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Good question.

How do quadriplegics do bedikas chometz

ah, such nachas they must be getting

But not as much as me seeing you call them maharat

Is there a high bar to entry?

Pickup truck with a rifle rack, a rifle, and a case of fine scotch.

Ah, this reminds me of the story of my dumb friend. http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/my-dumb-friend

Remember him?

So against my advice he married that girl. And they had a great marriage for 15 years, and had lots of really dumb kids who they both thought were really smart, and they were great parents to them.

Well, one day he comes home in a bad mood, and he yells at the kids, and is mean to his wife, and slams the door, and drinks beer after supper while doing YWN on the computer.

And then for like two weeks he’s coming home every night in a bad mood and yelling at the kids and being mean to his wife and slamming the door, and sometimes drinking beer but always doing YWN and posting dumb things because he’s dumb.

So she goes to the rav, and says she wants a divorce because her husband always is mean to her and yells at the kids and slams doors and does YWN and sometimes drinks beer.

So the rav asks, ok, but what is he normally like? So she says, I just told you! He yells at the kids and is mean to me and slams the door and sometimes drinks beer but always does YWN on his computer.

So the rav says, ok, but what was he like 2 weeks ago? Oh! 2 weeks ago? Why didn’t you ask? He was a great husband 2 weeks ago, and for the past 15 years.

So the rav says if has been a great husband for 15 years, maybe she shouldn’t be so fast to divorce him, because maybe this last 2 weeks is not really him.

But she says, no. I’m not married to who he was 2 weeks ago, or 2 years ago. I’m married to who he is right now, and I don’t want to be married to who he is right now, so I want a divorce.

(And of course you remember he is a kohen, and boy was that get mekushar expensive! (Kidding, there was no get; she wouldn’t accept a get unless he agreed to never see the kids; boy were you gullible and thought there really was a get. What do you think this is? Hollywood? Megilas Lester?))

I say to err on the side of disclosure. If it isn’t a big deal, then it won’t be a big deal.

If you went to a casino just a few times and played the slots, she won’t mind.

FTR: I have gone to a casino, less than 10 times, I usually played roulette using “progressive gambling”.

He’s an idiot. He should have concluded that the kohen in his shul was not really m’zera aharon, or was a chalal.

If his scientific theory is as logically sound as that…

I’ve opined before, that women really ride on the fact that men don’t give birth to try to claim that it’s very hard. I don’t believe it. If men gave birth, they’d just do so in the handicapped stall and then be back at their desk after changing into smaller clothes.

I think the right for the father to bond with the baby is only once the baby can be without the mother… before that it’s up to the mother whether she wants to be with him. If he wants to bond with the baby before, he should make sure to be nice to the mother :).

And for this reason, I never take care of my kids at all until they are old enough to be without their mother.

(Real response: Maybe the mother was at fault in the relationship. And why should it be different based on the parents’ relationship? Cannot the father hold the baby for 20 minutes even if the mother hates him?)

I once asked one out on a date to get her to stop selling me raffle tickets. She agreed. Now we’re married.

(Turns out the raffle tickets would have been cheaper.)

The result in this case should be obvious that he doesn’t get to be in the delivery room.

It should also be obvious that it doesn’t mean anything about the general rights of the father.

I assume the khappers will choose.

Because Hashem isn’t out to get us. He isn’t arbitrary and capricious. He isn’t going to give us tasks and then not give us a way of determining what those tasks are.

How do we know Hashem isn’t, k’ilu, looking down at us and saying, “Look at all those mitzvos Reuven is doing– look how diligent he is– but why isn’t he focusing on helping Shimon do more mitzvos?”

Yes, I think He is. Which is why you need to have a rav.

How do we know which rabbonim to follow

You choose one, in good faith. Hashem isn’t out to get us.

No, we do know how our actions are received in shomayim. If we follow the rabbonim of our time.

JF: If Hashem expects us to act in a certain way, certainly He gave us to the tools to know how He wants to act. And in fact, He said the way we should find out is by asking the “shoftim”.

Saying “it’s impossible to know what G-d wants” is a cop out that just lets everyone do what THEY want.

writer: Maybe you have a good tayna against that article, and maybe you don’t. And we can discuss it; but it doesn’t belong juxtaposed with this. You can’t equate every wrong article.