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regents subject – high school level
have a masters but not in the subject i want to tutor
teaching for 5.5 years
2 years teaching the subject i want to tutor
Does that help?January 26, 2011 4:53 am at 4:53 am in reply to: #732792
Some of us know her… She’s great!!!!
move to monsey, folks! so far, it looks like our schools will be open but if anyone knows otherwise, let us know please…
Come on! I’m trying to protect someone’s privacy and you’re making fun?!?
esss: I live in Monsey. Moving to another area in Monsey. Does that help?
Sometimes, my husband can work from home, but not always…
Do the same thing!!!! But, maybe take a break and don’t beat yourself up on it…
and esss – if you want, you could contact the mods for my e-mail info and we could keep in touch that way. although I tried that once and nobody responded… but you could try!
uh… we don’t live on the same block. nobody on my block has any kids under age 13. which would somewhat explain my loneliness. but we’re moving soon so hopefully it will get better…
How does someone with asperger’s handle shidduchim? I know someone who wasn’t diagnosed until he/she (I don’t want to specify for privacy reasons) was an adult because his/her parents were in denial. It was very sad because he/she went through the regular school system knowing that there was something wrong with him/her and not knowing how to handle it because nobody could help him/her if he/she wasn’t diagnose. Plus, he/she knew that everybody thought he/she was crazy and it wasn’t even his/her fault. Now that he/she has finally been diagnosed and is getting some help, he/she wants to know how to go about shidduchim…
deiyezooger: I am never (at least almost never) sleeping when my husband comes home. First of all, I like to seee him at the end of a long day. Secondly, when he’s driving home this late at night, we talk on the phone (bluetooth) so he shouldn’t fall asleep behind the wheel. In any case, your comment was irrelevent.
BTW, it really irks me when people make remarks that put marriage relationships in a bad light. Shalom Bayis is not dependent upon how often you see your spouse, but how much you work at it. I’ll try to start another thread on that…
hi esss. not as early as i thought/hoped… he’s still finishing up. thanks for all the moral support though. i wonder if we know each other or if our husband’s know each other…
Thanks everyone for your advice and encouragement. Good news – my husband said he thinks it’s feasible for him to leave at 12 tonight! Now that’s an improvement…
BP Totty: don’t make assumptions. this is my third!
By the way, to see this in a humorous light (which by the way is usually my type – I hate being in a bad mood so I always try to see the positive/funny aspect in every situation): When my husband came home at 4, we sat down to supper! No joke!!!!
ok. calm down everybody! I do NOT have shalom bayis issues. My husband is wonderful… really! And no, this is not every night. He usually comes home between 7 and 9, but now it’s busy season in his office so he’s coming home later. I just wanted to find out if other people have the same experience or if he is being taken advantage of because he is a hard worker. And if it’s normal to worry about your husband driving home that late at night. (And yes, I was up the whole time talking to him on his way home so that he shouldn’t fall asleep – a nice normal everyday conversation – no tension or anything…) And I know he was at work (I hear him talking to colleagues in the background about work-related matters…)
Again: the point of this thread was to find out:
A – If this is a normal situation or if my husband is overworking and/or being taken advantage of. (Actually, I think he is being taken advantage of because everybody likes the way he works, but he’s scared that if he complains, he’ll be fired.)
B – How wives deal with being lonely at night
NOT to solicit shalom bayis help (which is not needed in the first place). I’m sorry if I gave that impression.
And Sacrilege – I agree this is not the place for discussing shalom bayis issues. I would be embarrassed to do so.
Seeallsides: Thanks for your advice. I already do all those things…
so all those of you who are accountants and work these crazy hours: have you ever come home at FOUR AM?!? cuz that’s where we’re heading right now. IS THIS NORMAL?!? Is there something wrong with me that I think there’s something wrong with this picture?!?
2:12 AM and still hasn’t left yet…November 3, 2010 5:26 am at 5:26 am in reply to: Which Seminaries are known for focusing more on Hashkafa? #706248
Wow! You’re sure we’re not the same person?!? Oh right, I have a baby boy… and mine is almost 5 months. Ok, now that we established that I’m not you………………JK!
For real though, my baby wasn’t going to sleep either tonight. Finally, I rocked him a bit in my arms and when that didn’t work I just put him down in his crib and left the room. He cried for a few minutes but finally went to sleep. I didn’t get anything done tonight though. (This is where my husband’s help might have come in handy…)
Sorry I don’t have any real tips; Different things worked (or didn’t work) for all of my kids. But they do say that 6 months old is a good time to start sleep training…
Just checking in… It’s 1 AM and my husband still has no idea when he is leaving work!!! Am I supposed to worry about him driving home at this hour?!?
Thanks for posting, esss! It’s nice to hear from someone who can really empathize; It sounds like we’re in similar situations. Of course, we’re waiting for the day when the crazy hours will end (yeah, I feel bad for my husband too!)…
2 random questions:
1 – Any ideas on how to ease the loneliness?
2 – When does your husband have time to learn? It bothers me a lot that my husband doesn’t have time to learn but I don’t know what I can expect of him when he’s working so late and coming home exhausted…
Thanks everyone for your advice and information. Of course, my husband knows how I feel. Baruch Hashem, we communicate. He says he has deadlines to meet and I totally believe him. Just wondering why when he’s at the office till 1, he’s one of the only ones there… In other words, if it’s necessary to keep his job, I hear that. But why are half the other employees getting away with it? Yes, I know if you want to make partner, you work and work and are never home. That’s the problem; I want him to be home. I don’t need him to make partner and he’s planning to leave that firm in the next coupla years anyhow.
And I’ve tried to get out and do stuff, shiurim, etc. No time for that. And how to get out when there’s noone to babysit?!?
BTW, someone in Kollel is different – at least he’s home sometime in between… I would have no problem if he came home and went out again to learn! I would love that!
No, I did not want to marry a professional necessarily. I married someone who was learning and had a plan for parnassah for when the need would arise. My husband’s plan happened to have been accounting. My husband is an auditor so it’s not just the April tax season. He has various busy seasons throughout the year. And no, I never needed the “big bucks” and still don’t. And yes, I do work part-time. I was just wondering if he is staying late because he really needs to (in order to keep his job) or because he is an over-achiever and/or thinks he needs to work more in order to earn more (which we don’t necessarily need). I guess right now it’s hard cuz I have no friends where we live so I can’t do as aries suggested. It’s not like I’m bored; I have 3 kids under the age of 3 and I’m working and have to prepare for work. It’s the feeling of loneliness on those nights, needing to go out sometimes (and not being able to), and wondering if it’s all necessary…
There IS hope… I never either liked cholent or kugel and was not a big fan of chicken either. I don’t know how it happened exactly, but when I got engaged I began to like kugel and when I got married, I started liking chicken. I still don’t really like cholent, but I do eat the potatoes and meat (which I always did…)
Hi everybody. I’m just here to give some chizuk. I’ve been biting my nails for over 15 years and could never get myself to stop. Actually, I basically stopped biting them when I got braces but I continued to damage my nails by peeling them and the skin around them (thus, the gross tasting nail stuff won’t work for me…). I’ve tried many times to stop with no success. After reading this thread about 2-3 weeks ago, I decided to try again. I think the idea that a habit can be broken in 40 days really gave me the motivation. The fact that the time period is limited keeps me conscious of it all the time. I’m not sure if this makes any sense to you, but it’s working for me. Haven’t peeled my nails since then, so I’m over a quarter way through the 40 days!!! And my nails are looking pretty good.
Just some ideas that helped me: I apply two coats of nail hardener every 2-3 days and moisturize my hands (and feet which are also problomatic) every night before I go to sleep. This helps my skin stay nice and smooth so that it’s not peeling (which would give me the feeling that I need to peel more).
Anyhow, just thought I’d post this to give chizuk to all those of you who are still struggling to stop (and believe me, I know how hard it is – I was able to empathize with all your comments) and to thank those of you who mentioned the idea about the 40 days.
Hey, we’re thinking of doing the same thing!! Also with kids 2 and under… so if you have any ideas, please share. I’ll try to do the same. When are you going?
smartcookie: You’re right. Really, we’re going on vacation for ourselves – change of place and pace. We’re taking the kids along so we can really spend time with them so we gotta find things that they would enjoy. And don’t worry – park will be part of the itinerary. Nice and cheap. And fun (for them at least)!
BP Totty: It’s true. I actually did take a look at those threads but the bein hazmanim one mostly was for single boys and on the other thread, it sounded like people had experiences going alone as a couple or with a family of older children. So, I was wondering if anyone had ideas for what to do with toddlers.
Thanks. I think we might be going to Lancaster, Pa. Any ideas on that? Cheap motels?
Seriously, nobody can help me?!?
tomim tihye: PLEASE e-mail me. It sounds like you might actually be able to help me… EDITED, emails not allowed, email a moderator if you want to contact another member.
P3 maven: Do you know if you have to be certified specifically in special ed or can you be certified in something like Literacy to become a P3 provider?
tomim tihye: I still have not received your info. If you don’t mind, please e-mail me at [email protected]. Thanks so much!
tomim tihye: Thanks so much for your advice and useful information. I’m waiting to hear more details from you. Tizke/Tizki L’mitzvohs!
littleema: First of all, I started this thread to get advice and encouragement… Secondly, it is true that reading specialists and therapists can eventually make their own hours and you are right that at the beginning they have to work much harder. That is why many therapists and reading specialists start off in schools or other programs which take place during the day. And actually, I am looking into working in a school right now. However, I have not yet found a job. I was just wondering if anyone had any leads or ideas.
tomim tihye – How do I e-mail you? (I’m not sure this will work for me because I have young children and I’m usually busy with them during after-school hours, but I could use good contacts. Your contact may have some valuable info for me.)