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Also the Medrash that says the Geula will come with refuah (which is why the word anochi is used by both.) one of the commentaries asks what does Geula have to do with refuah? He doesn’t know the answer but we may soon!

Also, corona from crown and from koran or pnei Moshe in parshas ki sisa which is when it really started affecting us.

Crown because our avoda is to get ready to coronate Melech HaMoshiach with the real crown.

Koran Or- the light was so intense for the world that a mask was needed for the revelation. Could be the world is receiving very lofty G-dly revelations but isn’t yet a fitting vessel for it so it’s temporarily showing up in a negative way and practically people are wearing masks.

Anyhow the main thing is we should see the Geula with Melech HaMoshiach ASAP and all of Klal Yisrael and Chasidei Umos Haolam should have a refuah sheleima!!

*rabbeinu

And if it seems radical that Hashem is speaking through a Rebbe in today’s day and age, just remember when we’re talking about a Rebbe here, we’re talking about a tzaddik who has completely transformed his yetzer hara to another yetzer tov as explained in Tanya. Not everyone who carries the title of Rebbe is the type of Rebbe that the Rebbe was talking about.

Kcup if no one posts the meaning and context of that quote I can for you according to my simple understanding. I’m not as well versed in chassidus as I’m sure some of the men here are. So I’d prefer they type it up but if not I’ll post for you iyH.

Yes it was discussed. I don’t know how to post the link though.

Ramdomx where do you get kings of Israel and king Solomon etc.? Sound like great games but I never heard of them.

There’s nothing hateful about it. What would be worse- when Muslims beat their wives or when simple Jews beat their wives (in the past)? Something closer to home hurts more. Because you esteem and value the simple Jews it hurts more that they mistreated their wives. The Alter Rebbe suffered more when a fellow Jew who has a chelek Eloka Mimaal , opposed chassidus , then all the time he spent in jail. His host served him tea as a guest and then berated him for a few hours over the changes he made for chassidus. It pained him more to hear these accusations coming from the mouth of a precious well meaning fellow Jew than from the coarse gentiles who has interrogated him before. Nothing hateful there.

To address the op, it is that there are always problems in non Jewish books. There are always things that don’t line up with Torah values. The only time I read non Jewish novels was when I was forced to for three years of high school. Animal farm- the main characters were pigs- that was the least problematic one. A tale of two cities by dickens- the interaction between the male protagonist and females was highly inappropriate, a separate piece sent the message that everyone is evil at heart, and the book we read that was a teacher’s redo of indoctrinating students to become Nazis, as an experiment (forget the title) featured boyfriends and girlfriends.

If you want a good piece of writing where the values and purity just shine through, read The Lubavitcher Rebbe’s Memoirs. He writes the history with such descriptive writing, that you feel like you are there yourself.

I remember the clear contrast between dickens disgusting objectification of women as just being valued for their looks vs. the memoirs which described a young women as being beautiful in character as well as in appearance. The character was first and the appearance just added or expressed the beautiful character. Just like we learn about the Imahos.

The Baal Shem Tov taught that a person is like a mirror. When you see a dirty face in the mirror it’s a reflection of your own dirty face. So too if you see someone else as a bad person because of a certain fault they have that’s Hashem’s way of notifying you that you have that same fault, just maybe on a lesser scale. Self love covers personal flaws so this is how Hashem shows you what you have to work on.

Aquarium

“My point is that administering justice is a purpose also. Ha’SHem has a hanhogah of Judgement also, not only of Kindness. He can set whatever rules he wants. If it is all love, love and love, let the cleansing be completely painless!”

You are right that it is painful because He is administering justice which comes from gevurah. If it was just chessed it would be possible. But Chassidus teaches that gevurah comes from a deeper place than chessed and it is a deeper chessed if you will. Tigbores hachessed. But since it is so intense and strong we experience it in a negative way ie as yissurim or gehennom etc. But Hashem only does it because He cares for us so deeply to make us the best we can be.

“P.S.: and those who burn forever, according to you, what is the purpose and where is the love?”

Answer 1 (cop-out): were discussing gehennom where the max is 12 months.

Answer 2: every Jew will be redeemed eventually. Lo yidach mimenu nidach.

As far as wicked goyim that’s another case. They’re not Hashem’s beloved only child and if they start up on His children they deserve what they get. He cares for them too, as CA brought, but not in the same way at all.

Laskern that’s a great interpretation there. Where’s it from?

Litebrite you mentioned losing weight which reminds me of a good mashal I heard on the topic of gehennom: people do workouts in the gym which are difficult but rewarding. However the same gym routine can be experienced as torture if it was forced by gunpoint. What’s the difference? By the former you know what you are doing, the purpose it serves and how long it will take. By the latter you don’t know the purpose, or it is done just to cause pain, and you don’t know when it will be over. So too gehennom is experienced as a punishment because you don’t see the meaning behind it but in reality it is a cleansing process for the neshama.

Philosopher the Chabad way of looking at things is that it is a cleansing process done out of Hashems great love for us. It is painful and experienced as a punishment, but it’s a means to get cleansed to enter gan Eden

Just to clarify, its not a contradiction. We’re mourning on the outside while being bsimcha on the inside. It’s like a mother changing a dirty diaper – the baby may scream because it hurts but she’s only doing it because of her great love of the child. So Hashem gave us these harsh days because He really loves us and through working on ourselves in these days, they are meant to bring us to Geula

Bh my kids and tehillim have been keeping me quite busy

Ideally kids should have respect for their parents because they’re mentchen themselves and respect their children as people and Hashem’s children (obviously not the same level as respect for parents or even equals). If the only way to get kids to listen is by coercion, the parents need help and it won’t be healthy for the kids. But it’s still better than no discipline. People suffer much more from that for much longer.

Why doesn’t she?

“My daughter loves to shop at a specific women’s clothing store in Boro Park because the owner is not afraid to tell her customers “That looks too tight on you. Try the next size or pick a different style.” She will refuse to sell a dress that is not tznius.”

That’s wonderful and takes real guts. Good for her! Id love to shop in such a store. It’s sad that I have such a hard time finding skirts that cover a few inches below my knee (Im not super tall either) and / or are not tight in frum stores. In one store I’ve been to, they have shorter skirts downstairs and longer skirts upstairs on a rack (in case you want to be tznius). If the short skirts were just for the short people you would think the short skirts would be the ones tucked away in the back or upstairs, right? Anyway bh for online shopping. And bh that goyishe stores are selling longer skirts. I still haven’t found a suitable straight skirt that isn’t tight and short since my high school days in the stores near me, so I pretty much just wear a line skirts now as they’re in fashion to be longer and thus more readily available.

Who me? Yeah

Food preparation, spraying counters, folding laundry

Number 2

My husband will say something in a respectful manner if he thinks there is something questionable about my dress/ appearance. And I appreciate it because I wouldn’t want to go out questionably dressed, and because he expresses it respectfully I want to take it from him. In general if you want to be taken seriously by your wife be pleasant / respectful. That’s always been the Jewish way.

But it is a shame when men don’t say anything at all, in today’s day and age, because some women are unaware or they could use the knowledge that their husband is displeased with this way of dress. In a healthy marriage a woman wants to look good for her husband so that would be a strong incentive to dress modestly. Again, if expressed in a respectful manner.

Also if a man doesn’t watch his eyes his wife won’t respect/ will resent his wishes for her to watch/ curtail her inclination for looking beautiful (which can be expressed in inappropriate dress if it isn’t watched.) Maybe that’s why some men are ‘wimps’ about not telling their wives about this?

It’s been fun. I have this project where I memorise tehillim and Tanya to the tunes of lubavitcher niggunim to help me remember it better. They way I always have words of Torah I can say in the streets or when doing housework etc
Last year I databased all the niggunim I’ve used so I won’t keep reusing ones I’ve used already. This year I realized that if I work in advance I can finish memorising the same number of prakim as I’m turning.

But it’s taking me some time because the nigun I have picked I didn’t know (Reb Michel Zlotchovers nigun) so I’m learning the nigun and the Tanya…

But I think it’s worth it because it’s a very special nigun. R Michel was a Talmid of the Baal Shem Tov and he took his nigun from heichal hashir in gan Eden. He said whoever sings his nigun and needs help, he’ll come and help them from above.

Thank you 🙂