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You can take her to the coffee room. That will give you conversation pieces all night.
You meant effect not affect. Affect is a verb as in “to affect”.
They aren’t saying it will be any worse in monsey than in brooklyn, you just may not be able to leave. Far Rockaway on the other hand…
I was going to say, she may be pregnant
why is that a “really bad” habit?
A therapist needs to match up to your needs and feelings, just like a shidduch. Just because it didn’t work the first time, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try it again. A therapist can help you learn how to really talk and listen to each other.
popa_bar_abba- he is Rabbi Asher Shechter, very well respected and as you said the son-in-law of Rabbi Steinberg.
zahavasdad- sorry but there is none on Central Avenue. It would be nice if there was though
A23- Yes, there actually is. I don’t know whether all the stores have a hechsher, but I all the ones I know of do.
Feif un- well said!
Ben Levi- notice I gave you a quote of 95-99%. I did not say 100%. The article you quoted falls into the 5% here. It’s better safe than sorry. We can’t let our children continue to be molested because we are afraid we are reporting the wrong person. I am not saying the person needs to be sent to jail immediately, but if a child reports abuse the matter should be investigated to find out whether there are other victims.
One molester on the streets, means a number of kids being molested.Is it worth it?
adorable- you say that you remember you heard a rabbi say it, but aren’t sure who. yet, you remember exactly what he said?
Why on earth should I “hang myself” if I am refuting a point that you say? what does hanging myself have to do with anything? it won’t make my statement any less true.
By saying it it is showing you believe it. I hear many things said by all sorts of people, but I don’t repeat what I don’t believe.
and to say: “Molesters make the world a sad place but they are not polluting the world”. You don’t think molesting someone is pollution, you don’t think acting out on one’s basest urges like that is pollution? Don’t tell me your rabbi said that too.
adorable- but when men do things wrong (i.e. molest children), then the streets don’t become an unsafe place?
The posts on this forum are extremely scary.We ask how something like the murder of Leiby A’H could have happened,but yet we talk like this, and don’t actually report when something dangerous is going on. We don’t know that he was actually molested, but the point is that it’s people who talk like this, saying that things shouldn’t be reported that keep perpetuating the problem.
Everyone who talks and believes like this is directly responsible for every single child who has been molested, (and every adult who is now a molester who has themselves been molested). How are you going to face shamayim knowing that you are responsible?
aries2756- you seem to be the only one with some sense.
According to the research (as reported by a well known child therapist), when children report abuse they are right 95-99% of the time.
When a child is molested, they are extremely humiliated and afraid, and will have changes in behavior. You can tell if a child is telling the truth or not.
DaasYochid- when you say there must be corroborating evidence, how could a posek know that any more than the parent of a child or a therapist can? They are not involved with the child everyday, they may know the person and think oh he can never do something like that, but they don’t actually investigate, and try to find out if there is corroborating evidence. A child’s assertion of abuse, especially if the same thing has been reported by a few children, is not merely an allegation.
It’s more important that your son wears his helmet than his hat. Wearing a hat is a minhag, wearing a bike helmet should not be.