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There should be a “Wall of Shame” for both- the women who don’t let their ex’s see their kids and for the men who don’t want to give the get. Let this be public knowledge and the communities should shun both on either side . They are equally wrong!! and what about those that make up false allegations so their spouse cant see the kids!! all too common and not enough is being done about it!! thanks holybrother for bringing up this important topic!!! hopefully someone with power & resources can really do something !
Reserve the enclave at Tevere 84-its like a private table in its own corner sort of like a tunnel its very romantic perfect for a proposal!!! good luck!!
Theres a few places in philadelphia which is nearby..theres a milchig cafe dont know the exact name and theres Holy land pizza and Holy land grill….you can google kosher food philadelphia for teh addresses
Theres a blog shabbosgetaways.blogspot.com
No one mourns the wicked:
yes it really was too much drama and insanely addictive since I had a fb icon on my cell I would constantly be checking for “updates” all day @ work, at red lights etc…It feels good that I was strong enough to cancel-just proves when you do the right thing you feel great about it!!! also after cancelling-I dont think its a coincidence but I definitely noticed a lot of personal good things happening to me & my family!!! 🙂 so if anyones thinking about signing up-trust me been there done that and it ain’t worth the risks!
As someone who had facebook for awhile & deactivated my account, here are the reasons why:
1) to avoid nisayaon/temptation of accepting opposite gender “friend” requests.
2) a friend of mines account was hacked and posted things by hacker that she never would have posted.
3) to avoid seeing photos and language that are not with my hashkafa
4) ayin hara -its easy to get caught up with the whole fad of posting pics of your latest vacation or family pics and it really goes against the jewish concept of not flaunting everything you do…February 21, 2012 4:23 am at 4:23 am in reply to: New news story- OTD Lakewood woman with 4 kids wants custody #857134
Very sad. another chillul Hashem in the papers 1 wk after the deb feldman fiasco …sounds like this pearlperry woman is trying to get media attention bec shes losing the custody battle for her kids in court. Apparently , she was found to be unstable (bipolar mayb?) to get custody..
Without knowing the facts, you still havta ask yourself what type of mother she will be for her children, when this woman is pursuing a modeling career and sharing her inappropriate pictures and language with the papers and fb world…doesnt sound like a good role model to me….religious or not…
Keep davening for clarity–It does work!!! I am BH extremely Happily married and one thing I always davened for hard was to have clarity and I did !! I went out with close to 50 guys and when I met my husband it just felt sooo different than being with anyone else, After the 5th date I knew I wanted to marry him and did 🙂 so keep davening for clarity and anything else you find important such as middos!!!
checked out the torah times….no listing of shiurim there , only a list of mincha minyanim…any other leads???
Hi ok more specifically Im looking for a shiur for my husband -not daf yomi. more like a gemara or chumash nightly shiur…anyone?
For me & my husband we clicked right away- conversations just flowed naturally- we each felt like we just wanted to tell each other everything & thats why our dates went on till 3 am!!! 😉 I personally felt something was different about my husband than any other guy & by the 5th date I knew I wanted to marry him …some people have strong gut feelings that this is the one (like I BH did) but I know my friends sometimes couldnt decide whether he was right or not but general rule is keep going out if theres no reason to say no and see if the relationship builds up—you should like the person more after each date good luck!
what about in last week’s serial ? When Huvi tells her sister how Betzalel is going online to kefira blogs & the author implies that perhaps he is doing worse & looking at things he shouldnt be-when huvi cuts her sister off in mid sentence … anyone else get that perception that she is alluding to ‘other things’ ?
The Wolf-Where did you rent the villa ? What was called ?
modernlakewoodguy- “minimal powers” …uhhh “commander in chief ” of the army aint exactly minimal He can decide to bomb any country C”V our Holy land & by the time congress gets together to veto it ….Id rather not finish ..scary thought !!
Teenager-well its a great thing to be jealous about a person’s sprirtual level 🙂 I’d love to learn with you or something how do we get in touch ?-& thanks I am looking into being a mentor for Project YES Ive heard about it .
Teenager , I am a bit past my teens (I’m in early 20’s) but I still have associations with many teens and I know that what you are saying is very true there are many of todays “BY” type of girls and “yeshiva” boys doing detrimental things which have previoulsy been unfathomable ..I beleive the reason they are doing all these things is because they have a void they need to fill –if it ain’t going to be filled w/ spirituality and closeness to G-d then its gonna be filled with all the garbage out there which the teens are craving ..so how to solve it ?
We gotta show the beauty of our Heritage ,weve been persecuted, exhiled , opressed & pained but Am Yisrael will 4ever remain !! We are unique we have a special closeness with G-d and He wants us to enjoy life & to experience the greatest pleasure of life -which is connecting & coming close to our Creator .
When I was in high school I never thought about any of these spiritual things like why we’re here what our purpose is..but with time and going through challenges in life & attending great inspring shiurim I feel I have grown tremendously in my spirituality & guess what I feel so content , seriously its a great feeling -I am satisfied with who I am & what I do I dont feel I need to look 4 entertainment (TV/movies) which I used to do back in high school.
This is what we must do for our teens expose them to people who had challenges in their lives & overcame them & used those challenges to grow & become closer to Hashem & Judaism.
As for you idea of co-ed hangouts, sorry hon thats not gonna work –why cant girls have fun with girls and guys w/ guys separately?? you don’t want to create platonic relationships it just makes things harder 4 shidduchim and later married life , you dont wanna stand under your chuppa thinking about all the things you did with your boyfriends or “friends who happen to be boys “
Hatzlacha in your endeavors to try to fix this sitch , I’d love to help let me know what I can do I would be a mentor or something …
what about facebook ? do you know whos on your teenagers’ “friends” list ?
to respond to ‘madeofsteel’ the reason I put this on here was to honestly get ppl’s opinions on the aforementioned, bec I think they are haskafa issues rather than halachic (besides maybe the sharing the dish) .
The word hashkafa actually means “viewpoint” so ppl’s hashkafos will be different just as no two ppl are coming from the same exact backgrounds & same upbringings , it is very likely for ppl to have differing viewpoints or hashkafos , nothing wrong with that we have to be able to hear out others’ opinions in a non-attacking manner! The viewpoint I was looking for was for pretty mainstream BY/yeshiva type bec thats what ‘category’ I wud fall into ..
Personally I wouldnt say no to a guy if he did not walk me out of the car , but usually the more sensitive guys the ones who can win middos awards type will definitely walk the girl out @ end of date . Its just a thoughtful gesture nothing deeper and nothing untznius about it-he doesnt have to walk behind her-they walk together !
The opening the cardoor wasn’t even my question bec thats a given that its done @ least in my dating circles.
To the guy who suggested that the girls open the doors for the guys do u also want to reverse the whole dating roles, i.e. should the girl pick up the guy from his house?, should she drive?, pay for the date? propose ?? etc.. maybe we should chip in dating can be expensive ,gas tolls food etc.. & we can alternate who drives take turns on the dates 🙂 JK!
whoa this ‘cofferoom’ is getting steamed up , why we talking about whose life comes first ??…the question this is all branching off was about walking a girl back to her door or at least out of the car … opening the car door on dates is a given- s/t every guy Ive dated has done -I think its showing that the guy respects his date, and he is giving a certain ‘chashivus’ to the date.
also heres a 6th question to add to the discussion-what do you think about telling the boy/ girl “I had a great time “-if you really did have a good time but ur just not sure/dont think u want to date the person again ..is it ‘leading them on ?’
thanks 4 all ur responses and for responding “al rishon, rishon…” 🙂
ujm-can u explain WHY tu ruled out e/t as being “inappropriate ?
here are some things I have heard from others that can be wrong w/ some of the above :
1)pool & bowling – during these sports girl often has to bend over-may be tznius issue especially by pool i.e. leaning over table
2)complimenting on appearance- I know that guys seem to love compliments but 4 most girls it makes us feel uncomfortable-4sure in the beginning stages when u hardly know the other person yet.
3)walking out of car- I also feel its the right thing to do & gentlemanly, some yeshiva guys do this, but 4some reason a lot of yeshiva guys dont do it bec they say they feel uncomfortable ..
4)sharing a portion- what I mean is tasting from e/ others plates b4 youve bitten in so no germs issue-s/o once told me this is problematic bec even married couples @ crtn times (nida) can’t eat from e/ others plates
5)asking to be taken home -so its only ok if your not feeling well? whats if the shidduch is just wayy off & ur not in the mood of wasting ur/his time -can u say something like “I think you’re a really nice person and I may even have a friend for you.. I just dont think its gonna work ” ??
Jphone-ur idea of “its getting late ..” is a good one thats been used but thats sorta hinting that u dont think hes for you is it okay to just be honest/blunt in a nice way ?
Torahis1- about the ‘seatbelt issue’ I seriously think thats a joke-I dont know any girls that dont wear seatbelts on dates -& if they don’t they should be ticketed thats pathetic.