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Everyone has a minhag.
The Maharil brings down that you are “mechuyav” to sit in the sukka on Shmini Atzeres “afilu l’hashmi’a shmu’os” which really refers to learning or “talking in Torah.”
Minhagim vary but that is the basis. So “Shtiky,” check what your father/gfather’s minhag.
There is no problem in sitting in the sukka all year round–just no brocho.
So there is no issur of sitting in the sukka on Shmini Atzeres. Insofar as Arba Minnim, there is a problem of a “tarta d’sasra” so even though it is be a “yom tov sheni” of Hoshana Rabbo, we end up with a mitzvos d’rabbonon (lulav, hoshanas) which cannot override the d’oraisa of Shmini Atzeres, so we end with a Shev v’al Ta’asse for those d’rabbonon’s from Succos.
Have a wonderful yom tov.
The OU tried to put a DE (dairy equipment) at a certain time. It didn’t work, so they will put an OUD even if it is not milchig but made on equipment that was used for dairy. I don’t know if the equipment is “kashered/sterilized” to avoid this problem, but I’m not into giving hashgochos so…
I would be careful about just looking at the ingredients. You cannot rely on allergy warnings because that is to avoid lawsuits. So if the equipment was ever used for milk/nuts/etc. they put the warning (even if there is none in the product being used.
FYI–the OU started with Educator cookies which were also not “pas Yisroel” but they tasted good. 🙂
Kohanim do not look for a heter–they just don’t go. that’s all.
I know the wife of a Kohen who would not go “walking” (favorite sport of women) through a non-Jewish cemetery just “in case” she was pregnant with a boy.
I have a brother-in-law who is very careful about “body parts” in museums and won’t go and won’t let his sons.
Even non-frum Kohanim are careful about the halochos of not going to funeral homes and cemeteries.
If they are makpid, that is their z’chus. Hashem gave them a role and, with it, obligations. They take it seriously. Good for them.
good points.
I don’t know about cities, but a practice I use when driving on the highway is to keep your speed less than 10 mph over the limit.
so…
if the limit is 65, do not exceed 73/74. At 75 and over you risk the ticket. At 73 you’re still driving fast enough to get you there. At 75 you risk a ticket.
Similar in the city, if the limit is 30, do not exceed 37. but watch the school/park/children zones.
I haven’t received a speeding ticket in over 10 years (bli ayin hora). only 1 stop sign ticket.
above all, drive defensively–drive as if the other guy is a total idiot so as to avoid him.
emergency kit–battery cables, shovel, blanket, matches, candles, flashlight, first aid kit,
enough kibbitzing–
There are many difficulties in a marriage and adjustments, add up differences in minhagim, yada yada, and you can get a toxic mix.
so why start.
it “may” work for a second marriage when the couple are less “demanding/mature/supple/flexible/whatever.”
I’m not saying it won’t work, but how many adjustments do you expect each to make to the other’s minhagim without resentment coming into play–resentment leads to fights etc.
1. Both my wife and I bentch the children before Sholom Aleichem.
2. never heard of kissing the mother’s hand.
3. Friday night, we stand for Vayichulu and sit at the brocho (see Rokeach)(also see Minhagei Amsterdam to sit for kiddush at night)
4. Morning sit for brocho
5. Havdolo–stand for all
6. Interestingly, on Yom Tov, at night, we stand for the brocho. why, I don’t know. My father also couldn’t figure out the contradiction.
7. I like the comments from “the Wolf”–couldn’t happen in my house 😉