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Native Israeli – See no evil…hear no evil…speak no evil.
Has head in the sand.
I think for this election in particular, it’s going to be the vice -presidential choice that’s going to determine my vote.
Basically, the President, whether Democrat or Republican, goes with the best advise given to him by the various government agencies. One very vital exception is Supreme Court appointments – while there isn’t anyone ready to retire, you can never be certain.
You should have given her the $12 and fired her after Pesach.
The Torah is talking to frum yidden who are not rashaim. It is talking to husbands and wives who trust each other. It is talking to Yehuda, Yosef, to Dovid Hamelech and to yidden who witnessed k’rias yam suf and har sinai. It is talking to the biggest godol hador and saying “careful, you too can slip”.
The nisyonos are hard enough, don’t put your head in the sand and think the Torah’s warnings are not meant for you and me.
EDC- unless you’re ready to identify yourself when making your harsh accusations, at best, you are no better than those you are pointing fingers at.
A perfect example, just this morning, I was taking the express bus to work. Most of the passengers were either reading or spacing out and on gets two obvious frum Jews. They must have both been deaf because they were sitting next to each other and shouting at each other like they were in a Bais Medrash. While they were quoting M’silas Y’sharim, g’maras and other s’forim to prove their points to each other, the irony is that it was the passengers who displayed extraordinary midos. While the passengers were clearly annoyed, not one made a commotion and breathed a sigh of relief when these fellows got off at their stop.
To dagim41:
So wives, if you are in the country, yes show your appreciation. Be ready to respect your husbands and please them when he comes. Fake it for two days. If not, his cooking and doing the laundry at home should be the least of your concerns.
What’s the message that’s being given to us? Do as I say, but not as I do.
Our role models: Rabbonim; Rabbeim; Kolleleit; Yeshiva administration; etc- are mostly away from the city during the summer months– in the country or camps or hotels or traveling. Borough Park and Flatbush are ghost towns (what a m’chaya!)
What’s the heter for abandoning their mispalilim; talmidim; and families who depend on their spiritual guidance?
Wives, don’t kid yourselves. Even with the dinners and night kollels, there’s loads of time for other things. We are only human beings, not malachim and no better then our heroic biblical personalities who were nichshal.
Rav Eliyahu Lapian, even when quite elderly, did not trust himself to be put in situations where it was possible to be be nichshal with women.
How then can we separate men from their pas b’salo, and expect them to be tzadikim?
What’s the message that’s being given to us? Do as I say, but not as I do.
Our role models: Rabbonim; Rabbeim; Kolleleit; Yeshiva administration; etc- are mostly away from the city during the summer months– in the country or camps or hotels or traveling. Borough Park and Flatbush are ghost towns (what a m’chaya!)
What’s the heter for abandoning their mispalilim; talmidim; and families who depend on their spiritual guidance?
Wives, don’t kid yourselves. Even with the dinners and night kollels, there’s loads of time for other things. We are only human beings, not malachim and no better then our heroic biblical personalities who were nichshal.
Rav Eliyahu Lapian, even when quite elderly, did not trust himself to be put in situations where it was possible to be be nichshal with women.
How then can we separate men from their pas b’salo, and expect them to be tzadikim?
Everyone has their own weakness. You can’t blame the alcohol for the alcoholic; the casinos for the gambler; tobacco for the smoker; food for the glutton; the mouth for gossip; the way people dress for your perversions; etc.
The Torah is talking to frum people. The Torah says: Don’t try it because you might like it. But accept the responsibility and don’t play the blame game. It’s not going to work after 120.
We can all be added to the list since we are all on the internet, and you know what that means.
Great! They deserve each other.
Unless you know how to give musser, and very few people do, it’s best to only give musser to yourself.
Unless, of course, if you are responding to a YeshivaWorld blog. Then, fire away.
I’m one of those American looking guys (my color scheme is not black) and thank g-d I don’t go up to the Catskills to witness this chilul hashem and more. The bottom line is the lack of Yiras Shamayim; and also how you were raised and how you raise your children.
Tzinius is not just in clothing but it’s also drawing attention to yourself in all matters. It means talking softly and not on a cell phone when on a store line or on a bus.
Yiras Shamayim doesn’t just mean having your tzitzus out and not obeying rules whether it’s taxes or double parking or geneivas das – learning gemara was not meant to help you find a clever drei with which you rationalize your illegal behavior.
I have observed that Yiras Shamayim and rudeness go hand and hand. The same people whose actions have been described in the postings above are also the people who talk in shul and chalila if someone should ask them to refrain.
So what happens when people go to the county? There is no accountability, no rav, and hefkeirus breeds hefkeirus.
We are privileged to be part of Am Yisroel. At the same time, this comes with responsibilities for which we are accountable. B’nei Noach are required to adhere to a different group of orders. Members of both groups are judged accordingly and in fact the Chasidei Umos HaOlam do receive Olam Habah.
Is a Kohen better than a Layvee or Yisroel? Is a Layvee better than a Yisroel? Halacha instructs us: the honor of a talmud chacham who is a mamzer overrides that of a kohen gadol am haaretz.
I recognized definite Kitaro (Japanese New Age) in one piece and some Peter Paul and Mary (60’s) in another.
Last night one of my relatives who is a smoker showed me an “electronic cigarette” which he bought on eBay and is totally safe. It’s amazing. It looks and “tastes” like the real thing. The “cigarette” which produces an artificial smoke (which is actually vapor) has a nicotine cartridge and battery inside so when you drag and inhale you get the taste (in your lungs) and effect of a real cigarette. The tip even “glows” like the real thing when you drag on it. It comes with three levels of nicotine cartridges. It’s also very reasonably priced (in the $50’s).
I know that the OU does not allow food to be served when there is public Chillul Shabbos (i.e. microphone) in the dining room.
Once you became aware of what was going on, you should have gone into the kitchen to look around, and probably would not have eaten the food after that.
Aleen1, I agree, we need to be makir tov to the USA for all the good that its protection, for the good that it stands for and for allowing Yiden the opportunity to observe the Torah.
The Jewish community should especially keep this in mind when government forms are submitted and in our business dealings. What is the message to our government and the citizens we interact with everyday when our prisons have frum populations requiring glatt kosher, minyanim, daf yomi?
However, that said, there is also no kiddush hashem to accept all the government handouts you mention, as a regular source of income. This is not what Hashem has in mind when we ask for osher v’chovod. With Hashem’s assurances, frum families and bnei torah live(d), survive(d) and stay(ed) afloat with dignity without these programs – poseach es yadecha u’masbia…
To Lesschumras – actually you might be able to follow the state curriculum and not compromise Lemudei Kodesh. Almost any subject can be converted to allow enhanced Lemudei Kodesh, i.e., Math: essential for properly learning chumash and gemara; Ancient History: taught to include time periods and geography of the Tanach, Mishna, Gemara; US History: the same; Language: study of Hebrew, Yiddish, Arabic, Greek, French-all to understand original holy texts; Music and Poetry: comprehend tefilos; English and Speech: would enable future rabbonim to put two intelligent English sentences together as our past Gedolim did in their host country.
Yid613- Obviously, you are not the owner of the school and are in the same situation as the teachers and other staff. You’re attitude and anger, however, is misdirected..it should be against the owners of your school, not the children and parents. If I were you, I’d go back to the “comfortable well paying job” you had before when you were happy. The parents and children are not the cause of your matzav.
Anyway, twelve hours after the wedding, the young couple is left to start their lives together and the parents are left to pay the expenses. All the dancing and carrying on becomes a dim memory and finally is totally forgotten. The wedding album is ready many months later and is hardly looked at years later.
As was eluded by the other posts, at what point should we stop reimbursing the bochrim for their wedding costs? Will they have more surplus money while in Kollel then they have now?
Wolf, I apologize. Kol Yisrael Areivim Zeh Lazeh. The point I was making is that it’s not a laughing matter and that this is Pikuach Nefesh. Wanting is not the same as doing. Kofin oso ad s’amar rotze ani.
At this point, she must get detoxed to rid her of the chemicals that are part of her guf and that are making her smoke. If she’s serious then sometimes hypnosis can work. Find out immediately by phone if her physicians allow Zyban, and if if they do, then immediately get the medication for her. I know that smoking is the hardest thing in the world to lick but not impossible. Don’t let up. I have very close and dear relatives that smoke but since they are young the urgency is not apparent. This is a big mistake.
Hatzlacha
At a wedding, the Satmer Rav (R. Yoel) gave the badchan permission to imitate the Rebbe. Upon doing so the rebbe began to cry. The Rebbe explained that the badchan was very good at coping the Rebbe. But he said, it made him realize that at times the Rebbe will also imitate himself perfectly.
Have a good Shabbos.
Hey, yid613, wake up and smell the coffee.
It’s the teachers and staff that are moser nefesh to teach our children and they are grossly underpaid. It’s the school owners and their heirs who live the comfortable life with the latest leased cars; nicest homes; vacationing and traveling business/first class to Israel and elsewhere.
You say that you are “ashamed to see that these posters are “frum yidden who are yarei shamayim””. Instead of being ashamed at the victims, you ought to be ashamed at the those who are stealing from our moras and rabbeim.
You also say that since it costs “between 12,000 – 14,000 a year” to educate a child, “you had better keep quiet”. Do you think the owners take one nickel out of their pockets to educate the students? Didn’t you ever hear of fundraising; dinners; government programs; federation grants; PTA; foundation grants; etc.?
This is all part of the business of owning a school. Halavai the teachers should be the beneficiaries of some of the grants so they can be paid on time and live somewhat decently.
WolfishMusings: “my mother has a host of medical issues which might prevent her from taking it”. That’s would a laugh, if it weren’t so serious. WAKE UP!!! If she doesn’t stop immediately, it may be too late.
I started smoking my Rebbe’s brand of cigarettes when I was thirteen (you could get cancer in those days for about 35-50 cents a pack) and gave up my two pack-a-day habit when my wife became pregnant. While you are addicted for life, the smoking habit becomes disgusting to you. I can name allot of Rabbeim who could not kick the habit and unfortunately they left their families too soon without a husband or father.
I agree with koton, if you have any type of weakness (uncontrolled Taiva) which may include either: cigarettes; food; kavode; gambling; drugs; sexual; alcohol; money; etc.; then you have no right to expect another person to control a Taiva that you don’t have. A Rebbe or Manhal will expel a bachur for a certain vice while they can’t control their own vices.
The two letter writers are both distasteful hypocrites. They should find a shul, Rov and friends where yirus shamayim is the topmost principle. Then they won’t be put in these situations and have to complain on the internet, “look how frum I am and look how treif they are”.
To all concerned parents and teachers: Today most New York male and female yeshivas are privately owned businesses and what is being sold is “chinuch” services to its “customers” the paying parents, and yeshiva teachers and staff are the vehicles that deliver services to the customers. Of course there are hashkafa rules based upon what would attract a majority of the customers. Jews with funny sounding last names or Balei tshuva are, therefore, usually rejected by these schools – otherwise, the customers will seek services elsewhere and the school owner’s profits will be affected. There are exceptions to the above description of privately owned yeshivas but, unfortunately, not many. My suggestion to G-d fearing teachers and parents; do your homework and seek out institutions with a reputation for yiruas shamayim and menchlichkeit, otherwise, you will be the next victim and ultimately it’s our children who will be hurt.