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Is convenience a adequate excuse for continuing to place yourself in harms way?
If she would like to continue patronizing the store, she should hold off until this stumbling block is addressed or removed.
The OP never specified about the “personal questions”. There is a clear difference between asking, “How are your kids?” and specifics about her kids.
There are people that would feel uncomfortable with any interaction. That is why I think it would be wise to have woman working as representatives for the store.
“The Original Poster did his due diligence to observe what his wife described and he, “saw this person shmoozing with obviously married women, just walking around and out of the blue talking with customers who are not dressed tzinus, and so on”
Is the OP implying that his wife is one of the untznius woman? That can be addressed in the other thread.
The manager behavior may have very well been inappropriate, but your LOR should be contacted not some blog.
My point is that perhaps the OP’s wife mistook a simple greeting as inappropriate. My story with me greeting a “strange woman” can be misconstrued by a strange woman.
Chesedname, I should hope you don’t run to file complaints each time someone from the opposite gender greets you while walking by you.
All I am suggesting is that they should approach their LOR before taking further action. As there are people who perceive any questions as inappropriate.
Another note, I find it amusing that she would potentially have the guy fired, but it isn’t severe enough to at least avoid the store due to convenience.
This reminds me of a story that once happened to me (and I am sure some of you can relate to).
One Shabbos in a borough of New York, I was walking down the street when I passed a woman on the street.
Without breaking stride I proceeded to greet her with a generic “Good Shabbos”. I noticed that her facial expression had changed to an equal mix of foreign and perplexity. Another 30 feet or so, I came across a male where I once greeted the individual with my generic “Good Shabbos”.
As I passed the second person, the first person had stopped for the male to catch up, in order for the woman to ask, “de veist dus mench?” (You know that man?)
Flatebush27,
You can’t pick and choose which particulars you will listen to the Gedolim. You apply the takonah to prohibit hotels for Pesach from the Gedolim from Eretz Yisroel to the American hotels. Yet, you make an excuse why American children are allowed to play sports.
I don’t know the cheshbon that the Gedolim take in order to make their decisions, but that was obviously catered to the Eretz Yisroel crowd. As far as I know (please inform me if I am incorrect), there aren’t American programs that cater to the non frum crowds, but in Eretz Yisroel there are those that exist.
It isn’t wise to say that hotels aren’t ever necessary. I know of a woman, who always makes Pesach at home, who unfortunately has to go to a hotel due to an serious illness this year.
For someone who doesn’t care, you seem to comment a lot about this topic!
Also, I am going to make the obligatory statement that I personally do not go to a hotel or “mish”.
So Flatbush27, if a person told you that their rav allows for a woman to dress up on Purim, you should accept it, and not question it. After all, you did say, “Not individuals who think they know more than a rav.” Also, the same would apply to a rav’s approval of wearing another color.
Wouldn’t it be better served to just say, “Everyone should do what their own rabbinical authority states” without any commentary?
Dear Flatbush27,
I have a comment/question for you.
I respect that you use your rav to answer your questions, especially why women wear black. Do you extend that ideology to another person, when they say that their rav says a specific thing?
There are instances in this forum, where an individual states the reason how they act is based on the opinions of their own rav, but yet they are looked down upon.
Everyone has their own rav and differences in opinions. I don’t believe it is beneficial to ever state absolutes about anything, especially on topics as complicated as some halacha’s.