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Always_Ask_Questions: I got you. Nevertheless, the school didn’t mention that if the parent doesn’t sign, the child cannot go to school. And I didn’t sign the form, so so far, no concern and I don’t need to keep my children home from school BH.
A parent should always evaluate if they are spanking their child out of anger or yelling excessively at their child (and ends up feeling bad after, because they realize they were wrong) should go for help before everlasting damage is done to their child. It doesn’t mean the parent is bad, rather it may be because of abuse in their own upbringing, their own shame, or their current circumstances that are causing them to be stressed or overwhelmed.
The child should not have to suffer. Go for help. You won’t regret it. If you don’t go for help, you may regret it big time.
Always_Ask_Questions: I am not sure how you are responding to my OP. The schools have sent home a form asking parents to sign a consent that their child should get tested. I cannot imagine that any good can come out of it, andit only gives a sense of foreboding. Your post does not respond to anything I said.
Amil Zola: An adult does not need to sign a form to take a blood test or throat culture.
Now that the percentages are down due to boro park screening drives, Cuomo has changed his “red zones” from zip codes (which no longer show elevated covid-19 percentages) to blocks. Showing him (by testing) that his excessive vigilance in “stopping” the virus is not necessary won’t work since he has an agenda.
Now tell me: what does he intend to do with those “blocks” that show cases of covid-19? It is extremely scary. Having a plan against a zip code is a lot harder to implement than with having a plan with a block. And then another block, and then another block until it’s the whole zip code.
What shall we do? Daven to Hashem. Only He can help us.
Amil Zola: I guess you are talking about testing and not about signing the papers. It is a good point, however, how is public opinion sufficient if Cuomo is blaming us anyway, and if the media will spin things how they like regardless of facts? Now that the testing how supposedly brought down the numbers, we’ll see if it had any effect. Will Cuomo stop laying the blame on our doorstep?
Always_Ask_Questions: Do you enjoy mocking other people’s opinions?
You can remove the wifi chip in the back. But for a yeshiva you should take it in to a place to do it for you? Why would a yeshiva that wants to have computer classes take the chance of not doing a full job? Even if costs money.
If anyone has symptoms of covid AND they feel weak (or getting weaker) they absolutely should check their oxygen level even if they don’t feel they have breathing issues.
When my mother had covid, and her saturation level was at 72, she insisted that she had no trouble breathing!! I called hatzalah and they took her in.
Syag: I don’t think I would have gone out 5 or 6 days after being sick for weeks even if I didn’t take a covid test to see if I still have it. At least 2 weeks without any symptoms is more like it.
Gadolhadarah: You answered Coffee addict Amein v’amein. He meant nothing about Trump. And it’s strange you think he did.
It’s a good thing you’re not anti-Semitic or no doubt you would blame the virus on the Jews.
Paying for a retest of foolishness. If you can’t believe the results of the first test, why should you believe the results of the second test?
If it is true that someone sent in two blank swabs and it came back positive then the test is totally worthless and should not be relied upon whatsoever.
I had covid in March. If I tested positive now, I would absolutely not self quarantine, as I don’t believe it’s possible to get it again.
I actually know of people who tested positive even though that they were for sure over covid. That being the case, I don’t trust the results at all, and I see no reason for anyone to self quarantine as a result of positive test.
If you live in areas where the virus is raging, then everyone who did not already have the virus should be careful. But if you live in a place like New York, then just go about your business, unless you have symptoms that indicate that you have the virus, or you are high risk.
“Hashem wants the Goyim to keep the 7 Mitzvos.
But SADLY almost NOone in the US keeps them.”
There are approximately 328.2 people in the US. Around 1.8 are Jewish. That leaves over 322 million non jews.
How in the world can you possibly know that most don’t keep them?
Also, is it a requirement to have the death penalty to be mekayem 7 mitvos? Where does it say that?
“BTW, your use of fancy Vocabulary – doesn’t make you any More Knowledgeable!”
That’s a pretty mean thing to say.
1- teenagers were/are not affected by the virus. So there is no reason for them not go to camp. the chances of any of them getting seriously sick is almost nil.
2- teenagers need something to do with their time. People with total lack of seichel make decisions that don’t include this very obvious fact.
3 – Why would day camps be more safe? In camp, they will be quarantined in a productive environment, while day camp they will be going home and about and more likely to spread the virus (provided they can and are still spreading it..
4 – Most teenagers, if not all, in NY were already exposed to the virus more than a month ago.
5- vactions is a better option? Are you kidding me?
LIttle Froggie: I think your idea is a good one. They should place signs on the buses stating how important summer camp is. They should also have loud speakers stating why summer camps is essential for the emotional health of our teenagers, and the lack of summer camps can have a devastating emotional toll on them C”V.
“Also, he didn’t gasp for air, and any med student knows that someone who tells you they can’t breathe, can”
SYAG: “Gasping for air” does not necessarily mean that the person can not breath at all.March 16, 2020 2:40 pm at 2:40 pm in reply to: Are our mistakes (not regarding mitzvos/sins) from Hashem? #1840409
Libb: Are you a Nevuah? How can you possibly know? Did Hashem tell you directly?
I’m wondering why you think the label “narcissist” is worse than being called an “arrogant, difficult, and self-centered person”?
Telling her not to use it is not going to help if she doesn’t have other outlets or activities to fill her time. Make sure she’s busy with other things to do. Shiruim, games, going places etc. And just plain quality attention.
Joseph: what is wrong with women voting? and what is your proof that it failed?
Klugeryid and Joseph is obviously one and the same.
Joseph: one who needs to smack their child to teach them the seriousness of some dangers has to because the child is too young to understand and it’s important to make sure they don’t do it. Smiras Shabbas is not required by a child too young to understand therefore there is no need to smack. If a child is old enough to understand and is still doing dangerous stuff they need help not a smack. Same applies for Shabbas.
I want to tell you what worked for me. In the morning when my son didn’t want to get up after I tried getting him up, I sat down and said tehillim asking Hashem that my son should get out of bed until he got up. Sometimes I started before it was time to get him up. I no longer have a problem getting him out of bed in the morning BH.
ZionGate: A Very good Point.
Philosipher: Just have in mind the teitch of the words you are davening.
When I think of translation during davening, I don’t feel it necessary to visualize. It’s when I ask (or beg) in my own words my requests I feel the need to visualize Something while talking to Him.
laskern: They say that you cannot look at the sun only what it does, similarly we cannot look at Hashem only what He does, Veyodato Hayom.
Very good point.
coffee addict: Why do you have to visualize something the way it has to be as opposed to how you want to visualize it
I don’t have to do it any certain way. I want to visualize the proper way. So I thought perhaps the CRers will have ideas. And I did get good ideas from everyone who responded.
Thank you to all who responded.
Laskern: Thanks for your detailed response. Is there an english edition to Sefer Beis Elokim?
Coffee addict: I can think that with logic, but not visualization since Hashem doesn’t have a physical form.
Shopping: I feel I need something.
Thefacemaven: I’m guessing that sefer is only in Hebew. I’ll look up Kaplan’s books. Thanks.
Syag Lchochma: If your kid would have brought the matter to your attention, would you have said something to the person?
Josef: I always make the caller give me an idea who they and their child are before answering shidduch questions.
Why do you need to know who they are or who their child is before answering shidduch questions?
You should answer according to what you know about the person they are asking about. Not according to who is asking.February 5, 2018 4:17 pm at 4:17 pm in reply to: @Chabad Shluchah Please Explain Why Davening To/Betten a Rebbe is Okay #1462790
Syag: I agree with most of what you said, however saying “that is not special for lubavitch. that is how we all do things and how we all see the messages delivered by our gedolim and rabbeim.”
I think we believe that gedolim and rebbeim have use the Torah to give advice hence calling it “daas Torah”, and we believe their advice may contain an extra dose of siyata dishmaya, but to say we believe that all advice from gedolim and rebbeim are a direct or personal message from Hashem? I don’t think so.
The OP asked a question that sounds very much like a question that you would ask.
Sefer HaChinuch does not say it is required for a married woman to wear her ring in public. Perhaps he says it is a good idea, but he doesn’t say required. It is completely and totally false to say that she is required to wear her ring in public.
Note that there are halachic shittas that a married woman is required to always wear her marriage ring in public. I’ve provided the source in previous threads.
A pack of stupidity.
My guess is you opened this thread in order to say that (stupid) statement.
Joseph: I did and she agrees with what I wrote.
According to your belief system, a woman must agree with everything her husband thinks, so this doesn’t prove anything.January 25, 2017 8:46 pm at 8:46 pm in reply to: 40 days before you were conceived… you were in the womb! #1211147
joseph: I understood that. And it is not true. One may daven for the gender that she chooses.January 25, 2017 7:18 pm at 7:18 pm in reply to: 40 days before you were conceived… you were in the womb! #1211143
LU: “Joseph – true, but from what I heard it still might be a problem to daven that a specific child be a girl, so one should ask a sheilah before davening. “
What does that mean?
And what does the following mean?
Golfer: “In a case where someone already has a son, or many sons, is it even permissible to daven for a girl?”January 25, 2017 5:36 pm at 5:36 pm in reply to: 40 days before you were conceived… you were in the womb! #1211141
People shouldn’t make up Halacha. There is no such Halacha that you’re not allowed to daven to have a daughter.June 1, 2016 5:10 pm at 5:10 pm in reply to: Is TAG (Technology Awareness Group) a not-for-profit business? #1154610
Mrs. L: Why didn’t you give this bochur the $60?
>>Definitely not. The place to sound off though is not here.<<
Android is no better than iphone. What makes you think Satmar allows android if they prohibit Iphone? Clearly any phone that has whatsapp is prohibited by the Satmar Rebbe. Which has unfortunately not stopped many Satmars from having them.
flowers – Oomis (as a MIL herself) was saying such “tongue in cheek”, hence the smiley face.
I’m aware it was meant as a joke. There is nothing funny about a chosson or kallah not having a mother. It is never ideal. And it’s a joke in poor taste.
(with no mother-in-law) 😉
That is an insult to all Jewish women.
>>if you dont pay him I will kill you myself<<
Really? Can someone explain how a person who is dead can kill someone himself???? The fact he came to her in a dream is possible, but only if he got permission from up high to appear in her dream. But to kill her himself? Doesn’t make any sense whatsoever.
The books “The midrash says” is written by a woman, even though it’s under her husband’s name.
DaasYochid and plumber. I am not asking your advice for you to tell me what to do. I think it’s completely fine to ask what others do and what they think should be done before or even after one has decided for themselves what they think is correct and what they think will work for them.
Yet she does not have a commandment to have children…
But has a great desire to get married and have children. More than men. I think the pressure is self afflicted.
…and I think it is time we valued the women in our community regardless of whether they are married or not.
In what way would you like to see women valued more? Can you give an example?
According to some midrashim, the shevotim married their sisters from a different mother. Reason they were allowed was because according to the sheva mitzvos bnei noach, a person may marry a half sibling from their father but not a half sibling from their mother, and since it was before matan Torah they were allowed to marry their half sister that was not from the same mother.
Where is the source that a sibling from a father is considered a full sibling and from only a mother they are considered half?
Meanwhile, males, especially in the western world, have been cowed into keeping quiet over this glaring disparity in natural ability and to instead continuously promote ridiculous excuses to cover up for females.
Describe of how males have had to be cowed into keep quiet about this oh so ridiculous notion that females might be at least as intelligence as men. Why is it even an issue?
Of course, there is also the fact that most males tend to be chivalrous and feel the need to protect the tender feelings of females as a master would protect the fur of his pet.
There are smart people. There are less smart people. Both male have female must give them respect whether they are male or female. Your above statement is ridiculous. There is no reason to hurt less intelligent people’s feelings. And in this, females are much less likely to hurt a male’s feelings who they deem less intelligent then males would hurt a less intelligent female.
However, there comes a time when one just has to call a spade a spade.
and here is one of those times that you must call attention to that? Exactly why is it important for this forum to be the place to do it? How does it help your “cause”? If you kept quiet, how would it hurt you?
We have spoken to him privately, but to no avail. The only recourse is to out him publicly. If nothing else, we are trying to show all those who come to the CR (even the non Jews who come for a look), that these are the beliefs of a very sick and twisted individual who chooses which parts of the Torah he wishes to portray, and which he chooses to turn a blind eye towards.
The above that you wrote is obviously false since it would be easier to just delete his posts. Or block Bubka.
DaasYochid: Can you explain how it is that DaasYochid is both “blocked” and a “member”?
But I have a problem with your “smartness” because you give a lot of advice that sounds like the banging of an empty drum.
Aries was giving advice out of the goodness of her heart. And her posts in the CR are generally full of insight and “smartness”.
You don’t have to agree with what she said. But that was plain mean.
but would it have been truly better if he had have just admitted it and expressed true remorse off the bat? Mabye he was just scared of the ramifications of admitting the truth? tell me what you think pls.
I think you can’t excuse his behavior saying that he lost control and didn’t mean to do what he did if afterwards he didn’t own up to what he did and express remorse. If he would have been shaken up by what he did, I can understand you thinking, well, we all get angry at our children, and he just lost control, but it seems you are just looking for ways to give him the benefit of the doubt, without any justification. This may seem like a wonderful middah, but your case, it definitely isn’t, because the ramifications are tremendous and nobody deserves to be treated this way.
I hope very much you didn’t excuse his behavior to your 6 year old. I also hope you told her that you believe her account. It is extremely damaging to a child to have her doubt something she herself witnessed.
However, inside I am an amazingly funny, creative strong person with ideas.
I have always thought this about you from other threads you have posted on. Not to mention your screen name which is a riot and takes creativity to think of.
I have heard wonderful things about Shalom Task Force. It is important that you keep in contact with them so they can guide you.
Hatzlacha rabba. And please continue to post. We care. And so many members here can give you emotional support.
good.jew: I was also going to say that Nechoma may have been referring to the fact the we must turn away from a child who isn’t dressed properly when saying a bracha.
As to what you said, I disagree totally. One doesn’t need to understand the words of a bracha to know that we are saying a bracha to thank Hashem for the food He has given us, and if we don’t say the bracha it is as if we stole the food since all the food actually belongs to Hashem. A 5 year old should understand this.
what popa said: Adults don’t think about the brachos they are making either, and often don’t know what they mean either. is unfortunately too true. From observing my own children, I think 5 year olds make better brachos than most adults I know.
Always: Banging a child’s head against a wall is a very violent act. It is never done by a healthy parent.
Furthermore, to deny it and make the child not believe what actually happened is totally abusive. Such talk is deliberate and is never a mistake