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MorahRach: I don’t believe Health is a troll. I firmly believe he displays the same behavior in real life.
And the pathetic and illogical statement he made that made you think he’s not a Health practitioner doesn’t mean he can’t be very competent in some Health occupation. Such behavior doesn’t mean a lack of intelligence and knowledge in other areas.
12 jurors whose qaulifications to judge someones life is their being unemployed or homeless or drunks
BH I am none of the above and if I was on the jury I would have pronounced him guilty.
There is enough circumstantial evidence to believe that the man is 100% guilty.
The kargaroo in that court was Webberman himself. OTOH that’s insult to the Kangaroo animal.
Sometimes women don’t care about how they look because they don’t feel good about themselves. If this is a problem, then show her more appreciation and give compliments as often as possible. In short, treat her well. Don’t know if this is the issue, but it’s a reason for some people who don’t take efforts with how they dress.
In addition, your wanting for her to dress better should be because you care about her too. If you just show that you want her to look good for your image or only for your enjoyment, then forget it.
(Just suggesting possibilities, not saying it definitely applies.)December 17, 2012 1:46 am at 1:46 am in reply to: The Weberman Trial By 5TJT Staff (this brought tears to my eyes) #913487
To those who say there is no evidence of weberman’s crime, look at Rabbi Yaakov Horowitz’s site. He states that 4 married women approached him regarding weberman’s ations and someone who claims to be one of his vicitims posted a comment on Howowitz’s site. So you may decide they are all lying, or Howowitz is lying but it isn’t only one person’s testimony.
If the husband were to be michalel shabbos in public or eat pork, it would sufficient reason to divorce. I see no difference.
As for your other question. It is both a logical decision and an emotional one. Unless it’s a divore required by the Torah, ALL divorces are due to emotions besides for logic.
How fast you changed it from godol hador to godol b’Torah.
WIY: No, I don’t expect him to tell us the truth. I asked because I wanted HIM to recognize the truth.
I have a better idea, why dont you become a Gadol Hador and stop trying to live through your child?!
Nasberg: you are avoiding the question. Not everyone thinks about their son becoming gadol hador, let alone go onto a public forum asking for ideas how to make it happen.
Those that try to make an effort to make it happen, have very varied reasons. Be honest with yourself and state what your real reason is.
Naysberg? Why do you wan your son to be a gadol hador?
Only to understand the dangerous nature of the technology. Someone like a Rov who needs to counsel others on its ills.
Cracking up laughing!!
I can guarantee you one thing: If you attempt to bring up your child as a gadol hador, you can be certain he won’t become one.
From revach.net website
Parshas Vayeishev – How To Make Your Child Smart
The pasuk says about Yosef that he was Yaakov’s Ben Zikunim. Literally this means the child born in his old age. Yet Targum Unkelus chooses to veer from the literal meaning and translates it as “Bar Chakim”, his wise son. Why does Unkelus do this?
The Chinuch Malchusi explains that baby of the family usually gets the most love. The older children must endure the father’s vision and his desire to raise the ideal child, the child of his dreams. When they fall short they pay the price and become a disappointment to their parents.
Not so the baby who is often treated more like a grandchild than a child, as he is overloaded with love and affection. Reality has set in, expectations are lowered, and age has softened the staff of the parents. The parents learn how to appreciate the good in the child, a thing that a well seasoned parent no longer takes for granted.
In this environment the child can flourish. His mind is at ease and his emotional needs satisfied. “Do not hit a child too much”, says Rabbeinu Gershon (Bava Basra 21a). “No one ever got smarter from being beaten.” With love you can do so much more!
While many of you think he must have been abused himself, it’s possible it’s the internet that is the blame for this terrible act.
Moishy: Contrary to what Zeaskite thinks, I think you’re a chassidishe yungerman, not married long, wearing a beeber hat and long reckel.
SilentOne: It would also be a good idea to evaluate yourself and try to understand why you picked such a person.
A man who driving down a road when he sees a woman crawling around on her hands and knees under a street lamp. He pulls over and asks her what’s going on? so she responds she’s looking for her keys. So he helps her look for it and then asks her if she has any idea where she dropped them. She answers that she lost them a mile down the road. “So why in the world are you looking here?” She answers “because it’s familiar territory and the light’s better.”
While this may not apply to you, sometimes even when we know someone is not what we want, but it’s comfortable simply because it’s familiar territory. Or we are so eager to please that we don’t realize we are being used and taken advantage of.
Again, it may not apply to you at all, but I think anyone who has in a failed marriage should evalulate not only how to not be fooled again but also to see if perhaps they also need to change someone so that they aren’t a victim again.
In this case I know what is probably the cause
So why not get books that gives insight and advice how to deal with this issue?
You sound like a very mature girl. Many girls come back from Girlzone different. They don’t even realize how they have changed. It’s others that notice the difference in them.
“Stop Surviving Start Living” by Rabbi Ben Zion Shafier
Easy reading, yet thought provoking.
I think the best way to take care of self esteem issues is seek to understand why you have an issue with self esteem to begin with.
Or a great way to understand is by sending your handwriting to be analyzed by a handwriting analyst to learn more about yourself.
Seek books that relate to the topic that your handwriting shows is not a good trait to have. I don’t believe simply reading self esteem books is going to help anyone.
My brother used to get ingrown toe nails and went each time to a podiatrist. The podiatrist cut it out each time, and it was like getting very minor surgery on the toe.
When I started getting them, I would put on something called outgrow (i dont know if it’s still available) brand name: “Dr. Sole” that I picked up in the pharmacy that made the nail very soft and numbed the toe a little, and then pulled it out myself. I did that several times and even cut it out with any of the “outgrow”.
I definitely preferred cutting it out myself (even if it was a little painful sometimes) than to going to get it cut out from a podiatrist and having to wear a slipper on that foot for a day or two.
Nothing wrong with trying what others here said u can try yourself.
mra: I think you should be able to ask your husband what it was he did, and he should tell you. I disagree with the others that you have to notice what was done. If you notice yourself, then great, if you don’t but want to show appreciation and therefore have to ask, great too. It’s the ones that notice (husbands & wives) and don’t acknowledge, that is bad.