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February 23, 2017 3:31 pm at 3:31 pm in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220654
Lilmod, my dream of marrying a kollel boy would come true. But if your saying that I should wait another year or two until the guy I really want is ready than maybe I should reconsider waiting for him? But I feel like waiting around for a guy is a waste of time.
No problem, I will definitely try to make sure iyh.February 23, 2017 2:59 pm at 2:59 pm in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220652
The point where it hit me was when I basically told him to hang out with another friend who does not care and then he decided that he was going to try another way to hang out with me by asking it in a different way. Then I realized “uh oh”, why me?February 23, 2017 2:49 pm at 2:49 pm in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220651
burnt stake, I am not getting into it I meant I do not trust modern boys for personal reasons but I do trust yeshivish boys. I keep telling him how I am looking for a learning boy and how I am very yeshivish but all that gets him to say is basically “I will become yeshivish for you”.February 23, 2017 2:48 pm at 2:48 pm in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220650
bmyer, please bring sources.February 23, 2017 2:47 pm at 2:47 pm in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220649
hillary, I do not hang out with boys I do chesed for boys but do not hang out with them.February 23, 2017 2:46 pm at 2:46 pm in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220648
Lilmod, you summed up what my one of my friends told me. The other one is saying that she thinks its normal. So what should I tell her? Maybe I should not be friends with her anymore? If I would have known not to trust her advice than maybe it would not have come this far?February 23, 2017 6:07 am at 6:07 am in reply to: They should sell just the cookie part of the ice cream sandwich #1217687
For me the worst part was the cookie part it was all stale.
Againstthetide, if someone really wants to talk to the other gender they will do it offline.February 23, 2017 3:07 am at 3:07 am in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220638
Against the tide, thank you. I will try to iyh.February 23, 2017 3:01 am at 3:01 am in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220637
bmyer, no, this was not about helping me determine if he was my besheret or not that I knew he was not. The question was how to make him stop saying inappropriate things to me?February 23, 2017 2:44 am at 2:44 am in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220634
bmyer, Amen. I really hope that I find the right one very soon. I will have to say I am desperate. I have wanted to get married for so long and worked so hard to find the right one and still have not found him unfortunately. The reasons why I would never go with him are obvious. Look at the kind of girlfriend his brother has that is the kind of girl he needs not me.
It is indirectly talking and also this is not a chat room. This is a forum.February 23, 2017 2:09 am at 2:09 am in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220629
bmyer, I was telling you about the comments and what he was doing in order to get me to hang out with him and then that would lead to other stuff that is how it works.February 23, 2017 1:58 am at 1:58 am in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220626
bmyer – What do you mean not dating yet? We never went out together b’h otherwise the situation would be much worse than what it is now. I do not want a guy like him. And if he thinks were dating or if he thinks we might end up dating then the situation is that much worse. I talk about moving to lakewood and marrying a full time learner all the time in front of him. Why would he think he even has a chance?February 23, 2017 1:42 am at 1:42 am in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220622
First off he somehow convinces me to put not Jewish music on. Then he has the nerve and chutzpah to ask me to hang out with him.February 23, 2017 1:40 am at 1:40 am in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220620
Okay here goes, I am very disturbed after today. I do not not know what to do and I want to get out of this situation and not have anything to do with this anymore. But, I do not know how to and their is no one there to support me. One friend thinks it is okay which obviously she is a bad influence and the other one is trying to help me by giving me advice but I already used the advice and it did not work. What should I do?February 23, 2017 1:33 am at 1:33 am in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220619
lightbrite, I have no intention of becoming more modern for him. But I have thought this over and unless I take control he may make me more modern and I have no support over here to make him more religious. I just became much more religious and now this guy pops up.February 23, 2017 1:32 am at 1:32 am in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220618
Lilmod, I would love to be set up by a shadchan. Any suggestions of shadchanim?February 23, 2017 1:31 am at 1:31 am in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220615
bmyer, I jut met this guy a few weeks ago. I never had a boy friend b’h because I do not unfortunately trust guys. There is a reason why I want to be set up by a shadchan.February 22, 2017 11:11 pm at 11:11 pm in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220605
reuventree, I agree but I have tried going thru shadchanim but they are all so horrible (as in no time for me) so I decided that maybe if I somehow meet someone then maybe I should date him and give him potential to become a rabbi?February 22, 2017 11:09 pm at 11:09 pm in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220604
Winnie, no way worse as in he even got a tattoo and he for whatever the reason decided for all people to show it off to me so of course I gave him my halachic decision on that.
Lilmod, I do want very badly to start dating thru SHADCHANIM.February 22, 2017 9:34 pm at 9:34 pm in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220597
Meno, that is not what I am asking. I am asking about a guy who is already religious but would become even more so and maybe even a rabbi just or me and anyways I am going to shadchanim anyways.
Winnie, then please post names of shadchanim and not boys names.February 22, 2017 9:09 pm at 9:09 pm in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220595
Avram, he would become more religious for me. But I am curious why would he say he wants to become a rabbi and how all guys want me and how it should be easy for me to get a good shidduch when he knows I want someone learning full time?February 22, 2017 8:05 pm at 8:05 pm in reply to: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you #1220592
Avram, he already is frum just modern. He would become much more religious than just mo is that okay?
Lilmod, if that is true, do you think I would get redt by at least 1 of the 4 shadchanim?
lightbrite, I agree with YWN MOD 29 it wont go thru because I do not want to go thru a site like YWN to find a shidduch, no thank you.
Lilmod, the girl told me her dad mother was Jewish as in she is not Jewish but her father is.
I did. They said that cool, how do you know? How am I Jewish?
Lilmod, but I know theirs potential if he were older or if I chasvichalila am still not married.
The shmuz as in rabbi shafier shmuz # 6?
Lilmod, and that is why I wish my friends brother was older and solved all the issues if I liked his older brother I probably would like him even more based on my new criteria.
Winnie, do you by any chance know of any good shadchanim who work for boys who are from more modern backgrounds and are now going to learn full time?
I should do that also if I had time.
Benny Friedman by far.
Lilmod, I do not have pressure to get married. The one who makes the pressure is me because my whole life I have wanted to get married and now it is the time to do so.
Lighbrite, someone in Lakewood preferably.
Lilmod, I am curious do you think that the shadchanim would have someone who does not fit the Bais Yaakov mold and grew up when I was reading the Emunah with chicken soup book, I realized my situation is similar to Reb Machlis who grew up more modern but wanted a rabbi, (do not want to compare myself to such a great lady but I just wanted to give you a little bit of what my situation is similar to and hopefully maybe one day I will become a great lady) and I have “dreams” of being able to support my husband and let him not worry about money since I have a good degree and make money and allow him to open up a yeshiva even tho I am coming from a more modern background and so I am not a typical girl who marries a learning boy?
Lilmod, she said she did not have pressure to get married and neither do I.
Lilmod, can you please suggest how I can find one other than the ones that you or someone else mentioned because those did not work for me?
Can someone please post these threads your referring to with shadchanim numbers?
Lightbrite, I am in the same situation as you! That is why my shidduchim are so hard just like yours! Everyone thinks that 21 should be the youngest to get married and the best age is 30. But I want someone learning full time so I have to take my own road and find myself my own guy.
Meno, wandering how what went?
Lightbrite, amen! Its been a very long hard road for me so far to meet my basheret with lots of tears.
Lightbrite, I already have a shidduch resume. I am traveling 3 hours to go and see shadchanim. I hope that that will be the right choice to take many hours of out my busy schedule.
Did anyone read emunah with chicken soup? How long did it take you to finish it?
Get rid of your internet.
Meno, that is why I started this topic because I was on the free way and all of a sudden I saw flashing and I did not know what it was and so I assumed it was a ticket. How could I tell if it was or was not a ticket?