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  • in reply to: Mazel Tov! #1224492

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    Thanks so much lightbrite and Lilmod Ulelamaid!

    LU although I can’t share the details, I have some fact you and others might find of interest.

    I posted a question here in the past about whether it was OK for me (an introvert) to turn down extroverts simply for being extroverts. So the girl I got engaged to eventually isn’t an introvert in any way. We are similar in many ways though. It turns out you can’t really define the whole person simply by their level of extroversion.

    Another interesting fact is that although both of us have been in shiduchim for quite a lot of time, we didn’t have to “settle” in any way. We are both absolutely happy.

    in reply to: Mazel Tov! #1224489

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    I wanted to let CR know that I got engaged! So mazel-tovs are due…

    (I debated long if and when to post this, because I worry that I might spend too much time posting, which I can’t afford… so if you see me post more than once a day here, it’s probably a bad thing)

    in reply to: Recorded Haloche Shiurim #1213102

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    Looks good! Thanks!

    in reply to: Return of the Coffee Room… #1209778

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    No I wasn’t offended at all. I realized it was humorous. I just found it extra funny because these is the kind of statements some 18 year old boys actually make.

    in reply to: Return of the Coffee Room… #1209776

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    “btw, I would imagine that even most boys who did one of the above would not be able to write english so well if they were born in Israel. I don’t think my sister can do that even though she wasn’t even born here, isn’t Chareidi, had an academic education, and grew up in a house that looks like a University library.”

    Why, thank you! this is one of the greatest compliments I got in some time.

    The thing is I studied English mostly through books (as opposed to conversations) and that’s why I use (relatively) complicated sentence structures. Sometimes speaking in a fancier way comes more easily to me than using the simpler way.

    Still I suppose writing here takes more effort to me than most other posters, and I often edit my posts. I imagine that if you read my posts closely you’d notice some awkwardness every now and then (or you might have noticed already) In any case Thanks again for this sincere compliment.

    As for watching movies, I just wanted to add that It’s often about families rather than individual guys. So I would say “modern” was a better term than OTD. In any case I don’t really mind, I was just amused at how extreme that statement was.

    in reply to: Return of the Coffee Room… #1209774

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    Thanks for complimenting my English. I appreciate that.

    LU Actually having English speaking parents is not enough to be able to write as well as I do. There are people in Israel who speak English fluently but aren’t able to write one proper sentence. Their grammar is aweful and their vocabulary is limited to everyday talk. So Regardless of my parents nationality, I studied very hard.

    “if a boy in the Israeli Chareidi world learns english, it means he is OTD”

    Lol if an Israeli boy speaks English they probably went to Yeshiva Tichonit (like the Yishuv) receieved academic education or watched movies. Each of the above would give them better knowladge of English than the average Chareidi guy. I suppose there are people who consider these kind of guys OTD lol.

    in reply to: Return of the Coffee Room… #1209772

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    “Couldn’t found” this is what happens to my English when I don’t post for a few weeks!

    in reply to: Return of the Coffee Room… #1209771

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    LU I’m alive and well thanks for asking. I’ve been very busy and couldn’t found time to post. Hope everyone is well and wish all of you all the Brachot.

    in reply to: Chessed? Or Just a Waste of Time? #1204236

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    Yes I suppose it is chessed. But why not give priority to things that can’t be done so easily by someone else?

    Obviously I’m not criticizing, only trying to answer your question logically.

    in reply to: Shidduchim – asking the girl first #1203176

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    I assume this is before the first date?

    I’ve had many shiduchim where the girl was asked first, or both of us were asked at the same time. I can’t think of even one case where the shadchan waited for me to say yes before asking the girl. I’m Israeli but I can’t say if it’s like this with everyone here.

    I got the impression from a friend that with the Datyim Leumyim you ask the guy first and only once he gave his answer you ask the girl. Many meet on their own, but if they are set up by a friendshadchan it’s done this way.

    Personally I see no reason to get offended by being turned down before the first date. Usually no one gives a picture, and the reason for being turned down could be related to the family (E.G. the father isn’t well liked in the community) or there was another suggestion which superficially looked more appealing

    If you’re talking about after the date, the shadchan will usually call the guy first for his answer (so the girl isn’t turned down after giving a positive answer)

    in reply to: The Sephardim's Relationship to Ashkenazim in Israel? #1205854

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    WinnieThePooh absolutely +1 for everything you wrote on this thread.

    One comment: “It is considered discriminatory when an Ashkenazi yeshiva does not accept a sefardi student, yet no one seems to notice that the sefardi who is begging to get into the ashkenazi yeshiva is actually discriminating against the sefardi yeshivos, implying that they are not good enough.”

    Both are problamatic and both are much talked about.

    It is Time for Truth I don’t understand. What does being poor have to do with the subject?

    in reply to: The Sephardim's Relationship to Ashkenazim in Israel? #1205839

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    Joseph: “The secular/chiloni Israelis, especially the elite, hold Sephardim in contempt. Just like they hold the Torah in contempt r’l. Baruch Hashem the frum Sephardim and frum Ashkenazim in Eretz Yisroel get along splendidly together with each other, just as the frum American Sephardim and Ashkenazim in New York, Lakewood, Deal, New Jersey, etc. get along spectacularly with each other. Both in Eretz Yisroel and in America you will find Sephardim in most Ashkenazi yeshivos, especially the top Ashkenazi yeshivos.

    Unfortunately the secular/chilonim in Israel, in a feeble attempt to justify and cover up their discriminatory anti-Sephardic policies in the State of Israel, its universities as well as private industry, falsely accuse the frum of Eretz Yisroel of also having some sort of bias against Sephardim. It is laughably false. But they, especially the anti-religious media in Israel, never cease making their false allegations.”

    Shameless lies and ridiculus delusiuons. I could refute every word of this cheap propaganda in two seconds with facts nobody in E”Y would deny. I leave it to the readers to check out the facts (not opinions) and I promise it won’t be hard.

    Until today Joseph I had a lot of criticism for you, but I didn’t hold you for a lier. From now on I won’t believe a word that comes out of your mouth.

    The frightening part is that you believe you’re obligated by the torah to distort reality so it fits what you think the world is supposed to look like (I.E. everything chareidi is perfect) Just goes to show you the amount of stupidity that can be done “Leshem Shomaim”.

    in reply to: Is Dating Tznius? #1212071

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    Thanks for all the upvotes LU. Didn’t find time until now.

    in reply to: Do we actually care about achdus? #1200549

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    There is evil in the world, I’m so shocked!

    in reply to: The Sephardim's Relationship to Ashkenazim in Israel? #1205823

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    Wow I can’t wait to see where this is gonna go.

    Anyway, I just want to be Moiche on this sentence: ” Between the arabs and secular Jews, do the frum Jews feel that they need to have more hatred in their lives?” Even if there was sweeping hatred from secular jews – which there is not – this hatred is so not comparable by any means to that of Arabs.

    reuventree555 besides that a good post.

    in reply to: Is Dating Tznius? #1212061

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    LU:”If: A. Schok = having fun in a non-platonic manner

    and B. A date by definition is non-platonic.

    Then,C: it can’t be assur to have “schok” on a date.”

    Thank you! Exactly what I thought. And I happen to think points A and B to be true, which makes C true as well.

    in reply to: It is so wrong to park your car in midair. #1198749

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    Haven’t they enacted the Law Of Gravity in the US? You’re so behind (and above)

    in reply to: Is Dating Tznius? #1212026

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    Perhaps people don’t go to “interesting” date destinations because it’s fun. In fact I doubt it’s fun at all*. Maybe they do that because they haven’t managed to open up in the more conventional settings.

    In any case I have to say we’ve gone a long way from “is dating tznius” to “you shouldn’t go to Dave and Busters on your date”. Maybe if the OP had put it this way readers would have taken him more seriously. Than again, maybe being taken seriously was not the objective in the first place.

    As to the main discussion: maybe Schok and Kalus Rosh is understood to refer to a type of forbidden relationship or interaction, rather than forbidden acts (like eating chomez on pesach) If you crack jokes with a female worker in your office, that’s a very different kind of interaction than making the same jokes with someone whom you consider marying in three monthes. I suspect that if someone can’t see that they have never been on a chareidi date.

    * Personally I don’t really find dating to be fun, unless you get married at the end. It’s a very short lives fun in any case.

    in reply to: Is Dating Tznius? #1211993

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    Joseph you started your post demanding that we all go chasidish. Why are you suddenly content with being similar to the litvish people in E”Y? Is it just the lesser of two evils? Or do you suppose everything they do in the the yeshivish oilem in E”Y is kodoysh kodoysh and would allow no discussion?

    You probably know that in some chasidish communities it’s considered untznius for the husband and wife to take a walk togather in the street. Are we suppose to follow them by default just because they take a more extreme position? Or is it again solely the E”Y yeshivish world that’s worth following?

    in reply to: Is Dating Tznius? #1211992

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    Joseph: “

    American yeshivish bochorim, by and large, do not have their own cars. They usually borrow their father’s car or rent a car for the date. So the fact that the Eretz Yisroel yeshivish bochorim don’t drive their dates is a deliberate decision. They could’ve also borrowed a parents or relatives car or rented one. But they b’davka do not”

    Please when you’re speculating about a country and a sociaty you don’t live in have the decency to add words like “seems like” and “probably”.

    in reply to: What does it mean to be a real Jew? #1198088

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    I don’t think I explained myself well I’ll try again when I’m not so tired…

    in reply to: What does it mean to be a real Jew? #1198087

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    Because how can you go to a bunch of seminary girls and say to them “Everything you do you should do in order to serve hashem”? That’s totally unrealistic! They have countless reasons to do everything they do, none of which has anything to do with the torah. Should they just “turn it off” and replace it with hashem? they can’t do that, (nor does the teacher)

    I just don’t see how that’s a practical guideline by any means. They’re just pretty words.

    Let me give you an example: Am I posting here to serve hashem? No I’m here because I enjoy it. So you might say: “yes but by spending a certain amount of time doing things that you enjoy you get the energy to spend time later doing mitzvot”. But that’s just another way of saying serving hashem is not so important to me. Because if it was, I wouldn’t need so much time reenergizing.

    in reply to: Is Dating Tznius? #1211959

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    LU: my nationality is Israeli, and I was talking about the way yeshivish people in Israel date, and yes it’s the norm as long as it’s in the same city. Why are you so surprised by that?

    Usually they say the reason for this is so the girl will have some privacy and won’t be seen by everybody getting back from a date (if you live in a chareidi neibghourhood you’ll understand) I don’t know if that’s really the reason.

    I suppose Americans living in Israel do things differently. Also maybe at a certain age guys do things less by the book, which is probably a blessing (except for the taxi)

    I know some girls would prefer getting home by bus (as in real life they would never order a taxi for anything) but they’re too shy to say anything.

    in reply to: Is Dating Tznius? #1211941

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    Joseph: “amusement park, bowling, ice skating, restaurant, sightseeing, etc.? I dunno. The yeshivish oilem doesn’t seem to do that in Eretz Yisroel”

    There’s no disputing dating in E”Y is more conservative, but you should remember that The yeshivish oilem in E”Y rarely go to ice-skating or bowling at all, not only on dates. For many even restaurants are out of the question (depending on how yeshivish we’re talking about)

    Parks are a very common destination for a date in E”Y too.

    If a guy can get a car it’s perfectly normal to drive the girl tofrom the date, (and I’m not talking about “modern” guys) but it’s never a requirement like with you. In any case the guy would order a cab for the girl and accompany her home (unless distance would not allows)

    in reply to: Is Dating Tznius? #1211936

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    LF: “How do spiritually inclined females even think of going out, dating, PLAYING GAMES?!? Shouldn’t they be on a higher dargah?!? Shouldn’t they suffice with a mere glance? (actually a spiritually inclined female will have no use for looks, that’s for the shallow male..) After all they’re the ones with the wisdom, insight, thoughtfulness, intuition. They know how to read people’s faces, expressions, foreheads and palms. Chachma, bina, daas and every thing else in between… Figure him out even before he attempts to speak. Why all the extra ‘fun’?!? A spiritually filled female ought to exude rays of holiness…

    I don’t get it… Am I missing something?!?”

    Is it impposible for you to make direct statements? Why do you have to hide behind so many layers of sarcasm?

    See what I did here? I had a problem with you and I told you what it was. And it took me 4 lines!

    in reply to: What does it mean to be a real Jew? #1198083

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    LU (summarizing others) “That is how the Rambam defines an Eved Hashem – as someone whose entire purpose in life is to serve Hashem and EVERYTHING he does is for that purpose. This is a chiyuv and not a chumra.”.

    That’s a lot to expect from yourself though. I think the OP was talking about more realistic and practical definition. One that you could measure yourself against.

    I would go with the Mesilas Yeshorim definition of zeirus.

    ?????? ????? ?? ????? ?????? ?????? ?? ?? ??

    To find what needs changing, and try to change it. I think that’s the minimum requirement.

    in reply to: Women on a higher level #1198174

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    lightbrite: “Because I want to understand. Is this a new thing that they are telling women today? I don’t know what I believe.”

    When reading the following please remember that I don’t really know you so I don’t really know if what I’m about to say is relevant to you.

    What I wanted to add is that coming to the CR in your quest for the truth is not a good idea. Or for that matter, going to a random group of people on the street (even in Bney Brak) and asking them for the truth about torah is not a good idea.

    There are so many great sources for understanding torah truly. There is the Rambam. The Ramban. Kuzri. Chovat Alevavot. Rishonim. Achronim. There are many great contemporary books. There are great rabanim in kiruv organizations And they are not all liars! (I’m just kidding) what I mean is find yourself a rav that you can trust. If you have trust issues with the people who tell you about the torah the way to solve these issues is not to come here.

    Just because someone went to a yeshivaseminary doesn’t mean they have any idea what they are talking about. For all you know they might have slept through all the shmuses in the yeshiva. If you want to study physics you don’t just ask someone who took it in highschool to teach you. Why would you do the same with torah?

    This is a really nice place to hang out with people who generally have Yiras Shomaim. But that’s it.

    in reply to: What does it mean to be a real Jew? #1198079

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    Shopping613 I agree very much with the idea that it’s important to want to improve.

    However I don’t see the point in saying that one person is a real jew (wants to get to a higher level) and the other is not.

    First of all, this hardly help you at all with your own torah and mitvot. That we are expacted to respect every person is for sure. What’s the point then of saying that one person is real and the other is fake?

    And secondly you can’t really know who wants to get better and who doesn’t. People could be making progress in ways you’re not aware of. Also some people might have been Bney Alyia when they were young and lost it with the years. They may get back on their feet at a later point. You can’t really label them as anything.

    in reply to: What does it mean to be a real Jew? #1198078

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    “People don’t want to. They don’t want to work hard. They don’t want to live just for Hashem…”

    Meno “Who are these “people”, and how do you know what they want?”

    this is exactly what I wanted to say the way I wanted to say it. Could it be you’re me under a different username? I hope not because then one way or the other we’ll be posting on shabbes.

    in reply to: Women on a higher level #1198165

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    Thanks for explaining.

    I can assure you of one thing, which is that this is not something they only tell baaley tshuva. I’ve had quite a chareidi upbringing and I’ve heard the notion you mentioned many times.

    In my opinion, if they don’t tell this to boys in the yeshivot it’s because this is simply not something central to judaism. The question “who is better” is not relevant to observing torah. There are much more practical guidlines about the way men and women should interact. The subject is usually brought up to explain some things in the halacha that are sometimes perceived as being against women.

    I want to add one other thing later I hope I have the time.

    in reply to: Women on a higher level #1198163

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    “What do men think about how women are intrinsically on a higher spiritual level than men?”

    Can I ask what made you ask this?

    in reply to: Divorce in the jewish community #1204512

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    LU: “I think Person1 has a point. All these posts from several posters about how abuse is not abuse if it’s not physical and how people should stay in bad marriages, etc, can be kind of dangerous.”

    If that was all I would have let it pass (though that’s dangerous too) but he went as far as saying that our past glory was gained by tolerating (or encouraging) abuse:

    “Furthermore, In every glorious community,kehilla,country ,empire

    that people look back nostalgically, there were were many who were stepped on and were abusive to some.

    Froth all you wish ,but it was through those means that greater glory was gained for all”

    and than he said women might be ok with (or fond of?) being abused

    “Ponder please this also

    Which books-

    for women ,

    are some of the hottest bestsellers in recent years?

    Those which females are being abused?!

    And women seem to be unable to get enough!”

    I’m rereading (and pondering) the last quote again and again maybe at some point it’d seem less crazy.

    in reply to: Divorce in the jewish community #1204479

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    IITFTT:

    “Am going to shock everyone here[especially the younger crowd]!!

    Many great ,wonderful , happy marriages in the past were abusive

    And many abusive marriages were wonderful and happy !”

    “Furthermore ,there were many marriages in the past that [we would call] abusive that were not so happy, but raised wonderful children and have wonderful descendants”

    “Froth all you wish ,but it was through those means that greater glory was gained for all”

    “Ponder please this also

    Which books-

    for women ,

    are some of the hottest bestsellers in recent years?

    Those which females are being abused?!

    And women seem to be unable to get enough!”

    You are a very dangerous person. I hope other people see this too. Please stop posting this horrible stuff.

    in reply to: Divorce in the jewish community #1204424

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    Religous level differences might be a reason too. People who lie to others andor themselves about their religous level before getting married, or people who simply change at some point in life.

    I don’t know how common it is but I know it exists.

    in reply to: Does anyone know if there is such a statement….? #1195203

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    lightbrite you’re welcome and thanks for sharing. I’m sure what you wrote is going to be helpful to people.

    If I understand you correctly, this is something I experienced as well. Growing up I used to believe that my ultimate purpose in life was to become a hardcore all-the-way chareidi person. I later realized this wasn’t what it was about. Maybe it just means becoming a grown-up.

    LU: “In any case, I appreciate your insight and feedback which was expressed politely and sincerely as always” Thank you. The same goes to you.

    in reply to: Does anyone know if there is such a statement….? #1195196

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    LU: “Lightbrite – good point! very true.

    At the same time, we do need both. Some people will use these kinds of arguments to attack those who are makpid on halacha (or maybe even are machmir sometimes – oh, the horror!).

    The fact that our kesher with Hashem is important does not mean that halacha is not important and should not be used as an excuse to criticize people who feel that their Avodas Hashem involves being makpid in halacha (and maybe even engaging in chumras on occasion).

    I know that you don’t do that, but there are those that do.”

    You’re 100% right and even if you weren’t I respect your opinion but, (and please hear me out)

    Doesn’t it fell a bit off topic to you?

    What I mean is, is it necessery to make this kind of disclaimers every time one discusses any topic that could possibly be used against the torahfrum people?

    I feel like being overly careful about how others could wrongly useinterpet the ideas you express might suppress any original idea and thought you have. You can’t think that way, and you can’t talk that way.

    You need to first think independently and freely. If later you release your ideas to the public, you should revise them and make sure they can’t be easily misinterpeted. But you can’t have the little censor on your shoulder whisper in your ear the whole time.

    I felt like you were too quick to divert the discussion into what it

    –shouldn’t– be about, instead of actually dealing with what it is about. That’s why I brought this up. But even if you don’t feel it’s relevant here. I still had to get it out.

    in reply to: Does anyone know if there is such a statement….? #1195195

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    lightbrite: “lilmod ulelamaid: I know 🙁 But the weird thing is that why is it okay for kiruv professionals to criticize people who aren’t observing Torah? I know that the whole Torah is Truth thing means that a Jew who isn’t observing Torah is not living properly. Yet it’s kind of judgey imho”.

    If I get what you mean, you’re asking why it is not ok to be judgemental of bad behavior (like the one you mentioned) among frum people, but it’s ok to criticize secular people for their behavior.

    My answer is that there is no difference. A bad act is a bad act no matter whether it’s done by a frum or secular person.

    However, specifically about being machmir in halacha, I’ve personally met people who couldn’t acknowledge that being makpid on halacha had even the slightest value. They’d jump at every mention of chumra and give rants about people “making up” mitzvot (unsurprisigly these people weren’t very self-aware) So I guess that’s the kind of behavior LU was talking about.

    in reply to: Does anyone know if there is such a statement….? #1195194

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    lightbrite “I’ve had rabbis tell me that people focus too much on religion and not enough on Hashem.”

    I’ve heard this statement a few times. I’m not sure about its meaning. Does it mean that some people are machmir just as a way to promote their social status? It’s obviously bad but I wouldn’t call that “religion”.

    Maybe it means that some people observe only part what hashem told them to do? Like, hashem wants us to keep halacha but he also wants us to be nice to each other. So by only doing one of these things, we show that we don’t care about hashem’s will in its entirety, but focus instead on some part of his mitzvot?

    There could also be a new, modern interpetation. That people care more about where they belong in sociaty (whether they are chareidi, MO, yeshivish, and what percent of each) then what the torah wants them to do?

    in reply to: Heartbroken over Hillary? #1193279

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    To clearify, I was deliberately ignoring the point flatbusher was trying to make because it was highly illogical in my opinion, but if I really have to (sigh)

    1. Just because Trump has won, say miraculousky, doesn’t mean his message or his personality are better or that he is going to make America “great again”. Hashem plan might include Trump making America much smaller actually. The analogy to this argument is that because ISIS are so succesful in the middle east there might be some truth in their agenda.

    2. It’s true if you really believe in hashem you shouldn’t be “heartbroken” over political outcome. However it’s quite childish to use this as an argument against the political side you oppose.

    in reply to: Heartbroken over Hillary? #1193278

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    LU no that’s not what he said. You’re taking him out of context.

    “so all those Hillary fans, do you not believe Hashem runs the world”

    He clearly implies that if you’re supporting Clinton you’re likely a kofer.

    in reply to: Heartbroken over Hillary? #1193275

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    “so all those Hillary fans, do you not believe Hashem runs the world”

    I have a question too for all those trump supporters: don’t you belive one shouldn’t talk during Shachris and should be makpid on Nagel Vaser?!

    in reply to: Reasons for a girl to go to Seminary? Israel or domicile country? #1194373

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    I’m still curious as to how going to seminary in E”Y has become part of the US frum chinuch system. I’m not trying to play down the advantages. I’d understand it if some of the girls did it, but from what I hear (I’m not American) almost everyone does it.

    The connection to E”Y is one answer that satisfies me.

    in reply to: Boro Park Under Attack!! #1193183

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    LU I wrote another post after that one which was more of a personal attack. I later regretted posting it and edited it to “it was a personal attack please delete”. I suppose the moderator thought I meant the one before it and deleted it too ):

    Moderator do you still have it in your recycle bin? I’m too tired to rewrite it.

    in reply to: What happened with the Tallis/Tefillin search? #1192719

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    “The Zchus should be that people are more careful and learn to properly treat their tfillin”.

    On first thought, people don’t needs reminder to be careful of their tfillin. They are careful as it is. It’s just that because you have to carry them around it’s hard never to misplace them.

    But on second thought, there’s some logic here. People don’t usually lose stuff that costs 100000$ to retrieve (or rather they never do). So if that happens, there’s clearly a gap between how the halacha “feels” about sth and how we feel about it.

    in reply to: Boro Park Under Attack!! #1193179

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    LF: “We try to pass a smile, be supportive, give a lift, inject energy… ??? ?? ???? ??????, ?????? ???? ???!!”.

    I’m curious about that. You say that you want the CR to be less serious, and I understand that. But what has that got to do with being supportive? In my understanding you can be mean and light-hearted or nice and serious. Would you say that the less serious threads are where you can get more support?

    Please be kind enough to answer what I asked even if I’m sending strong seriousness vibes.

    in reply to: Boro Park Under Attack!! #1193178

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    LU: “btw, some peoplach enjoy talking about serious topics…it’s not such a terrrible thing.”

    Every two weeks someone opensbumps a thread about how the CR has been taken over by aliens. Open one of your own if you want. But don’t let it bother you.

    in reply to: Reasons for a girl to go to Seminary? Israel or domicile country? #1194365

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    zahavasdad what makes a seminary “real”?

    if it’s the dorms, in E”Y virtually all seminaries for Israeli girls don’t have dorms. Why are dorms necessery for Americans then?

    If there are other qualities about seminaries in Israel that make them special, why don’t they open more seminaries with these qualities in the US? And what are these qualities?

    in reply to: Do you think Jewish men should start practicing polygamy again? #1191008

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    “And on that note, maybe we should return to the original topic of discussion. As inappropriate as I found it, I am finding this topic more inappropriate (my own posts included).”

    Lol I was quite shocked at all you tzadikim here going on about this weird topic. I thought maybe being comfortable with christianity was an american thing.

    in reply to: Being makpid on looks #1210129

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    “If I understand the quotes you are saying quoting correctly, it sounds like whether or not someone likes someone is not based on looks”.

    I doubt that’s their conclusion. Nobody in their right mind would say looks don’t affect romantic interest. It’s hard to say what they meant without reading the rest though.

    “but it has definitely happened that I have gone out with guys whom I could tell right away whether or not they liked me as soon as they saw me, before I even opened up my mouth”

    That’s why I think it’s a good idea for both boys and girls to start a date with a smile and not a long examining look.

    in reply to: Fear of Heaven #1196309

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    lightbrite yes that’s what I meant.

    Being that I am male and born to a chareidi family I can’t really advise you on your own struggles. I can just suggest that you instill in yourself the belief that people can change (which means Bchirah) even if the path to change is not visible. Also don’t focus only on a Single issue in the Torah. Find other places where you can step up your yiras shomaim.

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