herr ____.”
World War II started, and the Rav was taken for selection, waiting to see if the nazi in charge would point him towards the gas chambers or towards life. When his turn came, he looked up and recognized the nazi as his former neighbor. “Gut Morgen, Herr___.” The nazi looked up, recongnized him, and pointed him towards life.
This story is always told to give over the message of the importance of greeting others.
But I always felt there was an incredible lesson in this story that I’m not sure if everyone gets.
We are not just talking about greeting others here. This man was a nazi, a rasha, a murderer, a horrible person!! We think it’s a Mitzvah to greet others because we should assume that everyone is a good person even if they are goyim,etc. But in this case, we know (now) that the guy was a horrible person. And yet the story is told over to show the importance of being nice to and greeting everyone.
The lesson I learned from the story is that it is always important to make a Kiddush Hashem and try to be nice to everyone no matter how awful they are (and I’m not saying it’s easy). You never know what harm you may be causing when you don’t act nicely to a goy (even if they deserve it), and you don’t know what good you can be causing when you do act nicely to a goy (even when they don’t seem to deserve it).
It’s basically the secular Jews who consider the Jews who fought back physically to be the main heroes of the holocaust.
While the Torah world may possibly also consider them heroes, they have much more admiration for those Jews who fought by holding on to their Emunah and being moser nefesh (risking their lives) in order to keep the Mitzvos.
The Gedolim considered the establishment of 27 Nissan as Yom HaShoah to be very problematic for several reasons. One of those reasons, I believe, was that the date was chosen since it’s the date of the Warsaw Ghetto Uprising.
The secular and zionist Jews wanted to commemorate that date as they were embarrassed about the fact that we “went like sheep to the slaughter”. They consider the Jews who fought back physically to be the main heroes of the holocaust, and those are the ones they want to remember since they are embarrassed about the others.
That is not the Torah approach. To us, the main heroes are the ones who gave up their lives in order to keep the Mitzvos – the ones who found a way to light the Chanuka Menora in the concentration camp even though it meant risking their lives, the ones who went to their deaths singing Ani Maamin and saying the Shema, knowing that this was Hashem’s Will and that they were dying Al Kiddush Hashem.
For us, those are the true heroes. We are not embarrassed about how we died and do not need to prove to the world that we are just like them and we can have an army just like them (I’m not against our having an army to defend ourselves- I am talking about the attitude that sometimes go with it, and the lack of awareness that our main defense is Torah and Mitzvos).
“You brought up using humor which is very smart. And yes the response has to be intelligent. At the same time, some people will not hear even intelligence from someone based on some prejudice, such as “if a woman says it”, or “a Jewish person says it”, etc.”
True. I don’t know if that would always be the response either. But it is possible that it could be in certain types of circumstance. You have to use your judgment about these things. In general, the best thing usually is to hold yourself upright, maintain your dignity, act as though you are unaffected by what they are saying, and walk away (if possible).
In terms of the kids you babysat for, kids do things like this. Maybe the parents’ didn’t feel that it was necessary or helpful from a chinuch perspective to say anything about it. Parents have to “choose their battles”, and sometimes it’s better not to make an issue out of things.
I have heard quotes from Rabbanim or Chinuch experts that when your kid does something that you know he will outgrow and not do as an adult, it is usually not a good idea to make a big deal out of it.
Children are not obligated in Mitzvos. The purpose of chinuch is to make sure your kids learn to do the right thing so they will act properly as adults. When it comes to things that they won’t do as adults anyhow, it’s possible that chinuch doesn’t apply.
I have no idea in this case if the parents did the right thing or not, and I do not know what the best response would have been. I am just explaining why they might have chosen not to say anything.
I can’t say 100% for sure, but I think it’s assur.
Eating too much in general is probably not a 100% black-and-white issur (even though there are problems with it from a Torah perspective) but this is not the same thing. In that case, you are eating for the sake of eating. You really want to eat the food, and it really is serving a purpose.
In this case, you don’t want to eat the food and you are just “using” it. It seems to me that it’s: 1. being “mevazeh” (disgracing) the food,
and 2. wasting food since you are not eating it for the purpose of eating but only for the purpose of winning a contest.
A Jew is supposed to “eat in order to live”. The purpose of eating is to give us energy to serve Hashem. Even if someone eats unhealthy food, he is still doing it because it is giving him energy (emotional and/or physical) to serve Hashem. If you eat chocolate to have energy to do Mitzvos, then eating the chocolate becomes part of your Avodas Hashem.
But when you stuff yourself for the sake of a contest, you are not eating in order to have energy to serve Hashem. You are “using” the food, and acting like an animal. It is the antithesis of Kedusha and what a Jew stands for.
There used to be an avoda zara that involved stuffing oneself and then going to the bathroom in front of the avoda zara (or something like that). That is what this sounds like to me.
LB – in my opinion, it’s best to walk away and say nothing in all or most situations. One exception might be in certain situations if you can come up with a sharp response. By sharp I mean intelligent (possibly humorous) and not confrontational. Try to avoid confrontation.
You are not allowed to do an aveirah in order to do a Mitzvah.
Why is my last post in yellow? Is it awaiting moderation or is it only I who sees the yellow?
greatly
errands
I doubt it. The whole concept sounds untznius to me.
actually, I have 3 yellows, but one is only yellow on the side.
I assume it’s connected to the upgrade that Joseph mentioned on another thread.
btw, I still have two yellow posts on this thread. One is the one right above yours.
Article by R’ Yair Hoffman copied and pasted from front page of YWN:
“There is no need for the two different food items to have two separate berachos. This is one of the biggest misconceptions in Hilchos Purim. There is an issue, however, of taking one food item and cutting it in half into two slices. The Aruch haShulchan (OC 695:14) writes that just because one cut it in half it should be considered two foods? Perhaps it is this statement of the Aruch HaShulchan that has caused the two blessing myth to exist. If someone sends another two pieces of meat from two different limbs that tastes slightly different this is considered two foods (Mikraie Kodesh SIman 38).”
RY, if you’re replying to a comment from 6 months ago, it might be a good idea to say which poster (and which comment) you are referring to, or it’s unlikely that anyone will know whom you are referring to.
no, that can’t be it – ubiquitin is still lower-case.
RY, since you noticed, did it just change this week?
I’m wondering if it has to do with the website changes. Maybe in the process of working on the website, my name got erased, and when they put it back in the system, they accidentally capitalized it.
Or maybe the new system is set up so that everyone’s name is automatically capitalized.
No, but glad to know someone is paying attention to my name (even if I’m not!)
Also, I think that there is a “shita” that it better for boys to know that there is one day a year that they can get drunk, since this way they are less likely to be tempted to get drunk the rest of the year.
I don’t know if this “shita” is right or not, and others are entitled to feel differently. I don’t think there is a way to really prove definitively one way or another.
But, it certainly makes sense, and even if one disagrees, he should respect those that have this opinion and acknowledge that there is logic to it whether or not he agrees. Especially since it can’t be proven either way.
One of the main themes of Purim is achdus, so let’s start by respecting others and their opinions even when we disagree. Thank you for listening!
Thank you 29 for posting!
I have always wondered if the “2 brachos” myth started because it can be hard to figure out what constitutes 2 types of food in some cases (such as meat, chocolate, or cookies). Perhaps this was even more true in the older days when people weren’t picking up processed foods in the supermarket and were sending things like meat.
Ubiquitin, I thought you’d be interested in this. It’s copied and pasted from R’ Yair Hoffman’s article on the front page of YWN:
“There is no need for the two different food items to have two separate berachos. This is one of the biggest misconceptions in Hilchos Purim. There is an issue, however, of taking one food item and cutting it in half into two slices. The Aruch haShulchan (OC 695:14) writes that just because one cut it in half it should be considered two foods? Perhaps it is this statement of the Aruch HaShulchan that has caused the two blessing myth to exist. If someone sends another two pieces of meat from two different limbs that tastes slightly different this is considered two foods (Mikraie Kodesh SIman 38).”
It sounds like the idea of 2 different foods (as opposed to 2 different portions) comes from the fact that it’s obvious. The Aruch Hashulchan points out that it’s obvious. If no one else points this out, perhaps it’s because they felt it was obvious, so there was no need to.
I looked up the AH inside, and one of the reasons he gives for why it’s obvious is that it says ??? ???? ?????? and he suggests that ??? ???? ??? may be a misprint.
So I don’t think I was wrong when I said it’s clear that it’s two types of foods (my mistake was that I cited the MB instead of the SA).
MW13: “i think stronger censoring of lashon hara and general bashing would be great.”
mw13 – + 1 googol!
I don’t know anything about the field, but I would guess the best way is by word of mouth. Do you know anyone who works in the field?
Did you really write Donald Duck in your CR profile?
I know you much prefer Donald to Hillary, but I highly doubt you are looking for an affiliation with him. Doesn’t really fit your hashkafa.
Donald doesn’t really sound very Jewish to me… that doesn’t really fit your hashkafa either. I’m sure you will now come up with some interesting explanation as to how Donald is really Jewish.
glad to hear it’s still available if you want it.
That’s funny – when I checked my profile page, it looks like my name used to be lilmod ulelamaid, and at some point changed to Lilmod Ulelamaid.
Did anyone notice when they happened? As I mentioned on another thread, I’m not the observant type.
Joseph: “(including first name and last name!)”
I was shocked when I read this, but I checked, and it’s true! But it looks like it’s only for the website managers. (Does that include the mods?)
It also is apparently required (but I guess that’s just for new posters).
That’s actually a pretty good idea, I think.
So when I become a mod, will I get to find out if Joseph is really Joseph in rl? And Avrum really Avrum?