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  • in reply to: Where can I find Vidui with additional Aveiros? #974744
    ilovetorah
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    I’m pretty sure its printed in the back of the “avodas hatefilla” on Yom Kippur. (the sefer by R’ Birnbaum explaining the shmona esrei)

    in reply to: When I was younger I thought…Now I realize that…. #1023343
    ilovetorah
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    And that saying obviously doesn’t need my haskama but its clearly evident to any thinking person how true it is. We all need to work to change ourselves before trying to change others.

    in reply to: When I was younger I thought…Now I realize that…. #1023342
    ilovetorah
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    This is a pretty famous mussar/hashkafa saying. From one of the gedoilei oilam (r’ chain volozhin? R’ yisroel salanter?)

    ” I used to think I can change the world which will better my country, which will better my state which will better my city, which will better my neighborhood, which will better my family, which will better myself. NOW I realize that I first have to change myself, which will better my family, which will better my neighborhood, which will better my city, which will better my state, which will better my country, which will better the world.”

    in reply to: Sort of new #975312
    ilovetorah
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    Yes. Aish.com is orthodox. It is the website run by Aish Hatorah which is a kiruv yeshiva located right next to the kosel (western wall). Good luck!!

    in reply to: Sort of new #975304
    ilovetorah
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    Have you ever tried talking to your partner in torah about “the basics”? If he can’t help you I would assume he can put you in touch with another mentor/rabbi who can help you. It is wonderful that you are giving it alot of thought and realizing what you are missing. As a famous rabbi once said “knowing the question is already half of the answer”. I would maybe suggest talking about “the basics” here in the coffee room, however there are too many not serious/uneducated/trolls/cynical…..people and therefore I don’t think this would be the appropriate forum. Please don’t give up! You will be happy in the end!!

    in reply to: Sort of new #975303
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    You can also try torahmates.org

    in reply to: Sort of new #975300
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    Kiruv.com and aish.com are two more sites that you can get alot of wonderful news, contacts, and information from.

    in reply to: Sort of new #975299
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    Welcome! Its wonderful being an observant Jew! There are many organizations that specialize in helping our dear brothers and sisters understand and feel the beauty of being and living a true Jewish lifestyle. Why don’t you try out”partners in torah” (partnersintorah.org). there are other wonderful websites, I will update when I get their exact website address.

    in reply to: Work vs. Kollel #1176700
    ilovetorah
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    Harotzeh +1000!!!!

    in reply to: Work vs. Kollel #1176673
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    I am being Moche lmaan kavod hatorah!! You are being motzi Shem ra so blatantly!

    While there are some yungerlite in kollel who are not doing the right thing and waste time etc.. There is certainly not a majority, not even close!! By far the majority are ehrilch yungerlite sitting and learning shark. To say that the majority are “fooling around” “not take learning seriously” “don’t belong in kollel” is outright sheker, motzi Shem ra, mevazeh talmidei chachomim and you may have no chelek in olam habah! Please think what you say/type before you hit the post button.

    in reply to: Potential yichud situation at work #970524
    ilovetorah
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    ask a rov. i believe that there is very likely no issue of yichud. being that the dentist himself has keys to come back and there cam be many reasins for him to stop back into the office, that would negate the yichud issue.

    again, ask your rov.

    in reply to: Eggs—Davar Shebiminyan #970139
    ilovetorah
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    This is a shayla I discussed at length when I learnt the sugya. Additionally I spoke to one of the most well known rabbonim involved in kashrut in America about this sugya and this is what he said (I am omitting his name because this conversation took place a few years back and I’m a little fuzzy on the details). First off its possible that eggs even in America are not considered Davar shebiminyan based on the svara mentioned earlier that it is sold by the dozen not by the singles, however if I remember correctly he was noteh that it would still be a Davar shebiminyan based on this svara alone. The bigger chiddush he told me was that even something sold by the pound can be considered Davar shebiminyan for example eggs in Europe or a big roast because even though its sold by weight you buy it based on the amount ie you go to the store in mind to buy 15 eggs… Or one big roast… (I would like to reiterate that I am a little fuzzy on the detaild and maybe I’m confusing what the rov told me and my/my chaveirims own svaros)

    in reply to: Zecher LaChurban #966110
    ilovetorah
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    Can you please tell me the mekor for peeling off the amah al amah paint, bec when I bought my house which was being built by a Jewish developer, I spoke to my rav and he told me that since I’m not taking ownership until after the house is completed, even though I was under contract and involved in the painting ie I chose the colors and paid more to get it painted a color, I do not need to leave/peel an amah al amah. (furthermore he told me that its a shaila if the Jewish builder is obligated…)

    in reply to: Chasan Shas #967149
    ilovetorah
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    I wouldn’t give him the medium until you ran that past him. Because “standard” is to give the large size and therefore should not be given unless he requests it. That being said many chassanim do not like the large because they are very big heavy and bulky and especially if he plans on bringing it to shul/yeshiva to learn is not so convenient . I will let you know that the oz v’hdar is the crem-de-la-crem, and also more expensive than most others. I hope this helped a little

    in reply to: Would you sell the ticket? #965128
    ilovetorah
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    I have a slightly different perspective than most posters. I’m not paying attention to the different probability scenarios, trying to figure out how many tickets might have been sold… Rather I’m thinking to myself – if I don’t sell the ticket and then my ticket doesn’t win I will mamash be killing myself, however if I do sell the ticket, even if that ticket did win, I wouldn’t be killing myself, because I got a pretty handsome “consolation prize”. Do you agree?

    in reply to: Would you sell the ticket? #965113
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    To clarify: he doesn’t either know. He’s willing to gamble. Would you?

    in reply to: Being in an elevator alone with a woman #964741
    ilovetorah
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    Why won’t you be taken seriously? Actually according to many poskim that is precisely the reason that its muttar, because the distance from floor to floor is just a few moments AND its not in your control to extend the length of time, being that anybody on any floor can push the button and the elevator will open the doors by that floor.

    in reply to: Mozzarella cheese doesn't need hashgacha? #964514
    ilovetorah
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    Although it MAY not be problem of gvinas akum, and even if you hold like r moshe that chalav stam is muttar, I fail to understand why you think it would not need a hechsher at all. Who says there are no non kosher ingredients in it? Who says it was not produced on non kosher keilim?

    in reply to: Bishul Akum Shaila #958937
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    assuming that they were 100% raw beforehand, and assuming the goy turned on the entire fire (no pilot light previously lit by a yid, no residual heat left from the previous cooking, etc..) and assuming the goy put it on the fire, and assuming the yid did not do any “flipping” of the chicken or raising the flame, then the answer is NO, there is no way to mattir the chicken nuggets. furthermore the pan/pot/grill that the chicken was cooked in may be assur and need kashering.

    in reply to: Practical Kol Diparush Shailah #957262
    ilovetorah
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    You’re no longer DaasYochid , you’re ” DaasShnayim”. ๐Ÿ™‚

    in reply to: Practical Kol Diparush Shailah #957259
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    One more point, if you’re looking at each cup and mesupek which tub it came from, there is no rov at all (assuming there were two tubs, one milk and one pareve)

    in reply to: Practical Kol Diparush Shailah #957258
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    Let me repeat that I’m not holding in the sugya. I don’t understand the train of thought going on here. Mema nafshach, if you’re considering the safek, that each cup may have come from this tub or that tub, then its not “kal dparush” , its a case of “lakach min hakvius” which has a din of kvius. And if your safek is noled only now in the serving tray where you have 60 cups of ice cream and your mesupek which is milk which is pareve, then it has nothing to do with kvius or kal dparush, its a regular case of taaruvos where dinei bitul would get involved not kvius and parish. Am I wrong?

    in reply to: Practical Kol Diparush Shailah #957253
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    its been a while since i learned the sugya, but if i remember correctly, you are making a wrong assumption by saying kal d’parish. if it was already served to each guest than it is kal d’parush, however, from your question it seems that the safek was realized when all sixty cups were still together (eg. on the serving tray). if so you are not allowed to take one from the mixture.

    in reply to: college- #876507
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    im pretty sure EMU (eastern michigan university) offers a RD (registered dietician) online. A nutrition degree im not sure.

    in reply to: Lighting Extra Shabbos Lichts #959188
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    R papi do you have a mekor that a woman who forgets to light on yom tov has a kenas? i thoght i saw it too but i cannot locate where i saw it. To be mifalpel a little: i can think it may be talui on something. The mechaber paskens that the main mitzvah is on the woman. there are two reasons given 1)because she is around the house more and therefore it is more applicable to her (mechaber). 2)because chavah was “kavsah neiro shel oilam” (MG”A). the pri megadim 263:7 brings the Levush that based on this second reason a woman has a knas if she forgets. that seems to imply that if a MAN was living alone and forgot to light, he would not have a kenas. I might be wrong, but i dont think that hadlakas neiros on yom tov has the second reason, therefore it should follow that on yom tov even a woman forgetting is similar to a man forgetting on a regular shabbos and there is no kenas.

    i would enjoy feedback on this.

    (this is in no way meant as a psak- ask your LOR)

    in reply to: Bishul Akum? #883169
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    hello99, i do agree that the shulchan aruch only brings the taam of chasnus, but what do you mean that the taam of issur “is only a hava amina”? its the way rashi explains the gemara (avoda zara 38a)?

    in reply to: Bishul Akum? #883163
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    as mentioned earlier the pischei tshuva brings the two reasons for bishul akum and the din mummar is talui on that. i did speak to a highly respectable kashrus organization (i did not request permission to publicize their name so i wont) that l’chatchila does not allow it however bdieved they do not assur the foods and equiptment.

    in reply to: Cooking in Basar Bchalav microwave #832940
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    i am in no way paskening this, but why is no one concerned that there is actual pieces/condensed shmutz of basar and chalav ON the walls and ceiling that is now being cooked? (of course this will also entail the bishul achar bishul question.)

    in reply to: (??????? (????? ????? #852185
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    see pischei tshuva 99 5

    in reply to: (??????? (????? ????? #852170
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    if i ask you a shaila and i follw your answer, but the answer turns out to be wrong, was i considered a maizid or a shogeg? what happens if the above scenario happens this coming shabbos- is there any difference? ๐Ÿ™‚ good luck!

    in reply to: "Doing Kapparos with Fish-ies" #816627
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    There is no din of tzar baalei chaim on fish

    in reply to: I'm hungry! #801858
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    mod42 its not so pashut that you cant have stella dora cookies during aseres yimei tshuva, bec its true that the achronim say you should be machmir not like the rama (who permits pas palter even in a place that pas yisroel is available) during aseres yimei tshuva; however, even the Mechaber himself holds that “b’makom sh’ein pas yisroel yafa k’shel palter” one is allowed to eat pas palter. therefore eating stella dora cookies [which certainly is yafa m’shel yisroel ๐Ÿ™‚ ] is mutar according to the mechaber all year round and therefore muttar during aseres yimei tshuva. Please nobody take this as a psak because this halacha is not pashut- some achronim hold that during aseres yimei tshuva we should even be more machmir than the mechabers psak all year round (see Darkei Tshuva 112:28). consult your Rav!

    in reply to: Bishul Yisroel, Pas Yisroel, Cholov Yisroel #808377
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    furthermore that which you write concerning the ou that a mashgiach turns on the fire every time- if you are referring to PAS i dont believe your correct, in the ou documents on hilchos bishul akum its very clear many times over that for pas palter the ou does not require any action from a yid. maybe you are referring to BISHUL akum- in that case what i think you meant to say is that the ou does not rely on the heter of a light bilb in the oven chamber.

    in reply to: Bishul Yisroel, Pas Yisroel, Cholov Yisroel #808376
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    health, maybe i am misunderstanding you but i dont believe anyone in the star k holds that a light in THE ROOM is sufficient, only a light in the heating/oven chamber. i myself spoke to R’ Heineman and others in the star k regarding this.

    in reply to: Number of Mods #781055
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    mod 42- the continuation of that dr suess book is also very applicable- some are sad, and some are glad, and some are REALLY REALLY bad! ๐Ÿ™‚ just kidding!

    in reply to: Is this muttar? #780812
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    why is this question only asked now, you could have asked the same question last week regarding a male and female, ie: a bochur with his female cousin etc. is it muttar to apply for civil marriage and get all the civil perks of marriage even though they wont be halachically married and wont do any issurim?

    in reply to: Kula Creep – The Creation and Use of Non-Existent "Kula's" #779714
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    gavra- nu…. im looking forward to hearing a heter for mixed swimming, i might make you my rav. ๐Ÿ™‚

    in reply to: The definition of Kulos/Chumros and the psak halachah. #779057
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    while i more or less agree with what you wrote, saying that not using an eruv is “no real place for” “no poskim hold that it is real halachah” is absolutly false and ludicrous (i apologize for being so strong). if anything it is clear based on basic halacha in shulchan aruch that our city eruvim are 100% not kosher. the mishna berura and other achronim go to great length being “miyashev haminhag” why people rely on city eruvim. see O”CH 364:2 M:B 8 and BI”H there.

    in reply to: Kula Creep – The Creation and Use of Non-Existent "Kula's" #779709
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    gavra- although i am a ‘kalta litvack’, i do have to say that there is a slight makom to daven late. the Eshel Avraham (not the pri megadim) in oc”h says that the zman three hours regarding krias shma is not absolute. if the whole kehilla davens at a certain time then that is ok even if it after “three hours”. besides for the aspect that we dont pasken like this E”A, i also dont know its application nowadays- bec in most cities there are very many minyanim well before the zman krias shma. i hope noone will take this post as a psak and be lienent, i am just giving a zechus for those who do.

    in reply to: Stam vs Akum #772981
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    daas yochid- i also heard such a thing in the name of the chazon ish, however look in chazon ish Y”D siman 41 at the end of the siman. i think it is even more than just ‘mashma’, i think its almost explicit that the chazon ish paskens like the pri chodosh.and i dont believe when they say that the chazon ish was only talking about a specific scenario, if he only meant to be matir in such a case he wouldnt have printed in his sefer ‘stama’.

    in reply to: Stam vs Akum #772971
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    just to add to daas yochids explanation: There is an “old” machlokes between the Pri Chodosh and the Chsam Sofer regarding chalav akum (milk milked by a non jew without the supervison of a jew) in a situation where we know for sure that the milk is from a kosher species. the example given is if a goy milks milk and it is known that there are no non kosher animals in the city. the pri chodosh holds that the milk is permitted bec we know for certain that it is kosher, the chsam sofer disagrees and says that chazal decreed (gozer b’minyan) that chalav akum is assur therefore it is assur in all circumstances. R Moshe writes that EVEN ACCORDING TO THE CHSAM SOFER the milk produced in USA by a company that the milking is not being watched by a jew (what is commonly refered to as cholov stam) is still permitted. R Moshe goes into great detail explainig this but the crux is that since there is a fear of being caught by the government it is “Anan Sahady” (as if there are witnesses testifying) that the milk is from a kosher species therefore has the same status as cholov yisroel and is mutar. many other rabbonim question the extent of the fear that companies have and therefore disagree with R Moshe.

    It is interesting to note that the Chazon Ish is very much ‘mashma’ that he paskens like the pri chodosh, and therefore it is possible that the chazon ish would also allow the drinking of what we call cholov stam.

    on a side note there may be a didderent problem with cholov stam- they may be consired cholov TREIFAH, this issue was discussed previosly on the coffee room.

    in reply to: gift for wife #1000418
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    thanks everyone for ideas. I think jewelry would be the best- but what can i get for the above price range? and where (brooklyn area)?

    in reply to: gift for wife #1000405
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    am yisroel chai- i dont have to very attentive, my wife gives me very clear “hints” what she wants, the problem is that they are out of the price range right now.

    in reply to: gift for wife #1000404
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    daas yochid- my wife knows that im not happy if she spends more than five dollars on any present for me!( and s2021- no, she cant save up five after five after five… either! ) ๐Ÿ™‚

    in reply to: gift for wife #1000403
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    thanks again. s2021- cooking dinner is not a present, i do it often anyway. saving up for something real is an option ive contemplated but it doesnt do the same when i tell my wife “this is for your birthday, baby, and anniversary”. thanks again please give more ideas.

    in reply to: gift for wife #1000399
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    thanks for the ideas. sorry for the delay in responding, i dont have access to my computer for alot of the day. it is for her anniversary. s2021- my wife doesnt go for costume jewelry. daas yochid- ive tried that , my wife HATES a gift certificate. BUBBLE- great idea but being that my wife is in school- i already do a very large part of the house and children matters. believer-vacation is something i enjoy but my wife doesnt look at a vacation for HER, rather for both of us. thanks everyone, please keep ideas coming (even though it may take me time to respond).

    ilovetorah
    Participant

    i own paul fredrick and bb shirts. i find that non iron means that throughout the day they stay fresh without getting all the wrinkles in them that a reg shirt will get after ten min. but if you wash it and take it out of the dryer they WILL NOT look they just came from the cleaners, pressed and starched – but they will not be wrinkled. chag kosher vsameich.

    in reply to: Chalav Stam? no such a thing #809595
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    sam2 and rabbiofberlin i would justike to thank you for the shakla vtarya regarding the da cows. while i was involved earlier in this dialouge and i would love to continue , i am just so busy and dont make it to the computer enough. i do have alot to comment as i am currently learning these inyanim, i will have to settle by sporadically reading your posts. thank you again.

    (And i do realize my original error for saying “displaced abdomen” and not “displaced abomasum”, it was just a slip of mind.)

    in reply to: Chalav Stam? no such a thing #809556
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    feifun ayin mah shekasavti liel

    in reply to: Chalav Stam? no such a thing #809554
    ilovetorah
    Participant

    rabbiofberlin although it is true that your reasoning is one of the svaros to be mattir, it is not so simple- if my recollection serves me correctly that is the shita of the rashba and we do not pasken like him (lchatchila?). please enlighten me who “most poskim” are. thank you.

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