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Awesome The Goq!
I think I would like to be the child advocate attorney, seeing as how I am one…I will also represent “furry family members” free of charge 😉
One of Many, it is hard to believe that a pet would put up with being dressed up to the nines like that 🙂
Hello The Goq, I think so too! Thank you or what you said 🙂
The Chassidishe Gatesheader, mine are very adept at opening doors too! I wonder if they learn this by watching us?
Your feline sounds very studious grateful2Hashem 🙂 I always think that tuxedo cats like yours look so elegant. I totally agree that pets are a special gift from Hashem!!! I think that the lights mesmerize these cats in some way.
It sounds like your pup has a fabulous Friday night, takahmamash! I’m always amazed that dogs will eat non-meat food stuffs if given the opportunity. I think I’ve read somewhere that the greens are very good for them.
I didn’t realize that, thank you for letting me know 🙂
I don’t know why these thoughts come to me late at night…I have observed some videos of pets dressed for holidays, in particular a cat dressed in some kind of Chanukah-themed costume and a yarmulka (he or she seemed quite content).
Putting aside for a moment the issue of whether a particular pet (such as Cleocatra) would enjoy donning such festive wear, are there (seriously) any concerns Halachically regarding doing this?
Before you laugh (although this may make you laugh harder), I should mention that I am a rather skilled knitter (yes, at 35 I am already a crazy, old cat lady), and the pets in my life already have knit blankets and some other special knit items. I also sometimes sell these things (as you may imagine, there is quite a little niche market for these goods).
As I write this, I wonder if perhaps I should have written to Popa bar Abby with this question…
I can’t say that I have noticed this problem in my limited experience…have you tried different brands? I am partial to beeswax candles myself — to me, it seems as if the flame burns more cleanly. This may well not be related to what you are experiencing though. Could it be that perhaps the wicks you have are too long?
I am so glad to hear that! I’ll be hoping for the best for you during the move. You are in my prayers.
I’m sorry iced, I meant no offense…I was just musing on how pets find a way to join our daily rituals and holiday celebrations. I love these kinds of funny and heart-warming stories!
WIY, I do think that Cleocatra has Jewish sympathies 🙂
Amichai, I always wonder how these cats (and pets generally) seem so wise when they do what they do…they seem very intuitive to me, like they really sense their people’s moods.
Dear Popa bar Abby,
I have from time to time re-gifted to try to match presents to personalities, and now that we are back in a festive season, I am wondering if there are any Halachic restrictions upon re-gifting of which I should be aware. Please feel free to illustrate the salient points with real-life examples. Thank you in advance for promoting my continuing edification!
A Cat Lover Near Delaware
I have been thinking of you over Chanukah and hoping that you are back in your home or will very soon be there. Whatever is going on, I wish you and your loved ones the best and am here if you need virtual support!
Thank you for your thoughtful suggestions and the way you go out of your way to be welcoming to a newcomer like me 🙂
I read a reply of yours to WolfishMusings in which you opined that one of his proposed possibilities was unlikely. And, perhaps a demographic statistician by profession would hypothetically be able to provide studies and numbers that support your opinion.
Nonetheless, such “unlikely”s do exist in this diverse world. I myself am coming to Orthodox Judaism after discovering maternal family roots from two generations ago — unlikely, but…here I am. Some posters here in my threads on that subject have even suggested the possibility that, if my maternal family roots can be validated sufficiently to establish that I am Halachically Jewish, no conversion would be required.
Perhaps the wife of this man has a similar situation as my own — i.e., maternal Jewish roots, perhaps even enough so that no conversion is required. In fact, one could not tell solely by looking if this woman just happens to have one maternal grandparent of, say, Ashkenazic Jewish ancestry, while her other three grandparents are not of any known Jewish background. This situation is, again, my own, and I am very familiar with people (Gentile and Jewish) explicitly or implicitly telling me that I don’t “look Jewish.” Perhaps this woman in the restaurant is mistaken for a woman of full Chinese, non-Jewish ancestry, whereas I am taken for some kind of Anglo-Saxon Protestant.
Any given individual that any of us comes across may seem more or less “unlikely” based on statistics, or perhaps based sheerly on the internal, conditioned, unspoken categories of “types” of people that all of us carry around to a greater or lesser extent as a framework for the world — i.e., who we think or guess that people are, what various groups of people are like, etc.
However, when anyone observes the woman whom you described and then asks if the Geyrus was good, what we really end up with are a lot of assumptions, which can not be corroborated on such scant information, placed upon a complete and total stranger. In essence, we learn nothing definitive about the stranger — ironically, what we learn definitively concerns the individual making the assumptions. For no apparently redeeming value or purpose, and with no discernible provocation other than surface appearances and assumptions being out-of-sync in the eye of the viewer/writer, these assumptions became the fodder of negative speculation against a human being by way of the original post.
I and others here have suggested alternative possibilities to your assumptions. You reply that at least some of these possibilities are “unlikely.” As an “unlikely” myself, I am not overly fond of assumptions about who I am based on appearances, especially when those assumptions are then used to imply some negative characteristic on my part (in this woman’s case, the negative implication is that her conversion is/was not valid, because how likely is it that a Chinese woman would be born a Jewish woman, especially to a maternal line of born Jews). To be further dismissed as a unique person by being pegged “unlikely” when the assumptions are challenged adds insult to the initial injury done to this woman by the original post.
I have read enough here in the CR for upwards of a year to know that I am in the company of a couple other “unlikely”s, including one African American convert to Orthodox Judaism from a Christian background. The kinds of assumptions contained in the original post are unkind and unfair to the woman in question, and, from at least the perspective of this “unlikely,” these assumptions hurt others as well.
Please, you have absolutely nothing to apologize for! I can not even begin to imagine the hardship and devastation caused to you and all those afflicted by Hurricane Sandy. “Home” is profound…for a homebody like me ( no pun intended), it is everything! If sharing here can alleviate even an iota of the frustration, angst, and suffering, I hope you share as much as you feel comfortable. I will be here to listen and only wish I could do more! My thoughts and prayers will be with you, that you and all those you love are restored home and made whole in this long recovery.
I wanted to congratulate you on your motivation, persistence, and bravery in your conversion process! I admire you greatly for these qualities and am working on the bravery part myself in this process. I wish you the best of luck in all your endeavors!
I hope all is well with you 🙂 I have been considering going to a Chanuka party, but I am trying to get over being shy or embarrassed in person about sticking out like a sore thumb due to my lack of knowledge regarding customs etc. I’m sure that sounds silly but I worry about being conspicuous. I am the kind of person who tends to feel out-of-place at large social gatherings, even when I am completely familiar with what’s going on…one might say that I’m a wall-flower. This is a part of my personality that I struggle with all the time. And I’m sure that the people would be very welcoming, so I am not sure why I am so timid.
I too am so saddened to hear about your predicament. I hope and pray that you and your loved ones are back in your home soon and that your damages are minimal. I hope some Chanukah festivities find their way to you in the interim.
Thank you for your kind words 🙂 It must be a beautiful sight to see young children’s faces lit up by the glow of the candles or oil. Such blessings!
Thank you tzaddiq for the welcome back!
In my opinion, feeling joy in and celebrating one’s own holidays is a marvelous thing. I spend time trying to see each holiday as a child would, with “fresh” eyes…all the wonder, curiosity, and awe. The memories that result have such incredible potential to ensure one’s lifelong attachment to the community.
I am a single woman coming to Judaism after discovering maternal family roots — no one else in my family is going down this path with me, so I am the only one to light. I am really anticipating these lightings, because to me, it seems almost like some kind of personal metaphor as well…I am beginning to shine the light of discovery into a family past obscured by darkness when my maternal grandmother and family left Germany between the World Wars for Brazil and eventually the USA. I have been piecing together the clues, shining light on them, and by doing so, I feel profoundly connected to my MomMom, who passed away when I was seven. I am reclaiming a part of my family history, welcoming it into the warm light of today, making sure that it is not snuffed out. I hope that you have a Chanukah full of light and joy 🙂
Hello WIY and SaysMe,
Thank you WIY for what you said above…I enjoy your posts as well! 🙂
Thank you for the welcome back SaysMe, it has been a busy time on the home front, but I hope things are settling down now so that I can come back more regularly and enjoy a nice virtual cup of coffee with my CR friends!
I love to think about the light and warmth of Hannukah at this darkest time of year (here in the mid-Atlantic region of the United States, at least). The beauty of winter and it’s contrasts as we shine these lights of celebration, cheer, and community…so beautiful to behold!
I have often wondered about something and just remembered it when I read your post — someday, when 9/11/2001 is as far in the past as 12/7/1941 is now, will I still remember 9/11 as clearly as I do today (i.e., like it happened yesterday)? I wonder if many older people continue to have that same feeling about Pearl Harbor today? I wish sometimes that I were part of some organization charged with preserving this country’s history, so I could interview various survivors and people who witnessed historical events. I feel that it is so important to remember and preserve these accounts.
Oh, I forgot to say thank you Nechomah for your well wishes for my family in the hurricane…we were SO lucky where I live — for whatever reason, this part of Pennsylvania and Delaware made out virtually unscathed. I hope you and yours are safe and well too?
Thank you yichusdik and Nechomah for explaining this…I have seen the Zohar on the shelf at Barnes and Noble and thought about getting it to read, but it sounds as if I would need to have a lot of other knowledge first to even begin to understand what is written there. Do either of you happen to know if women who go very far in their studies ever study the Zohar?
Hello This name is already taken,
This topic is fabulous, with many hilarious possibilities! I have to think here a little bit to see if I can come up with a good one…
Do you know if there is much connection between astrology and Kabbala? Pardon my ignorance, I still have a lot to learn. And, is Kabbala something that is given much emphasis in various Orthodox circles?November 2, 2012 8:31 pm at 8:31 pm in reply to: Heartwarming, inspiring stories of Jewish community #1023319
It sounds like you’ve had some great experiences abroad with welcoming Jewish communities…when you travel, do you usually seek out these communities, or do you tend to run into these outgoing people more randomly?
It definitely gives me pause whenever I think about how vice presidents are only a heartbeat away from the presidency!November 1, 2012 6:38 am at 6:38 am in reply to: Heartwarming, inspiring stories of Jewish community #1023317
I’d love to hear about some of the welcoming ways of the Parisian Jews you met.November 1, 2012 1:18 am at 1:18 am in reply to: Heartwarming, inspiring stories of Jewish community #1023316
I would love to hear about your own personal stories if you feel like sharing any…personal experiences are so powerful, and I find that they really have the power to inspire me and others! Sometimes, it’s the little things that happen — those that aren’t even related to an official organization devoted to charity — that can leave life-changing impressions.November 1, 2012 1:13 am at 1:13 am in reply to: Heartwarming, inspiring stories of Jewish community #1023315
Hello Shlishi and nishtdayngesheft,
It is inspiring to be able to communicate with people you have never met and know that they would do anything to help, based on your common bond. Were there any experiences that happened to you personally that really impressed this upon you in your daily life?November 1, 2012 1:02 am at 1:02 am in reply to: Heartwarming, inspiring stories of Jewish community #1023314
Hello The Litvishe Kiryas Yoelite,
I am coming to Orthodox Judaism after learning about my mother’s family history, so although I know a little bit about a couple of the groups you mentioned in your post, I do not know much. If you have any stories that you experienced in relation to these groups, or anything else, that impressed upon you the feeling of being a part of a warm, welcoming Jewish community, I would love to hear that story.November 1, 2012 12:57 am at 12:57 am in reply to: Heartwarming, inspiring stories of Jewish community #1023313
Make that “restored” (darn auto-spell!).November 1, 2012 12:56 am at 12:56 am in reply to: Heartwarming, inspiring stories of Jewish community #1023312
It is heartening to know that there are such friendly, supportive neighborhoods like yours, with all kinds of people living there. I hope that the power has been rested where you are, and that you all are safe and well
🙂November 1, 2012 12:52 am at 12:52 am in reply to: Heartwarming, inspiring stories of Jewish community #1023311
Hello just my hapence, that is a wonderful story…it is amazing to me that there is a city where it is safe to take a ride from a stranger, and where a stranger would be so kind as to help you like that.October 31, 2012 9:41 pm at 9:41 pm in reply to: Heartwarming, inspiring stories of Jewish community #1023307
Again, please stop the comparisons and back-and-forth on this thread. Please share your inspiring experiences here.October 31, 2012 4:56 pm at 4:56 pm in reply to: Heartwarming, inspiring stories of Jewish community #1023301
Hello posters on this thread,
Please share your experiences of heartwarming, inspiring times of Jewish community. I know that those personal experiences can occur in the context of a common spoken language, and that that language could be one of several that Jews speak. But please, do not take this thread down the road of comparisons amongst the languages that various Jews speak. Please reread my initial post, and help us spread the good! Thank you 🙂
Hello shoe store assistant,
I am so sorry to hear that! I didn’t realize that — I will have to read about it on the other thread…October 31, 2012 2:57 am at 2:57 am in reply to: Heartwarming, inspiring stories of Jewish community #1023294
Hello zahavasdad, hadassa, and ItcheSrulik,
Just reading your stories is very heartwarming — thank you for sharing what you did. It is amazing to be connected worldwide by a common language like a couple of you described. It must be such an inclusive feeling of being part of a larger whole. It is reassuring to know that there are communities like yours, hadassa.
Hello King Bob XV,
I am also so glad that you did not take that desperate step, and my prayers are with you that you have been able to find help, understanding, compassion, and healing in treating your depression.
Hello shoe store assistant,
Your one-track shoe-minded posts keep me in stitches…love it!! 🙂
Hmmmmm….very interesting! I had not thought about it that way before. That certainly seems like a positive way to view this storm. I hope that you and yours are safely evacuated!October 29, 2012 8:05 pm at 8:05 pm in reply to: Heartwarming, inspiring stories of Jewish community #1023289
I hope you are well-charged on coffee during this storm — I myself am brewing a fresh pot as I type 🙂
I like your analogy of the colorful stripes in a piece of art — like a tapestry or mosaic!October 29, 2012 8:02 pm at 8:02 pm in reply to: Heartwarming, inspiring stories of Jewish community #1023288
Hello The Litvishe Kiryas Yoelite and tzaddiq,
Absolutely beautiful!! Thank you for sharing 🙂 To mingle and shmooze with each other is a wondrous thing — it kind of blows me away too, seeing how this People managed to survive, against all odds as it’s members were flung to the far corners of the earth. How fascinating to observe how the multitude of customs, ways, and practices evolved over time, like variations on the same musical theme.
Hello The Litvishe Kiryas Yoelite,
Thank you for the clarification — I got a little confused there 🙂
That is fascinating…I would love to hear more about your experiences being Jewish in an East Asian environment!
Speaking of cozy…I am so grateful, at times like this, for the creature comforts of shelter and warmth that G-d has given me. What a gift to be able to curl up by a warm fire or under fluffy quilts while all the wind and rain howl outside. I just pray that everyone else may enjoy these comforts as well and weather the storm in safety. 🙂
I hope you have a safe and cozy day at home with the little ones Boro Park Girl!
Hello shoe store assistant,
Your love of all things shoes cracks me up! Sometime perhaps in your commentary on a thread you can find a way to describe how you came to develop your singular obsession…was there a life-changing childhood moment involving footwear? I am very serious — I like to understand how people come to develop their distinctive areas of interest.
How many years would you say it has been since the hurricane you described, and do you remember what level it was?