AZ: Isn’t it possible a communities minhag is different in how much they pay a professional shadchan vs. How much they pay a non-professional shadchan?

Also, what constitutes a kehila in Brooklyn regarding minhag? BP vs. Flatbush? Midwood vs. Marine Park? Chosid vs. Heimish vs. Litvak? And is it based on the shadchan’s community minhag or based on the choson’s community minhag?

YU didn’t condemn it in official YU Administration capacity. There spokesman was very equivocal without a word of criticism for the Beacon.

Even if it were milder, and an author published an article in the YU Beacon expressing support for slavery and segregation on buses with blacks in the back and wished there was still a poll tax, I’m quite sure that the YU administration would strongly condemn it in no uncertain terms. Despite the authors constitutional freedom of speech and press to express racist views. Yet for one of the worst averias they do less?

Are you kidding, Sam? I am willing to wager any money that if the YU Beacon published a story of a YU guy who proudly recounted how every Sunday night he hangs a noose on a tree in front of his black neighbors house as he and some of his YU friends yell racist comments, the YU administration would very quickly officially and publicly condemn that in unequivocally strong words.

Racism no but znus yes??

YU also has freedom of speech to register their opposition to something. YU saying they oppose something does not infringe upon anyone else’s speech.

Sam: The least YU should have done was to officially denounce the YU Beacon after they published that. They went in the opposite direction with their official comments of no censorship, freedom of speech, etc. Where were the condemnations for such an egrigious incident? They too have freedom of speech to condemn something they don’t agree with.

If they didn’t agree with it, that is.

And even after the incident, official YU spokesman Meyer Fertig when addressing the YU Beacon incident refused to condemn it, equivocally stating that YU respects their right to publish such stories and saying they should enjoy freedom of speech and press to publish whatever suits them.

gavra: your lack of understanding a long established minhag in klal yisroel, doesn’t make it a questionable minhag.

Sam: Why would someone quote “completely anti-religious” attend YU, and moreso even publish a periodical under the YU name?

ItcheSrulik: And you would be a rasha to marry your daughter to an abusive 18 year old. Don’t mix that up with age. Marrying your daughter to a normal 18 year old or a normal 65 year old has the same halachic status with neither one being inherently wrong.

mdd: Can you please summarize what Even HaEzer says on it? Does it specify ages? Otherwise, what are the ages that are considered wrong, according to S”A?

You seriously think skipping Yeshiva for a choir or TV show is no big deal?

Just because someone thinks something is”icky”, doesn’t make it wrong in any way.

So why did even some of the Roshei Yeshiva of RIETS have objections?

AZ: Why would a shadchan have any bad feelings if he was paid within the going rate, even if it was on the low end (yet within) of that rate?

First cousins marrying is somewhat common in some kehilos.

If their mesorah is that girls don’t light, it is very understandable that a girl will feel something wrong by them lighting (and thus going against the mesorah).

Btw, you only are obligated to pay the lowest end of the going rate.

The problem is that these thugs in robes legislate from the bench and declare the law what they would like it to be, rather than interpert the law as it is written, as they should.

Can someone please explain what these abbreviations (nbc, cbs, fox) refer to?

From a recognized posek or from an armchair posek-wannabe?

If you’re talking about the Kings Highway Annual Shabbos parade, it was and is to encourage shops to close on Shabbos via encouragement.

popa: So to understand your point, if a kosher establishment finds out (after the fact) that for the past 3 months their employees were cooking their bacon in the oven they prepared their customers food…

a) nothing to worry about the past, as they’ve strictly been following all halachic kashrus requirements to maintain a kosher food establishment. Customers need not be notified nor must all their customers replace/re-kasher their utensils used with the food from the past 3 months, as all kashrus requirements were strictly followed.

b) nothing to worry about the future and no need to change any practices, as they’ve always been following all kashrus laws until now, as it is. And assuming all the bacon offending employees have since quit, there is no need to treat the new non-Jewish employees any differently than the previous bacon-baking ones, as all kashrus laws were always followed from the get-go.

l’m assuming I’m still misunderstanding you, and my above two conclusions based upon my understanding of your stated guidelines are incorrect. Please correct my understanding and point out where, what, and why the above two points aren’t the natural conclusion of your points.

Thanks

Unless I am misunderstanding popa’s response to me above (and please correct me if I am), popa is saying it is unnecessary to inspect/check your non-Jewish employees/domestic help for treif food (as Jothar is suggesting), since there is no strict such requirement written in halacha.

insurance: To the contrary. It is questions like this that helps one realize the holiness of our people. I guarantee none of your gentile neighbors have such questions, how to insure the proper separation of the genders. Regardless of what the answer is (yes or no), it is certainly a most legitimate question.

Dr D: You can’t assume if you don’t see a dairy ingredient, that an OU-D product is merely “dairy equipment”.

And Rav Moshe himself recognized that other poskim could disagree with him and that some would follow others on other issues. Do you use a timer on an air conditioner on Shabbos, even though Rav Moshe held it impermissible?