I am writing about something I noticed over the course of this winter.
I had learned in very good Yeshivos, and after I got married I wanted to learn for as long as I could. However, due to the financial situation, after consulting with my Rosh Yeshiva, he advised me that I had no choice but to go to work. Having entered this world which had been unknown to me previously, I quickly began to realize things that I hadn’t before, namely: being responsible, and how hard it is to make money.
That being said, what I noticed was so many of my friends in Kollel who went for vacation. Whether to Eretz Yisroel, Florida, or skiing, many of them went for more than just a long weekend. What I can’t understand is that for me there is no bein hazmanim anymore, so why are yungerleit taking off from their valuable time in Yeshiva to go on vacation. Now that I work, I really know what it is to be stressed out- but to take off from learning Torah when there are already three month long breaks throughout the year?! I wish I could still be delving into a seguya without worrying about where the rent is coming, yet some of these guys seem to be blowing an opportunity that I think they are taking for granted. Maybe they should be honest with themselves if they are really fit for full time learning.
The second issue I had with these vacations is the money. Some of my friends are spending their chassunah money, or money saved from their wife’s jobs for these trips. How can someone without too much in their bank account spend so much on a luxury without a care of the consequences of not saving up for the future. Even if they come from wealthy families, I still think it is fiscally irresponsible for someone with no income of his own to waste money for a one week fling.
Most yungerleit in Kollel, are the most chusheve people, and they do not waste their time or money, but what’s to be with the irresponsible attitude of those who do?
Thank you for your great website,
“Working Guy with a Gripe”