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Meno, that is not what I am expecting of him.
cantthinkoffancyusername, his past no I do not want my kids lives to be like that. His future maybe.
Mammele, he is looking to get married not for a girl friend.
Lilmod, I know. I have been doing that for years. (complimenting people)
Lilmod, it is not like that. Imagine if you liked the guy. Then say that.
Lilmod, but I like this guy.
mammele, I have decided to give it the go. Now whenever I am thinking maybe he wont be the right guy. I say he has potential allow him to fulfill it. Why push him away?
Lilmod, because she does not want me meeting a guy on my own. But she cannot have both not setting me up and not allowing me to find guys on my own. It is one way or the other. Not both.
assurnet, it may be a thing with my confidence. I am looking for new friends of the same gender.
yeshivastudent, I was saying that I agree with you. But in my circumstance marrying someone more modern might be the best option.
lightbrite, how does this sound “do you wanna go get coffee”?
lightbrite, I get along well with all of them. I can see them being very happy to be my friend. There usually the ones who start talking to me. But why should I tell them I am giving them my number?
yeshivastudent, I am sad to say this but unfortunately I only have a few friends right now and they either moved out of town forever or are away for school for a year and I will not be able to hang out with them. See my post on making new friends. Plus I am still single. So that is why I want new friends and that is why I am in the process of making my own shidduch by myself with a modern guy who is a lot less religious than me.
Halachically after everything that happened we need to forgive each other. But I do not plan on forgiving them since it was too much and too long going on. So how should I go about it? I am sure there have been lots of other people who have had bad times with other Jewish friends not just not Jewish friends.
Mammele, I do not get it?
IssacZoooss96, it is very hard to organize it.
yeshivastudent, thank you for that:) I was asking if the idea was good for a girl to marry someone less religious than her to sum that up;) (just testing the emjois by putting the smiley face and winkey face.)
TheGoq, I want to play actual basketball.
Lilmod, I do not know to be honest.
Lilmod, b’h I am not friends with them anymore. Long story short I kept blocking them and talking to them and then they did the same to me. Only annoying part is that I was not the one in the wrong. So I do not plan on getting back together with them since I do not plan on forgiving them unless they can admit they were in the wrong.
Lilmod, of course she wants me to marry someone I like.
yeshivastudent, so what do you say about a girl the type that your looking to marry to marry someone less religious than them and modern orthodox?
yeshivastudent, I like your emojis. How did you get them?
Meno, you cannot cut your hair during sefira if that is what you mean. I cut my hair before pesech.
Lilmod, I am not insulted by that. I was insulted when he started saying that no girls want guys who are working.
Lilmod, what do you consider modern?
yeshivastudent, that is very offensive to many boys and girls. Because I am dating guys who are your type and they are not setting with some random modern girl. I am a very tznius, learned girl and getting a very good degree and will iyh make for a very good wive. The guys too had to get degrees and also learn in yeshiva like you. When I iyh get married to a guy like that who is learning and working like how you jut said they are not settling for some random modern girl. Most of the time my skirt is 4 inches below my knees and maybe sometimes on days I guess I woke up on the wrong side of the bed there right above my knees. But the majority of the time it is 4 inches below my knees. I want to raise my kids to want to learn in kollel and marry kollel guys. I want my house to be full of Torah all the time. I may right now sometimes sound or look modern but in real life I really am very yeshivish and do always majority of the time very tznius and always learning and support Torah very much.
bmyer, but I want to play. So what should I do?
Lilmod, I said I would like to meet her and sent her my shidduch resume and then we never clarified on the meeting.
Lilmod, I do not know.
Lilmod, I have been telling my mother about the guy and she was disappointed. So now she is working very hard on my shidduchim. But now I like this guy and why should she make me go with another guy if I like this guy? That is not fair to me.
kichusid, what do you mean now you understand what the shiduch crisis is?
Lilmod, no to all of the above.
Lilmod, I have asked others (to be specific goyim) and they said that they think I should tell him but I personally do not feel comfortable. So that is why I was asking other people (to be specific Jews).
Lilmod, is it okay if I maybe talk to my guy friend about the issues or you think it will just end up being a worse situation?
Lilmod, you mean that it is not a good sign because you think he is not really doing it for the right reasons and that he is only doing it for me? But I thought there was something in the Torah where it says something like if a person is doing something for the wrong reason example a husband or wive they will end up coming to doing it for the right reason?
Lilmod, sorry about that. I just became friends with him. But now I am very depressed so I am not really talking to people because I am depressed and that is also why I do not come onto yeshiva world as much. I also do not think any husband or guy that I am dating can help me with my depression unfortunately. So I do not really talk to anyone period.
Lilmod, no I never got this response. To be honest the reason I asked was because the guy had asked me to stop calling him by his english name and only by his Jewish name and started telling me how he likes learning Hebrew subjects and keeps asking me to hang out with him because he wants to be friends with me.
Lilmod, I am sorry if you feel offended but I do not like it when people put my friends down. I am sure you do not like it when people put your friends done and so I do not either.
Lilmod, I will be mochel you if you stop saying things like “he is bad for you” because that is really offensive and not called for.
Meno, not exactly. He does it for himself. He told me he likes learning. So obviously he did not do that for me.
Lilmod, before you were saying how I should stay away from him implying that he is not a good boy.
Lilmod, because you keep saying how my friend is not a nice boy. It is not nice. I was explaining why I did not want him for myself and instead wanted him for another girl because I have another guy in mind for myself.
refoelzeev, I am ready to get married. But I wanted to go to seminary for a year.
Meno, if someone asks a question it is usually because they want help.
Meno, I always had a different guy in mind for myself and so I do not think it will work. But he wants me to join a club his part of so I might. So we can be friends but I already have another guy. I can help him find another girl as a friend does for another friend.
refeolzeev, if I want to go out on shidduchim dates and since I do not know anyone there would they help find guys for me?