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Mrs. L: Why didn’t you give this bochur the $60?
>>Definitely not. The place to sound off though is not here.<<
Why not?
Android is no better than iphone. What makes you think Satmar allows android if they prohibit Iphone? Clearly any phone that has whatsapp is prohibited by the Satmar Rebbe. Which has unfortunately not stopped many Satmars from having them.
flowers – Oomis (as a MIL herself) was saying such “tongue in cheek”, hence the smiley face.
I’m aware it was meant as a joke. There is nothing funny about a chosson or kallah not having a mother. It is never ideal. And it’s a joke in poor taste.
(with no mother-in-law) 😉
That is an insult to all Jewish women.
>>if you dont pay him I will kill you myself<<
Really? Can someone explain how a person who is dead can kill someone himself???? The fact he came to her in a dream is possible, but only if he got permission from up high to appear in her dream. But to kill her himself? Doesn’t make any sense whatsoever.
The books “The midrash says” is written by a woman, even though it’s under her husband’s name.
Yet she does not have a commandment to have children…
But has a great desire to get married and have children. More than men. I think the pressure is self afflicted.
…and I think it is time we valued the women in our community regardless of whether they are married or not.
In what way would you like to see women valued more? Can you give an example?
According to some midrashim, the shevotim married their sisters from a different mother. Reason they were allowed was because according to the sheva mitzvos bnei noach, a person may marry a half sibling from their father but not a half sibling from their mother, and since it was before matan Torah they were allowed to marry their half sister that was not from the same mother.
Where is the source that a sibling from a father is considered a full sibling and from only a mother they are considered half?
Meanwhile, males, especially in the western world, have been cowed into keeping quiet over this glaring disparity in natural ability and to instead continuously promote ridiculous excuses to cover up for females.
Describe of how males have had to be cowed into keep quiet about this oh so ridiculous notion that females might be at least as intelligence as men. Why is it even an issue?
Of course, there is also the fact that most males tend to be chivalrous and feel the need to protect the tender feelings of females as a master would protect the fur of his pet.
There are smart people. There are less smart people. Both male have female must give them respect whether they are male or female. Your above statement is ridiculous. There is no reason to hurt less intelligent people’s feelings. And in this, females are much less likely to hurt a male’s feelings who they deem less intelligent then males would hurt a less intelligent female.
However, there comes a time when one just has to call a spade a spade.
and here is one of those times that you must call attention to that? Exactly why is it important for this forum to be the place to do it? How does it help your “cause”? If you kept quiet, how would it hurt you?
We have spoken to him privately, but to no avail. The only recourse is to out him publicly. If nothing else, we are trying to show all those who come to the CR (even the non Jews who come for a look), that these are the beliefs of a very sick and twisted individual who chooses which parts of the Torah he wishes to portray, and which he chooses to turn a blind eye towards.
The above that you wrote is obviously false since it would be easier to just delete his posts. Or block Bubka.
DaasYochid: Can you explain how it is that DaasYochid is both “blocked” and a “member”?
But I have a problem with your “smartness” because you give a lot of advice that sounds like the banging of an empty drum.
Aries was giving advice out of the goodness of her heart. And her posts in the CR are generally full of insight and “smartness”.
You don’t have to agree with what she said. But that was plain mean.
but would it have been truly better if he had have just admitted it and expressed true remorse off the bat? Mabye he was just scared of the ramifications of admitting the truth? tell me what you think pls.
I think you can’t excuse his behavior saying that he lost control and didn’t mean to do what he did if afterwards he didn’t own up to what he did and express remorse. If he would have been shaken up by what he did, I can understand you thinking, well, we all get angry at our children, and he just lost control, but it seems you are just looking for ways to give him the benefit of the doubt, without any justification. This may seem like a wonderful middah, but your case, it definitely isn’t, because the ramifications are tremendous and nobody deserves to be treated this way.
I hope very much you didn’t excuse his behavior to your 6 year old. I also hope you told her that you believe her account. It is extremely damaging to a child to have her doubt something she herself witnessed.
However, inside I am an amazingly funny, creative strong person with ideas.
I have always thought this about you from other threads you have posted on. Not to mention your screen name which is a riot and takes creativity to think of.
I have heard wonderful things about Shalom Task Force. It is important that you keep in contact with them so they can guide you.
Hatzlacha rabba. And please continue to post. We care. And so many members here can give you emotional support.
good.jew: I was also going to say that Nechoma may have been referring to the fact the we must turn away from a child who isn’t dressed properly when saying a bracha.
As to what you said, I disagree totally. One doesn’t need to understand the words of a bracha to know that we are saying a bracha to thank Hashem for the food He has given us, and if we don’t say the bracha it is as if we stole the food since all the food actually belongs to Hashem. A 5 year old should understand this.
what popa said: Adults don’t think about the brachos they are making either, and often don’t know what they mean either. is unfortunately too true. From observing my own children, I think 5 year olds make better brachos than most adults I know.
Always: Banging a child’s head against a wall is a very violent act. It is never done by a healthy parent.
Furthermore, to deny it and make the child not believe what actually happened is totally abusive. Such talk is deliberate and is never a mistake
good.jew: children should be taught to make brachos as soon as they are able to speak. A 5 year old who hasn’t a clue what is really saying either has delayed language and needs services or someone isn’t teaching the kid like s/he is supposed to.
Just know it’s a process that can take a lot of time and patience. It is unrealistic to expect that it will happen the first day. Overdoing it isn’t going to speed things up.
If possible let him run around with his bottom bare.
Depending on the kid, sometimes it might feel like it will never happen, but it will.
Good luck.
for you bpt
Slump: I believe it’s not wise to continue to wear fake earings during the time your ears are infected. Put in real ones to keep them from closing. If your ears get infected again from fake ones after they are already healed then it’s really unwise to wear fake ones at all. I highly doubt any doctor will tell you it’s no big deal to keep on infecting your ears.
for infected earlobes, you clean it with alcohol and smear on bacitracin twice a day. That usually takes care of it.
Zdad: I use the internet because it’s my parnassa.
Let’s take the chain saw example. This is the difference in danger to a person who has no clue that it’s dangerous, to one who knows good and well it’s dangerous. Such a person takes precautions and care for himself and those around him. Pretty much everyone who actually uses a chainsaw knows it’s dangerous. A child or low IQ person may injure themself because they don’t understand the danger, however, most people know the danger and won’t use it if they can’t handle it. (Like me, I would be scared to use it). And those who don’t realize the danger are much more likely to get seriously injured from it. While those who know the danger has much less chance of getting injured either by not using it or using it with caution.
Compare & contrast that to the internet. People don’t know how dangerous it is. Let’s take you for example. You think there’s nothing dangerous about it, and don’t tell me it’s because you need it for parnassa. That may be true (or not), but you have no awareness of the danger since you disparage & ridicule those who think it has terrible potential.
Not to mention those that have fallen in, many don’t even realize they have fallen in. There are those who have fallen in and can’t climb out. And there are those who have fallen in that are working very hard to climb out.
Just because I use the net, doesn’t mean I don’t understand and see that it has the potential to ruin peoples lives. And if one MUST use it, they should understand the dangers and take precautions. And that it’s definitely better not to use it at all.
Not YWN, Not Project Yes, Not the Shumz , Not Yahoo , Not ESPN Not ANYTHING. NO INTERNET.
That’s right. No YWN, no yahoo, no ESPN. Where’s the catastrophe?
The harm the internet can and does do far far outweighs any benefit.
and Zdad, it is obvious the reason why guns kill less people is simple because most people don’t own them. And those that do have it locked up and it hardly gets used!! Doesn’t that tell you something??!!
and Zdad, According to you, guns aren’t as dangerous as cars, nor as spirtually dangerous, so why not leave them around your house. What exactly were you trying to prove?
What about a chain saw
I have yet to hear of someone continuing to use a chain saw because he is addicted to it’s use even though it’s doing a great deal of damage like chopping off his toes and fingers.
Zdad: You missed my point. If you think that banning internet means you should ban everything else why is the reverse not true? It makes no difference if cars kill more than guns or vice versa. The point is according to your logic the reverse should also be true. If you allow internet, why not allow EVERYTHING? Sounds stupid, no?
zahavasdad: you’re right. Nothing should be banned. Why not give your kids loaded guns?
I had my handwriting analyzed. It was so accurate it was spooky.
DY: The term has to keep on changing thanks to people like Popa who use it in disparagement.
Wikipedia:
” The terms mental retardation and mentally retarded were invented in the middle of the 20th century to replace the previous set of terms, which were deemed to have become offensive. By the end of the 20th century, these terms themselves have come to be widely seen as disparaging and politically incorrect and in need of replacement.”
Jothar: I agree
The Rambam says: “However the children and the grandchildren of these errants, whose parents have misled them, those who have been born among the Karaites, who have reared them in their views; each is like a child who has been taken captive among them, who has been reared by them, and is not alacritous in seizing the paths of the commandments; his status is comparable to that of one who has been coerced. Even though he later learns that he is a Jew and becomes acquainted with Jews and [the Jewish] religion, he is nevertheless to be regarded as a person who is coerced, for he was reared in the erroneous ways [of his parents]…”
Jothar: According to what the Rambam says, what you said is totally wrong.
I don’t know what R’ Moshe says but it’s certainly more than what you wrote Jothar. If a tinok shenishba is expose to a frum Jew from speaking him 2 minutes on the phone, does he lose that status? What about seeing a Jew for two minutes? Doesn’t make any sense.
You also can’t decide that being exposed to a frum web site is equivalent to being exposed to Frum Jews.
Beautiful!
It’s all a facade. On a video that had a Baal Teshuva used to work in Hollywood said “the people in Hollywood are the most miserable people on earth”.
And most of their marriages don’t last very long!
I highly doubt it.
cantgetit: I never said s/he posted on Shabbos.
apushatayid: I don’t understand why you are arguing about this. It is very clear this person grew up in a frum environment. Google can teach about Judaism, but the way s/he talks isn’t just knowledge about Yiddishkeit. It is totally the way a frum person would talk. And this troller admitted that s/he is (or at least was at that time) in Australia!
I know a lot about christianity, am I a former member of the church?
Your question doesn’t prove anything, since most of us don’t know enough about that religion nor the knowledge that YOU know to answer the question.
However, whether or not we should be calling attention to this behavior, there is no doubt whatsoever that this person was brought up in a frum environment.
I don’t think “docile” is a necessarily a positive attribute for adults
AZOI.IS:
I would think this is the perfect place to call attention to this behavior. This place has potential to be completely anonymous, and can make him/her just enough embarrassed to make him change without actually making it hard for him to face people. And if the behavior is corrected, then nobody need know about it at all.
What a smart way to be Mekarev a lost Jewish soul who’s posting on Shabbos….
This troller seems to be a troublemaker and an obnoxious person. If indeed s/he is posting on Shabbos, then s/he is an OTD person because there is too much knowledge there about yiddishkeit. Or perhaps people think this person is frum but posts on Shabbos – like there are “frum” people who text on Shabbos. Being polite about the chilul Shabbos isn’t going to be “mekarev” her/him. And calling him on this behavior isn’t going to make the situation any worse nor make him decide to continue being MS
nobody would ever get married if it weren’t for the Shadcan and their tactics. Thank G-d for the shadcan.
Some incompatible shidduchim that end up in divorce also would never have happened if not for the manipulative & deceiving tactics of shadchanim.
He was raised in a culture that did not even allow the thought that he could go out to work and support his family – if it did occur to him, he had been taught that it was an evil thought that must be purged. Is this what the system is coming to?
How do you know this is why he stooped to theft. Did he say that, or this is your assumption?
Making challah now. Will have your uncle in mind.
Supergirl: what happens if you simply tell her “that’s a mean thing to say”? or “what a nasty thing to say”? But don’t say it like you’re hurt. Say it strongly with confidence.
real israeli: I like your idea.
Tell them you are counting to 3. If they don’t stop by 3, you send them to their room for a timeout. If kid is 5 yrs old, they have to be in the room alone for 5 minutes. For 7 yr old, 7 minutes. For every time they come out of room before time is up, give another minutes.