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May a Girl Dress Up as a Chassidish Man in Adar?


By Rabbi Yair Hoffman for 5tjt.com

The craziness usually begins at about this time – Rosh Chodesh Adar.  It often involves, plays, talent shows, and, of course, dressing up.  But may the dressing involve wearing clothing of the opposite gender?

Believe it or not, this is a debate that has been transpiring for five centuries or more.

The Ramah writes (Shulchan Aruch OC 696:8 that when they wear masks and dress in clothing of the opposite gender on Purim, there is no prohibition in the matter, since their intent is only for rejoicing – but some say that it is forbidden.  However, the custom is like the first opinion (only for Purim, of course).

The TaZ (Yore Deah 182:4), however, cites the view of his father-in-law the Bach OC 696:8 that the custom must be abolished both on Purim and also for weddings.

The Chofetz Chaim in his Mishna Brurah 696:30 cites both views and adds the opinion of Rabbi Yoseph Teomin in his Pri Magadim (MZ 5) that if it is just one article of clothing and the person’s gender is recognized from the other articles of clothing – it is possible that one should not protest the matter.  The Knesses HaGedolh and the Shla, however, warned to distance from the practice.

WHERE DID IT COME FROM?

This brings us to the question of – where the custom to dress up on Purim comes from in the first place?

The first mention of the notion of Jews dressing up in costume seems to be in the responsa of one of our Poskim from Italy, Rav Yehudah Mintz (Responsa #17).   Rav Mintz lived in the late 1400’s and was niftar in Venice in 1508.

The Teshuvah says that there is no prohibition involved in dressing up on Purim even in dressing like a woman – since the reason is for Simcha and not for the purpose of immorality – to violate Torah law.  This is the origin of the ruling that the Ramah cited above actually comes from.

STEINSCHNEIDER’S ERROR

Moritz Steinschneider, (1816-1907) the great bibliographer whose impact and opinions are still felt today, brilliant though he was, cannot fathom that the minhag developed independently.  He attributes the development of the Minhag to the direct influence of the Roman Carnival. Carnival is a festive season which occurs immediately before the Catholic season of Lent. The Roman Carnival involved a public celebration and or parade that combined elements of a circus, the wearing of masks and public street partying. People would dress up in masquerade during these celebrations.  Carnival is a festival traditionally held in Roman Catholic and, to a lesser extent, Eastern Orthodox societies. It originated in Italy and was held in February.

TEMPERED VIEW OF CULTURAL DIFFUSION

But our Minhag did not come from Roman Carnival.  It is not that we believe that cultural diffusion does not exist.  We do.

But its application must be tempered with rational precision and reason.  We must always display a cautious intellectual approach.  Scholars who know what Klal Yisroel is actually all about, know that this particular type of cultural diffusion is about as likely as eggnog consumption and Chrismas Carolling affecting the behavior of Yeshiva boys on a Purim.

WE DON’T TAKE GOYISH CUSTOMS

It simply would not have happened.   End of story.  The apperception of the Roman Carnival in Torah circles was beyond the pale of acceptable activity even to mimic.  This cannot be the source – especially so close to the time of Rav Yehudah Mintz, who sanctioned it’s use.

No, we must look for other sources in order to find truth.  Steinschneider’s theory is just too pat.  We must also bear in mind that silence in the Seforim and responsa literature does not necessarily indicate absence in normative Jewish practice.  A Minhag could exist and yet not be mentioned in the Seforim or Teshuvos until much later.

THE APTER REBBE

The Apter Rebbe, Rav Avrohom Yehoshua Heschel, was known as the Ohaiv Yisroel.  He writes (Ohaiv Yisroel Shmos Section on Parshas Zachor) that one of the reasons why we dress up in masquerade on Purim is to show that the miracle of Purim came from something that actually would have initially caused us much grief.  This, says the Apter Rebbe, stresses that the greatest joy lies in the knowledge that the opposite result might very well have happened.  A good theory, but one that, perhaps, may sound more likely to be a post-development rationalization than the original cause of the Minhag.

OTHER VIEWS

Rav Yitzchok Weiss zatzal, author of the Siach Yitzchok and student of the Shaivet Sofer, explains (Siman 380) that the origin of the custom to dress up in masks is to highlight the fact that Haman hid his hate for the Jewish people when approaching Achashveirosh for permission to destroy Klal Yisroel.  Hashem responded, midah Keneged midah – measure for measure – by sending Eliyahu – disguised as Charvonah.  Eliyahu too was hiding his real intent – to defend the Jewish people.  Here, the idea of hiding, and a mask as a central theme of Purim seems likely.  It may very well have been the idea that spurred on the Minhag  in Klal Yisroel to wear masks.

The Bnei Yissaschar (on Adar 9:1) cites a Maharam Chagiz who quotes the Gemorah in Megillah (12a).  The Gemorah explains that the Jewish people only did things “Lifnim” – hidden – So Hashem as well only did things “Lifnim” – hidden.

The theme of hiding and its association with Purim, therefore, is found explicitly in the Gemorah itself.  Could it have developed just then?  Perhaps, but it is hard to imagine that it developed back then and no mention of this custom was made from 500 CE until the late 1400’s.

The mystery continues.

A FASCINATING TOSFOS AND  NEW THEORY

However, there is a Tosfos in tractate Rosh haShana (3a) that might be very enlightening here. The Tosfos deal with a fascinating episode in Parshas Chukas in the book of Bamidbar (21:1).  The Cnaani in the Negev (the south) hear that Klal Yisroel has arrived and go out to do battle with them.  Rashi identifies the incongruity.  The Negev??  Why, that is Amalek!

Rashi’s conclusion is that it was Amalekites who spoke in the Cnaani dialect so that Klal Yisroel will pray to Hashem that the Cnaanim be handed over to them and not the Amelikes!

Our Tosfos, however, add more.  They write that the Amalekites changed not only their voices and dialect, they changed their clothing too.  They cite the person who wrote the piut for Parshas Zachor – Ksus VeLashon Shineh – Clothing and language he (or they) did change!

So here is the theory, then.

It is France and Germany, not Italy.  The Paytan for Parshas Zachor has written that they changed their clothing – referring to the Amalekites.  Jews see it.  Parshas Zachor is close to Purim.  Very close.  Some regular people read the piut.  They may think, perhaps, that it refers to Jews..  The scholars among them realize that it refers to Amalekites, but Haman is from Amalek anyway.

On Purim we are Marbeh BeSimcha.  It is in the Piut.  They begin to dress up, like Haman.  The Minhag catches on.  The Talmidei Cgachomim of Germany accept it.

Soon the practice travels to Italy.  Steinschneider cannot resist and attributes it to the Roman Carnival.  But he errs.  It is much likelier that it came from the Piut for Parshas Zachor.  The origin is a kasher minhag b’Yisroel from German-Jewry.

And now we go back to the Apter Rav – the Ohaiv Yisroel.  He writes that one of the reasons why we dress up in masquerade on Purim is to show that the miracle of Purim came from something that actually would have initially caused us much grief.  This, says the Apter Rebbe, stresses that the greatest joy lies in the knowledge that the opposite result might very well have happened.  It is a Minhag that brings us ever closer to the true Dveikus Bashem and Simcha that lies at the heart of what Purim is all about.

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4 Responses

  1. “Scholars who know what Klal Yisroel is actually all about, know that this particular type of cultural diffusion is about as likely as eggnog consumption and Chrismas Carolling affecting the behavior of Yeshiva boys on a Purim.”

    There is a big difference, as Xmas is not near Purim, while Carnival is.

    The fact is that numerous Hasidic songs come from gentiles, both in the past as well as in our days, one prominent example being the song “Yidden” by the Chusid singer MBD.

    The attempt of the author to connect it with German Jewry is difficult. If it comes from the piyut, it could have started many centuries earlier, which we do not see. Such fanciful ideas are laughable.

    Just as we see today some “frum” doing things taken from gentiles, such as rap music, and certain gentile dances at Hasidic weddings, as well as other things, and Hasidim dressing through the year in costumes of gentiles from hundreds of years ago, e.g. shtreimels, it is therefore not difficult to believe that some people did the same type of borrowing centuries ago with masquerading.

    Perhaps this piece can qualify as “Purim Torah” (a parody, rather than than genuine scholarship), but if it wants to be taken seriously, it seems quite lacking.

  2. “WE DON’T TAKE GOYISH CUSTOMS”

    Actually we do. Both trousers, and Fedora hats, were women’s garments originally. Then when they became customary among gentile men, Jewish men took on the custom. Wigs were unknown for a thousand years until early modern Europe in gentile society and Jewish women took on that custom.

    Much Jewish music is also in the style of gentiles.

    Not saying that any of this is wrong but we should tell the truth, that sometimes we DO take on gentile customs.

  3. The author of this article failed to include the many halachic sources that state that women and girls should not dress up altogether on Purim.

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