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Telling her not to use it is not going to help if she doesn’t have other outlets or activities to fill her time. Make sure she’s busy with other things to do. Shiruim, games, going places etc. And just plain quality attention.
Joseph: what is wrong with women voting? and what is your proof that it failed?
Klugeryid and Joseph is obviously one and the same.
Joseph: one who needs to smack their child to teach them the seriousness of some dangers has to because the child is too young to understand and it’s important to make sure they don’t do it. Smiras Shabbas is not required by a child too young to understand therefore there is no need to smack. If a child is old enough to understand and is still doing dangerous stuff they need help not a smack. Same applies for Shabbas.
I want to tell you what worked for me. In the morning when my son didn’t want to get up after I tried getting him up, I sat down and said tehillim asking Hashem that my son should get out of bed until he got up. Sometimes I started before it was time to get him up. I no longer have a problem getting him out of bed in the morning BH.
ZionGate: A Very good Point.
Philosipher: Just have in mind the teitch of the words you are davening.
When I think of translation during davening, I don’t feel it necessary to visualize. It’s when I ask (or beg) in my own words my requests I feel the need to visualize Something while talking to Him.
laskern: They say that you cannot look at the sun only what it does, similarly we cannot look at Hashem only what He does, Veyodato Hayom.
Very good point.
coffee addict: Why do you have to visualize something the way it has to be as opposed to how you want to visualize it
I don’t have to do it any certain way. I want to visualize the proper way. So I thought perhaps the CRers will have ideas. And I did get good ideas from everyone who responded.
Thank you to all who responded.
Laskern: Thanks for your detailed response. Is there an english edition to Sefer Beis Elokim?
Coffee addict: I can think that with logic, but not visualization since Hashem doesn’t have a physical form.
Shopping: I feel I need something.
Thefacemaven: I’m guessing that sefer is only in Hebew. I’ll look up Kaplan’s books. Thanks.
Syag Lchochma: If your kid would have brought the matter to your attention, would you have said something to the person?
Josef: I always make the caller give me an idea who they and their child are before answering shidduch questions.
Why do you need to know who they are or who their child is before answering shidduch questions?
You should answer according to what you know about the person they are asking about. Not according to who is asking.February 5, 2018 4:17 pm at 4:17 pm in reply to: @Chabad Shluchah Please Explain Why Davening To/Betten a Rebbe is Okay #1462790
Syag: I agree with most of what you said, however saying “that is not special for lubavitch. that is how we all do things and how we all see the messages delivered by our gedolim and rabbeim.”
I think we believe that gedolim and rebbeim have use the Torah to give advice hence calling it “daas Torah”, and we believe their advice may contain an extra dose of siyata dishmaya, but to say we believe that all advice from gedolim and rebbeim are a direct or personal message from Hashem? I don’t think so.
The OP asked a question that sounds very much like a question that you would ask.
Sefer HaChinuch does not say it is required for a married woman to wear her ring in public. Perhaps he says it is a good idea, but he doesn’t say required. It is completely and totally false to say that she is required to wear her ring in public.
Note that there are halachic shittas that a married woman is required to always wear her marriage ring in public. I’ve provided the source in previous threads.
A pack of stupidity.
My guess is you opened this thread in order to say that (stupid) statement.
Joseph: I did and she agrees with what I wrote.
According to your belief system, a woman must agree with everything her husband thinks, so this doesn’t prove anything.January 25, 2017 8:46 pm at 8:46 pm in reply to: 40 days before you were conceived… you were in the womb! #1211147
joseph: I understood that. And it is not true. One may daven for the gender that she chooses.January 25, 2017 7:18 pm at 7:18 pm in reply to: 40 days before you were conceived… you were in the womb! #1211143
LU: “Joseph – true, but from what I heard it still might be a problem to daven that a specific child be a girl, so one should ask a sheilah before davening. “
What does that mean?
And what does the following mean?
Golfer: “In a case where someone already has a son, or many sons, is it even permissible to daven for a girl?”January 25, 2017 5:36 pm at 5:36 pm in reply to: 40 days before you were conceived… you were in the womb! #1211141
People shouldn’t make up Halacha. There is no such Halacha that you’re not allowed to daven to have a daughter.June 1, 2016 5:10 pm at 5:10 pm in reply to: Is TAG (Technology Awareness Group) a not-for-profit business? #1154610
Mrs. L: Why didn’t you give this bochur the $60?
>>Definitely not. The place to sound off though is not here.<<
Android is no better than iphone. What makes you think Satmar allows android if they prohibit Iphone? Clearly any phone that has whatsapp is prohibited by the Satmar Rebbe. Which has unfortunately not stopped many Satmars from having them.
flowers – Oomis (as a MIL herself) was saying such “tongue in cheek”, hence the smiley face.
I’m aware it was meant as a joke. There is nothing funny about a chosson or kallah not having a mother. It is never ideal. And it’s a joke in poor taste.
(with no mother-in-law) 😉
That is an insult to all Jewish women.
>>if you dont pay him I will kill you myself<<
Really? Can someone explain how a person who is dead can kill someone himself???? The fact he came to her in a dream is possible, but only if he got permission from up high to appear in her dream. But to kill her himself? Doesn’t make any sense whatsoever.
The books “The midrash says” is written by a woman, even though it’s under her husband’s name.
DaasYochid and plumber. I am not asking your advice for you to tell me what to do. I think it’s completely fine to ask what others do and what they think should be done before or even after one has decided for themselves what they think is correct and what they think will work for them.
Yet she does not have a commandment to have children…
But has a great desire to get married and have children. More than men. I think the pressure is self afflicted.
…and I think it is time we valued the women in our community regardless of whether they are married or not.
In what way would you like to see women valued more? Can you give an example?
According to some midrashim, the shevotim married their sisters from a different mother. Reason they were allowed was because according to the sheva mitzvos bnei noach, a person may marry a half sibling from their father but not a half sibling from their mother, and since it was before matan Torah they were allowed to marry their half sister that was not from the same mother.
Where is the source that a sibling from a father is considered a full sibling and from only a mother they are considered half?
Meanwhile, males, especially in the western world, have been cowed into keeping quiet over this glaring disparity in natural ability and to instead continuously promote ridiculous excuses to cover up for females.
Describe of how males have had to be cowed into keep quiet about this oh so ridiculous notion that females might be at least as intelligence as men. Why is it even an issue?
Of course, there is also the fact that most males tend to be chivalrous and feel the need to protect the tender feelings of females as a master would protect the fur of his pet.
There are smart people. There are less smart people. Both male have female must give them respect whether they are male or female. Your above statement is ridiculous. There is no reason to hurt less intelligent people’s feelings. And in this, females are much less likely to hurt a male’s feelings who they deem less intelligent then males would hurt a less intelligent female.
However, there comes a time when one just has to call a spade a spade.
and here is one of those times that you must call attention to that? Exactly why is it important for this forum to be the place to do it? How does it help your “cause”? If you kept quiet, how would it hurt you?
We have spoken to him privately, but to no avail. The only recourse is to out him publicly. If nothing else, we are trying to show all those who come to the CR (even the non Jews who come for a look), that these are the beliefs of a very sick and twisted individual who chooses which parts of the Torah he wishes to portray, and which he chooses to turn a blind eye towards.
The above that you wrote is obviously false since it would be easier to just delete his posts. Or block Bubka.
DaasYochid: Can you explain how it is that DaasYochid is both “blocked” and a “member”?
But I have a problem with your “smartness” because you give a lot of advice that sounds like the banging of an empty drum.
Aries was giving advice out of the goodness of her heart. And her posts in the CR are generally full of insight and “smartness”.
You don’t have to agree with what she said. But that was plain mean.
but would it have been truly better if he had have just admitted it and expressed true remorse off the bat? Mabye he was just scared of the ramifications of admitting the truth? tell me what you think pls.
I think you can’t excuse his behavior saying that he lost control and didn’t mean to do what he did if afterwards he didn’t own up to what he did and express remorse. If he would have been shaken up by what he did, I can understand you thinking, well, we all get angry at our children, and he just lost control, but it seems you are just looking for ways to give him the benefit of the doubt, without any justification. This may seem like a wonderful middah, but your case, it definitely isn’t, because the ramifications are tremendous and nobody deserves to be treated this way.
I hope very much you didn’t excuse his behavior to your 6 year old. I also hope you told her that you believe her account. It is extremely damaging to a child to have her doubt something she herself witnessed.
However, inside I am an amazingly funny, creative strong person with ideas.
I have always thought this about you from other threads you have posted on. Not to mention your screen name which is a riot and takes creativity to think of.
I have heard wonderful things about Shalom Task Force. It is important that you keep in contact with them so they can guide you.
Hatzlacha rabba. And please continue to post. We care. And so many members here can give you emotional support.
good.jew: I was also going to say that Nechoma may have been referring to the fact the we must turn away from a child who isn’t dressed properly when saying a bracha.
As to what you said, I disagree totally. One doesn’t need to understand the words of a bracha to know that we are saying a bracha to thank Hashem for the food He has given us, and if we don’t say the bracha it is as if we stole the food since all the food actually belongs to Hashem. A 5 year old should understand this.
what popa said: Adults don’t think about the brachos they are making either, and often don’t know what they mean either. is unfortunately too true. From observing my own children, I think 5 year olds make better brachos than most adults I know.
Always: Banging a child’s head against a wall is a very violent act. It is never done by a healthy parent.
Furthermore, to deny it and make the child not believe what actually happened is totally abusive. Such talk is deliberate and is never a mistake
good.jew: children should be taught to make brachos as soon as they are able to speak. A 5 year old who hasn’t a clue what is really saying either has delayed language and needs services or someone isn’t teaching the kid like s/he is supposed to.
Just know it’s a process that can take a lot of time and patience. It is unrealistic to expect that it will happen the first day. Overdoing it isn’t going to speed things up.
If possible let him run around with his bottom bare.
Depending on the kid, sometimes it might feel like it will never happen, but it will.
for you bpt
Slump: I believe it’s not wise to continue to wear fake earings during the time your ears are infected. Put in real ones to keep them from closing. If your ears get infected again from fake ones after they are already healed then it’s really unwise to wear fake ones at all. I highly doubt any doctor will tell you it’s no big deal to keep on infecting your ears.
for infected earlobes, you clean it with alcohol and smear on bacitracin twice a day. That usually takes care of it.
Zdad: I use the internet because it’s my parnassa.
Let’s take the chain saw example. This is the difference in danger to a person who has no clue that it’s dangerous, to one who knows good and well it’s dangerous. Such a person takes precautions and care for himself and those around him. Pretty much everyone who actually uses a chainsaw knows it’s dangerous. A child or low IQ person may injure themself because they don’t understand the danger, however, most people know the danger and won’t use it if they can’t handle it. (Like me, I would be scared to use it). And those who don’t realize the danger are much more likely to get seriously injured from it. While those who know the danger has much less chance of getting injured either by not using it or using it with caution.
Compare & contrast that to the internet. People don’t know how dangerous it is. Let’s take you for example. You think there’s nothing dangerous about it, and don’t tell me it’s because you need it for parnassa. That may be true (or not), but you have no awareness of the danger since you disparage & ridicule those who think it has terrible potential.
Not to mention those that have fallen in, many don’t even realize they have fallen in. There are those who have fallen in and can’t climb out. And there are those who have fallen in that are working very hard to climb out.
Just because I use the net, doesn’t mean I don’t understand and see that it has the potential to ruin peoples lives. And if one MUST use it, they should understand the dangers and take precautions. And that it’s definitely better not to use it at all.
Not YWN, Not Project Yes, Not the Shumz , Not Yahoo , Not ESPN Not ANYTHING. NO INTERNET.
That’s right. No YWN, no yahoo, no ESPN. Where’s the catastrophe?
The harm the internet can and does do far far outweighs any benefit.
and Zdad, it is obvious the reason why guns kill less people is simple because most people don’t own them. And those that do have it locked up and it hardly gets used!! Doesn’t that tell you something??!!
and Zdad, According to you, guns aren’t as dangerous as cars, nor as spirtually dangerous, so why not leave them around your house. What exactly were you trying to prove?
What about a chain saw
I have yet to hear of someone continuing to use a chain saw because he is addicted to it’s use even though it’s doing a great deal of damage like chopping off his toes and fingers.
Zdad: You missed my point. If you think that banning internet means you should ban everything else why is the reverse not true? It makes no difference if cars kill more than guns or vice versa. The point is according to your logic the reverse should also be true. If you allow internet, why not allow EVERYTHING? Sounds stupid, no?
zahavasdad: you’re right. Nothing should be banned. Why not give your kids loaded guns?
I had my handwriting analyzed. It was so accurate it was spooky.
DY: The term has to keep on changing thanks to people like Popa who use it in disparagement.
” The terms mental retardation and mentally retarded were invented in the middle of the 20th century to replace the previous set of terms, which were deemed to have become offensive. By the end of the 20th century, these terms themselves have come to be widely seen as disparaging and politically incorrect and in need of replacement.”
Jothar: I agree