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  • in reply to: The process of asking for money for a wedding #2112218
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    Those of us who believe that a modicum of financial independence is a condition precedent to kiddushin are clearly in a minority. However, as others have noted, forcing the parents to wander around the beis medrash or going door-to-door begging strangers for funds to purchase housing for their kids or pay the caterer would appear to be a self-inflicted form of humiliation for parents who should “just say no”. Definitely assist within your means but don’t jeopardize your own economic well being.

    in reply to: The process of asking for money for a wedding #2112084
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    Takamamash: Kol hakovod having two kids who were responsible individuals who recognized that marriage means taking responsibility for their own expenses and are working and studying to earn a good parnassah so that they are not dependent on others. Its great when parents have the resources to assist in the chassanah and even help out a bit for the first few years of married life as we did with our kids. However, the notion that parents should purchase apartments, pay rent and subsidize living expenses in perpetuity is bizarre and even worse is the sense of entitlement of many kids who expect such parental support. I’ve read more recent studies that many parents who feel obligated to provide such support to their childeren are often ill-prepared to finance their own retirements and the problems is only growing worse as fewer employers offer traditional pensions.

    in reply to: “Frum” female singers on YouTube #2112059
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    “What does that have to do with the soul-destroying power of pritzus in the eyes of a jewish man….”?

    When obviously misogynistic trolls are cloaked in an obsessive concern for tzinius and triggers broad hyperbolic generalizations, its a big concern. “Pritzus”, as broadly defined by the
    “tzinius police” encompasses both real socially destructive forms of addictive behavior and borderline criminal activities that are incredibly harmful from both a physical and spiritual perspective. However, when otherwise “normal” activities such as hearing a woman’s recorded voice or seeing a short clip of women dancing at a simcha are equated to porn addictions etc., it often becomes an effort to rationalize subordination of women in the name of protecting the neshama of some guys who need to work on their own issues.

    in reply to: “Frum” female singers on YouTube #2111840
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    What about women who are grossed out by the way so many frum men act and present themselves? Tzinius, after all, is a concept that is NOT restricted to women. Aside from providing a frequent and increasingly childish topic for bored CR trolls, perhaps its time to open your eyes and discuss the REAL tzinius crisis

    in reply to: GAS PRICES #2111809
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    Wait until the winter heating season. Natural gas prices will be 50 percent higher than last winter so home heating (via gas furnace or electric heating served by utilities generating power with natural gas) will be substantially higher.

    in reply to: The process of asking for money for a wedding #2111805
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    Really stupid question: If you cannot afford a wedding, scale back the plans to what you CAN afford. Invite fewer people, limit the costs of food/drink served, don’t rent a big simcha hall, etc. etc. Most importantly, if you cannot afford to even purchase a bed, some dishes and pay the rent, perhaps you should think about deferring kiddushin until one or both of you have some income and resources so that you are not literally begging money from strangers.

    in reply to: Philanthropy for Kavod #2111681
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    The core issue is that our mosdos are chronically underfunded so that we are not in a position to analyze whether a potential donor is seeking recognition for his/her donation beyond the basic diligence to assure the source of the funds is legit and the donation doesn’t violate any applicable laws. Of course, there are obvious red flags where using the name of a certain donor may not be entirely compatible with the mission of a particular organization (e.g. a bit of cognitive dissonance to reading about the great work being undertaken by the “UJM Institute for the Promotion of Professional Opportunities for Bnos Yisroel” or a Brass Plaque acknowledging the Generosity of R’ Yosef for funding the new Varbeshe Kiddush Club that will be meeting in the small closet in the basement previously used by the shamas for cleaning supplies).

    in reply to: “Frum” female singers on YouTube #2111584
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    ‘Are we to expect a frum man to be so fickle as to have no control of where his eyes roam?! Maybe learn self control to a degree…”

    The author of the OP here (and literally dozens of others on the same theme) is apparently a poster-child for the lack of self control among a segment of the male frum tzibur who has projected his weakness and lack of self-discipline on everyone else. You don’t originate 183 threads on variations of your tzinius adiction without some really perverted agenda.

    in reply to: Philanthropy for Kavod #2111498
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    Unless we know that the funds were obtained through illict means, we should give kovod to anyone who is a big ball tzadakah whether they seek it or not.

    in reply to: How to enforce Tznius guidelines in a Kehillah #2111159
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    Reb Yosef must be having a bad night with the Mrs who apparently has him sleeping in the basement with their two cats. ….trying to resuscitate a 2013 vintage thread that had morphed into his favorite misogynistic themes cloaked in a familiar obsession with lack of adherence to his “tzinius guidlines”.

    in reply to: New Lows in Democrat Marxist Propaganda #2110297
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    Huju: There is no shidduch crisis in the business sector…companies merge w/o regard to hashkafah, gender or yichus. Its only about $$$ and earnings outlook. The only shadchanus is DOJ/FTC clearence under HSR.

    in reply to: Ah Gutten Chodesh MENACHEM Av! #2110280
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    “I respect your right to believe in what you feel is right..”
    I disagree. What if you are wrong? j

    in reply to: New Lows in Democrat Marxist Propaganda #2110139
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    AAQ: All your points are correct BUT I’d respectfully submit current economic metrics are NOT fully supportive of the definitions you invoke. That point has been made this week and last by most of the major banks reporting Q2 results (aka we MAY have a mild recession in late 2022/early 2023 but we are NOT there yet and there is a likelihood we may not get there even though there will definitely be a slowing from the post-Covid surge in growth in late 2021. And I clearly noted that NBER is useless for forward planning given it is looking backwards. (I actually worked briefly with NBER in my grad school days).

    in reply to: wifi and place to stay in country #2110133
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    You are not dealing with Ritz Carlton or Four Seasons $800-$1200/night in the Catskills…..there are several old-line, full-service heimeshe hotels like the Raleigh which offer basic, family size rooms for as little as $250-$300/night, INCLUDING meals (with glatt hashgacha). These are in the older sections of the hotel. If you want to splurge a bit more, you can get more modern rooms in the newer sections and cottages. I think the Raleigh still has a shul on the premises. Other hotels are within walking distance of shabbos minyanim

    in reply to: Predictions: Democrat Rout 2022 #2110116
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    Dems will hold the Senate and possibly gain 1 seat for a clear majority (w/o VP tie breaker)

    Repubs will gain about 25-27 house seats and McCarthy will have to make major rules concessions to right wing crazies (aka Freedom caucus) to retain speakership

    in reply to: New Lows in Democrat Marxist Propaganda #2110088
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    Officially, the National Bureau of Economic Research’s Business Cycle Dating Committee makes the actual call on a recession, which NBER defines as “the period between a peak of economic activity and its subsequent trough, or lowest point.” NBER’s analysis of a recession hinges on three key attributes: the depth, diffusion, and duration of a slowdown in business activity. In most cases, the NBER doesn’t make the determination until late in the recession or after the economy has emerged. Even though the shorthand “test” of two quarters of negative GDP is frequently used by the media and politicians, the Dems are stupid for “redefining” when the data doesn’t look good for them. But as Powell noted yesterday, we’ve never had a real recession with employment and savings numbers like those we have now and the absence of other indicators like big spikes in credit and mortgage defaults.

    in reply to: how do u accept compliments? #2110001
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    Avram in MD: Actually, an MO shul south of the Mason Dixon line….

    in reply to: Talmeidei Chachamim with kids not like them #2109749
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    Greatness skips a generation (at least thats what my kids tell me)

    in reply to: Summer and Winter #2109612
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    I continue to be awed by the absolutely limitless scope of knowledge and insight that Reb E is able to share with us and the clear and insightful way in which his posts communicate.

    in reply to: wifi and place to stay in country #2109520
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    Empire Campgrounds on Cohen road in Swan Lake. Very affordsable. They will even provide you with a tent and cot (if you don’t have your own) and they provide free wifi for you to connect with your online daf yomi chavurah. Just google their name and you will easily find their website.

    in reply to: Summer and Winter #2109531
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    And on a related note, some may recall the discussion here several months ago after the Senate nearly unanimously passed a bill calling for year-round daylight savings time. This would have created a bit of a challenge for daveners since sunrise in the midwest would not occcur until 8 AM for over 135 days/year and after 9 AM for roughly 30 days a year. (whether the earth rotated around the sun or vice versa). For those ehrliche yidden who have already received permission to leave early on Fridays to get home before licht benchen, asking the boss to arrive an hour late 1/3 days of the year (and even later on Mondays and Thursdays) might have been a strech.
    Anyway, the House leadership announced yesterday that they have no plans to bring the Senate bill to a vote on the house floor in the foreseeable future (aka DST is DOA)

    in reply to: Brooklyn Sephardi Shuls Non-SY #2109533
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    “I don’t want to share which one me and my three wives are due paying community members of, since GodolHaDofi will then start picketing outside every Shabbat that we are there.”

    Sad that he hasn’t even looked up to the ezras nashim and realized that Nos. 1 and 3 quietly walk across the street after the start of davening to the Ashkenazi Shtiebel

    in reply to: Brooklyn Sephardi Shuls Non-SY #2109255
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    I have been to several simchas at the Kol Eliyahu sephardic shul in Sheepshead Bay. Its a beautiful shul with a very welcoming tzibur that follows a Lebanese hashkafah. It seemed a bit more “modern” than the Syrian Sephardeshe shuls I’ve been to but others here in the CR may know better if they rigidly follow the Syrian takana on geyrim.

    in reply to: Lakewood #2109232
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    CS: Great idea….I’m sure the OP can put the Dutch Oven in the baby’s carry on bag w/o raising any questions with the TSA security screeners.

    in reply to: Lakewood #2109200
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    Common Saychel….you don’t get the free bedbugs at a campground…you may also encounter some difficulty in finding someone to light the campfire to warm up the blecch shabbos morning. Finally, check to be sure its located within the eruv.

    in reply to: Lakewood #2109150
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    “I think the OP wanted $100 per night, $200 total”

    Good luck. If you are lucky, for $100/night you are likely to get free bedbugs….Perhaps contact one of the local shuls/yeshivos and inquire about locals who rent out rooms or apartments in their homes. I don’t think any commercial hotel/motel will offer a clean/safe room at that price point.

    in reply to: Liz Cheney for President #2109046
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    The Dems (including AOC) are publicly saying tehillim for Joe M although privately hoping that the State of West Virginia collapses into some big sinkhole.
    As others have noted, there are an increasing number of Republican voters who have realized that one can support candidates with conservative policies on economic and social issues w/o sinking into the MAGA slime with Trump.

    in reply to: Lakewood #2108931
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    Common Saychel: The Ramada and several other hotels are available in the $200/night range.

    in reply to: Inflation Bonanza~! #2108932
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    Rightwriter……you must have had some really bad eggs for breakfast this AM or your trolling skills are woefully in need of improvement.

    As of June 30th , the average price of a dozen Grade A large eggs in the U.S. was $2.86, according to Federal Reserve economic data. This is up about 16% from prices a year ago. The Department of Agriculture has explained that egg prices have risen this year because of an inconsistent supply of eggs due to multiple factors, the most important of which are a major outbreak of Avian Flu (resulting in destruction of hundreds of thousands of chickens), increased energy costs for egg producers and labor shortages.

    in reply to: school memories #2108921
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    “We need to reintroduce traditional Yiddishe disciplinary measures instead of being afraid of what the Goyim will think…”

    Totally agree with R’ Yosef. In addition to assuring that a baas yisroel remains subordinate to her husband through appropriate means, we should restore the option of child abuse to our chinuch institutions to make sure our yinglach grow up to be equally abusive to the next generation.

    in reply to: how do u accept compliments? #2108919
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    Well, consider the shaliach tzibur whose chazanus is a legend in his own mind (and few others)…..when he walks off the bimah following his spectacular rendition of adon o’lam using a nigun no one seems to have ever heard before (and that seems strangely akin to a popular goyishe holiday song) he kvells in the yasher koach kudos from the tzibur. Does this undeserved phony adulation simply serve to perpetuate the pain? Should we remain silent or find ways to give musar during kiddush expressing our true feelings.

    in reply to: Lakewood #2108894
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    AirBnb lists over 50 homes for rent on the first two shabbos weekends in August and even more for weekday stays.

    in reply to: Liz Cheney for President #2108500
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    She and several other Republicans (who are dismissed as either Rinos or Neocons) would make much better candidates to promote traditional social and secular conservative values but there is no longer any room in the political center. It will take decades before we return to some degree of normalcy and the dangerous fringes on the far left and right have been relegated to obscurity.

    in reply to: GYE (Guard your eyes) #2108430
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    From the same folks who brought you 23 easy steps to solve the “Shiduch Crisis” they are offering specials on software packages to solve your personal “Pritzus Crisis”. Sadly, the GYE package and most similar “shamiras eyniyim” filters will also block access to thousands of totally OK websites for reasons totally unknown. Alternatively, you can use the safe browsing option on chrome or firefox along with common sense w/o sacrificing your chelek of olam haboh.

    in reply to: Summer and Winter #2108423
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    “It is however, more than obvious to me that the [L] Rebbe will not, in any way make such a ridiculous statement, because he does not wish to be labeled as a fool…”

    Menachem: If the Rebbe, Z’l, did not wish to be labeled as a fool, why would you be so anxious to do do so by suggesting that we still cannot prove the rotational dynamics of our solar system.

    in reply to: GAS PRICES #2108422
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    Gasoline prices have gone up and down with the global price of crude and distillates….the upward price always moves more closely with crude prices but lags the price down. Not sure what will push it back up after elections, unless Russia takes more product off the market, Iran withholds deliveries etc.

    in reply to: I got a tesla (model Y) #2106973
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    “Do you have a windmill and solar power on your roof, or is your home electricity powered by fossil fuels like everybody else’s? ”

    Your perception of electricity supply sources is about 10 years out of date. In 2021, Texas — the nation’s leader in renewable energy — generated most of its renewable electricity from wind turbines. On some days, that was well over 90 percent of total power consumption. Nos. 2 and 4 on the top 10 list Washington and Oregon take advantage of huge hydro power sources to obtain the large percentage of their electricity. California, which No.3 in total renewable production, uses a mix of solar, wind and imported hydropower over the NorthWest intertie. Several other western states get more than half their electricity from renewables. The DOE/EIA website provides state by state listings of each state’s percentage of green electricity.

    in reply to: anybody heard of new heimish/chasidish community in Ramat Shlomo #2106681
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    You can get a fairly wide range of apartment listings for both rentals and purchases at yad2.co.il

    I don’t know anything about Ramat Shlomo but the nicer 3 BR units in some of the other newer communities are usually at least 6,000-7000 NIS

    in reply to: Republicans vs. democrats #2106315
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    Fox News, Wall Steet Journal, NY Post etc. haven’t been big AOC supporters or applauding Nancy Pelosi’s agenda. There are other right-wing media based in New York although obviously larger Democratic/Left presence. Upstate, its exactly the opposite.

    in reply to: Uman this year #2106226
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    “if women were given a choice of having their husband go on frequent business trips to mixed conventions where the women will be dressed to kill, or to send their husband once a year to uman for Rosh Hashana, I think most would choose this..”

    What about the husbands who stay home and whose wives have to go to business meetings that will include guys dressed like a bunch of shlumps??? I’m not sure what you point is and doubt you do either. Normal men and women go on “business trips” because its part of their professional obligations and earning a parnassah to support their families. As a factual matter, not all professions require travel and even those that do have found much less need in a post-Covid world. Our clients have increasingly discovered its really not cost-effective to pay us to travel for hours each way to their offices for a brief meeting. Likewise for most non-billable “conference” travel which most firms will not allow in “business class” any longer.

    Traveling to kever tzadikim is a totally discretionary decision linked to one’s hashkafah and has nothing to do with business travel. In neither case, however, are men or women making trip to engage in some kind of prtizus or engage with members of the opposite sex.

    in reply to: Israeli Parenting style vs the US. #2105969
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    What I’ve seen in larger families is the older children taking on some responsibility for “parenting” and monitoring their younger siblings. It has some really positive features in terms of providing them with a sense of responsibility and it often shows in the maturity they exhibit.

    in reply to: Panama (country) #2105905
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    Syag: Chill out and try to understand Huju’s subtle humor….I’m not sure the OP was as insulted as you seem to be

    in reply to: January 6th Committee Hearings #2105877
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    Syag: “Off” or “muted”….

    in reply to: January 6th Committee Hearings #2105860
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    “Look what they [presumably the Dems] have done to our lives and our country and all they can worry about is interfering with the upcoming election…”

    Syag: I think you nailed it. Yes, for now, a primary concern IS with what is happening in many states regarding the upcoming 22 and 24 elections. You have a guy who going back to 2015/16 was already claiming the elections were “rigged” and for the next several years stoked those unsubstantiated claims (all rejected by the Courts and Judges from all ends of the political spectrum including Trump’s own appointees). When confronted with that reality, the Trump lawyers (Sidney Powell et. al) claimed that ALL those judges were corrupt. Notwithstanding the absence of any material evidence of “massive voter fraud”, 20+ red states have adopted wide ranging election law reforms, some of which would literally empower state legislators and activists to preempt local election officials and restrict voting access to segments of the electorate.
    Bottom Line: When individuals indicted for their involvement in the January 6th riots and/or engaged in total denial of the 2020 election outcome are candidates for state and local election officials and many states are engaged in efforts to make voting more difficult and the counting of votes more opaque , there is much reason to worry. And yes, it worries me more than paying $5/gallon for gas.

    in reply to: January 6th Committee Hearings #2105789
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    I agree with you in re allowing heresay, some of the staging and use of excerpts but even after discounting all those concerns, there was enough to eliminate ANY doubt regarding the actions and responsibility for 1/6. Sadly, there is a fairly large segment of the Republican tzibur who won’t believe it no matter what evidence they are presented with.hy

    in reply to: Election 2024 #2105782
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    “actually he was imitating GadolHadorah”

    Syag: I think Moishelah should keep his day job….really poor imitation.

    in reply to: Election 2024 #2105709
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    User 176:
    I know when to say Uumeeein, when to genuflect towards the Pillow Guy, when to wave my “Trump is Drech” sign, when to join the “lock her up” chant when MTG’s name is mentioned, and when to cheer the wicked Fake News Reporters in the back of a half empty cornfield near the airport with a rented, make-believe Presidential Plane in the background (also got to watch where you step to miss the cowpies). I will acknowledge that I still have work to do on my dance moves to the music of YMCA they play at the end of the rally.

    in reply to: January 6th Committee Hearings #2105699
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    Everyone but an Orange Blob sitting in his make-believe oval office built at his New Jersey golf course “tweeting” on his own social media site that no one reads know that he is about to be flushed down the political sewer. Only question is whether in his desperation he tries to drag other Republicans with him and clogs the pipes for 2024. At this point, for him, holding out as a possible candidate is the only way to keep from being indicted and rotting in jail (where they don’t have gold-plated toilet seats). Other interesting question is when Melania will bail out.

    in reply to: Election 2024 #2105623
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    “Ticket holders were told in recent weeks that the event was being postponed and that their tickets would be honored for an event next month in Milwaukee, Wisconsin”

    I’m sure any loyal, patriotic ticket holder will be enthusiastic about jumping into their car and driving for 14 hours (900 miles) from Greensboro NC to Milwaukee

    in reply to: Election 2024 #2105615
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    why dos’nt YWN show the rallies trump often holds

    YWN still adheres to minimal editorial standards and the Trump “rallies” have become more like a traveling circus with the same cast of clowns (Mike the Pillow guy etc>) and the same speech by Trump mixing some vulgarities with the 128th replay of his “stolen election” rant modified for the local jurisdiction. Even the people in the background bleachers behind the podium look the same (my favorites are the several guys in white T-shirts with the “Blacks for Trump” logo. The only ones still carrying each “rally” as if it somehow had a news value is OAN and this week AT&T (Comcast) kicked them off their cable lineup. When Fox News doesn’t consider a MAGA rally “newsworthy’ I very much doubt YWN will find it of interest to their readership.
    Most of us would prefer to watch repeat videos of R’ Eli with his “Good Morning Rabosai” greeting to the daf yomi of of the day.

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