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  • in reply to: Indecisiveness and Shidduchim #703146
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    daven for clarity– Hashem’s should send you your beshert bekarov with clarity

    and I encourage people to date and continue up to the 5th.. because a lot of times the 1st dates pple arent themselves (nervous or whatever)

    in reply to: "yeshivish and with it " yated neeman's article #703403
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    What should someone say to this question:

    She sounds very aidel is she very quiet(negative connotation)?

    Describe how she looks (after telling the mother the girls very beautiful)— how do you describe how someone looks?(pretty, skinny, put together but that doesn’t tell the mother much!)

    Is she bright? (after telling the mother what she’s doing and mentioning she was in the honors class)

    Do you know the family? what are they like?(this is after repeating how warm, friendly and gracious they are.)

    Then you have the wacky questions– Is she a homebody, independent, selfless etc?????

    you really want to ask IS YOUR SON X Y AND Z… but you don’t want to ruin a shidduch!

    in reply to: What are they teaching in seminary? #701638
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    If financially possible full time sitting and learning is a beautiful way to start out marriage.

    But not everyone’s cut out for it– requires a lot of discipline in learning and not getting distracted during the zmans definitely encouraging everyone to do the same thing is quite ridiculous because we aren’t all the same at all!!!!!!!!!!

    people can be normal frum professionals as well. There is no one right way to live life

    in reply to: Human Evolution #700896
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    Aish.com has a few article on this topic

    http://www.aish.com/authors/48865427.html

    in reply to: Human Evolution #700894
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    This theory has not been proven as fact at all. It is and will remain a theory! As noted in the chapter on Human Evolution, the THEORY of Human Evolution

    This is used as an excuse for intolerable animal like behaviors that people succumb to.. they now blame their inherent traits and characteristics. This again is not proven as fact though it is taught in schools —where they teach evolution. There are ways to disprove the theory.

    Reference:

    The Living Environment; Biology by Rick Hallman, AMSCO Publication

    in reply to: Shadchanim #1217129
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    just another point when u start dating at 18-19 you might change and have changed your outlook since then. Keeping tabs on the shadchanim and your shidduch resume is important– from the shadchanim I speak to they really expect you to be on top of them you should update your shidduch resume and call them with friendly reminders as well.

    in reply to: Shidduch Resumes #699907
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    personally I think someone becoming frum is impressive, so would a lot of others, we take yiddishkeit for granted.

    ya, a 30 yr old has long changed since their good ol’ high school days—- questions should be about what theyre up too now

    people expect more from 30 and up yr olds not just their h.s and seminary

    in reply to: Shidduch Resumes #699898
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    It might be a good idea to write all the info on paper so the shadchan has the info and doesn’t have to call you a million times!

    include family and extended family pple can get an bigger picture of who you are and where your coming from,

    also alot of pple say dont put what your looking for in writing it can limit your potential shidduchim possibilties!!

    Also a very important point is REFERENCES people call me all the time for shidduch info they want reliable and accurate info if your reference doesn’t know what your doing now, working as, family background etc.

    then they shouldn’t be your reference. trust me mothers get turned off if the reference says oh whose that maybe i know her a little but i don’t know what shes doing now…. it could be problematic to say the least

    in reply to: Shadchanim #1217105
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    the directory is sold for around $20-25 at the bottom for the website you can click on it.

    There is a long list of shadchanim in the thread Chassidshe Shadchanim.

    CLICK HERE for Chassidshe Shadchanim

    in reply to: Shadchanim #1217098
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    Lchaim Shidduch Organization’s volunteer shadchanim directory lists many accessible shadchanim who deal with all types it categorizes who each shadchan deals with.

    http://lchaimshidduch.com/

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