thinking and thinking

Forum Replies Created

Viewing 20 posts - 1 through 20 (of 20 total)
  • Author
  • in reply to: Cleaning Talleisim #972790

    853-3219 is Mr. Mendelovich.

    in reply to: Tattoos #943415

    I inquired about this from a rov who was often involved in funeral arrangements for non frum yidden that wanted jewish burials and funeral services. He said although it’s not in the shulchan aruch, there are cemetaries that have this hakpada as a real inyan. It was a takana made to make people think twice and three times before being over the laav.

    in reply to: What is there for a family to do at Lake George, NY? #779913

    Thank you, I appreciate the helpful responses!

    in reply to: What is there for a family to do at Lake George, NY? #779911

    Thank you!

    Where did you stay?

    Also, how can we find out if there’s a minyan there?

    in reply to: What is there for a family to do at Lake George, NY? #779906

    any ideas, or links to places where we can get ideas?

    in reply to: #730152

    Bed-stuy, thanks, I had a different post up last night about amazon, which was removed. If the policy is to remove all links, fine, but why accuse me of illegal activity??

    in reply to: #730150

    Moderator 42, for the sake of K’vod Shamayim, so that no more sins are committed, please enlighten me as to what may have been illegal or genaiva regarding my post?

    in reply to: If I had it all to do over, I'd do _______________ for Parnasa #729489

    I would do what I’m doing now, but would have had a five year head start!

    Namely, building up passive income through my network of affiliate websites.

    in reply to: What to do with leftover Challah & bread?? #728076

    Thanks for the suggestions. I make a bit more challah than we need in case unexpected guests come, which sometimes happens.

    So, it seems that my best bet is to install a special shelf where the challah and bread ends (I make homemade bread in the weekdays, but nobody eats the ends) will sit until moldy, unless someone has a better idea…..

    As I stated in the original post, my family does not eat things made with bread or breadcrumbs, otherwise that would be a good idea:)

    in reply to: The Math of the Age Gap #723772

    This idea has nothing to do with the age gap, but rather with another math equation: with the slow pace of dating.

    It often takes months to get a “yes” and get a boy and girl to date number one these days. If we could increase the frequency of dates, we would increase the amount of marriages in our community.

    For example, if an average girl dates 6 boys per year currently, and marries her 24th boy, then she will get married 4 years after starting dating. If, on the other hand, she dates 12 boys per year, she will get married after only 2 years of dating.

    One of the reasons for the very long process from the first suggestion until the date, is that we find ourselves dealing with very busy shadchanim.

    I challenge you to find me a dozen couples that you know, who have been married for 30+ years, who were set up by a shadchan. I can’t think of any. All the frum couples I know who got married 30+ years ago were set up by friends or relatives.

    Now, I challenge you to find out who set up the couples who married in the past dozen weddings you attended. Chances are, that more than half were set up by shadchanim.

    Why the major sociological shift in the past generation from friends and family making shiduchim to shadchanim making most of our shadchanim?

    That is the question.

    I welcome your answers.

    When a relative or friend suggests a shidduch, the process can move that much faster, as there is much more trust involved. When a shadchan suggests a shidduch, the process is slowed by the amount of research and verification necessitated by dating a random stranger who has been suggested to you by another random stranger.

    One possible answer is that we have become ‘frummer’. 30 years ago a guy knew his sister’s friends and would be likely to set one of them up with his friends. 30 years ago a bachur might have been friendly with his mother’s friends. These days, if a girl has friends over for Shabbos, a yeshiva guy will probably be too frum to stay home and eat at the same meal. These days, a guy is too frum to say “Hello, how are you Mrs. Goldstein?” when the neighbor returns a cup of sugar to his mother. This type of ‘frumkeit’ means that less people in our circles have the ability to redt shidduchim to friends and family, because they have kept themselves so incredibly segregated.

    What do you think?

    in reply to: See New Ami Magazine #1010930

    I don’t know if there’s anything halachically wrong with copying a business idea; I just know that if I was an owner of Mishpacha, I would be furious.

    How would you feel if you researched, tested, risked money, and created something new and marketed it to our community – let’s say you spent five years developing and marketing the Shabbos Lamp. Then, a few years after your Shabbos Lamp is on the market, along comes Mr. Ami Lamp who swipes your entire product idea, produces a virtually identical lamp, and markets it in the same stores and publications where you market yours, and he calls it the Non-Muktza-Lamp.

    I don’t know if there are potential Hasagas Gevul problems or patent problems with this scenario, but I do know that the original creator of the Shabbos Lamp would not be pleased.

    Why couldn’t Ami Magazine have figured out a somewhat different format and style for their magazine, rather than “riding” on Mishpacha’s years of experience and “swiping” their style and format? C’mon, Ami folks, be creative – there’s endless room for creativity in the magazine industry – by showing yourself to be a copycat I have already lost respect for your publication during week #1. (although I may still continue buying it, not sure yet if I like it enough.)

    in reply to: How Can I Change My Attitude About Shabbos? #712864

    I remember this stage when my kids were little. What helped was when someone told me to change my attitude from being a teenager, when Shabbos was relaxing, to thinking of myself as the Rav of a big Shul, where I am “on-duty” all of Shabbos.

    If I stopped expecting to be able to sleep, read, and relax over Shabbos, and I expected this to be my time to actively work, then I was much happier.

    Many of the other practical suggestions in this thread will help you as well – Hatzlacha!

    in reply to: See New Ami Magazine #1010925

    I know that Ami magazine is a big advertiser on this site, so this post may be deleted.

    However, I must express how deeply disappointed I was last night when I read through the magazine, how it is a COPYCAT of Mishpacha magazine- virtually exactly the same style, a women’s and kid’s magazine included, virtually the same layouts, news blurbs at the beginning and then long stories of old-fashioned finds, with some more articles thrown in, serial stories, and it even looks like they are using the same graphic designers as Mishpacha!

    I’m an entrepreneur and part of what I do is research how I can do better than my competition, HOWEVER, I do not copycat my competition and call the work my own. I look at my competition and see how I can service my target audience better and more effectively.

    Copycatting is really not an admirable trait.

    in reply to: Black Friday 2010: Slashing prices like crazy #712539

    Get a head start on Chanukah gifts for your kids with these steep sales!

    Amazon’s Famous Black Friday Deals! 40% off Games!

    in reply to: Is This A Scam Or Legitimate? #704706

    Ok, so I read the free course. She is a smart lady. Has haskamahs and proof of her income. It’s very intriguing.

    It seems that you need to learn to build your own website and don’t need to sell your own products at all– you get paid by companies like amazon.

    Did anyone else read her free course here? What do you think?

    in reply to: Broken Telephone #5 #706177

    Shhh, he’s a light sleeper.

    in reply to: Giving Business to Jews #698646

    Honestly, it depends.

    I’d drive an extra few blocks, but not an extra few miles.

    in reply to: Good Websites #698210

    I know the moderator of frumteens (the original one), and he is a very chashuv Talmud Chacham. I know that he got overwhelmed by the site and brought other moderators aboard; and I’m certain that those were people he trusted. has a tremendous variety of shiurim, and it’s free. (although they do ask you for a donation every time you pause a video!). I’ve put lots of Naaleh shiurim onto my mp3 player.

    in reply to: PAYBOX #698253

    Paypal will intercede on your behalf if you say that you did not receive a product that you paid for. I’ve been doing thousands of dollars via paypal monthly for years.

    in reply to: Pas Shacharis? #698265

    Pas means grains, in this context, so Mezonos cereals would also fall under the category of Pas Shacharis.

Viewing 20 posts - 1 through 20 (of 20 total)