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I think I fall in between the two sides.
The internet is a necessity. Yeshiva Bachurim are supposed to be sheltered from it.
Who is to say that all he is looking at is Yeshiva World?
Do you know anyone who ONLY looks at frum websites? Puh-leez.
People have to be realistic. This guy could be looking at other things online. I don’t know whether he is, but he very well could be.
People who claim to be full-time learners, obviously are not expected to be learning 24/7, but they claim to be on a higher level. Doubt that higher level includes web surfing.
From my experience, I have TWO good things to say about Flatbush.
1) Large selection of shuls and schools
2) 24/7 access to kosher food and conveniences like crazy. Kosher supermarkets that have EVERYTHING, open really long hours, esp as Shabbos approaches…
I have relatives who meet their husbands/wives once or twice before they marry them; the main difference is expectations.
Getting engaged on other people’s word of middos is moronic. Do you know how many guys I dated that were supposed to be “selfless, giving…” blah blah and proved otherwise on the very first date? (But we only called 2 ref the most)
The guys I did no research about turned out to have better middos than the ones who promised to be sooo nice and special and yadda yadda.
Yes, the chinuch system must be revamped.
When I was in HS, we were forced to memorize details of Gedolim’s lives that were utterly pointless.
Instead they should have taught derech eretz. My teachers constantly complained that these girls lacked respect. I would often look on painfully as I couldn’t control my classmates, but wishing they’d listen to me when I told them to just be quiet and let our teachers teach!!
B”H, I was an extremely respectful student…but I flunked that Gedolim test, BIG TIME. You tell me what’s more important?
I am not dating “learning” guys, but I expect them to do all in their power that they don’t miss a minyan. Especially in Brooklyn where you can catch in minyan @ Landau’s any time of the day!
Girls should not talk in gemara language, and honestly if a guy would talk divrei torah the whole time, I’d get bored. Sorry, but I’m a real person. Not some mythical Bais Yaakov creature.
Everything in moderation
People have come to rely on segulot and that is not how we are supposed to be.
I also disagree with the people just say, “daven..” obviously!! We all daven. Sometimes it feels like that’s not enough.
I did TWO cycles of the shmiras halashon and i am still single…so tell me it “wasn’t my time,” so tell the same to pushutayid.
We can try what we want. Hashem is the one in charge. Hishtadlus obviously is important, too, but I don’t want to broach the bechira argument…
About the heels in the grates: How’s this? WEAR FLATS!!!!!!!!! Is that such a sin?!
I also have plenty o’ stories….like one guy who suggested we take a walk after dinner. We realized it was raining. He ran ahead of me and shouted “Hurry up, Hurry up!! not minding the fact that he was crossing against the light, risking being run over by a bus…
I’ll tell you what the other grads feel like: GARBAGE.
I agree that it is necessary to give out the valedictorian awards. Depending on class size, I think it’s fair to give awards to 10% of the graduating class.
The young women who worked hard and accomplished deserved to have it acknowledged.
The other kids have to realize that there will be times in life where they dont get what they want, or even think they deserve.
My gripe with my own graduation was that we had a small grade, and 80% of them had “with honors” attached to their names, so 1/5 of the grade looked dumb. It was the opposite of what should be
The question asked displays one of the many issues with frum jews today.
However, i do respect the asker for thinking about it before just doing it.
Why are frum people always looking for a way to make a quick buck???
Put it this way, the way I learned in Bais Yaakov— would a Gadol HaDor do it? I know, I know you’re no gadol, but they’re supposedly our role models…
I’d say to STAY FAR AWAY from things like this. It’s not yashrus.
In my humble opinion, there’s nothing to do.
People who dress not tzinus will continue to do so regardless of any Rabbi’s speech. They need it for their self-esteem, apparently. Or they’re just acting out against their Bais Yaakovs that they felt were restricted.
The women who dress in a bakavodik manner will not need to hear anything, since they B”H dress okay, so there’s nothing really to do.
The mingling and other laytzanus that goes on in Wal-Mart happens everywhere else. I am not surprised by the story at Sprinkles. Women, unfortunately, are disloyal in this generation. YEs, he could have been her brother-in-law. He could have not been also.
When I walk in to Wal-Mart in Monticello for the first weekend in the summer, I hear murmurs. I feel like telling these people, “I’m not one of those!!!”
Don’t mind the fact that the frum people generally treat the cashiers like garbage, and are pushy to the fellow goyishe shoppers.
I’m sure the same thing happens in Friedmans. I don’t know where this entitlement attitude came from, but I suggest people get rid of it.