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one should only worry about what kabbalah says if there is a gadol who says this we should hold by (and the rest of the gedolim don’t argue), because otherwise you can do alot of strange things that are “al pi Kabbalah”. The Ari Z”L had 12 challahs each shabbos meal – yet i haven’t heard of anyone today who has that minhag. There are many more important things for us to worry about doing right that are far more basic, starting with the bein adam lachaveiro’s which so many of us seem to forget about quite often, or the many halachos that so many people are totally unaware of, before lookinig up kabbalistic kavanos to raise our spiritual level.December 27, 2010 8:09 pm at 8:09 pm in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973278
M in I – most people aren’t as lucky as you. And chazal say something like “Ein adam misaveh elah al mah she’einav ro’os”, which translates as “a person only desires what he sees” – meaning we don’t have a desire for things which we are unaware of.
PS – not 100% sure that is exact lashonDecember 27, 2010 6:22 pm at 6:22 pm in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973276
i was in miami and a bunch of yeshivos put together a program for parents in which a few distinguished speakers with tremendous expertise in this area spoke about the importance of having internet filters and having a third party who will be emailed a list of every site visited from your computer. Unfortunately, only like 10% of the frum community showed up, which is a big embarrasment. So first, shame on them. Second, how come there isn’t this kind of initiative in all jewish communities – it is vitally necessary. And third, it seems many people are to proud to admit they need internet protection, and this is very sad.
theres nothing wrong with it. Not everybody is cut out to earn a whole day, and some people are not cut out for a very low-end lifestyle and therefore need a college education.
but sometimes it is necessary to execute someone simply bec of the magbitude of his crimes, like okc bombing, like they should for 9/11 perps yimach
where are the rest of the mods – how come they don’t post so much
and there are a few stories of people executed by the US who were innocent, which they figured out after DNA evidence became acceptable.
are any mods married?
and how much do you get paid?
we are not supposed to “breach” tznius anything. And walking down a block in a bathing suit is a massive breach of tznius even to a man.December 23, 2010 10:32 pm at 10:32 pm in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973258
besides, why should the husband want to know the password at all – he is much safer not knowing it because it protects him from a very big nisayon. It would be a sign of love if my wife would do that for me and much appreciated.December 23, 2010 10:28 pm at 10:28 pm in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973257
bobchka – that could make for some awkard moments . . .
and because the other side is always wrong, of course.
because thats not fun at allDecember 23, 2010 10:19 pm at 10:19 pm in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973256
or just get the stinking sewer system ot of the house.
but theres no way that happens realistically (unless you maybe have an idea . . .)December 23, 2010 10:15 pm at 10:15 pm in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973253
the problem is way more rampant by men though. A woman can usually suffice with a third party someone who will know what shes doing online, but a man will still have his burning taivahs. In fact, some rabbanim say that any internet activity that the wife could do [instead of the husband] she should to protect him.
what about Rabbi? Thats a crucial label. (But not macher)
“wal – anything” – cheap knock-off. Beware.
do mods know what the corresponding email address is for a user name? If they don’t, could they find out?December 23, 2010 10:05 pm at 10:05 pm in reply to: We all enjoy the Yated, but does their Shidduch forum bring about more dates? #720797
but when a girl gets married it does not significantly alleviate the shidduch crisis
thanksDecember 23, 2010 10:02 pm at 10:02 pm in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973251
women also have more self-control than men, so are less likely to get addicted. But of course it still pays to be prudent.
so why are you 80 and not 9 or 13December 23, 2010 10:00 pm at 10:00 pm in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973250
BP – much as i hate to admit it, it’s absolutely true.
But chazal still say that al; the redemptions will come thru women to make up for the fact that all problems were originally caused by a woman – chava. So there.
how about 200% more?
how many mods are there?
by the way, does anyone really believe that assange will ever go to jail for wiki-leaks? cause i don’t.December 23, 2010 9:50 pm at 9:50 pm in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973247
also, women are [usually] more intrinsically loyal than men are. If you don’t believe me, ask any marriage counselor or rabbi whos in the know on these subjects.December 23, 2010 9:49 pm at 9:49 pm in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973246
women do not have the raging taivah that men do. It’s why, for example, men can’t watch women concerts but women can watch men concerts.December 23, 2010 9:48 pm at 9:48 pm in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973245
but what if the husband feels his wife doesn’t trust him which hurts his all-important pride??
SJS – it’s absolutely true that calling someone in a respectful manner while acting towards them with chutzoah and impudence is rather hollow.
However, allowing a kid to call by first name will diminish his overall respect for adults in general as he sees himself on equal footing, on a first name basis. This affects the aura that adults have in the eyes f children that engenders such repect. This is not to say there are no exeptions – of course there are. But from a chinuch perspective, it teaches kids a certain amount of respect for adults, something that has a basis in halacha.
why not? “Once there happened to me and a yellow dragon something terrible. . .”
what about saul and the witch in navi
it’s unfortunate that yeshivish people would allow such a thing
to Mod: it is disgraceful that someone would insiuate that gedolei yisroel would care about something so stupid, trivial, & inane as religous affiliation over the real issues involved with a situation such as this.
m in isreal – well said assuming those are absolutely the facts
i have 2 lawyers and a judge in my family
to explain – legally, a crime can be said to have happened without anybody perpetrating the crime.
mikehall – First, legally, lack of knowledge and intent, (if proven,) means one DID NOT COMMIT THE CRIME!! Knowledge & intenet are vital components in the perpetration of a crime in any reasonable legal system. The only caveat is that this is not an excuse to be stupid and naive on purpose, etc, which these bochurim were clearly not.
Second, to those who support freeing Pollard for the RIGHT reasons, his religous affiliation at the time and the state of isreal haave no relevance whatsoever The gedolim support this tremendous mitzvah.
what would you say if the bochurim were caught in signapore, where drug smuggling is a mandatory death penalty? Kill them?
ronsr – good one
charliehall – are these accuations as accurate as those you made about Pollard? i doubt it for some reason. . .
all i can say is that the bochurim in japan were not responsible to the extent they should be incarceratedd in japan for a crime. The proof is the gedolim who have gone to bat for them and defended their innocence vociferously. about others, it’s a nebuch but its not a good idea to jump to conclusions
in any civilization and legal system, intent means a geat deal!!
not to mention being aware that you are doing something in the first place!!
However, there obviously is a standard of not being blind and unreasonably stupid – a person must take reasonable precautions to avoid becoming stuck in such a situation – but the 3 bochurim were totally clueless to the very notion of illegal drugs and sly characters who would take advantage of them, etc!!
have you been following at all what happened???!!!
or do you think you know better than the Gedolim who rallied around the bochurim and endorsed and involved themselves heavily in their legal efforts!!!
if you went to the airport and got arrested because someone snuck something illegal into your bag and you had no clue – are you going to plead guilty?! “You honor, I unknowingly transported illegal drugs and therefore should be sentenced to 10 years”!!??
congress is obviously quite incompetent
Rav Yaakov kaminetzky opened the ar door for his second wife
agree with real-brisker