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  • in reply to: Respecting Differences #2129009
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    I believe the OP was simply acknowledging that the CR has many attributes of an echo chamber in the context of a few posters having deputized themselves as the official bashers of several million unaffiliated, reform, conservative and even MO yidden around the world.

    in reply to: Anxious parents before Yontef #2128456
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    “I think we should have a massive bonfire and everyone should sing kumbaya followed by deep breathing”

    CS: Funny, that the new shaliah tzibur in our shul sang “sim shalom” in chazaras hashatz during shachris on the second day of yom tov to the melody of “Kumbaya”. No massive bonfire but a lot of deep conversation in the background.

    in reply to: Anxious parents before Yontef #2128330
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    On a list of “stress factors” prior to the yamim noraim, “having enough meat dishes” would not appear to be on the top 10 along with a terrorist attack or having been able to do real tshuvah.

    in reply to: Trump Declassified by Thinking #2128203
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    A condition precedent and requisite basis for the OP is the capacity to engage in rational thought.

    in reply to: Does למודי חול constitute ביטל תורה? #2125669
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    “It is really a practical question – how much of including non-Torah material will destroy Jewish life as we know it..”

    Its really not a serious question. Without having minimal language, math and science skills, young men and women coming out of yeshivos and BY’s will be functionally illiterate, unable to perform basic functions of paying bills, booking travel arrangements, communicating with medical and service providers, etc. You cannot keep the next generation in a cave forever.

    in reply to: The best white shirt. #2125184
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    I stopped keeping pens in my shirt pocket after having ink stains on just about all of them when I forgot to cap retract the point.

    in reply to: The best white shirt. #2125135
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    The best white shirt??

    A clean one that is freshly ironed. Any of several of the above mentioned brands are great but why is it that such a large percentage of yungerleit seem to be unaware of washing machines and laundries?

    in reply to: The best white shirt. #2125118
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    Charles Tyrwhitt would be a good way to go if they had front pockets for pens and CC cards like most other white shirts do.

    I can’t recall the last time I needed a “pen” and why would you keep credit cards in your shirt pocket rather than in a wallet in your back or side pants pocket??

    in reply to: Eliminating secular subjects from yeshiva curriculum #2125116
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    “The only option is migration to a jurisdiction that supports freedom of religion..”
    I’m trying to visualize Texas versions of Willy, BP and KJ….there is a Texas expression that pokes fun at “newbies” who just arrived who seek to adopt a Lone Star State persona.
    “All hat, no cowboy”. Clearly, litvish style black hats will work well but there will be some initial puzzlement regarding Shtreimlach along with Huizen Zaaken and Bekeshes.

    in reply to: Eliminating secular subjects from yeshiva curriculum #2125071
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    It would make considerably more sense for the yeshivos to find their own ways of assuring their students have basic proficiency in english language and math skills to function in society rather than having to comply with “one size fits all” state regulations on hours of instruction etc. Parents should not have to engage in “home schooling” to avoid their kids being functionally illiterate when they graduate high school. They should have the skills to get a good job in the modern economy if they choose to do so when they graduate or perhaps a few years later if they want to continue full time learning for a while.

    in reply to: Can we have an adult conversation about education? #2123729
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    “Am I the crazy one? Is everything perfectly fine? Is there a problem here – at all – that needs to be addressed”

    Very well stated. No you are not crazy and yes there is a problem to be addressed. “Education”, “Internet” etc. have become the cutting edge of the “culture wars” within our tzibur. Some truly want to cling to a torah world from the Alte Heim that they feel is slowly slipping away and passionately want to deter what they sincerely believe are the evil vehicles of change. Others are willing to accept limited change and believe they will retain more control in the long term by managing the instruments of those change for themselves and their families rather than adopting a total rejection mindset. Ultimately, the world is changing in terms of the need for certain basic skills and tools for meeting basic needs and the next generation will need those skills and tools for survival.

    in reply to: Trump planned to dump Jared #2123719
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    The story about “dumping” Kushner in favor of Bannon came from a per-publication edition of just one more Trump “tell all” book by Peter Navarro….one of the truly crazy Trumpkopfs among a vast cast of crazies. If you want to sell books about Trump in today’s world, where there already are 20-25 such books by high level Trumpkopfs (including Kushner’s new book) you have to come up with some NEW story about how crazy the boss was and what YOU did (or tried to do) to save the world from his meshugaas.

    in reply to: Bar Mitzva Party #2123673
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    Amil Zola: I wasn’t invited to that one either. And also, lest someone suggest I was criticizing Lipa S., he is a big baal tzadakah and has on many occasions performed with no compensation in cases where the baalei simcha were going through hard times.

    in reply to: The coffee room is ussor and I’m trying to make sure people chap #2123679
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    Reb E: Sadly, we have seen too many cases of geese masquerading as ducks in order to avoid becoming a foie gras factory, only to belatedly discover that under governing French law, the liver of EITHER goose OR duck fattened by gavage can be marketed as foie gras.

    in reply to: Bar Mitzva Party #2123576
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    “The problem is that to keep up with the Johnses by imitating them, even though they can’t afford…”

    Well, as usual, Reb E nailed it. First of all the Johnses most likely aren’t yiiden and if by some chance they are, they may be slightly assimilated modernishe yidden living in the Hollywood Hills who can afford to pay R’ Neil Diamond (another ehrliche yid) $50,000 to sing a set of Lipa Shmeltzer nigunim to several hundred of their BFFs for their tokhter’s bat mitzvah gala at the Beverly Hills Hotel atrium.

    in reply to: Shidduchem in 2022 #2123560
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    The FAKE “shidduch crisis” has now morphed into a REAL “literacy crisis” (w/o and reliance or reference to yesterday’s NYT’s hit job on chassidic yeshiovos).

    in reply to: Bar Mitzva Party #2123438
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    AVD is 100 percent correct. The one-upsmanship in yiddeshe simchas is obscene and even efforts by gedolim to restrict the arms-race seem to have limited effect.

    in reply to: Bar Mitzva Party #2123423
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    While I’m sure one can find some basis in our mesorah for a d’var torah and associated seudas mitzvah, I cannot believe the current level of extravaganzas with big simcha halls, bands, celebrity singers and enough food for several shtetlekh is mandated by daas torah.

    in reply to: intrenet awareness #2123411
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    Several of the above posts acknowledge that there are very real and practical ways of limiting internet usage and minimizing the risks of whatever usage is determined necessary for both educational and vocational purposes. For some, there will be NO allowable options and that will be their choice but total abstinence might not be a good long-term strategy versus teaching your kids responsible usage.

    in reply to: Can we please fix the Coffee Room? #2123409
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    ???
    If it ain’t broken, than of course we need some social media talmedei chachamim to suggest how to fix it. Aside from a recent proliferation of really poor quality posters and trolls, the CR is working just fine.

    in reply to: Is it the משגיח’s fault? #2123402
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    There is a fundamental economic issue operative here. Without mentioning names, many of us have been to restaurants where the mashgiach seems to be bored, disinterested, sitting at a corner table with a sefer, etc. rather than being fully engaged with the owner and kitchen staff, cross-checking deliveries with kitchen inventory, randomly checking security video etc. While I assume most are knowledgeable about dinei kashruth, they lack minimal forensic skills to check all the obvious ways in which the rules can be gamed by the ownership. Most restaurant owners already complain about the burdensome costs of current hashgacha. Recruiting the much higher level of expertise (including some basic computer and accounting skills) would require compensation levels that are simply unaffordable under the current business models of most hashgachos.

    in reply to: intrenet awareness #2123120
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    “[Goyim] spend all their time wasting away in front of screens and convince themselves that they’re enjoying life.

    You need to find some new goyishe friends. Those that I know are NOT “wasting away” and most ARE enjoying life albeit a very different life then is our mesorah. I agree with your general theme of stressing to the kids the positives of a torah-based lifestyle but it can be done without such a shallow and superficial view of others.

    in reply to: Goodbye Surahlah….. #2123035
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    “I’m sure you find CNN to be objective reporting as well…”

    Everything is relative. Compared to Fox or Newsmax, absolutely “objective”….compared to ABC and CBS, less so. Going forward, it appears that the new ownership of CNN is clearing house of those anchors and commentators they considered too far left. Indeed, several recent interviews and comments strongly critical of Biden (e.g. use of the Marines and red lighting in his speech at Independence hall last week) have outraged liberals accustomed to a fairly positive spin on Biden. Stay tuned.

    And yes, I did watch SNL on occasion 10 years ago when Tammy Faye did a great Sarah Palin and the “cold openings” were really funny. Its gone downhill ever since.

    in reply to: Non Jewish Funerals #2122877
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    Do whatever you are comfortable with after consultation with your LRP. There are different types of memorial “services” held in “churches” or religiously focused facilities which may have dual usage, with different types of art and physical representation of goyishe deities. Each case may be different and there are exceptions to rules of general applicability.

    in reply to: Bird Feeders #2122875
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    Where does the OP say the neighbor feeding the firds is a yid and is subject to the varying admonitions in Bava Basra etc. Nor at last check, is such an admonition against bird-feeders included in the Sheva Mitzos Bnai Noach. Indeed, the neighbor may truly believe she is engaging in tikun olam (the 614th. mitzvah so highly valued by CR readers).

    in reply to: intrenet awareness #2122874
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    Acknowledge the positives while clearly stating the risks of unrestricted use, both in terms of the “physical” risks to their privacy and economic well being, but more importantly, to their spiritual and moral well being. If you simply dismiss the entirety of the internet and online sources of information and services as “evil” your warnings themselves may be dismissed as not credible by the younger generation (and ignored) versus presenting it as a tool to be used responsibly.l

    in reply to: Tablet Mania #2122775
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    “I know that both Amil and GH are of and age and mindset [where] they do not need people commenting on their tablet use..”

    Syag: Thanks for the “age” comment and avoiding the usual hyperbole about internet, movies, etc. I’ll readily admit that I don’t travel with a sefer on an overnight flight overseas or a redeye return from the west coast. My tablet movie choices are incredibly boring and the pritzus is generally of the National Geographic/Discovery Channel genre of wildlife shiduchim. Likewise for my E-books. After several hours with a degree of luck (and an Ambien) I can some sleep before landing.

    in reply to: Bird Feeders #2122756
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    How can the woman sleep at night knowing that the feeder is upsetting her neighbor?

    Easy. The same way the owner of the feeder somehow has to learn to live nextdoor to some bird-hater. Alternatively, take an Ambien and watch one of the early vintage Woody Woodpecker cartoons that are now available on Disney streaming channel.

    in reply to: Tablet Mania #2122423
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    RR: Airplane or anywhere I don’t want to open my considerably more expensive laptop. I also used it on an Alaska hiking trip this summer and it was an adequate alternative (although difficult to do any serious document editing or typing w/o a separate keyboard). Also seems to work as an effective “pacifier” for grandkids on longer roadtrips and flights.

    in reply to: Bird Feeders #2122328
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    “How could anyone continue to do what annoys someone else?”

    Ask R’ Yosef or any of our other ehrliche trolls

    in reply to: Tablet Mania #2122264
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    AVD: Who said “no movies”. More movies than ever….multiple choices for movies, documentaries,etc. on most overseas flights. Its just BYOS (bring your own screen) and thats where tablets work much better than iphones or laptops. The former is too small and the latter too prone to getting smashed by the guy in front of you leaning his seat back.

    in reply to: Tablet Mania #2122235
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    With most airlines eliminating the screens on the back of the seats (even in business class), having a tablet is a must for x/country and overseas flights. My aging eyes really are unable to read an ebook or watch a movie on a tiny phone screen for 6 hours.

    in reply to: Goodbye Surahlah….. #2121981
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    There really isn’t much in the way of data on rank-choice voting since it has only been used in major city/state elections for the past 2 election cycles. From a purely outcome perspective, it probably favors more moderate candidates who will be the “2nd choice” for members of an opposing party versus a more extreme candidate. Thats what appears to have happened in Alaska it will take several more years to gauge the outcome on any definitive basis.

    in reply to: The great Uniter in Chief 🙄 #2121869
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    CA: First, most politicians and the others he personally villifies ARE American Citizens. Secondly, if you just listen to his rants at his MAGA rallies, he frequently DOES just refer to “Democrats” w/o making clear his hyperbole is focused only on politicians. In the same way, Biden is not calling the suburban soccer moms “facists” but inartfully using the term “MAGA Republicans” to refer to those at Trump rallies who do the “lock her up” chants and the politicians and others who deny the election outcome.

    in reply to: Bird Feeders #2121829
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    Ymribat: Has your wife considered buying a cat?? Alternatively, mount a large fake owl on the corner of your roof closest to the bird feeder.

    in reply to: The great Uniter in Chief 🙄 #2121826
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    Beyond a joke. Trump has spent the past 6 years calling the Dems “radical socialists”, “America haters”, etc. etc. He has personally vilified his opponents based on their physical appearances, racial and ethnic attributes and of course failure to geneflect in his direction. He has disparaged his own appointees for their failure to agree with and indulge his mishugaas. I’m glad Biden finally found his voice to speak out against Trump and his MAGA enablers.

    in reply to: Education and Torah #2121630
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    Its called balance. For virtually ANY professional, some level of advanced study of secular study will be needed to stay current in their fields and each individual seeks a balance of time for this professional advancement and limud torah. Also, the study of certain secular topics can enhance one’s understanding of torah matters and sharpen one’s learning skills.

    in reply to: “Frum” female singers on YouTube #2121168
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    AAQ: I don’t think many consider the CFO of BBB who jumped out of an 18th floor window in NYC erev shabbos OR the Lukoil executive who also jumped out of a hospital window last week Moscow to be gedolim avoiding a yichud situation. The former was likely “avoiding” an insider trading investigation and the latter apparently was not a big fan of Putin’s war in Ukraine.

    in reply to: Bird Feeders #2121155
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    Bird feeders are a great option if done with care and in the right locations. Only use “shell free” seeds to minimize the mess under the feeders. Also use “squirrel proof” feeders (Yankee flipper or Droll are the best and available on Amazon). Done wrong, they attract vermin and leave a mess around the feeder, not always on the same property if houses are closes together. Otherwise, great entertainment and visual treat year-round if you live in the right area.

    in reply to: “Frum” female singers on YouTube #2121125
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    “There are a multitude of stories about gedolim jumping out of windows to avoid yichud, and the like…

    I’ve never heard such stories of “gedolim” purposely risking self-harm or even death by jumping out of a window to avoid yichud.

    in reply to: “Frum” female singers on YouTube #2120821
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    “Tzadikim are extremely sensitive, and need more shmirah from women than regular people….”

    You miss the point. Tzadikim ARE regular people who are able to live their lives in strict accordance with daas torah. The concept of lamud vov tzadikim (also referenced as the Nistarim is premised on these individuals living their daily lives within their communities without being necessarily being known as big tzadikim. A big element of their “tzadikus” (if you buy into the concept) is that they emerge from their self-imposed concealment to avert threatened disasters and persecution and then return to their anonymity as soon as their task is accomplished concealing’ themselves once again in a Jewish community wherein they are relatively unknown.

    in reply to: what’s up with the news trolls? #2120492
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    One cannot troll about one’s own trolling status since that would constitute a deliberate effort to be provocative which is anathema to a trollster.

    in reply to: The great Uniter in Chief 🙄 #2120490
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    Trump and the MAGA Trumpkopfs are truly a threat to our democracy. So too are the left wing loonies among the Dems…..Both have gained undue control of their respective parties and moderate voices have either retired or are being marginalized.

    in reply to: “Frum” female singers on YouTube #2120454
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    “If your listening to it [kol isha] and it causes hirhurim its obviously assur…”

    Some of the posts here in the CR send tingles up my spine yet are not flagged as assur by the Mods….

    in reply to: Goodbye Surahlah….. #2120374
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    Ezra….I’m not sure I understand your point (assuming there is one) nor am I either gloating or really care HOW she lost under Alaska’s new convoluted voting system. The point is she DID lose, fair and square under the new rules. And yes, as CA points out a general election will bring out more voters but that doesn’t automatically translate into a loser like Palin winning the next time around. I sense that there is a small and growing exhaustion among Republican voters with the Trump/MAGA crowd. Its not enough to keep them from winning control of the House in November but probably by a smaller margin that forecast as recently as the past month or two. Also, I’m skeptical they can take the Senate and there is some likelihood that the Dems might pick up one or two seats that could have easily been flipped Red had the Republicans nominated “normal” candidates.

    in reply to: “Frum” female singers on YouTube #2120342
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    So now the consensus is that not all ervah is the same and there are variants with different levels of risk to consider (e.g. a woman singing in short sleeves is less assur than one singing in a swimsuit??) Perhaps another common sense rule is to simply follow the guidance of your LRP (which some will caveat that is fine as long as he didn’t get his semicha from Chovevei Torah)

    in reply to: Goodbye Surahlah….. #2120212
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    AAQ: Correct. …she is still on the ballot but reminder that Alaska’s new ranked choice voting system gives an advantage to lesser known candidates like Mary Peltola (who beat Palin in the runoff).
    If the R’s “underperform” in the mid-terms and some of the real crazies supported by Trump lose, you can expect to see DeSantis, Pence et. al. move quickly to challenge Trump for 2024.

    in reply to: Solution to the Shidduch Crisis #2120197
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    “I have two”
    UJM: Thats good to know. Do you still have “date nights” with Mrs. UJM or do nos. 2 and 3 just leave you exhausted?

    in reply to: Thank you for your love, best wishes and prayers #2119988
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    BDE. For many of us, its like losing a member of our own family.

    in reply to: The infamous club at YU – gone? #2119566
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    Considering the current 6-3 conservative majority, its quite likely there will be at least 5 SCOTUS votes supporting the rights of a religiously focused college/university to deny formal recognition of any LGBTQ affinity group while simultaneously avoiding explicit discrimination against individual students.

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