rebshidduch

Meno, that is not what I am expecting of him.

assurnet, it may be a thing with my confidence. I am looking for new friends of the same gender.

lightbrite, I get along well with all of them. I can see them being very happy to be my friend. There usually the ones who start talking to me. But why should I tell them I am giving them my number?

Halachically after everything that happened we need to forgive each other. But I do not plan on forgiving them since it was too much and too long going on. So how should I go about it? I am sure there have been lots of other people who have had bad times with other Jewish friends not just not Jewish friends.

IssacZoooss96, it is very hard to organize it.

TheGoq, I want to play actual basketball.

Lilmod, b’h I am not friends with them anymore. Long story short I kept blocking them and talking to them and then they did the same to me. Only annoying part is that I was not the one in the wrong. So I do not plan on getting back together with them since I do not plan on forgiving them unless they can admit they were in the wrong.

bmyer, but I want to play. So what should I do?

Lilmod, I do not know.

kichusid, what do you mean now you understand what the shiduch crisis is?

Lilmod, I have asked others (to be specific goyim) and they said that they think I should tell him but I personally do not feel comfortable. So that is why I was asking other people (to be specific Jews).

Lilmod, you mean that it is not a good sign because you think he is not really doing it for the right reasons and that he is only doing it for me? But I thought there was something in the Torah where it says something like if a person is doing something for the wrong reason example a husband or wive they will end up coming to doing it for the right reason?

Lilmod, no I never got this response. To be honest the reason I asked was because the guy had asked me to stop calling him by his english name and only by his Jewish name and started telling me how he likes learning Hebrew subjects and keeps asking me to hang out with him because he wants to be friends with me.

Lilmod, I will be mochel you if you stop saying things like “he is bad for you” because that is really offensive and not called for.

Lilmod, before you were saying how I should stay away from him implying that he is not a good boy.

refoelzeev, I am ready to get married. But I wanted to go to seminary for a year.

Meno, I always had a different guy in mind for myself and so I do not think it will work. But he wants me to join a club his part of so I might. So we can be friends but I already have another guy. I can help him find another girl as a friend does for another friend.