Forum Replies Created
-
Posts
-
A husband should never ever be “EXPECTED” to do the dishes, the laundry or other household chores. That being said he should always show his appreciation to his wife for her taking care of his house, children & personal needs. Of course if he’s able to he should help out when he sees his wife needs.
Before all you “liberated” women (and some men too) jump down my throat let me explain as follows.
Todays society has corrupted the concept of roles in marriage with the woman working outside the home which in most cases is not by choice due to the need for extra income. Once upon a time ago women took pride in taking care of their home, children & husband. A woman who is forced to be out working cannot in most cases give it her all because its just too exhausting. True there are some superwoman out there but that’s not the norm. A man on the other hand needs a wife to be his “helper” in life. “Helper” defined as someone to take care of his house, children & his own needs. A woman who creates a warm, comfortable, caring environment for her husband enables him to have the proper yishuv hadas to accomplish whatever it is that he has to in both ruchnius and gashmius.
“Expecting” her husband to do the dishes and other chores (I didn’t say he can’t or shouldn’t help only it shouldn’t be an expectation) creates a level of stress (opposite of yishuv hadas) in most men.
Moshe Rabbenu ate mun and since mun tasted like whatever you wanted it to taste like and the fact that Moshe Rabbenu was a Navi, maybe he was thinking about Gefilta fish and chulent….
Please stop bringing Moshe Rabbenu into this! He didnt wear a yarmulka as we know it not leather not velvet not cloth and not knitted. He didnt even light chanuka licht nor did he read the megilla nor any haftoras for that matter. My obvious point is what Moshe did or didnt has nothing to do with gefilte fish and chulent vs sushi and tofu.
If you grew up in a normal frum (ashkenazy) home you appreciate a normal shabbos menu: fri nite-gefilte fish with chrain, chicken soup with mandelin, chicken with kugel -shabbos day-gefilte fish again or herring and/or liver, aayer mit zvibbel, p’cha chulent & kugel and maybe some cold cuts.
Sushi & salads for a shabbos seuda is for vegan trendy modern orthodox or baalay t’shuva (still on their way)
So many bored people
Sadly to say
In the YW coffee room
Spend much of their day
Wasting their time
As the clock ticks on
While accomplishing tasks
Remain undone
To all you bored folks
This poem I write
In the hope that to be chosen
Chairman of the “Bored” I might.
We should all learn from Avrohom Avinu 2 things:
1- Never turn down an opportunity to perform hachnosas orchim.
2- Upon entering a society of perverts he put his wife in a box.
I personally would follow Avrohom Avinus example and put my teenage daughters in a box every time I have potentially perverted (hey ya never know) teenage boys over for a seuda however, its quite impractical since they can’t serve & clean up while in a box. Therefore I just insist they wear a loose fitting radid or hijab with only their eyes showing (I’d insist that they cover their eyes as well but I’m afraid they may spill the soup on my lap or miss some crumbs while sweeping.) They also wear surgical gloves lest the boys gaze at their etzba k’tana which chazal warn against. (The gloves are also helpful for cleaning up and doing dishes.)
Click Vegetable
Sorry to inform you but I heard this joke years ago and you messed it up!!!
Marriage is like a tea bag at first it seems like a nice neat package however then you find out there are strings attached and before you know it you find yourself in hot water.
Hunger Games fan
Its apparent to me from your choice of a screen name that Nachlas is NOT an appropriate seminary for you. Its one thing to have read the book or even seen the movie & having enjoyed it so much so that you’re a fan. But to identify yourself as such in a public forum indicates you’re just not Nachlas material. May H-shem guide you to the seminary most appropriate for you.
I’d do t’shuva for all the shabbosos that I wasn’t allowed to keep (goy sheshovas chayiv misoh)
I’d give a shir to my fellow goyim living in my jewish neighborhood in hilchos amira l’akum so they’d know how to take a “hint” & do what has to be done k’halocho especially when the yid in need has no clue as to what they are & aren’t allowed to ask or be n’heneh from.
The very first thing I’d do is put on my left shoe before my right.
Now they can have nusach sfard & nusach ashkenaz for maariv.
Whats ironic is that the larger more generous wedding gifts are usually reserved for those who have fancier lavish weddings. To me that’s a corrupt mindset. If there’s any purpose at all to giving a wedding gift it would be to help the couple start their life together with some money. The wealthier the couples parents may be stands to reason the less the couple needs start up money. The problem is that the wealthy tend to socialize with their kind and the middle class/poor with theirs. What ends up happening is that a poor couple who gets married in a “takana” hall probably don’t even net $15k while a weathy couple getting married in an extravagant hall/hotel may net 2 or 3 times that or even more. What even more absurd is that people who can’t afford wedding gifts feel “more” obligated to give when attending a fancier affair.
Bottom line is if you can’t pay your bills DON’T give wedding presents & certainly don’t feel obligated to a wealthy couple. If you desire to give a wedding gift to a poor couple it may even be considered tzedaka especially if they will rely on it to sit & learn.
Marriage is a three ring circus – engagement ring, wedding ring
and suffering.
To answer your question, the minhag has always been that the woman wears the first 2 rings and the man wears the 3rd one.
Rav Homnick Shlita zul g’zunt un shtark zein has been darshening on tisha bav for close to 5 generations (ie elte zaydes thru ir einicklach) Its one of the highlights of a summer in Camp Morris. Every year he goes over the same sugyos peppered with his classic divray chazal, vertlach, maasalach, musser & maaseh rav. And don’t forget his special Eli Tziyon V’oreha….
Here’s some good Morris trivia
Who was Tommys shver?
How many guys could hit a baseball to the Road?
How many years was MW the baal koreh (an amazing baal koreh who’s voice rings in my ears when hearing the summer parshiyos)
Which head counselor arranged a go cart track in the back of the baseball field (early 80’s) & which BM bochur took all the tires & put them on the roof of the Bais Medresh?
Who ran the canteen in the early 80’s (now a mesivta rebbi)
Who took the mesivta bochurim on the most amazing trips to lake wallenpaupack (now a caterer)?