YehudahTzvi

Rabosai: I have decided to recuse myself of this thread and ask that it be closed by the Mods. I wanted advice, received it and it is now in the hands of the local Rabbonim, Aleinu and the family of the victim. I will no longer be posting here. I am amazed how quickly people will jump to the defense of an offender, be dan lchaf zechus for him but and not look at the horrible fact that a six year old was raped by a sick monster, And yes, he is a monster. Anyone who would force himself violently on a little girl and do unspeakable acts is a monster. He didn’t fondle her. He committed acts that I can’t even describe. You rely on an assumption that this boy was himself abused and have pity on him even though there is no proof. Either way, I don’t care. He is a danger. Perhaps if Charles Manson, Ted Bundy or Levi Aron had better childhoods they wouldn’t have turned out the way they did. But its too late. They committed horrible acts and in my book they are monsters because of it.

Syag Lchochma: Bingo.

Unfortunately, the feeling is mutual.

“Call Debbie Fox and have your friends call Debbie Fox at Aleinu and speak to them to find out what to do. If you don’t call them then you are no better than those you accuse.”

Wow. So, if I don’t call Aleinu I am as bad as a child rapist. Got it.

And what makes you think I am doing any vigilante-like? I was given a psak to inform all the Rabbonim of the area to address this situation (from Rav Godwasser) and I have spoken with Zvi Gluck who is putting me in contact with Debbie Fox (whew. I guess I’m not as bad as a child molester. Dodged a bullet there). I have not put up any posters or told anyone about this save my friend who is a Deputy Sheriff and a frum Yid.

It has never been established that this kid was ever molested himself (though I certainly do not discount it). That being said, I guess we should have rachmanus on his molester since he himself was molested! Let’s just forgive everyone up through this sick, perverted chian! Or we can be proactive to make sure this kid is no longer a danger to the community by letting the community know that such a danger exists, thereby breaking the chain.

Even the Rav of the shul where it happened told the President to inform the community.

From the father of the molested little girl to me: “I just want everyone in our community to know his name, what he looks like and what he’s done. He still seems to be cloaked in secrecy. XXXXXX swears he’s going to call every Rabbi and educator in Valley Village and warn them, and Rabbi XXXXXX not only gave his blessing but told him to do it as president of the shul. The odds seem to be pretty good that [the molester] will reoffend again some day, I’d like to think I’d done what I could to prevent it and without eating out my insides in the process.”

Explain how is ensuring safety vigilantism?

Poppa: “yehudahtzvi: This thread is really not making me think very highly of you.” And why is that? What have I done to make you think that? Apparently you hold different views than Zvi Gluck whom you put me in contact with.

Aries – You seem to have much knowledge of the case including the court date, why don’t you enlighten us regarding the boy and his history? My limited knowledge comes from consoling the father of a six year old innocent girl who was raped and scarred for life by him.

Please, show me his good side.

mischiefmaker: That doesn’t negate the potential danger he poses to the community. He is a sick young man and others must be made aware of who he is and of what evil he is capable.

musser zoger: I agree. I spoke with Rabbi Goldwasser who told me I need to get all of the local Rabbonim together to make an action plan.

Mod95 – Thank you.

iced: The justice system has failed. This kid is a likely danger to other children in the community.

However, because the Hamsa has become something of a custom among Sephardi Jewry, and it is even mentioned by some Sepharic poskim (see Ben Ish Chai, Year 2, Pinchas 13), one should certainly not mention the matter to others. For an Ashkenazi, who has no custom in the matter, it is better to avoid its use.

There is no problem in keeping it at home.

Sources:

The Maharik further writes that the prohibition applies only where the issue is observed as a law (religiously), and not where the matter is optional. See, in this vein the Bach (348), Taz (Orach Chaim 311:4), and Shevet Yehudah (581:1).

Therefore, the practice cannot be said to be prohibited. Yet, based on the Torah instruction of Tamim Yihiyeh, these matters should preferably be avoided.”

This still doesn’t address my concern – should I put it in shaimos? Give it away or put it back in a drawer (again, it has the shem Hashem on it.

Curiosity: I would need it translated.

I know. It is that App to which I am referring. the coffee room section is not user intuitive. Rather, it posts each reply to each post as a new subject. Very confusing and cumbersome. Is there anyone who can fix this?

Thank you. Turns out that the beged is too worn. It is wool and I usually wear cotton. Is it assur to give them away?

pcoz: When people ask why Yekke’s didn’t take on Mayim Achronim I usually answer: “Because we used forks!”

147: Seder nights are when I feel so rebellious washing AFTER Kiddush!

For those who are interested, this is the Psak I received:

This is certainly true for the order of kiddush and washing, though you can of course tell your guests in advance that they should feel comfortable to wash in between if they wish to do so.

For mayim acharonim, those guests who are particular to wash mayim acharonim should do so even in your home, but this does not mean you have to invest in a special mayim acharonim cup: It is fine to allow the guests to go to the kitchen (many do so anyway), or to use a regular cup for purposes of mayim acharonim.”

When I became frum I took on my mom’s family minhagim as my dad was unsure where his family was from. My Mom’s family were big in the haskalah and were Uber German in their assimilation. I decided to take on those customs to keep some relic of her family’s heritage alive.

So, pcoz, you just don’t do it when you bring it out? Do you wash before kiddush? We do and people whom are our guests do as well when they are here. Is this wrong?