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Depending on the community..jeans are very street-like and casual…wearing the jeans adds to a certain look that many frum people try hard to avoid….
I’m not saying they are bad or the jean wearers aren’t Torah abiding but the majority of the frum community emphasis to maintain a certain dignified look and appearance
—’cause whatever argument you have to refute this in the end of the day the way you look is the way you’ll be looked at!
Is living away from your parents and in-laws a better way for a stronger/healthier marriage?
Maybe you should go on a vacation…get away and relax that might help!
BJJ; IY”H you’ll meet your chosson b’karov…I know of many couple who got married (from broken married to from not broken homes)
Some mothers will look past your background and look at you! others wont,they’re not for you! Also the way your family as a whole appears to the community as a functioning cohesive wholesome no baggage family–even if it is so called broken there are many families that will look into you…
nowadays with unfortantly divorces rampant the probability of marrying someone from a broken home is so much greater…
Also when speaking to people who set you up emphasis that your family is a cohesive well adjusted family!
Hatzlacha!!!!!!!!
no nothing wrong with it at all….just people die from it…but that shouldn’t bother you??!!!! jk!
my three sons but i love lucy still is top!!!!!
what’s the significance of it?
Even very frum yeshivish girls told me how beautifully their husbands proposed.
They all said that it was done tastefully and BeKavodik they still remember it and we’re talking about very ehrlich,solid yeshivish kollel yungeliet!!!!!
I don’t see the point in not proposing..
IY”H (BKarov)when your chosson proposes just don’t stop him and tell him..It doesn’t Pas to propose and have the shadchan call me…
As yeshivaguy said….Before you start dating make sure you have a Reb. or mentor other then your parents to give you advice sounds like you should be clear on whether your taking everything on yourself too fast!
Which has to be done with extreme caution… make sure you know yourself well enough before you go out dating guys who you will try to get to know…
From my experience nowadays kids need everything explained and each child according to his needs/background…the kids who are getting turned off are unfortanatly affecting the rest of the families/classes/bunks in camps/seminaries/yeshivas
my advice to parents is send you kid to a school thats best suited for you child we are at a point that we should know enough is out there and as a parent we shouldn’t think only send to a school for their kavod you must do it for your kid!
I was wondering the same thing….you can keep the shadchan as a back up support for real issues that do come up…but normally you drop the shadchan and he makes the dates after the 4th (around)
unless you do the 5 dates and engaged…don’t see him during engagement and a year later you get married thing..you never know..I guess to each his own..
I’m just curious if they taught you in BJJ(if you really went there) that a guy can’t ask you if you would like to build a BNB with him???
Doesn’t sound goyish at all and by the time your up to it you should be comfortable enough together that speaking privately about getting married should be fine.
A frum ehrlich nice guy/yeshiva bochor would know how to ask you in a B’Kovodika way…Doesn’t that sound fine?
everything in moderation….avoid fattening/oily/junk foods as much as possible…
If the guy doesn’t have the guts to propose maybe he can rely on the shadchan but normally in most circles…the couple knows already before he proposes that they’re getting engaged and the guy proposes to make it official..
The actual source of proposing I don’t know..but if a guy proposes in a meaningful way it’s not goyish…
The proposing with bending down and asking will you marry me? is goyish and should prob. be avoided
As in many media tools in technology there are pros and cons.
For a frum girl for example the purpose she would use fb is to socialize.
An organization will use it to broaden the scope of people and increase their influences by using fb. So, the actual idea of facebook is ok.
For the girl (14 yr old) for example she could get caught up in inappropriate relationships/sites etc. that could damage her yiddishkeit.
The Rabbis who use facebook I think are mostly involved in kiruv and use it as an invaluable tool to access multitudes of people….
the two usages serve to very different purposes and can’t be compared. I think for an average person to use facebook is fine as long as they socialize appropriately and stay within Halachic guidelines. For people who are avid facebook addicts it’s hard to stop so you cant say don’t use it at all…Just use it and only contact the people you should….For those of you that don’t use it good for you and there’s no need to start!!!!!
Your saying blame the actual person not the tool or media??
It works both ways people have to know themselves well enough and at a certain point in our lives we only have ourselves to blame…
technically if you but yourself into a situation –IT’S YOU not the media/facebook(yes. it’s accessible) that got you there…..Bottom Line SO DON’T GO THERE!
both sound bad to me…
Can we really judge what’s worse I mean isn’t there Halachos that say NO to both????
When speaking to many of my married friends i always ask them if they felt they ended up compromising- “of course you compromise” and when asking if they felt bad about it they all say “I couldn’t have gotten a better guy!”—it’s good to associate with happily married couples btw…
Soo there’s your answer yaa both guys and girls compromise but once they get up to the stage of marriage there’s no regrets!!!
With other real life issues compromising is more individual and what the single can handle….With regards to smoking many guys don’t tell and roomates/chavrusas don’t tell either…it’s hard to find out unless you smell evidence!!!
Try looking into the yeshivas that encourage/really allow for college degrees etc.
Maybe tell her in today’s economy unless she marries a real wealthy (financially secure) guy she prob will have to work…we’re not living 40 yrs ago!!!!!
In the frum world making it is around 150k-300k-if she wants to raise a middle size family. So I’m saying two incomes unless he can maintain a successful income single-handed
She should be open to learning guys as well…that’s whats out there!
I was going to mention that these breakups might go back together I personally know a few cases -we’re talking about a year after the break….i agree with you you normally only think of the good times you had with him
…if you are interested in getting back together try to have someone redd it..the timing might have been off…a year can be a long time…but I’m warning you I heard that when you get back together it’s extra pressure to see if it works…so think before getting involved again