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bain hasedorim- that’s very funny. and of course you will only go bein hasedorim.
I wear fancy suits on Shabbos, never a robe.
(Because I don’t own one. :))
i want to speak only Ivris on Shabbos when I have my own home.
That’s why I personally am NOT looking for a learning guy per se. I want to marry someone who will be a good husband and father who is serious about serving Hashem, not someone who is going to pick me because I’m the prettiest and can support him. Whether he works or learns is irrelevant, what matters is if he does what he’s doing to serve Hashem or himself.
I know I’m not the only one out there, there are many girls who think like this.
Not allowed? Mesh`ane makom meshane mazal, maybe go to other shadchanim?
I find that the best matches are set up by family and friends, not shadchanim, anyway.
It’s important to get your name out there, but once you do, there are many people who want someone with good middos who is not necessarily learning full time. Good middos are more important than anything else in marriage, and any girl with her head on her shoulders realizes that.
I have a blog with a grand total of three posts.
It means great brachos are about to come into your life,and that your children will be successful teachers of Torah, because v’shinantam livanecha.
dvorak- great suggestion. 🙂
sms- that’s what I’m referring to.
OTOH many girls do need the outlet, they are extremely talented and this is one way they can do it in a Torah environment.
It’s hard not to notice the change though. It could be good or bad or neither.
yes but Yitzchak didn’t test her- Eliezer did- your mother or whoever does your research should do the testing, not you.
BTW the lubavitcher Rebbe also said that girls shouldn’t go to demonstrations
my cousin memorized it to the 200th decimal place.
I would not test a date, and would not want to be tested. I don’t think it’s fair, you don’t always know why a person responds the way they do.
Also dating is itself a very stressful situation, who needs to be worrying about being tested? Just see who the person is, over time stresses come up, you hear about their history, no one lives without stress and you will have a chance to see how they respond to challenges. you’re not evaluating the person, you’re seeing if you’re compatible with them.
I see a date as getting to know the other person, not to put nisyonos in their path.
No, I personally have 613 laws to keep already and learn about before I worry about making up new ones. 🙂
hereorthere- I think that’s the exception rather than the rule. Many many girls want a man with good middos, even girls from learning families.
Brov Am Hadras Melech
so you think that a girl shouldn’t go to the Siyum HaShas?
(btw, i don’t care either way, i just want to see what people think)
I personally avoid going because i don’t like crowds.
Great changes, this makes YWN much easier to use.
Look out for anything that isn’t normal.
The most important thing is to be normal, not to be super this or that.
And he or she should really really like you, not just be ok with the idea of marrying you.
I only read the shidduch posts.
Assuming one is still dating.
Look to see if he’s interested in what you’re saying, or just waiting to get a word in.
Thank you NYMOM.
Sorry Wolf- that was a mistake.
The Wold- you were really lucky. Not everyone gets it so easy, it’s a special bracha.
Wolfishmusings,thank you for your serious response
Is it different from boys or girls?
and, this is in shidduchim isn’t it?
i guess so
Is it different for men and women?
thinking, what do you mean by a lot of peer pressure?
I’m sorry, chol hamoed is a busy time and I couldn’t get on the computer. Thanks a ton, i contacted the moderators already, it is really appreciated.
Thank you all.
Does this yeshiva have a good Torah program? What do the boys do when they graduate?
also, is yeshiva torah temimah more or less yeshivish than shaar hatorah?
(this is for tachlis)