To bring glory and praise to Hashem.

A few weeks ago I was at the dentist. The Frum dentist was critisizing to his gentile assistant about how bad Jewish mothers of large families are when it comes to take care of their children. I won’t go into everything he said, but i was appalled!

Speaking Lashon Hara about Jews to non-Jews is a terrible chillul Hashem.

tmb:

Good point! I pulled this list off a site, which I shouldn’t have done. Usually though, when there is abuse, the abuser matches multiple of the signs, not just one or two.

Mood swings doesnt mean becoming saddened about something, but rather flying into a rage about nothing.

As for actions dont match words: This is such a classic symptom of an abuser. And it’s certainly not as simple as a an instance of failing to do something he promised to do.

tmb:

How about when the woman is a goy? does that make things equal?

Also, not all of them “run off”. But marriages can and do suffer when the husband has a secret life. And in such cases, it doesn’t either have to be equal.

Ragachovers Assistant:

I never in my life heard anyone call that abusive.

Rather some men rationalize that this is their wife’s problem rather than admit they are abusive.

From the preface of book “Praying with fire” (a great book btw)

The mabit writes that tefillah is a mitzvah in the Torah, “To serve Him with all your heart”…. The gemarah says “it means tefillah”…. The form of the mitzvah of tefillah is to express Hashem’s praise and to ask for our various needs, because by doing so, we affirm that the fulfillment of our needs lies in His hands alone….

The Chovos HaLevavos writes that the purpose of tefillah is not to change Hashem’s mind but rather to bring us to the realization that our fate is completely dependent on His will, that we can only survive through His mercy. The very act of prayer, however, elevates, exalts, and transforms us, so that we are no longer the same people we were before……

Rav Eliyahu Lopian said “When people pray for another person, they become like his talmidim in that he is causing them to gain merit.”

In other words, whenever a person causes a good thing, whether consciously or unconciously, he gains merit for causing it.

When we pray for a sick person, we draw closer to Hashem, and we become transformed through prayer. The sick person caused this transformation, and the merit for that goes for him. The more people that pray for him and are elevated, the more merit he accumulates.

So in answer to your question, do you yourself benefit from saying tehillim for another person? Absolutely!!!

If it ends up being a bad decision, once bought, you can never change your mind about it. Yup, kids need an outlet, but why must it be something that has potential to poisen their soul? There are other outlets.

Aishes Chayil:

I watched the Georgies video again, and as I stated earlier, I didn’t see that she fumbled, but if she did a little, it is normal. That was my point. And if I had to speak to prove someone’s innocence, I would!! Regardless of how uncomfortable it t made me.

To be honest, I hesitated responding to your posts since it’s clear no matter what is said you will believe in the couple’s guilt.

>>You sound very frustrated! <<

You think you’re an expert in human emotions and know exactly how people should respond to everything! There was no reason for Heidi to mention at the time of questioning that Georgies was one of the people who said the wig is irrepairable. And, you’re wrong here too!! I’m not frustrated. Why do you think I should be?

>>I dont have an axe to grind here! I dont even know these two people. <<

I know you don’t know them!! It’s very easy to be critical of and hurt people you don’t know. If u would know them, I guarantee you wouldn’t be talking this way about them.

>>Actually I found it very eidel how they just walked out of the courtroom , quietly, without expressing any remorse even to the moderator about their feeling s<<

I only spoke to Heidi once and she is indeed a very eidel woman. But what you just said that you were impressed they didnt express any remorse is really laughable.

>>I saw that same interview and sad to say, it seemd like a sloppy cover up. She fumbled so many times, I’m surpirsed she was courageous enough to speak out.<<

I dont think she fumbled at all. And if it was me speaking even about just the weather, knowing I was on camera, I would have fumbled.

>>1.She was in France according to her on Succos. This happened in November.<<

So what? Who says she wasn’t still in France whenever this court case happened? and how do you know when the case happened?

>>2.H had nothin g to wear so she had to make a rush sheitel. what happened to the fall??<<

People do not wear their fall for all occassions. For example Shabbos, Yom Tov and chasunahs, they won’t wear one. I dont know when the sheitel got ruined, but perhaps it was before the yomim tovim that she needed a regular sheitel? Regardless, she may still have needed a regular sheitel

>>3. ‘H eide is my favorite customer’ ugh, pleassssse. She only bought one sheitel there!!!<<

So what? One can go to Gerogies also to have the wig washed and set. She’s wearing a wig for ten years. How do you know she hasn’t been going to her for 10 years?

>>This interview made it ten times worst,<<

I dont think so. I think it makes it ten times better. At least puts a doubt in a persons mind, that perhaps Heidi isn’t guilty at all.

>>and YES it is OUR business if our fellow Jews create such a ruckus on national televesion which can seriously harm our relationship with the outside wordld!! <<

No, it is NOT. And what do you think you’re doing, Ms High and Mighty? Do you think your posts on a web site about how guilty she definately is is a kiddush Hashem? In fact, YOU are making this chillul Hashem a whole lot worse.

And your questions are not logical. You are looking for holes to make heidi look guilty. And I’m sure you can find a 100 more questions to “prove” her guilt.