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tzippi, I’m not ronsnr but the coupons he is talking about are probably not internet printables, so they’d be accepted by most stores (subject to coupon limits, which vary by store).
I save the coupon inserts from the Sunday paper (I pay less than $1/ week for the daily paper). If the inserts for a particular week include very good coupons, I buy extra papers at the dollar store.
I don’t cut out and sort these coupons. Instead I write the date on each insert and file it. When I plan my shopping, I look up the product in an online coupon database & cut out the coupons I need for that week’s sales.
Also, when you are shopping you can find extra coupons in advertising displays (either tearpads or those blinking machines that dispense one coupon at a time). I try to pick up a few of any coupon I see for a kosher product, even if it doesn’t seem to be worth much, because you never know when a sale or other promotion will come along that will match perfectly with the coupon.
Beside couponmom you may want to try other couponing websites, especially those with active forums for your grocery store. Sometimes the best deals aren’t well-advertised, but are discussed online.
I don’t pay more than $1.50 for a bottle of brand name mayo. I am not brand conscious about laundry detergent, so I don’t pay more than $1 for a 32 load bottle. (I find that some products manufactured specifically for dollar stores are of lower quality than their regular store-brand or name-brand couterparts).
Sales on brand-name products are less frequent, but sometimes brand-name products can work out to be cheaper than store-brand, since you can combine sales with coupons and other promotions. This does require storage space and some planning but is not too difficult.
This week my grocery store paid me to take home cereal, snacks, and baking mixes.
charliehall, using less energy is a good idea, but demand-side management isn’t a great long-term solution for energy needs. Personally I think that nuclear power is the way to go, even if global warming is not an issue, since it produces no particulate pollution. (Pollution from coal-fired plants kills tens of thousands per year).
Lots of great ideas here. I’d like to see some recipes if possible:
Wolfish Musings, how do you make Scarborough Fair chicken? I’d guess it includes parsley, sage, rosemary, and thyme, but can you post the details?
Sacrilege, most cream soups include milk or cream. How do you make your cream of chicken soup?
SJS, how do you make the pumpkin pie?
SJS, are you a log cabin republican then?October 10, 2010 4:49 pm at 4:49 pm in reply to: Handed a Pen during Shiva – anyone know the story? #1006682
PY, in that case he should have given the pen to one of the aveil’s friends or relatives.
Oomis, I don’t think that D”Y checks for many non-life-threatening diseases. I’ve not seen their brochure in some time, though.
Sometimes my younger kids clean surfaces with baby wipes. This is a great way for even very young children to help, since you don’t have to worry about them spilling buckets of water or spraying/ eating cleaning fluids.
so right, I’d rather not explain the rashi explicitly here, because I don’t think it’s appropriate for this forum. But I will say that Rashi comments on the fact that the pasuk describes Rivka as a “besulah” and also notes “v’ish lo yada”, and explains why the language in the pasuk is not redundant as it might seem at first glance.
Reading this commentary makes it clear that tznius was definitely not a given for the local girls/ women in that time.
so right, why do you think tznius was a given? Perhaps you should read the pasuk that describes Rivka as a “besulah”, and note Rashi’s commentary on the apparent redundancy there.
When Eliezer was looking for an appropriate wife for Yitzchok Avinu, he (through ruach hakodesh) used midos, not tznius, as a litmus test.
How about shabbos pens? These are felt-tip pens filled with temporary ink, intended for use by medical professionals on shabbos. Because the ink is temporary, using them on shabbos violates a d’rabbanan and not a d’oraisa. (Depending on the writing surface & exposure to light, records must be copied after shabbos is over).September 17, 2010 9:25 am at 9:25 am in reply to: Why don't heimeishe ladies use baby slings to schlep babies? #696213
emoticon, I know that CR posters are not against male circumcision, but just mentioned that point because it’s almost a touchstone of natural parenting.September 16, 2010 1:50 am at 1:50 am in reply to: Why don't heimeishe ladies use baby slings to schlep babies? #696199
SJS, another “crunchy” characteristic is extended nursing, with or without tandem nursing.
Keep in mind, too, that many “crunchy” parents are against circumcision.
I would’ve guessed Izevel.
g73, it seems to me that Rashi is saying that Yitzchok waited until she was 3 to marry her because she was then “raoi l’biah”; this implies that they did indeed “get married” when she was that age. At age 13, according to Rashi, Rivka was capable of becoming pregnant, so that Yitzchok waited 10 years from that point before concluding that she was an akarah.
I lived in a central US community which supports several kollel families. Because it is out of town, the kollel pays well. The wages are in the form of a parsonage, so most kollel families are eligible for WIC & Medicaid for children & pregnant women, and some receive food stamps as well. Kollel families are not expected to pay tuition, even for preschool. Housing is much cheaper than in any large communities in the tri-state area. Most of the kollel wives do not need to work in order to support their families, and many can afford household help as well. So if she and her husband are willing to consider an out-of-town kollel, this is definitely possible.
bmw, I think I understand your point about not wanting to overload your child with therapy appointments, and am not assuming that this is a financial issue. That said, perhaps it would be worthwhile, as oomis suggested, to ask (a) professional therapist(s) to evaluate your son and outline a treatment plan you can administer independently.
executor =/ executioner
noitallmr, especially if it’s a large will.
Kasha, I don’t know the exact working hours of these surgeons. I do know that they spend at least 30 hours per week in surgery & clinic. I also know that they spend additional hours per week rounding on their patients & consulting & ordering/ following up on labs, but I don’t know exactly how long this takes (non-surgical physicians I know generally spend over 10 hours per week on these tasks).
I do agree that there are other career choices in the medical field that can be done on a part-time basis. For someone who wants to work well-defined hours & doesn’t want to take call, working as a hosptitalist is a good choice.
However, given your opinion of college campuses, I’m not sure why you’d recommend a career in medicine at all. Any type of board-certified clinical physician in this country must spend at least 10 years in school/ training (assuming one completes undergrad in 3 years). Obviously surgical specialties take longer than, say, primary care.
Kasha, I’ve met dozens of surgeons in my life, and I don’t know any who work only 20 hours per week. Do you? If you do, for how many years did they work full-time plus before reaching that point? And how many hours did they learn weekly during their training? Also, how could you suggest a career in medicine given the “apikorsus and licentiousness” that you believe are endemic to college campuses?
Some career options for a physician looking for shorter hours would be to join a medium to large group practice (either in a private or hospital setting) or working as a hospitalist. The latter choice can give one a lot of lattitude in terms of choosing shifts and also avoids the issue of call. Compared to working as a hospitalist, working in a group practice generally requires that one work longer, less-defined hours and take call, but can be more lucrative.
Some of the physicians I know who are working mothers have husbands who work from home or have flexible hours and/or multiple childcare plans. Others have husbands who have more lucrative positions/ practices, so that the family does not rely largely on the mother’s income.
I believe that charliehall is a physician. Perhaps he could comment on the practicality of surgery as a part-time profession.
Kasha, I mentioned 6 hours per week because GAW suggested a surgeon working 3 hours a couple of days a week. From what I’ve seen, even 18 hours per week just isn’t realistic for a surgeon in this country, considering that most surgeons spend more time in clinic & on rounds/consults (including time spent ordering and following up on labs and writing notes) than they do actually performing surgery. Also keep in mind that during the training/ education period (13-15 years) most will not have much time to learn. In any case, given your stated opinion about college campuses, I’m not sure you’d consider surgery a good choice at all.
Do you personally know any surgeons? Do you know any who work only 18 hours per week? If so, how many hours did they spend learning every week while completing their education & establishing their careers?
GAW, I often agree with your posts, but I don’t think it’s that realistic for a surgeon to work 6 hours weekly in this country. Perhaps there are surgeons who actually perform surgery for only 6 hours weekly, but surgeons also spend many hours per week seeing patients in the office or clinic and consulting in the hospital, not to mention continuing education requirements.
Also keep in mind that qualifying as a surgeon in this country requires an undergraduate degree (including all med school prereqs), an MD (4 years), and residency training (I think it’s about 5 years for surgeons). Some specialties require additional fellowship training. Except for perhaps the undergraduate degree and the 4th year of med school, the training/ education process is very intense & the hours are very long. Most physicians probably wouldn’t be able to learn many hours a day while completing their education and training.
Someone looking to spend much of the day learning would in my opinion be better served by choosing a non-surgical specialty; some residencies are only three years long and not all positions require fellowship training.July 7, 2010 4:15 am at 4:15 am in reply to: Breach in Tznius: Recent affliction attacking Klal Yisroel #1025518
Kasha, I don’t understand that at all. Please explain.July 7, 2010 3:55 am at 3:55 am in reply to: Breach in Tznius: Recent affliction attacking Klal Yisroel #1025514
Regarding the incident of Kimchis: I believe that there is only one Kohain Gadol at a time. If this is true, does this mean that 6 of the sons of Kimchis died during her lifetime? Presumably Kimchis lived a very long time, then. Is there any record in the gemara of how long she lived, how long her sons lived, and the causes of their deaths?
GAW, that’s a good point. He’s an adult, so clearly not obligated to listen to his parents regarding college attendance. Of course his parents are not obligated to provide financial support for his yeshiva/ living expenses either.
charliehall, the article d a quoted seemed suspicious to me because I figured that if there were any civil liberties issue with the internet bill that I would’ve heard more about it (even the Wall Street Journal didn’t complain about it, and their publisher is not a big Obama supporter). And, in fact, Senator Lieberman, who doesn’t agree with many of President Obama’s policy decisions, is in favor of the bill. So I checked out the prisonplanet website & found that Mr. Jones is a conspiracy theorist a la Lyndon Larouche. But I could’ve just read the bill myself, as you did, which would’ve been quicker & spared me some lunatic ravings.
Thanks charliehall for posting that.
d a, I would not quote prisonplanet as a source for President Obama’s supposed agenda behind the internet “kill switch”. Alex Jones, who runs that website, has some rather unconventional beliefs. For example, he maintains that the Mossad either helped plan the 9/11 attacks, or knew about them and deliberately withheld that information from the US government (while warning Israeli citizens to stay away from the towers that day).
For these and other reasons, I consider Senator Lieberman a much more reliable source regarding the President’s intentions.
ICOT, thanks for those–I should take out my copy of the Devil’s Dictionary to review, since I’ve not read it in a while.
Tay-Sachs was first identified in the 19th century as a disease most common in ashkenazic Jews.
mosherose, i wasn’t implying c”v that Yaakov didn’t love Rachel for spriritual reasons. You claimed that love can only come after marriage, never before. As proof of that you cited the fact that Yitzchok loved Rivka after they married, not before. I was simply pointing out that love can come before marriage too.
mosherose, great point. That’s why you’ll never read a biography of a gadol that mentions him reading the newspaper.
mosherose, the torah also says that Yaakov loved Rachel before he married her.
Those rules make sense but you’d be surprised how many people don’t think. I have an acquaintance who told me that a colleague of his was fired for violating rule #2. They both worked for the National Security Agency.
When I met Rebbetzin Zaks 20 years ago, her mother had already been niftar over a decade previously.
I don’t know when she passed away, but I think it must have been some time ago. The Chofetz Chaim was born in 1838, so even if she was 30 years younger she was born in 1868, over 140 years ago. She escaped Europe with the Mirrer Yeshiva and is buried in Queens.
Rebbetzin Zaks lived in e”y towards the end of her life–I visited her when I was in seminary.
The Chofetz Chaim’s daughter from his second marriage, Rebbetzin Faige Zaks, was niftar within the past 10 years or so. His second wife died quite a while ago.
allegory works if you are allowed to add a letter but I suppose you aren’t
SJS, I agree. I know married women who are physicians, lawyers, engineers, and other professionals. Not one of them has been pushed into her career by her husband. In fact, nearly all of them began their professional education and training before meeting their husbands.
clearheaded, to give more insight on the pasuk Kasha quoted, you can check the Rashi on the pasuk. He relates the words “and he will rule over you” to the first half of the pasuk. According to him, these words are both proscriptive and descriptive, but refer to a specific aspect of the marriage relationship (not general decision-making).
hereorthere, your theory that infants are discouraged from looking in mirrors so as not to promote vanity or self-absorption is an interesting one. However, I disagree with that explanation, because most babies won’t recognize themselves in a mirror before they’re a year old. Before that age, looking in a mirror wouldn’t foster vanity, since infants don’t realize they are seeing themselves. And judging from previous posts, there don’t seem to be any minhagim discouraging babies from looking in mirrors past one year of age.
Kasha, which other cities have lowered their requirements? And exactly which requirements have they lowered?
Since you are the one making the assertion that fire departments all over the country have lowered their requirements to appease feminists, you are the one who should cite your sources. Otherwise I’ll assume you are stating an opinion, similar to your claim that I’d make “a fine Egyptian slave-master”. (Actually my 7-year-old would agree with this, since I forced her to study for her spelling test before playing outside, a task which she felt suited neither her natural interests nor her abilities).
kasha, please name specific cities/ districts that have lowered their requirements for firefighters, and when they lowered their requirements.
charliehall, some posters have expressed concern that female firefighters are not as well qualified as male firefighters. In your experience at FDNY, how do the qualifications of female firefighters compare to those of their male counterparts?
kasha, which fire departments in the US have lower standards for female firefighters than for male ones?
Kasha, Egyptians forced women to do work they were not willing or able to do well. You are saying that I am just like an Egyptian slave master because I think that women should be allowed to fight fires if they are able/ qualified to do so. Do I have that right?
(And here I didn’t even know that the Egyptians forced Jewish women to work as firefighters. Who says the CR isn’t educational?)
Kasha, sorry, I don’t get it. The Egyptian slave masters forced women to work at tasks they were not able/ qualified to do. I agree that women should not be forced to work as firefighters. Neither should men, for that matter. But what does that have to do with barring women from fighting fires, if it’s a job they are interested in and qualified for?
Kasha, how exactly does the existence of female firefighters “torture” society (again, assuming they meet the same physical requirements as male firefighters)?
I’d think that if firefighting companies can choose from female candidates as well as male candidates, then the average caliber of firefighters can only improve (since firefighting companies would choose the best candidates). People and property have a better chance of surviving fires. If that’s “torture”, then bring it on.
clearheaded, why is it “unseemly” for a man to babysit? Is it also unseemly for a man to care for his own children? What if the children are related to him?
And why is it unseemly for a woman to be a firefighter, assuming she meets all of the (non-adjusted) physical requirements for the job?
Both hereorthere and missme alluded to words in sefer beraishis which they say indicate that a wife should be submissive to her husband in all aspects of their relationship. It seems to me that they are referring to the words “v’hoo yimshol bach”. However, Rashi connects those words to the first half of the pasuk. According to his explanation, these words do indicate that a wife is/ should be submissive to her husband, but are referring to one specific aspect of the marriage relationship.