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“It is the latest krumkeit and is totally wrong. Women and girls belong at home dealing with house things – the meal, kids etc.”
“I wish when people write these things they would add in my opinion, since there is no halacha backing this up.”
I personally know of multiple Gedolei Roshei Yeshivos who said that when women publicly practice a religous something that is solely in the domain of the men, (ie laining, shavuos night learning, etc), the motivation is wanting to be equal to – the same as – men. Women who are truly religously motivated l’shaim shamayim do their thing without any fanfare or political statement. There are many stories about the rebbetzins of gedolim throughout the generations who did all kinds of things. However, specifically in regards to shavuos, there is no basis whatsoever for the women to stay up all night learning. That does not mean that it is intrinsically asur. However, if it could/will? lead to even the slightest argument with her husband, if she’ll be in a worse mood on shavuos, etc, then she’ll be worse off for doing so. The feminist movement doesn’t understand the idea of different yet equal. HASHEM gave men things to do and gave women things to do. (One went as far as to say that a woman who wants to have, for example, a womens minyan is lying when she says the bracha of she’asani kirtzono because she clearly is jealous of the avodah given to men.) There is unlimited room for real spiritual growth within the framework of mitzvos given to women. Do these same women also strive to work on their middos with the same zeal? Usually not. Just as a woman should not be yearning to express her religous fervor through putting on tefillin, a woman should not look to staying up all night on shavuos as a means to spiritual fulfillment. Furthermore, there are shitos that hold that a man who will have his davening negatively impacted as a result of staying up all night should not. And the nashim tzidkaniyos who have stayed up all night were on a pretty high madreigah who already were tremendous baalei middos etc.
dovid hamelech asked HASHEM how can i get to gan eden and HASHEM said only through yisurim. The ramchal writes in derech HASHEM that through suffering one achieves personal tikkun and if/when reaches a high enough spiritual level can be mesaken different aspects of the briah.
better not to take the drink maybe
why does em mean italics
How about a gemara? Shuchan aruch? Tanya? Rabbi Frand on the parsha? Rabi Akiva Eiger? I heard they all got great reviews.
OH MY, all you genius posters have finally figured it out. And all the gedolim and roshei yeshivos missed it. Quick run and tell them so they’ll close down their society draining, shidduch crisis causing,anti-Torah horrible institutions
Actually there are numerous other gedolim and roshei yeshiva who wear techeiles. Many do it privately. For instance Rav Belsky shlita wears it only on shabbos when it’s covered by his bekisheh. There’s another famous rosh yeshiva who shall remain nameless who wears techeiles and but tucks it in and it was big hock when his shirt once got untucked and everyon found out. Full disclosure: I do not support techeiles (being that Rav Elyashiv and the general consensus of gedolim don not wear it – and it doesn’t matter one iota what their reason is, or if some am ha’aretz blogger disagrees or not) however I do support the truth.
“There are numerous kashas on both Murex Trunculus and Cuttlefish techeiles.”
could you give some examples?
smartcookie: it doesn’t mean that one has a responsibility to follow any random minhag out there – it’s only referring to a minhag you/ your family already has in place and you cease to follow it.
Dovid Hamelech: it’s much cooler to associate it with gehenom.
The RAMCHAL writes that gehenom is only one of many, many “goodies” up there awaiting those souls. . .
than you better do teshuva
depends on what yeshiva. In the early 1900’s in america, an alte bachur was around 40.
its called Seasons, its on main street where supersol used to be by the traffic light of 68th drive. it’s supposed to open right after pesach.
p.s. they claim to be offering free coffee thruought the day to shoppers
“Second, the fact that gedolim don’t do it is a kasha on them, not on the techeiles.”
your level of apikorsus is exceedingly disturbing.
“it is a kasha on them” – WHAT?!?!?!? who do you think you are, better than gedolei torah? what do you know already?!
mods – this is a mitzvah – during a rabbinical meeting about the flatbush eiruv, one “rabbi” stood up and said Rav Moshe [ZT”L] is a rabbi and i am a rabbi. we disagree. Another rabbi immediately stood up and challenged him publicly and loudly – “how many prakinm are there in maseches eiruvin?” – the offending rabbi, needless to say, was silent. It is a mitzvah to stand up for the kavod of gedolim and assur to stand idly by while people dare disgrace them, kol shekain in public!!
there are many stories about gedolim doing some extreme things to make a point of disagreement with other gedolim, like the gr”a refusing to meet with the baal hatanya
it’s actually just minhag backwards
theres a famous vort that “minhag” is an anagram for “gehennom” . . . v’hameivin yavin
Patur: i heard it from my brother who is in ner yisroel
rabbi akiva tatz related a story about a kallah who a week before her chuppah came to him because she wasn’t sure she was attracted physically to her chosson. After talking to him, she decided to go on with the wedding. . . After the wedding, though, she couldn’t go home with him and they had to get a “get” (no pun intended).
its a chaval that people have such a perspective of orthodox jews.
you sound like you’re doing a good job already lol
i heard b’sheim r’ Moshe heinaman Shlit”a that in Europe, people used a wooden spoon to stir hot foods bec the handle didn’t heat up like a metal utensil would. Naturally, as the year went on, the spoon developed cracks in it, which was a perfect fortress for renegade bits of glatt chometz. Therefore, the spoon would have to be destroyed before pesach, so the bedikah kit manufacturers sent a new wooden spoon to replace the old one getting sacrificed as a korban olah.
another study said thaat someone texting while driving has the reflexes of a 65 year old. So. . .
speeding well over the limit is dangerous but five, ten iles per hour is not. In fact, studies have shown that it is more dangerous to drive ten miles under the limit on a highway than it is ten miles over
this is partially because when you use a privatey owned object, you are usually known to its owner and therefore must answer to him and he will hold you accountable for damage etc; by a publicly owned object, however, there is very often no one to whom a borrower of said object is accountable to, which ehgenders a rather cavalier disposition towards safeguarding the object from potential damage or simply over aggressive / careless use of it.
G-D made him a lefty for a reason
whether or not al pi shuras hadin mamash it is assur or not, it is definitely beyond stupid.
He is not giving away anything that he would have had otherwise. It’s that simple.
people play board games on a date???
may our marriage be like this game of life – (skip college,) make money, have kids, and . . . bankrupt? uh-oh.December 28, 2010 3:25 am at 3:25 am in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973292
the numbers are not exactly equal – ask any jewish marriage counselor/rabbi in the know, they will tell you that the woman is intrinsically more loyal.
why would anyone want to get into gambling anyway? The Mesillas Yesharim writes: “Seeing as man has the intellect to recognize and run away from danger, how is it that he could even [want to do so]. . . one who does so is worse than an animal, as even animals have the sense to run away from a percieved danger. . . One who blunders through life unaware is like a blind person who is on the edge of a frothing river, who is next to an extreme danger. . . ” Translation: Anyone who willingly gets into gambling is a “worse than an animal”.
sometimes it sounds like the podiums are arguing. . .
you can always have the news from radio, or internet (gasp!) if you already have it. But it’s not worth bringing a TV into your home just for the news. And besides, once the tv is already in the house, it’s easier to then get more programming. Just give yourself enough time and you’ll rationalize it away easily.December 28, 2010 1:54 am at 1:54 am in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973288
“We all have our own tayvos, but that doesn’t mean that one gender is better than the other.”
Neither gender is “better”.
However, women are more natrualy loyal, and thus are far less likely to run off with someone else, then are men. Thus they are far less likely to be drawn to mess around the internet in the first place. this is a strength of women. Men have their areas where they excel more so than women.
Derech – reading the words of mishnayos doesn’t exactly constitute high-quality learning. The zechus you create from the tehillim has to do with it’s davening component, and more specifically, it’s certain mystical power that Dovid HaMelech imbued within it when he davened that when anyone says tehillim, it would have a special effect in shamayim, etc. Furthermore, one of the reasons that we learn sheba’al peh is that it is a far greater mitzvah than reciting shebichsav; some say that there is no mitzvah of talmud Torah fulfilled by reading words of shebichsav, just it has a certain mystical power etc. (see Derech HASHEM for further exp about this)
blueprints – that is absolutely not true. There is a famous maggid story that many people have a minhag to tell on Tisha Be’av night where the maggid essentially signs away all his olam haba to the town moser. I asked my rebbe if he really lost out because of that and he said absolutely not – HASHEM did not create a system where you can lose out [in olam haba] by doing the right thing, and for sure the olam haba of the maggid wasn’t lacking any from his deed. (The obvious question – so it’s worth it to give up your olam haba because you’ll get it back + more, so of course give it up, so why such a great thing – it only works if you’re doing it l’shaim shamayim – meaning you are really willing to give it up without the assurance of a “makeup”. There’s a story with the Gra, that someone asked him to daven for s/o, he said gezairah in shamayim i can’t, pleaded with him, so he davened, and was informed someway that he had just lost all his olam haba as punishment for “messing up” the gezairah. The Gra then said “Now i know that all my mitzvos were truly “shelo al menas lekabel pras”.)
Anyway, rest assured that you’ll get your full reward in shamayim.
aries – a prominent rosh yeshiva said that it is a good idea to let kids watch kosher videos as opposed to disallowing all forms of TV viewing altogether because if they don’t experience TV viewing at all, there will be a very strong desire to do so, and it won’t manifest towards kosher stuff, nor is it guaranteed that they will find a kosher way to do so even if they wanted to, because people have a strong desire to do things they don’t often get to do or thngs they haven’t done to “taste” it. There is an inyan to “feed” the yetzer hara a little because that diminishes the desire of whatever the yetzer hara is pushing for.
So by the internet, sometimes it’s better that people have a kosher way to use the internet than ultimately use it in a non-kosher way. This in no way is saying that people should use the internet, just that for some people, not using it at all will build a super strong desire to do so, which is unhealthy etc.December 27, 2010 11:14 pm at 11:14 pm in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973281
you can usually test the filter without the risk that if it fails you will end up somewhere shver
my sister told me that on a recent shabbaton for shevach, Rabbi Peysach Krohn told the girls “I am not telling you who to marry, but CC guys have the best middos”. Is that really true? And if yes, is middos > learning style in a marriage?
because obvoiously this person did not do it in the lechatchila order.
and some of these yeshivos are run by acknowledged Gedolei Torah, so yes they absolutely signed off on it.
the only point that i am proving from yeshivas’ use of internet is that there are some situations when it is obviously mutar to use, not what those situations are and not to any individual.
why would you not?
HaRav Elyashiv was asked by someone who was extremely tarud with very important matters in running a yeshiva if he could not do hnayim mikra due to lack of time, and answered absolutely not, but you can be yotzei one time mikra reading along with the baal korei on shabbos.
on what grounds can any religous person defend possession of a TV?
Ramchal says in Mesillas Yesharim that anything that leads to an issur is assur under that same issur, and it’s galuy v’yadua what a TV can lead to. . .
i asked my rosh hayeshiva this question, and he answered thus: It’s pashut that you don’t “lose out” by davening/learning etc for someone else. The zchus for the person you’re doing it for is that he is the motivation for you to do it and therefore he gets a share in it, for if not for him, you wouldn’t have done it at all/done it as well. Also, certain things – like tehillim – possess a specific mystical power for certain things, like refuah for a sick person, etc.
He also said that tehillim is not talmud torah but is a form of davening (because, among other reasons, talmud Torah involoves two mitzvas: knowing & ameilus, neither of which is likely to happen when one says tehillim. With the exception of Mishnayos, that has a mystical power to simply saying the words, all Torah shbaal peh is meaningless without knowing the content. (see Rambam at end of first perek of Mishnayos Avos for classification of the words that you speak out if you are just reading the words out loud))
Also, he said that learning is by far the most powerful zchus to give someone.
roshei yeshivos tell guys all the time to go to college because it is right for them. So there obviously is a valid shitah to go to college for some guys, so no matter how many teshuvos etc there are that denounce it, HASHEM isn’t going to tell a guy [wo asked his Rosh Hayeshiva etc] achar 120 you blew it bec you went to college.
There is no blanket assur on the internet that is 100%. Most Gedolim agree that sometimes it is necessary, just in those cases you must have adequate shmirah etc. And if you noticed, many yeshivas have internet in their offices for administrative use.
Real gambling is a problem, even without halacha. Just look at the potential problems that result from gambling. The Ramchal clearly spells out in Mesillas Yesharim that anything that will lead one to do something assur is assur under the same aveira that it will lead to, and no one can deny that gambling leads to many serious issues. This is besides that, [for sure when other jews are involved,] gambling is stealing acc to the shulchan aruch (CYLOR for complete analysis).