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not2bright, I think the woman mentioned most frequently in nevi’im is Izevel.
hadassa, I think you mean 40 highest quarters, not 40 highest years.
All You Need is Cash preceded and inspired This is Spinal Tap.
Jothar, weren’t the Rutles a parody of the Beatles?
shlishi, are you saying that “schaudenfreude” translates to “saturated”? Because it doesn’t.
AinOhdMilvado, another word that doesn’t have a one-word counterpart is “schaudenfreude”.
I see, thanks.
Derech HaMelech, thanks for explaining.
MDG, are you saying that Rabbi Meir went to galus because he did not expect that result? If so, what did he think would happen? If you (or someone else) could answer, I’d appreciate it, because I still find the incident puzzling.
Pac-Man, you seem to be saying that naming a woman in a wedding invitation violates tznius standards. If so, why is it appropriate to give the kallah’s name?
mosherose, were you posting from an iphone?
Pac-Man, I don’t agree that there’s “nothing wrong” with frum couples not applying for a marriage license (even if it’s not illegal), which is why I wrote that there “may not be” any problem with that. But I am glad you agree that even couples who are not legally married are required to report all household income.
However (and this question is for GAW or anyone else familiar with the practice of not obtaining marriage licenses for monogamous marriages), if the family reports all household income as they are legally required to do, how does not getting a marriage license entitle them to greater government benefits?
Pac-Man, while there may not be any problem with neglecting to obtain a marriage license, one must report total household income when applying for most (if not all) government benefits. So even if the married couple has no marriage license, if they are living together they must report the husband’s income. Given that this is the case, how exactly does the couple benefit by not obtaining a marriage license?
Unless you are referring to a polygamous marriage. In that case, by marrying without obtaining a license the husband could avoid prosecution for bigamy, but all household income must still be reported.
ICOT, would you vote for Bachmann?
AYC, despite my efforts I could not find anyone frum whose situation was sufficiently similar to mine to provide meaningful support. I did however find a helpful (though non-Jewish) online community.
correction, I hope you had a peaceful and comforting shabbos.
correction–I am so sorry you are going through this. For the past year I’ve been dealing with my own difficult situation. I don’t know anyone frum in this situation so I felt very isolated and could not find a frum mentor or similar support.
Hashem knows this is tough for you and knows your capabilities–so maybe your nisayon right now isn’t to ignore the pain and function as you normally would, but rather to get through the next day or hour or however long you can manage.
Do you have friends or siblings who can offer some support, even if you don’t have a true mentor? As other posters noted, it also really helps to find other people who are dealing with situations similar to yours. If you can’t find a real-life support group, an online support group can be helpful too.
Is it possible that USPS self-insures, as some other large companies do?
Dr. Pepper, do you have any sister(s) who are/ were in shidduchim? If so, what do/ did your parents tell shadchanim regarding suggesting BTs for them?
basket of radishes, I understand why you’re insulted, but I find the suggestion that someone kill himself even more offensive.
Nice to see a yeshiva in St. Louis (OK, Chesterfield) again.
GMAB II, are you saying that the first GMAB shared an IP address with Joseph, but unlike, say, Will Hill, was not Joseph’s sockpuppet? How do you know that? And if you do know that, how do you not know whether this GMAB is the same poster?
Now that you mention it, I thought that Give Me a Break was a strawman sockpuppet of another poster. It’s interesting to note that the first reply to this question is from a poster notorious for creating sockpuppets.
shein, a single mother should definitely include her boyfriend’s income as part of her household income if they are living together. To omit his income may constitute fraud. If they are not living together she is not obligated to include it though.
PBA, you wrote:
Well, you could just not marry your wife, and then she will be a single mother and could collect all sorts of government benefits and stay on her parents health insurance.
My question on that is: Which government benefits would a single mother qualify for that a married mother would not, assuming the same household income (since presumably the frum “single” mother would still be including her partner’s income as household income)?
shein, as long as they are properly reporting all household income, they are definitely not violating any civil law. Some might argue that there are maras ayin issues associated with obviously-frum couples cohabitating and/or having children without being civilly married, but that is a separate issue.
However, if the couple is not married and c”v one becomes ill, the other partner may not have legal standing to make medical or other decisions on behalf of the ill partner. And if c”v one partner dies, the survivor may likewise encounter legal problems regarding inheritance of the estate (assuming that both parents are listed on any children’s birth certificates, custody of the children would probably not be an issue).
Oh, and 13. is stumping
1. punctual
2. tub
5. tuesday’s child
6. stuffing
7. tugboat
8. parachute
12. tulip
18. sturm and drang
19. cactus
22. tuval kayin
23. wuthering heights
25. stuyvesant?
justlooking, what you are saying makes perfect sense, and as a parent with direct experience you surely know better than I do. Some of my older kids need extra help in school, and in my town, it’s easier for them to get help from the school district (at their yeshiva) if there’s a medical diagnosis.
justlooking, my daughter doesn’t have TS but I researched it because when she was a toddler/ preschooler she was so little that her pediatrician did a karyotype to rule it out. I’ve read that sometimes kids with TS can have learning difficulties. If a child with TS does have learning problems then if her school knows the diagnosis it might make it easier to obtain extra help for her.
Health, I’d imagine simchas isn’t on here all the time, so isn’t aware that you posted a follow-up question. I only posted because I was surprised that you’d ask such a basic question. Fertility issues are not some obscure aspect of TS, almost everyone with TS has some sort of fertility issue, as a direct consequence of lacking part/ all of an X-chromosome.
And no, I don’t have any other screennames. I barely post under my own.
Health, as a medical professional you are surely aware that many (or most) girls with Turner’s experience fertility issues. I’d guess simchas was alluding to this in his/her post.
PBA and mod-80, most of us don’t have 1024 distinct ancestors going back ten generations, since there’s some overlap due to inbreeding. This phenomenom, called pedigree collapse, is well-documented in the general population but I’d guess it’s more pronounced among Jews.
nishtdayngesheft, I knew a woman who used to say, “yichus is like potatoes; the best part is underground”. And she definitely had yichus (though not chassidish).
Clairvoyant, where does Treason Act 1351 prescribe the death penalty to Diana for her infidelity? Please quote the exact wording, since I’m not seeing it.
I’ve read Treason Act 1351 and can’t see where it prescribes the death penalty for Diana, only for James Hewitt. If someone else could read it and tell me what I’m missing, I’d appreciate it.
mdd, are you saying that James Hewitt and Lady Diana were deserving of death simply because Lady Diana was married to another man when their relationship took place (and not specifically because she was married to the heir)? If so, would not Charles himself and Camilla Parker-Bowles (who was then married to Andrew Parker Bowles) be equally liable for their relationship? Prince Charles himself admitted adultery, and it’s widely known that their relationship lasted decades, preceding and continuing throughout her marriage to Andrew.
I believe that the birth certificate is real, as was the short form released years ago. As to why President Obama didn’t release it earlier, I think it provided him with a useful distraction from real issues as well as a complaint against his political enemies. As long as people are obssessing about the birth certificate, they are not raising issues regarding his presidency and policies. Also, since most Americans (correctly) believed before this that President Obama was born in this country, the accusations of the “birthers” was a great way to discredit much of the President’s Tea Party opposition. Many Americans who might otherwise have agreed with Tea Party issues were put off by the “birther” claims, which got more publicity than most Tea Party issues because they were so sensational.
As to why the President released the long form now: I’m not sure, maybe he was afraid Donald Trump could do some real political damage, and wanted to forestall that. Or maybe, like he said, he felt that the rumors were distracting from the political goals he’d like to accomplish.
Thanks ICOT! Always on the lookout for cheap GF recipes.
PBA, regarding OOT schools and kollel families/klei kodesh, what GAW describes fits my own experience as well. Out family lived in an OOT community in the central US which has a kollel. We sent our children to the newer day school. About two-thirds of the students had parents who were klei kodesh (kollel or rabbeim in other schools) and/or school staff members, so they paid minimal or no tuition. The kollel was supported by a gvir in town, and as GAW noted, these klei kodesh families tend to be large k”ah.
I worked to support my husband in grad school, so my children were part of the “wealthy” third of the student body (at least until I lost my job).
In this town, a significant number of non-klei kodesh families were indeed sufficiently well-off to easily pay full tuition. This tended to create an impression that all non-klei kodesh families in the student body were wealthy.
bpt, you wrote:
“Now, in anticipation of the next question, “what should I do with / who should watch the other 2-3-4 kids I’m travelling with, while I’m in the restroom feeding infant” with multiple kids, bottles are a pretty sure thing, as childcare is most likely a given.”
Actually, for my youngest, who has several older siblings k”ah, a bottle was not a “sure thing”; since she was never away from me for long as an infant, she never learned to accept a bottle. I’m sure many other mothers had the same experience. When our family traveled together by plane, I nursed during takeoff and landing and other times as needed. No one seemed to notice and since she was quiet no one cared.
More than once I’ve traveled alone with a baby and the person sitting next to me slept for most of the ride. This would not have been possible if I’d have tried to give a bottle.
Regarding my iy”h future grown son flying to e”y: if the least tzniusdig sight he sees is a mother discreetly nursing an infant in her seat, then ashreinu. I have very rarely seen any woman reveal much while nursing an infant in public, and never a frum woman.
I’m not quite over 40, but was wondering whether there were any other Monty Python fans on here.
Health, would you please clarify a question I had? Are you saying that in Olam Haba, Avigayil is married to Naval and Bas-sheva, the mother of Shlomo HaMelech, is married to Uriah? Neither can be married to Dovid HaMelech, since each married him after the death of her spouse, correct? Thanks.
Where was Avigayil, the wife of Dovid HaMelech, buried–next to Dovid or next to her first husband, Naval? For that matter, what about Dovid’s wife Bas-sheva? Does anyone know?
Derech Hamelech,
Bris Milah is a mitzvas aseh, the mark of a Jewish man, and a mitzvah that Jews throughout history have risked their lives to fulfill. Somehow I don’t consider using food stamps to be a mitzvas aseh that marks Jews or a mitzvah we should risk our lives to fulfill. Your mileage may vary, of course.
It can definitely be done. I have two friends–they are sisters actually–who are physicians. If your parents will pay for med school then you can avoid student loans, which can be large.
don’t forget about throat cancer
I never had to have a baby fast, but I’ve had to have older kids (toddler and up) fast for procedures/tests. I try to change their routines so that they are less likely to notice that they’re not eating, and of course I don’t feed my other kids around them.
MiI, my daughter did not require a cleanout before her endoscopy–just the fasting because of the anesthetic.
Mother in Israel,
My daughter had an endoscopy when she was 4 years old to confirm her diagnosis of celiac (had the bloodwork done because she was falling off the growth charts but had no other symptoms). As other posters noted, your baby will have to fast so her procedure will probably be one of the first scheduled for the day. My daughter was given versed and was discharged about half an hour after she woke up. As far as I remember, she did not report any pain, but was hungry afterwards.
cherrybim, why does Rav Moshe allow widows, but not divorcees, to uncover their hair?
I believe most animal shelters spay/ neuter cats and dogs, so someone who obtains a shelter pet can avoid that issue.
In any case, I’d guess that many divorced women stop wearing their wedding rings, so even if they continue covering their hair the absence of the ring may be a clue.