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Ner Isreal is a great place to consider. Also YU may be suitable, however it may be a shtikle too modern for your bro.. It all depands.
Emunas Itecha- great story!
health; what reccommendations are you refering to?
coffee addict:- You obviously don’t know who the true shadchan is.. people who make shidduchim are only a sheliach!
MODS LISTEN UP!!!!; I have a great idea. all singles should have a singles coffee room, just for the singles they can all chat exactly like this, and if a guy or girl is interested in dating one another they should then contact you by emailing you thier resumes, then you can set them up.
and YOU’LL get the shadchonus GELT!
brainy; IF you know me inside and out, then you must be the nut inside the case..
HEALTH: I’m really sorry you took offense to this. I honestly didn’t mean to come accross sarcastic.
In skver they have to give a square ring. not sure when it’s given though either in the yichud shtieb/ during engagement/ prehaps as the kedushin ring although I think that has to be sth that is completely round…
I have a friend that uses strawberries for Karpas!!!
Has anyone heard of the segula/minhag for putting havdala wine in your pockets for a segula for parnassa?!!
theres also a chassidishe “minhag” that I heard of that there is to be no shtick in the first dance at a wedding!! Cause it’s suposed to be “family dancing time”. this first dance also has to be a slow emotional one with rebbish music!!! How obserd is that??!!
Aonther one..;-some chassidishe blokes don’t cut thier peyos they either burn them/ tie them up!when it gets “a little” long..
to eat cholent on motzie shabbos!!! fech!!!
some have a minhag to put salt in a babies bath!! not so bad as the previous one, but I just wonder where and how these extra halachos came about..
saying shema by a mezuza..
everyone contributing to a 3 year old boys hair cut..
That’s a really good question. Although your on here yourself, So why should it concern you if your spouse was on here too?
So you say your going for a second Date, then keep us posted. We’re all waiting to hear from you!! Hope you make a wise decision in this. Don’t be foolish!! She might just be your bashert that you are pushing away over a lousey pair of shoes!!!
WIY; mazeh shechonu alov??
Are you looking to marry a pair of heels or are you looking for an Eishes chayil? dresscode can always be changed, but the person is what really counts. If she is definitely not your type and totally not compatible, fine so be it, but over a pair of shoes!!!!! come on get real!!! It takes moments to change a pair of shoes and a lifetime to change a person. I’m not saying that looks don’t count, If her physical appearance is terribly below your tastesbuds, leave at that, ’cause you can’t change that.
If you are comfortable enough you may even wish to discuss clothes with her… Every girl loves to talk about that. Ask her if she ever likes to wear heals… broach the subject of course in a gentle refined manner, and it will allow both of you to be closer, if you so wish to invest in the relationship..
Life is a multiple choice test, make the right decision. For it’s long term and there’s no turning back!
You are what you eat!! I’m NOT judging you and I’m not saying that you are going against halacha, however whatever goes into your system effects the way you behave. If you are careful with this, then it will be much easier to be careful with bigger (more important) things..
there was a 16 year old kid driving in front of me the other day. he kept on jerking, swerving etc.. no confidence in the slightest. I had to keep my distance from him to avoid an accident, until I was able to overtake. popa bar abba, your generalisation is pretty true but unfortunately not every single guy has pure confidence behind the wheel. One of the reasons why majority guys are better at manuvering vehicles is because they have a much higher muscle stregth than women.
my salon doesn’t use it.
do you know what it’s called??
said some tehilim and I hope they have a Refah shelaima bekorov! Amen.
Boruch Hashem. That’s great to hear!! thanks for updating us all.
This guy is one of my husband’s friends and is one of our shabbos table members just about every week. So I know everything I have mentioned is 100% correct. I’m not saying it to knock all guys chas ve chas. there are plenty of guys out there that make wonderful husbands and fathers. I am just mentioning it to those that are in the parsha that they should look for qaulity, and not just compromise cause there is nothing better.. It’s a none fact that there is more girls out there than boys. This guy is definitely not qaulity, he’s scum,but Like I said for what ever reason my friend saw him as being a really nice mentch.
Health: “I actually think before I post. I’m glad you love your husband, but why do you hate most men?” I never stated that I hate most men. i really hope you find your zivug bekorov, without any obstacles in your way. “I might not know whom the guy is, but you do. I was just defending him.”- I’m honestly impressed!! your great for defending someone whome you don’t know. what Ahavas yisroel!! “I’ll tell you another thing, going around telling e/o about this guy is possibly destroying any chance this guy has to get married. I’m pretty sure you’ve told many people your opinion about him.”- I never said that I go around telling everyone about him, I only talk about him, using his name when it’s for letoeles reasons and when my husband and I set him up. which has been on a NUMBER of different occasions!!! It’s also very frustrating setting him up, and knowing that it’s not going to work ’cause he’s just too much of an immature nerd to commit. I definitely admire my husband’s patience with him!!
Toi:”shteiger- i think if you took some ESL courses your posts might be easier to understand; by extension, you would have an easier time being able to formulate and express a coherent arguement.”- I don’t quite get what you mean here, if you want to make yourself slightly clearer I might be able to answer your post..& If you would like you can let me know what exactly you didn’t understand and I’ll be happy to clarify it for you!
POPA:”I’m wondering how the OP made the jump from a guy who may or may not have intentionally messed with her friend to this…. “theres sooo many AMAZING girls and theres no good boys around. All the garbage is being labled good ’cause there is nothing else”
I can’t believe I missed that!
Say shteiger, how do you respond to that?” Its a true fact, if you don’t agree there must be something wrong with you.. this guy’s a totally immature nerd that gets great girls as dates. But I’m sure he wouldn’t if there were an eqaul amount of boys and girls in the world. I hope and pray he will become a great husband and father one day. He just really needs to stop being an immature nerd and learn to get out of his commitment issue before it’s too late!!
health: I am really hurt by the last comment you made. I actually do view men in a positive light especially my husband who I love so much. I feel more sorry for your (future) wife, who has an abusive husband who shoots insults without thinking!! In the jewish world I don’t know if you are but we don’t believe in good or bad luck, but rather divine providence.
Popa Bar Abba- you do have some good points, however at this stage I’d say you’ve lost the case.
Bein Hasdorim- thanks for your lightheartedness in such an argumentative post inwhich I did not intend to create such a blazing fire.. btw:- who’s the tiger??
Avraham Fried,-Album: Bein Kach. Released 2006. Song:”Father don’t cry”.
I did NOT say he is a rasha. You don’t seem to be getting the point that he’s got 2 different issues at hand. one of his issues cant solve his other issue. I’m not castigating it for no apparent reason, I’m mentioning it to make girls aware that its not always them that makes a guy say no, but rather his own issues that can cause this to happen. At the time my friend thought it was her, only much later when I was preview to a number of different info on him then I was able to console my friend that it wasnt her but rather him. however you’re saying I’m ruining lives,Correction over here:I’m definitely building lives. Girls don’t date immature nerds like this, date mature stable men and we will have a much better world!
that’s a real chassid at heart. you may find the chassidishe nugunim far better than nusach ashkenas. chassidim serve hashem with singing and dancing!! I’m not mekaraving you at all, just thought I’d state that..
POPA- Doesn’t make it right to lead girls on though!! He shouldn’t be dating yet.. It doesn’t matter how old he is, if he has commitment issues then he is not mature enough to date. “I see, he gets a high out of dumping girls. Not impossible.”- You admited there yourself that rejecting girls sometimes gets a guy a shtikle higher self esteem… It’s not one or the other its both!!-(commitment problems, and a selfesteem booster)
Popa- Point taken. However,”Frankly, I think you are not very understanding of people, and you think just because your friend was hurt that there must be a villain”.- you just accused me of not being understanding of people, that’s an insult right there.. isn’t it?? maybe you have a chiyuv to appologise online…
If I wasn’t a people person, meaning I didn’t understand people, I wouldn’t be able to sympathise with a friend, I wouldn’t be able to catch on that he was using her to higher his selfesteem, inwhich you (I assume, you are a guy), agreed on that point too..
Popa;- I never said he’s evil. he’s just a real nerd that needs to grow up. People shouldn’t date for marriage, unless they are mature enough! It’s not a light thing, as you are playing with peoples lives. Inevitably my friend was mature enough to date, cause she got engaged! It’s not considered slander in any shape or form as I did not mention his name.. there is no such a thing as “anonymous slander”, according to halacha. so i have no chiyuv what so ever to appologise “anonymously online”, but thanks for your concern anyway.
Popa bar abba;- I heard from a reliable source that he told one of his buddies that he is afraid to commit… It’s not just stum a rumour.
-There is no need for me to call him and appologise, as I havn’t mentioned his name.
mytake: letoeles!! it was all told to me letoeles for cetain reasons that I cant mention here..”Wonder how your friend could like such a stubborn nebach of a lowlife”.- that’s just my opinion on the guy, obviously my friend thought differently and that’s why she agreed to date him.
“Sounds like you need another crash course in the halachos. And quick”.- I didn’t post his name so why do I need the crash course??
Health: “the fact that after she got engaged he had second thoughts, is perfectly normal. This doesn’t make him an evil monster!”- No I’m not saying he’s evil, He’s just a real nerd that needs to grow up!!!
I said some tehilim for her. I really hope she has a refuah sheleima!!
I think alot of kids from bt parents go off mainly ’cause they don’t feel welcome in the frum society. They don’t feel that they belong.. they think that if they go off the derech they will be more accepted in society. But they are wrong. Kids that go off don’t belong there and they certainly take one big step away from becoming accepted into the frum society. In every circle, even the nonjewish circles, social habbits are naturally the same. If you cant win here you certainly won’t win there. so you might as well follow the torah and love hashem. they say but really truely loving hashem and serving him with your full heart and soal, everything will go right for you. Hashem put you into this world and if you internalise the fact that noone can help or harm you other than hashem then you will fall away from the resentment of other people once you do that you will start actuall seeing the good in others, and you will start to like them once you truly love them they will love you back and you won’t feel the need to want to escape your familiar society that you grew up in…
personally I can tell when people go off the derech , or if they were just simply raised that way, just like you can tell who the Bt’s are… if you know what i’m saying. Tell this to him and have him watch the shiur and he will definitely change for the good. kids that are burnt don’t see past thier noses, so you have to tell him whats beyond the nose!!!
Good luck and I really hope he changes is ways!!! It will be better for him in the long run, and he will live a much happier life. He may think that the grass is greener over there however in actual fact it most definitely is not.
correction:- toranytime.com is the website that has his shiurim
or you can just type Rabbi wallerstien in google and you will be right by his shiurim then just scroll down to the topic of shomer negia. Download it and have him listen to it. It will definitely be a life changing expirience for him.
I really hope and pray that all these lost soals will find their place… It’s really sad, they say that there are more kids going off the derech these days, more than any other time in history, its due to the technology. as the tech goes higher yiddishe neshomos stoop lower and lower!!!
Maybe you should learn a little more and you will stop having chalomos and hashem will reward you with reality!
also its a known thing that when people have a dream about someone dying it means that that person is going to live a long life. No need to worry.Just serve hashem a little better to make that dream a reality!! maybe your true wealth is smething that you see as being dirt and hashem is trying to tell you that it’s worth more than you think, just look a little deeper. You aint perfect. And you should know that!