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  • in reply to: infected ears #841049
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    for infected earlobes, you clean it with alcohol and smear on bacitracin twice a day. That usually takes care of it.

    in reply to: Are internet bans hurting or helping? #839686
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    Zdad: I use the internet because it’s my parnassa.

    Let’s take the chain saw example. This is the difference in danger to a person who has no clue that it’s dangerous, to one who knows good and well it’s dangerous. Such a person takes precautions and care for himself and those around him. Pretty much everyone who actually uses a chainsaw knows it’s dangerous. A child or low IQ person may injure themself because they don’t understand the danger, however, most people know the danger and won’t use it if they can’t handle it. (Like me, I would be scared to use it). And those who don’t realize the danger are much more likely to get seriously injured from it. While those who know the danger has much less chance of getting injured either by not using it or using it with caution.

    Compare & contrast that to the internet. People don’t know how dangerous it is. Let’s take you for example. You think there’s nothing dangerous about it, and don’t tell me it’s because you need it for parnassa. That may be true (or not), but you have no awareness of the danger since you disparage & ridicule those who think it has terrible potential.

    Not to mention those that have fallen in, many don’t even realize they have fallen in. There are those who have fallen in and can’t climb out. And there are those who have fallen in that are working very hard to climb out.

    Just because I use the net, doesn’t mean I don’t understand and see that it has the potential to ruin peoples lives. And if one MUST use it, they should understand the dangers and take precautions. And that it’s definitely better not to use it at all.

    in reply to: Are internet bans hurting or helping? #839681
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    Not YWN, Not Project Yes, Not the Shumz , Not Yahoo , Not ESPN Not ANYTHING. NO INTERNET.

    That’s right. No YWN, no yahoo, no ESPN. Where’s the catastrophe?

    The harm the internet can and does do far far outweighs any benefit.

    in reply to: Are internet bans hurting or helping? #839675
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    and Zdad, it is obvious the reason why guns kill less people is simple because most people don’t own them. And those that do have it locked up and it hardly gets used!! Doesn’t that tell you something??!!

    in reply to: Are internet bans hurting or helping? #839674
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    and Zdad, According to you, guns aren’t as dangerous as cars, nor as spirtually dangerous, so why not leave them around your house. What exactly were you trying to prove?

    in reply to: Are internet bans hurting or helping? #839672
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    What about a chain saw

    I have yet to hear of someone continuing to use a chain saw because he is addicted to it’s use even though it’s doing a great deal of damage like chopping off his toes and fingers.

    in reply to: Are internet bans hurting or helping? #839671
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    Zdad: You missed my point. If you think that banning internet means you should ban everything else why is the reverse not true? It makes no difference if cars kill more than guns or vice versa. The point is according to your logic the reverse should also be true. If you allow internet, why not allow EVERYTHING? Sounds stupid, no?

    in reply to: Are internet bans hurting or helping? #839657
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    zahavasdad: you’re right. Nothing should be banned. Why not give your kids loaded guns?

    in reply to: Graphology #840190
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    I had my handwriting analyzed. It was so accurate it was spooky.

    in reply to: Popa Is Retarded. By, Popa #1200439
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    DY: The term has to keep on changing thanks to people like Popa who use it in disparagement.

    in reply to: Popa Is Retarded. By, Popa #1200434
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    Wikipedia:

    ” The terms mental retardation and mentally retarded were invented in the middle of the 20th century to replace the previous set of terms, which were deemed to have become offensive. By the end of the 20th century, these terms themselves have come to be widely seen as disparaging and politically incorrect and in need of replacement.”

    in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839325
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    Jothar: I agree

    in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839321
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    The Rambam says: “However the children and the grandchildren of these errants, whose parents have misled them, those who have been born among the Karaites, who have reared them in their views; each is like a child who has been taken captive among them, who has been reared by them, and is not alacritous in seizing the paths of the commandments; his status is comparable to that of one who has been coerced. Even though he later learns that he is a Jew and becomes acquainted with Jews and [the Jewish] religion, he is nevertheless to be regarded as a person who is coerced, for he was reared in the erroneous ways [of his parents]…”

    Jothar: According to what the Rambam says, what you said is totally wrong.

    I don’t know what R’ Moshe says but it’s certainly more than what you wrote Jothar. If a tinok shenishba is expose to a frum Jew from speaking him 2 minutes on the phone, does he lose that status? What about seeing a Jew for two minutes? Doesn’t make any sense.

    You also can’t decide that being exposed to a frum web site is equivalent to being exposed to Frum Jews.

    in reply to: Light it up :-) #838650
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    Beautiful!

    in reply to: Why? #838245
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    It’s all a facade. On a video that had a Baal Teshuva used to work in Hollywood said “the people in Hollywood are the most miserable people on earth”.

    And most of their marriages don’t last very long!

    in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839318
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    I highly doubt it.

    in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839316
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    cantgetit: I never said s/he posted on Shabbos.

    in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839314
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    apushatayid: I don’t understand why you are arguing about this. It is very clear this person grew up in a frum environment. Google can teach about Judaism, but the way s/he talks isn’t just knowledge about Yiddishkeit. It is totally the way a frum person would talk. And this troller admitted that s/he is (or at least was at that time) in Australia!

    in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839310
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    I know a lot about christianity, am I a former member of the church?

    Your question doesn’t prove anything, since most of us don’t know enough about that religion nor the knowledge that YOU know to answer the question.

    However, whether or not we should be calling attention to this behavior, there is no doubt whatsoever that this person was brought up in a frum environment.

    in reply to: The Rant to End All Rants #835844
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    I don’t think “docile” is a necessarily a positive attribute for adults

    in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839270
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    AZOI.IS:

    I would think this is the perfect place to call attention to this behavior. This place has potential to be completely anonymous, and can make him/her just enough embarrassed to make him change without actually making it hard for him to face people. And if the behavior is corrected, then nobody need know about it at all.

    in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839267
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    What a smart way to be Mekarev a lost Jewish soul who’s posting on Shabbos….

    This troller seems to be a troublemaker and an obnoxious person. If indeed s/he is posting on Shabbos, then s/he is an OTD person because there is too much knowledge there about yiddishkeit. Or perhaps people think this person is frum but posts on Shabbos – like there are “frum” people who text on Shabbos. Being polite about the chilul Shabbos isn’t going to be “mekarev” her/him. And calling him on this behavior isn’t going to make the situation any worse nor make him decide to continue being MS

    in reply to: Children's fights #870793
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    mommamia22: What your saying makes sense.

    Aries: Thank you. I like the idea of having a meeting and setting rules down.

    in reply to: When the shadchan doesn't give up! #833672
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    nobody would ever get married if it weren’t for the Shadcan and their tactics. Thank G-d for the shadcan.

    Some incompatible shidduchim that end up in divorce also would never have happened if not for the manipulative & deceiving tactics of shadchanim.

    in reply to: Time to go work? #833290
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    He was raised in a culture that did not even allow the thought that he could go out to work and support his family – if it did occur to him, he had been taught that it was an evil thought that must be purged. Is this what the system is coming to?

    How do you know this is why he stooped to theft. Did he say that, or this is your assumption?

    in reply to: 40 challah bakers #833496
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    Making challah now. Will have your uncle in mind.

    in reply to: Help! #831063
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    Supergirl: what happens if you simply tell her “that’s a mean thing to say”? or “what a nasty thing to say”? But don’t say it like you’re hurt. Say it strongly with confidence.

    in reply to: To Petch or not to Petch #830134
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    real israeli: I like your idea.

    in reply to: To Petch or not to Petch #830125
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    Tell them you are counting to 3. If they don’t stop by 3, you send them to their room for a timeout. If kid is 5 yrs old, they have to be in the room alone for 5 minutes. For 7 yr old, 7 minutes. For every time they come out of room before time is up, give another minutes.

    in reply to: tinok shenishba #829625
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    ZosHaTorah: How did you answer the question?

    lolkatz: I highly doubt it.

    in reply to: King of Jewish music #828814
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    MeinMeinung: I like your answer.

    in reply to: Screen Name Subtitle #978239
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    Real Israeli: Isn’t Israel the home for all Jews, no matter where in the world they live?

    in reply to: common Jewish last names #828455
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    I think Schwartz is the most common.

    in reply to: Please don't tell me to ask my LOR…I can't #828776
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    Popa: though I can’t provide a source, I do know it’s 100% correct. A half sibling has same halachos as full sibling.

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    in reply to: looooooooser #829751
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    Go to your local library or go online, and find self help books that resonate within you. Read, read & read. If you’re a woman the book “Healing Your Emotional Self: A Powerful Program to Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem, Quiet Your Inner Critic, and Overcome Your Shame” by Beverly Engel may help you.

    in reply to: Unix programming? #826541
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    You can post questions about KSH, CSH, SH, BASH, PERL, PHP, SED, AWK and OTHER Unix shell scripts and shell scripting languages here:

    http://www.unix.com/shell-programming-scripting/

    in reply to: How do you know when its time? #825805
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    WOI: You have decided you are correct, and therefore are looking for an excuse why everyone else thinks you are wrong. You found it: it must be because automatically everyone blames the man. That is not true at all.

    Perhaps she is pushing you to earn more money, because you are pushing her to earn more. It’s not her responsibility no matter what her potential to earn is. The only thing she should be responsible for is paying back the loans for her masters (unless you were the one to push her to do it).

    Now let’s see. Your expenses are $6000 a month + other expenses, so something like $7000 a month. Her earnings are somewhere like $2400 before taxes ($60x10x4), after taxes should be something like 25% of monthly expenses which is $1750, which is what you state you want.

    There is a quote: If two people tell you you are drunk, you should lie down. I came to my (incorrect) conclusion because of the pressure it seems you are putting on your wife, and you went to 4 therapists (spent thousands by them) and they all told you it’s your fault. Sorry, while I can’t possibly know the full story, and all these therapists may be idiots (who just blame the man for everything), it is highly unlikely especially since you are highly articulate, and you could clearly express what is going on (not everyone can do that), so even if initially they thought you are wrong (since you’re a man – highly doubtful though), you should have been able to explain the situation well enough.

    Hatzlacha rabba

    in reply to: How do you know when its time? #825798
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    Working on it: My apoligies for jumping to the wrong conclusion. I have seen too many who throw the burden of income on their wives, when it really is their responsiblity to support the home. I didn’t have the whole picture. Hatzalcha rabba.

    in reply to: Degree before learning full-time #825357
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    You can’t compare both sceanrios. The second guy’s father clearly paid for son’s education, the first one had to pay on his own. There are other factors to consider too. The second guy learned for ten years? Either he got help from parents or his wife had a great job. First guy didn’t have that.

    in reply to: How do you know when its time? #825792
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    With all the great advice over here, I think it’s all for naught. There is more than a trace of narcissism in his posts.

    in reply to: How do you know when its time? #825783
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    Aries: wow! your post is amazing.

    in reply to: Procrastinating #824622
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    1. Consider the desired action a ‘procedure’, and separate it into smaller ‘tasks’, as though you were going to teach it to a trainee. Write a brief outline or draw a flow chart if it helps you to clarify things.

    2. Next, sit upright in a comfortable chair and imagine that you are starting with the first task. Run through the entire action thoroughly in your imagination. At the same time, be aware of your emotions: are you experiencing any of the feelings which have made the procedure difficult to start doing? Let’s call these your ‘inhibiting feelings’.

    3. Keep working through the task in your imagination: do it with powerful will and focus, while experiencing the inhibiting feeling at the same time. Try to keep the inhibiting feeling going as you continue. You can even try to intensify the inhibiting feeling as much as possible while you imagine doing the task with focused and unwavering determination. Continue until you have reached the end of the first task. Repeat this a few times.

    4. Follow this same method with each of the other tasks in the procedure until you have performed the entire procedure in your imagination. Repeat as desired.

    5. Start making it a point to go through these steps whenever you notice an ‘inhibiting feeling’ about any action you need to do. Make a habit of pursuing any feelings of ‘being blocked’ or ‘feeling too lazy’ you happen to experience during the day, and using this method on them, making sure to perform the related tasks in your imagination with great will, purpose, and focus.

    6. After doing this for a while, you’ll probably begin to find that it has become too easy to simply go through a procedure in your imagination: the inhibiting feelings won’t be strong enough to offer a good challenge anymore. So, the next step will be to use this same method, but to actually do the tasks with real action, working with powerful will and focus while trying to keep the inhibiting feeling as strong as possible.

    7. Make this your new hobby. Start hunting for and and going after these ‘inhibiting feelings’, and see how many you can ‘score’ each day. It’s a challenging new game you can play regularly.

    in reply to: Help! My child can't fall asleep at night #814863
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    a mamin:

    According to maxihealth description of Formula 605, it contains melatonin.

    in reply to: Help! My child can't fall asleep at night #814861
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    Happiest: I find that taking calcium helps have a full night’s sleep.

    in reply to: Self Esteem Books #851661
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    “The 7 habits of highly effective people” by Stephen R. Covey.

    in reply to: A Woman's Place in Frum Society #814557
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    There shouldn’t be female doctors, nurses, therapists, teachers, salesladies. All poffessions and all kinds of employment should be filled by men. Even women’s clothing stores should be run by men.

    And why limit it only to work? Grocery shopping should be done by men. They should even put their kids on the buses, because women cannot be out on the street. Doctors appointments, you guessed it. Men have to take care of that too. Shopping for clothing and shoe for women and children ought to be done by men too. Of course the women won’t need much clothing, since they will always be indoors. And oh, yes! what about simchas? Bar mitzvahs is no problem. It will be all male affair, but what about chasunahs?

    And oh, what an ideal world!! Your wife is depressed because she locked up inside the whole day? Just explain that this is the way the Torah wants and her disatisfaction is just the yetzer hara in the form of feminism.

    in reply to: A Woman's Place in Frum Society #814526
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    apushatayid: I wasn’t referring to kollel couples. I was referring to either men who are too lazy to earn a decent living, or men who try hard but just aren’t making enough.

    Why do you suppose it’s better for a man to work two jobs, and not have any time for his family, than for a woman to take a part time job, and they take care of the family together in whatever way works for them? Not all working men have the stamina to work work two jobs, nor are many willing. There are also men who are not interested in helping out at home nor willing to make real effort to earn a decent living. Then what is a woman to do?

    This OP annoyed me because many wonderful women work VERY HARD juggling both their family and their job, and they get critisized!

    in reply to: A Woman's Place in Frum Society #814513
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    >>Since when does the Torah have to support Feminism?<<

    Where in the Torah does it say a woman is not allowed to work?

    Says who working equals feminism?

    You question why would women needlessly accept the klalah of work upon themselves. They don’t.

    If they work even though they are adequately supported from their husbands, they don’t have the burden of parnasah on their head! So it isn’t a curse for them. If they work because they need the money, it isn’t an option. They have no choice!

    in reply to: why is texting wrong #811180
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    From what I see, the biggest problem with texting is that it’s addictive. It’s not even the texting itself. Those who text, are constantly checking their cells to see if they received a message.

    http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/texting-on-shabbos-could-be-worse-than-murder

    This is a question that was sent to someone who sends out halacha emails:

    Question:

    I wanted to ask you about the new (and exciting for many, nebach, unfortunately)

    trend of “Half Shabbos” whereas people keep full Shabbos but are texting throughout

    the day (hence “half Shabbos”). What’s the halacha here?

    Answer:

    There is no such thing as half Shabbos. Keeping Shabbos 99% is desecrating it 100%.

    Using any electronic devices on Shabbos is strictly prohibited, possibly even D’Oraysa

    as using electricity (where internal circuits are connected and completed ) involves

    melachos of Aish, Boneh, Soser and Molid to name a few. (See Chazon Ish Orach Chaim

    Siman 50:9)

    Again, there is no valid halachic permissibilty to text or otherwise use a cell

    phone on Shabbos Chas V’Shalom (besides in life threatening emergencies), and all

    who do so will ultimately have to deal with the heavenly consequences. May Hashem

    have mercy on His holy nation and spare them from desecrating the holy Shabbos and

    His holy name.

    in reply to: Kohen marrying a half jew????????/ #803665
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    There is no such thing as a “half Jew”. Either a person is Jewish or not Jewish. Jewish is one who is born to a Jewish mother or converted according to Jewish law.

    Having a non Jewish father doesn’t disqualify a girl who is Jewish from birth from marrying a Kohen.

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