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ChabadShlucha: What would you tell the OP if she were listening? (She and others with the same thought process may still be lurking.)
This is one of the many many threads that were mangled when the CR was upgraded.
You find many more married talmidei chachamim than unmarried talmidei chachamim. So it is rare to ever need to resort to a single chazzan.
Mitzvos.
Why is the shared armrest between the two seats yours? It is shared, so he isn’t violating your space.
I’m glad that R. Hoffman is an avid reader of the CR. (No, I will not ask what his screen name here is.) I also appreciate he raised my point of undiagnosed illness in his article based on this thread (although he didn’t seek to answer that angle.)
I’ve seen a Heter Mean Rabbonim signed by Reb Moshe Feinstein zt’l.
Right. The Chofetz Chaim got smicha when he was an old man. If he had signed a HMR before he got smicha it would have been valid.
Honda, you also have some ego.
There’s no specific halachic requirements regarding who can sign. Technically any 100 men with smicha can be the signatories.
Since it is very much possible to find a married yirei shamayim who can be chazzan, there’s rarely a need to go the b’dievedika route of taking someone who never married.
pt, whilst I agree with you that the comment you quoted was very unfair in its negative portrayal of southern plantation owners, I must say that my eved knani is a real sweet guy who does our dishes really well.
It’s uncommon for the reason that it is very uncommon for it to even be needed or desired. Despite media portrayals of bitter divorce battles where the spouses remain unwillingly married is a common occurrence, in reality it is very rare for cases to ever get to that point. When man bites dog it makes the news but it doesn’t make it common.
How is the seating neighbor violating your space?
Q: Can an Orthodox woman watch television if it’s necessary to calm her nerves?
A: Can an Orthodox woman take morphine or other narcotics if it’s necessary to calm her nerves? And the answer is, if she wants to destroy herself, let her go ahead and do it. But really there are better things to do for “nerves” rather than resorting to narcotics. Narcotics might be sometimes needed in extreme cases – but ordinarily, certainly not.
And there are much better things to do than watching TV. Let her take up dressmaking. Dressmaking is soothing for the nerves. That’s just an example. There are many other creative and useful hobbies that women can do.
Actually, “nerves” are only an excuse that a person uses to be able to resort to watching TV. If the TV wouldn’t be in the house you can be sure that they’d find ways and means of soothing their nerves in kosher ways.
Rav Avigdor Miller, Tape # 272 (July 1979)
Say the wrong thing. After enough practice, they’ll say the right thing.
JJ2020, ” You must be very careful and there are no guarantees.”
Is marrying someone who has a mental health issues something to be avoided, if possible?
TLIK:
“I ask about anger. What does he/she do when they get angry?”
How often have to gotten an honest answers, “Yes, he/she has an anger problem.” Who gave you such a negative answer?
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It is very, very useful to inquire about the shalom bayis of the parents.”How often have you heard someone tell you the parents have Shalom Bayis problems? As often as it is the case?
hml, so you’d be okay marrying, or marrying your child, to someone with diabetes but not to someone with mental illness. You’re like most people in this regard.
Which is why people will tell you about their diabetes. But won’t tell you about their mental illness. Since, even though they can live normally with medication, they’ll have almost no marriage prospects.
So you’ll find out by the second child.
Anyone would be lucky to get your blessing, Wolf.
moshearyeh: I have not been getting any dates.
Shopping: I haven’t been getting too many dates either.
Sounds like a match!
TLIK: Do you require potential shidduchim for yourself and your family to undergo a physical to insure their good health?
What do you say about singles who don’t seek any diagnosis or treatment for any suspected mental health issues so that there’s nothing they know or have to disclose?
Amen!
With everyone saying YES to disclose but NO I would never marry such a person, or ever let my child marry such a person, EVEN if with medication he/she can live a fully normal life, is anyone still wondering why there’s no disclosure?? They probably decided not to even get diagnosed until after marriage. This way they “didn’t know.”
Hopefully you’ll have it all figured out by the second child.
Any Yid can bless anyone else.
After all is said and done, folks, will YOU be willing to date and marry — or encourage your child to date and marry — someone who has a mental illness that he or she is on medication for and has completely under control that he/she can have a normal life with medication?
Honest answers, please.
balebos, a single and their parents don’t even have to know whether or not their grandparents take meds.
In addition to RebYidd23’s excellent point, since mental illness is stigmatized many singles specifically will not seek diagnosis. Despite experiencing symptoms. Since once it is diagnosed, they’ll have to share it during shidduchim. And that might sink their chances in shidduchim.
Shopping: Mainstream seminary girls don’t have IDF sweaters.
not sure why this post went through
Rav Moshe isn’t always the final word in America either. Roshei Yeshiva and Poskim, such as Rav Hutner, Rav Eli Meyer Bloch of Telz, the Debreciner Rav, the Chelkas Yaakov and others, sided with the Satmar Rebbe over Rav Moshe regarding the obligatory size of a mechitzah in a shul, and/or the permissibility of artificial insemination, which were the two big disagreements that those Gedoim had in halacha. It was indeed Rav Hutner who approached the Satmar Rav asking him to write a refutation to Rav Moshe’s psak about the Mechitzos.
You will not find the phrase “posek hador” used anywhere in any meaningful way. The Tzitz Eliezer uses it all over the place in his titles, and either the Teshuvos Maharshal writes it among the titles to the Ramah, or the Teshuvos Ramah about the Maharshal. I forget. But in any case, the title connotes no halachic status.
Daas Torah isn’t one of the seven Mitzvos. But Daas Torah are the biggest experts in interpreting the 7 Mitzvos and how they apply to any particular situation.
Interactions between gentiles and Jews are governed by Halacha rather than the Sheva Mitzvos.
Yated, Hamodia, Mishpacha, Binah and their likes studiously avoid posting l”h, rechilus, ms”r and other halachicly unacceptable material.
The goyim are obligated in the Sheva Mitzvos. The Sheva Mitzvos have complexities. And who are the best experts on the Sheva Mitzvos? The goyim are also required to treat Yidden in accordance with Torah law.
As far as Rav Moshe, the yeshivish in Eretz Yisroel certainly did consider him to be the Rashkbehag.
What I’ve found after being involved in so many shidduchim is that those who b’shitta do not send any pictures tend to get the best shidduchim.
benignuman, just as you see the appellation Rashkbehag when applied to contemporary gedolim as not being literal, why can’t you see a discussion (and title) such as this thread in the same light?
This is the first I’ve heard of this and the way you’re describing it sounds like it is borderline Avoda Zora.
“whence comes the idea that women need a “constant reminder?”
From the Seforim HaKedoshim, as mentioned.
“wedding rings for men became popular when wives figured their husbands going off to war needed a “constant reminder” of their status.”
That is antithetical to us Jews, as you said. Chukas Akum for men to wear rings. And the idea of a married man having a “reminder” not to do something wrong is itself not Jewish. Single men are also not allowed to do anything wrong. The fact that a man is married, in Judaism, does not change much the standards of what is appropriate or inappropriate. Married women have a special status, eishes ish, that men don’t have an equivalent status of.
Zion, you’ve been so brainwashed by non-Jewish music that you’re a) unable to enjoy Jewish music and b) don’t even know Jewish music.
Does anyone have an idea how many geiruses per year are done by Orthodox Beis Dins in North America or elsewhere?
There used to be a lot of posters who had a subtitle in my honor. Unfortunately I’m no longer so popular.