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  • in reply to: Dating During the 9 Days #1024673
    popa_bar_abba
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    beards? that’s awful.

    popa would never date someone who had a beard.

    in reply to: Dating During the 9 Days #1024670
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    it’s not hard. you shave, take a shower, polish your shoes and go. If its not the first couple dates, don’t shave. If you never shave in general, also don’t shave just because I said to.

    Some people think you should polish your shoes before the shower. This is a good idea.

    in reply to: Lap-Band Surgery #690818
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    Just because a girl is a size 6 or 8, it doesn’t mean they need bariatric surgery.

    in reply to: Questions on Yoreh Deah, Choshen Mishpat #931085
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    Ok. If we had proper witnesses that he certified non-kosher food as treif, I think that would be similar to the shochet or butcher who sells trief meat as kosher.

    The halacha of the shochet is that even after one time he is pasul leidus and also not trusted to sell meat. To so teshuva, he must wear black, go to a different city where they do not know him, and show us his resolve by saying and animal is treif even at significant loss, or returning a found object at significant loss. (CM 34)

    Additionally, the mechaber says in YD 1:14, that if even ONE witness says that a shochet is selling treif, although in most cases this witness is not believed, we would need to weigh the reputation of the witness and shochet and in some cases we would pasul the shochet.

    in reply to: Why doesn't beer need a hechsher? #690298
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    What will we do if we ever need a hechsher on beer? What will we drink?

    in reply to: Questions on Yoreh Deah, Choshen Mishpat #931081
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    600kilobear:

    You asked what would the din be if you (bear) smacked a calf and knocked it out to then do shechita.

    There is a treifus issue here with regard to being attacked by a carnivore. Also since it was knocked by something big. I did not learn treifus.

    If an animal is sick, we do not eat it unless it flopped around after the shechita. (17:1) If it was owned by a goy, we do not shecht it unless it stands and walks 4 amos by itself. (shach 17:8)

    in reply to: Questions on Yoreh Deah, Choshen Mishpat #931080
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    More regarding the mashgiach accused of fraud:

    kasha, you are certainly correct that we would need a proper kabalas eidus as well.

    I would add to my previous post that even if we were to establish him as a mumar for gezel, he still is not totally unreliable. It is a machlokes by a mumar whether we trust him for shechita (2:6). Even those who do not, only require that we check the knife but still rely on him to do a proper shechita.

    In fact, if one’s animals are stolen and found slaughtered, they are permitted provided that most of the burglars of the city are jewish (1:4)

    I wonder if it is worse in our case, since he is being paid for his services and might not wish to lose the client by saying it is not kosher. Since his sin is money related, it is possible that would make it worse. We find a similar idea in choshen mishpat 34. I don’t know.

    in reply to: Questions on Yoreh Deah, Choshen Mishpat #931078
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    Charlie:

    Regarding the renter whose landlord is ripping him off.

    This is largely beyond my area of study. I’ll mention some ideas though.

    Assuming that according to Jewish law you are entitled to not pay him, the question is, are you obligated to not sue him in secular courts even though it will likely cause you a loss?

    According to Rema 4:1, you are not allowed to take judgment into your hands by appealing to secular courts, even in a situation where you are otherwise allowed to. You are required to get permission from beis din, and the beis din should allow you to go to the courts if it is necessary.

    in reply to: Questions on Yoreh Deah, Choshen Mishpat #931076
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    Charlie;

    Regarding the rabbi who supervise the restaurant and is accused of financial crimes.

    An accusation alone would not suffice to make him pasul for eidus. We would need two proper witnesses testifying to his crime.

    Now, even if he were found to be a gazlan, he would still be reliable as a mashgiach. See YD 2:6 that someone who is pasul for eidus is reliable to be a shochet unless he is a mumar for gezel. To be a mumar, he would have to do it 3 times (pri megadim on shach 2:19).

    So, until we have proper testimony that he stole 3 times, we can rely on him.

    in reply to: Questions on Yoreh Deah, Choshen Mishpat #931075
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    gavra:

    I meant to address that in the post which begins “mod please delete…”

    To summarize, you should be machmir to not use the oven for meat until you do libun.

    in reply to: Questions on Yoreh Deah, Choshen Mishpat #931073
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    Charliehall:

    A. I am intrigued by the loan cases, but I did not learn that area of Choshen Mishpat. Sorry.

    B. You asked about a tidal estuary, a river which flows into the sea, and a freshwater lake.

    There is rainwater and spring water. Rainwater is only a mikva if it pooled with no apparent flow. Spring water is fine even flowing.

    A river which is formed from a mixture of spring and rain, if it is mostly spring is fine.(half/ half see shach 201:10) If it is apparently mostly rainwater it is a machlokes the Rosh and Rabeinu Tam. According to the rema 201:2 and shach, this is a real psul. According to the Taz 201:3, this is a gzeira. The gezeira applies to all rivers which are overwhelmed by rainwater lest you be tovel in a spot of all rainwater.

    One of the proofs of the Taz is that since the springwater is touching the rainwater, it should make all of it kosher for tvila even flowing (see also taz 20).

    The Rema states that we can rely on the permitting opinions if we have no other mikva. Even so, one can only go in the middle of the river where it was flowing before the rain (shach 11).

    Your cases therefore present a difficulty. If the water were to be springwater, it would unquestionably be ok. However, if the water is rainwater and it is flowing (the lake would probably be considered flowing if it has an outlet, the estuary, if it flows), it is more difficult.

    The Mechaber says in 201:10 that if a spring is connected to a pool of rainwater it takes on the status of rainwater. This would seem to permit your river which is open to the sea.

    Nevertheless, according to the Taz, it would still clearly be pasul since the gezeira would still apply. I imagine the estuary would not have the gezeira, I don’t know if the lake would.

    According to the shach, rivers which have majority rainwater are always pasul despite the fact that they are connected to their own springwater. the shach therefore qualifies the mechaber in 201:10 saying, (shach 201:32) that the mechaber was only speaking in a case of majority springwater after the mixing. I don’t imagine that the river flowing into the sea will become majority springwater. It would therefore be pasul.

    So. In all three, if majority spring water, fine.

    If majority rain water, if flowing, not fine.

    Except the lake, perhaps ok even if flowing according to Taz as long as some spring water.

    in reply to: Questions on Yoreh Deah, Choshen Mishpat #931072
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    Chulent: we first need to mention that there are two different things referred to as “kavua”. This is partially because siman 110 deals with two different types of “Rov”.

    There is a rov where we have a piece which comes either from issur or heter and there is a rov of one of them. The example is 9 stores selling kosher and one store selling treif.

    In this case we say “kol dparish, meruba parish”, meaning that we assume that the piece in question came from the majority. However, we also say that if it was “kavua”, here defined as that the uncertainty was known while the piece was in its original place (the store- example, you were spacing out and didn’t know which store you were in), then we do not assume the piece came from the majority, rather it is an equal safek. This is min hatora and learned from “v’arav lo v’kam” (BK 44b)

    There is another rov which is the concept that if a piece is lost in a mixture, it takes on the status of the majority. This is min hatora and learned from “acharei rabim l’hatos”. Hence, if a piece of treif were to be mixed among two pieces of kosher meat, they are all permited. (We throw out one, 109:1.)

    However, the rabanan decreed that certain significant items are not batul in a majority. http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/eggs-davar-shebiminyan

    They called this “kavua”. It is sometimes referred to as “kavua derabanan”.

    The case you cited with the seven cows, the maharit said that the cows which were taken to the store are ok because of the first rov we discussed. The cows in the house were not “parish” so that cannot apply. We still need to consider the second rov, to say chad btrei batul. We are not able to say that either because the pieces were significant.

    So, in your house, if pieces of issur are mixed among heter, it will not be “kavua d’oraisa”, but will depend on a myriad of other factors. Basically, the whole siman 109 and much of 110.

    in reply to: Questions on Yoreh Deah, Choshen Mishpat #931062
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    Chulent:

    I’m sorry, I missed your question. I’ll try to get to it tomorrow.

    in reply to: Pasuk for name #1083053
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    I’m with wolf on this. Even if you are punished as if you did that persons sins, why would you be asked about them? What is the purpose?

    Does anyone find this whole idea of aveira transfer bizarre? I wonder what it means.

    in reply to: Questions on Yoreh Deah, Choshen Mishpat #931060
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    CKBSHL:

    Generally if something other than water (and certain water based liquids) were to fall into a mikva, and changed its appearance, it invalidates the mikva. (YD 201:25) However, if the “mikva” were a spring, even if the appearance is changed by the liquid which fell in, it is still a valid “mikva”. (201:28) Oceans are considered a spring. (201:5)

    One would therefore imagine that one may indeed tovel in the oil spill.

    Unless one wished to argue that since the oil does not mix with the water, it is not part of the ocean?

    in reply to: Questions on Yoreh Deah, Choshen Mishpat #931058
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    Para Aduma:

    A. A woman is definitely obligated to be bodek her levanim during each of the bedikos of the seven days. It is explicit in in R’ Akiva Eiger 186:4. It is also pahut, since for what other reason must she wear levanim? I have heard that some kallah teachers teach that she is not obligated to check. This is an error.

    B. Yes, if she has an excuse why she needed to say she was tamei.

    This is trickier if she did an action which showed she is tamei. We can still allow it if she told her husband in advance that she was going to do so. For example if she wanted to hide her pregnancy. (Taz 185:2) Also if she was unable to accomplish her objective by just speaking. (shach 185:5)

    C. Hmmm. How about if she did the chafifa and then fell into the mikva? She would still have daas once she fell though. Maybe she did the chafifa, fell into the mikva, and hit her head and was knocked out? You tell me a case.

    in reply to: Questions on Yoreh Deah, Choshen Mishpat #931056
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    mod: please delete previous post, I pushed enter in the middle mistakenly.

    PLEASE NOTE THAT EVERYTHING I WRITE, ESPECIALLY THIS POST, IS NOT INTENDED TO BE RELIED ON. (Or, as Montaigne said, “All I say is by way of discourse, and nothing by way of advice. I should not speak so boldly if it were my due to be believed.”)

    Ok. Ovens are discussed in siman 108:1-2.

    We generally say that to roast basar and chalav or issur and heter in the same oven is not allowed but is ok if you did provided that the oven was not sealed. It is only a problem if one of the two has an oily nature.

    If you are cooking them in pots, it is allowed to be done, provided that the oven is not sealed. If one of them is covered, even with dough, it is allowed to be done.

    If the one of them is spicy, it is a problem even bdieved unless one is covered. (Here, the shach 10 is machmir lechatchila regarding a dough covering.)

    No mention is made of any issur lechatchila or bdieved to do one after the other.

    However, the Rema mentions that if you were to roast the two under a pan, and the pan were to receive the steam of the two, all the cases are assur bdieved even one after another, unless one was covered.

    I have heard that our ovens are considered to be like the pan which receives the steam. If this is so, it would be assur even one after another, even if cooked in pots, unless one was covered.

    It still would be ok if neither one had an oily nature, even lechatchila. I do not think this is what is done in my house.

    in reply to: Questions on Yoreh Deah, Choshen Mishpat #931054
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    chofetz chaim: sorry, that is beyond the scope of my syllabus.

    I’ll check back in later with a more comprehensive summary of the issues with ovens.

    in reply to: Tips to Fast Easy #1211305
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    sleep all day. heh heh.

    in reply to: Learning But Not Being Supported #689867
    popa_bar_abba
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    To decide between her own life and her parents demands.

    in reply to: Questions on Yoreh Deah, Choshen Mishpat #931049
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    Apashutayid: Siman 116:2. According to Rema, it is assur lechatchila and mutar bdieved in same oven at same time. I believe one after another would be ok unless the oven was so small as to be considered like a pot cover. (108:1)

    According to Shach 116:1, cooked at same time is assur bdieved.

    According to Taz 116:2 we can allow together lechatchila if it is a “large oven”. A “large oven” holds 12 esronim.

    Derech: I don’t know about the fish and water.

    YW Editor: According to Mechaber Siman 11:1, it depends where he lives. If he lives in the “kefarim”, we need him to ignore 3 invitations before we put him bnidui. If he lives in the city, we put him bnidui after one ignored invitation.

    in reply to: Questions on Yoreh Deah, Choshen Mishpat #931038
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    artchill:

    siman 12 siif 1. A dayan does not have to judge an adam kashe unless he is the appointed public judge.

    derech:

    A.I was assuming it was at least mevashel kdei klipa. Hence for basar bchalav only the klipa would be issurei hanaa. But see yad avraham siman 87 that urui is not derech bishul so not min hatorah.

    Another nafka mina is for shaar issurim whether we will say chaticha naaseis neveila according to taz in siman 92 that by lach blach if not cooked then no chanan

    B. According to taz following maharshal in siman 105, kli sheni is mavlia kdei kulo. irui is more chamur so should do so as well. Why do we say irui only kdei klipa? Answer may be because tasaa gavar. See chavas daas 105:7 maharshal holds irui is kdei kulo, chavas daas objects on grounds of tasaa gavar.

    in reply to: Questions on Yoreh Deah, Choshen Mishpat #931035
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    derech hamelech:

    A. by a lach blach, we would certainly say the whole thing is meurav. the only nafka minah I can think of regarding if it is bishul would be for basar b’chalav as to whether it is d’oraysa and assur b’hanaa. I imagine we would follow the regular rules of tassaa gavara and say it only cooked kdai klipa.

    B. Regarding irui and kli sheni, bear in mind that issur has another factor over hilchos shabbos in that on shabbos we are only concerned with bishul. Kli sheni, for instance, although it is not mevashel, is maflit u’mavlia according to the taz following rashal (not at same time though).

    in reply to: Vaccines #689487
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    right now they are not at all safe.

    neither is diptheria

    in reply to: Sheidim #808166
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    I just can’t imagine anyone deliberately doing what sheidim are known to do. This speaks volumes about our society.

    in reply to: Mourning During the 3 Weeks, Do we Really Mean it? #882619
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    yosr:

    wow! I came to this thread to write something cynical but I’ll just agree with you

    in reply to: When Parents Don’t Support a Shidduch… #991670
    popa_bar_abba
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    tell your parents you don’t support their choice of shidduch either. that ought to shut them up

    in reply to: Do Boy & Girld Need Exact Same Hashkafa? #689066
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    exact same hashkafa? good luck with that.

    in reply to: Sheidim #808161
    popa_bar_abba
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    its YD 198:6 in the Rema.

    says it need not be undone. (We are only speaking of the braids made by sheidim. I have been informed that today sometimes the braids are not made by sheidim but by the woman herself. This is an absurd practice. I imagine it may need to be undone to go into mikva in that case.)

    in reply to: Sheidim #808154
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    it should be noted that if a woman has braids in her hair, they are made by sheidim and it is dangerous to undo them. She is allowed to go to the mikva without undoing it. the source is YD 198. I’ll look it up tomorrow for exact reference

    in reply to: Davening Ladies #688994
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    philosopher:

    I agree. I don’t think that contradicts anything I said.

    in reply to: Davening Ladies #688990
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    what does this thread have to do with ladies?

    Most men don’t have much feeling during davening either.

    I’m going to get flak for this:

    If chazal had only been concerned with us having kavvanah while davening everyday, repeating a set formula would not have been the best way to accomplish this. (probably the worst)

    I do try to concentrate while davening but it’s the work of a lifetime.

    Perhaps the purpose is for us to be accustomed to asking G-d for our needs so that we should do so when we have more poignant needs.

    I would like to note that unlike most of my posts, I did NOT hear these ideas from my rebbeim.

    “Most men don’t…”

    Did Gallup conduct this survey concluding the feelings of “most men”? Or was your critique of Klal Yisroel your own conjecture?

    in reply to: Respecting People: A Rant #971699
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    philosopher: I do think you are going too far. One’s upbringing is able to have very negative and lasting results on one’s psyche. To simply state that people in these situations should “snap out of it”, “deal with it”, or whatever, is not realistic.

    Imagine a teenager who was heavily criticized by her parents and made to think that her own feelings and wants were irrelevant. She was told that she must live exactly as her parents wished or she would be rejected by them and would be a rasha.

    Don’t you agree that at the very least she is LESS responsible than other people?

    And if she is less responsible, could it not be feasible that she is fulfilling her responsibilities in a better manner than some people who you deem to be doing the right things?

    thanks for the italics advice, I did it.

    in reply to: Respecting People: A Rant #971698
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    One must earn respect, it is not a right.

    I am happy to respect people for being people. This is a cliche which is easily repeated and completely untrue.

    in reply to: Respecting People: A Rant #971670
    popa_bar_abba
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    Hey look. I don’t know how to do italics.

    in reply to: Respecting People: A Rant #971666
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    Philosopher:

    Ok. To summarize, I made two points.

    A. We do not have the ability to judge others nisyonos.

    B. Our feelings of disrespect towards those we feel act wrongly are likely not based on kinaas hashem but our own faults. I strengthened this by observing the manner in which many of us fail in our basic relationships.

    You seem to dispute both points.

    Regarding the first, you seem to be willing to judge. You seem to think that anyone who does not live in accordance with halacha is therefore a rasha and you cannot imagine any extenuating circumstances. (I grant you did not mean to include a tinok shenishba.) You point to your own upbringing which you managed to overcome. In a different thread you refer to your “being constantly criticized and forced into a certain mold”.

    I am very glad you were able to overcome your difficulties. Perhaps that is why you are so not understanding of anyone who is not. Even your own childhood friend with whom you struggled together.

    Regarding my second point you say:

    <*em> “Is it really probable that when we disrespect a rasha it is because we are standing up for Hashem’s honor?”

    “I can’t speak for others, but in my case, yes” <*/em>

    I see.

    in reply to: Eggs�Davar Shebiminyan #970126
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    so now I’m wondering, maybe there is another step.

    The din of davar shebiminyan is based on the the significance of the item as evidenced by its being sold by count. Perhaps if the reason it is sold by weight is statutory, we can still infer its true significance and it should still be not batul.

    in reply to: Mamzer #892586
    popa_bar_abba
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    no. he can be a kohen gadol.

    in reply to: Eggs�Davar Shebiminyan #970124
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    ok. In general, a piece of issur which is mixed in with pieces of heter is batul if there is a majority of heter. However, when the piece of issur is a significant piece, the Rabbis decreed that it not be batul.

    There are four kinds of significant pieces. They are:

    A. A piece which one would use to honor a guest. (ch”r”l)

    B. A whole item which was prohibited since its creation. (berya)

    C. Something which is sold by count. (davar shebiminyan)

    D. miscellaneous significant items such as closed barrels of wine- regardless of the aforementioned rules.

    (davar shyaish lo matirim is for a different reason.)

    Regarding the third type, there is a machlokes in the gemara whether we are only referring to items which are ALWAYS sold by count or even items which are SOMETIMES sold by count. This is dependent on whether the mishna is read “es shedarco limanos” or “kol shedarco limanos”.

    We are machmir like the opinion of R’ YOchanan that even items which are SOMETIMES sold by count are not batul. The Taz permits in cases of loss to rely on the opinion that only items ALWAYS sold by count are not batul.

    Hence, for several centuries, eggs have been considered a “davar shebimanyan” and one was not able to nullify them when mixed into a majority of heter. The Maharshal writes that eggs are always sold by count (quoted in Shach and Taz YD 110).

    Now however, in Europe eggs are being sold by weight. This changes their status regarding this law. After further thought, I believe that their status will only change in the regions where this change has taken place, while in America they will remain as before.

    Therefore, in Europe, eggs will be considered something which is never sold by count and always batul in a majority of heter (if the heter is comprised of the same type of egg- otherwise you will need 60 eggs of heter for a total of sixty one eggs). In America and elsewhere, eggs will remain something which is always sold by count and will never be batul, even in 1000.

    in reply to: What shall we do? #687390
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    does anybody know any segulos that are especially helpful for bringing moshiach?

    in reply to: What shall we do? #687387
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    post on YWN

    in reply to: The Stigma On Therapy Etc. #690401
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    If she is afraid of her parents finding out, I think we may have found the source of her problems. That is some seriously unhealthy family dynamic.

    I don’t think she needs to worry about being prescribed medication for that. If she is prescribed medication, she should probably switch therapists.

    in reply to: BP Oil Spill & Moshiach #687431
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    OK. This is quite literally nonsense. The pasuk as beautifully quoted by mod 80 states that the water will be LIKE oil. Rashi states that since the water will have congealed the fish will be unable to swim.

    The water has not congealed.

    in reply to: Mental Health #687536
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    The sad honest truth is that people develop most psychological disorders as a result of bad parenting. The same is true for kids who go “off the derech”.

    You don’t need to molest your kids to be a bad parent. There are far more than enough ways to traumatize your kid in simple everyday interaction.

    If only this, teach your kid that he is an individual and that his feelings and desires are natural and understandable.

    If you can’t handle that, maybe try blaming it on household cleaners.

    in reply to: The Stigma On Therapy Etc. #690364
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    I’m with oomis on this one.

    Your friend must get the help she needs regardless of the consequences. The alternative is far worse.

    Regarding the stigma, that seems to have diminished over the past several years.

    And it’s ok if the friend is you

    in reply to: Yeshivish uniform #1056018
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    i see I got a subtitle

    in reply to: Yeshivish uniform #1056016
    popa_bar_abba
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    what world do you people live in? to deny the significance of association is absurd.

    in reply to: Yeshivish uniform #1056006
    popa_bar_abba
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    you are asking two seperate questions here.

    A. What is the purpose and meaning of the “yeshivish levush”?

    B. What does it say about someone when they choose to dress like and identify with certain groups?

    in reply to: NYS Students Brace For Regents Examinations #686445
    popa_bar_abba
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    If not for regents, I would have actually had to do some work in high school. For example, I had failing grades in chemistry throughout the year (I’m talking 30s), then I learned the material in about 3 weeks of bathroom and spare time reading and got 95 on regents and passed the course. (anti-semite still gave me only a 65 on report card). Similar story with math 3.

    Really, it makes me wonder whether with the right teachers I could have come out of high school with a college graduate’s knowledge of all the major maths and sciences.

    in reply to: Worms In Fish #771326
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    so I was reviewing tolaim today and I’m wondering the following. How do we know that the worms which we witness migrating from the stomach to the flesh did not originate in the flesh and migrate to the stomach and then back? If that is the case, they are muttar.

    (I generally assume that unless we can show that there is a metzius which the shulchan aruch does not address, that the metzius of the shulchan aruch is correct.)

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