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Is the yetzer hora involved with holding a knife any less strong?
Yes
Hogwash.
The yetzer hora involved in having a smartphone, whether it be to view inappropriate content, or allowing it to distract from important things, is very different from having chicken and cheese in the same fridge
You can argue that some people’s need for it supercedes the dangers, but don’t pretend that the dangers don’t exist.
Whatever
Again, the next person who directly and pointedly responds to these questions instead of insulting me and claiming I lack mathematical acumen will be the very first.
Okay, here goes.
1. Proponents of this theory inevitably believe in the concept of a bashert and that God created a soul-mate for every person born. So how do they explain from a theological perspective how God could possibly be responsible for a demographic imbalance, as only He could be?
You’re making an incorrect assumption. I am a proponent of age gap but don’t believe every single person born has an inevitable soul-mate. That’s not what Chazal said, and even the gemara about the bas kol is explained by the meforshim as not necessarily applying in all situations.
Also, Chazal say shemoneh esreh l’chupah. Don’t blame G-d for a man made crisis caused by not following Chazal.
2. How is it moral and ethical for a shadchan to suggest anything other than the most suitable match for her client, and instead let a presumed demographic issue factor into her matchmaking?
Agreed. However, in the past, many boys would not have considered an otherwise suitable girl, simply because of age. That is b”H changing. Also, there are often equally suitable (to the shadchan’s eye) matches, so proposing one which would benefit society would not be unethical.
Also, proposing shidduchim to younger boys if they and their parents and rebbeim feel they are ready doesn’t involve this issue.
3. How is it moral and ethical for a shadchan to hide from singles that they are influenced by outside factors?
I’m not sure what you mean by that, but any broker (halachah views a shadchan as a type of broker) is influenced by factors that aren’t necessarily to the benefit of his clients, and has to know the halachos of what he must and what he need not disclose.
4. If it is true that women are at such a terrible disadvantage, why are women so quick to turn down suitors, often for the most trivial reasons? That is hardly the behavior one would expect from people who are supposedly competing for a mate from an endangered species. Did single women fail to get this memo?
Whether or not women turn down men for trivial reasons (men do the same, BTW) has nothing to do with the number disparity. They obviously don’t think their reasons are trivial, and would usually say they wouldn’t marry the guy if he was the last man on Earth. Anyway, he’s not.
According to what you wrote above,
I didn’t make it up.
one would have to be perfect.
No, the פסוק says כי אדם אין צדיק בארץ אשר יעשה טוב ולא יחטא
But if you want to make you your own definition of tzaddik, go right ahead. You can alter the definition any way you want to make anyone you want into a tzaddik.
Whatever
The Gemara uses it in a number of places to limit a shiur of something referred to in the Torah. Here’s an example:
It seems to be an anology to trying to grab something too big. You won’t be able to hold it, and will end up with nothing.
It’s only a “crisis”, because the Jewish community is stunned that many women want to obtain a legitimate education and profession moving forward. I promise that it will not be the end of the faith, if individuals get married at a more matured age, versus being pressured into marriage at a point where they cannot even legally buy alcohol.
Same question.
One of societal Casualties Of The Shidduch Crisis is reduced population growth .
How are you defining “The Shidduch Crisis”?
LU, what is the definition of the word tzaddik?
The very definition of the word “tzaddik” is someone who conducts himself according to the letter of the halachah.
GH, why would there be a difference between a Jew or non-Jew?
I would send my brother to spy out the situation.
Thanks all I would like to think its because my posts are not controversial enough to merit response
I don’t know if “merit” is the right word, but that’s probably the reason.
BTW, if some jerk decides to still pretend you’re invisible (for example, by asking who we’re talking to), just ignore him.
Hi, Goq.
If he thinks “there’s a reasonable possibility of immediate danger” should he ask his Rav?
Of course not (unless the rav happens to be the best person to deal with the immediate situation).
Those saying he should call for help are obviously talking about before he asked his rov.
Which, at the time, he didn’t seem to think was necessary, and presumably his rav agreed (unless he told him to call the police or Shomrim or whomever the next time it happens, which the OP should have mentioned had that been the case).
So it seems that people are in fact telling him to disregard his rav.
Of course the general exhortation “If you think there’s a reasonable possibility of immediate danger, call someone who can intervene” is correct.
I’m just not sure why people are jumping to the conclusion that the case was such here (reasonable chance of sakana), when the Rav (and apparently, originally the OP) didn’t think so.
Could the rav be wrong? Possibly, but it shouldn’t be presumed.
Okay, so he wasn’t sure if he has no daas or if he suffers from a cognitive/emotional roadblock. So he asked his rav. Yes, we don’t know who his rav is, but he apparently thinks his rav is reliable, or there is no use asking.
Should he follow his rav, who knows as much of the story as he related (and possibly a lot more), or some posters who think that the fact that he used the word “shriek” means there’s a reasonable possibility of immediate danger?
If we’re dealing with someone who has no daas, there’s no point in asking him anything.
If we’re dealing with someone who does have daas, then presumably if he didn’t call right away (or somehow intervene), he didn’t think there was immediate danger, but is concerned about the ongoing situation.
If the OP thought there was immediate danger, why did he post to the CR instead of calling someone who could deal with an emergency? Do you think he didn’t have kavanah that day in Shemoneh Esreh?
What did she make up?
Do you think you have enough?
The appropriate response is to post on the thread that you noticed it, but don’t know what to respond
Do physical disorders also come from a lack of bitachon, or just mental ones?
I’m very insulted. No one wants to meet me 🙁
I think this entire exercise is one which lends itself to someone being insulted.
I don’t think this type of anxiety is rooted in lack of bitachon.
The bottom line is as Yekke2 writes, that first we need to establish the מקור for the איסור גזלה, then see if והשיב applies.
שער המלך himself argues.
Avi, truthfully, you should be the one that needs to bring a מקור, but I happened to find these.
נתיבות שמ”ח
שער המלך (פ”א מהלכות גזילה) בשם מהר”ם חביב
שו”ת הר צבי אורח חיים ב’ סימן ע”דHave more kavana for the brachah, and perhaps you’ll know.
That depends on what kind of anxiety it is.
The question marks thing really annoys me.
No, yichud for a boy starts at 9.
(I would structure it in a non-race way though as there are white kids who grow up that way too)
But affiimitive action is structured in a race way.
I will ask Haimy one question though; okay, you’re right. We’ve seemingly left bechirah out of it. How does that change how we deal with it?
TLIK, you totally misread Haimy’s post, then did the same thing he did in reverse.
Neither of you exonerated anybody. He’s bemoaning what he perceived as the kids being totally exonerated, but explicitly not letting the teachers off the hook.
You just flipped it that he’s letting everyone but the kids off the hook (which he clearly didn’t), and bemoaning that.
You both agree that everyone is to blame.
If nothing is going on that will make living next to him uncomfortable. I need to be sure but cannot prove anything. I am sure that something is going on.
There’s a contradiction there. I’m not sure if the OP is sure about how sure he is.
He’s talking about where the person is saying lashon hora (because you asked him) thinking he’s just gossiping about him.
We’re talking about telling him lashon hora, where he doesn’t know what you are going to say until he says it.
Do you have a case of listening where there’s lifnei iver without any actual issur?
I specifically avoided talking about levush, because there are more important, less superficial, differences.
I agree, and stated, that they have come closer to each other, but they’re still further apart than you intimate.
A chassidishe rov once told me that learning R’ Chaim is bittul Torah because it’s not halachah l’maaseh (both aspects are untrue – it’s not bittul Torah regardless, and learning how to think is nogeia to paskening halachah l’maaseh).
Also, as an aside, not having peyos was a bow to modernity, not an act mesorah. The Vilna Gaon had peyos.
To start, since the subject is yeshivos, they have a different derech halimud. The Litvish put more emphasis on lomdus, the Chassidim more on b’kius and halachah. Of course, the Litvish don’t learn Chassidus.
There is a difference in mehalech hachaim. The Litvish tend to be more analytical and less emotional than Chassidim in their avodas Hashem.
The Litvish also tend to be less insular.
The Litvish also put a stronger emphasis on limud Torah than Chassidim, and the Chassidim more emphasis on tefillah, and probably more on chessed, than do the Litvish. That’s related to emotional/analytical mentioned above.
The chossid/Rebbe relationship is more important than the talmid/Rosh Hayeshiva relationship. Related to this is how to approach “daas Torah”.
All of this is still true, despite the fact that the two groups are much closer in these areas than they were hundreds of years ago.
Gam ki eilech b’gei tzalmaves
TLIK, I would define a Litvish yeshiva as one which follows the mesorah of the great Litvish yeshivos in Europe, and a Chassidish yeshiva as one which follows the mesorah of the great Rebbes.
How old am I?