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and intelligent, nope i was not quoting bored. bein serious! just sayin thanks for all the advice your givin bout life in e”y…ill have to keep it all in mind.
you wish i remember. how would i know you?
the convenience…everythin is right here…
i dont think it would wise for ppl to start revealing their names here!
coffeerd, whered you go?
ooomis, u make me laugh! didnt think you were a real real tzaddekes, was just sayin your nice…a good person..but aspire to be one and ya never kno!
blahblah, thats not nice, brook def has its benefits
and i agree with bored@work, i absolutely despise public transportation and besides for my year in e”y i havent used buses in ages ! i much rather drive there (even if it isnt so far) and have to find parking!
and as long as the street is wide enough for ppl to pass by you prob are better off waiting than circling. trust me, i’ve tried it. but remember to consider other ppl and make sure you arent blocking the street!
ooomis15, a true chutzpah on their part. as much as we have an obligation to give they have to learn to accept what they are given and not beg for more.
Last night, after 11 our bell rang it was a van full of meshulachim…all whom had just been by us on chanuka and received money…a groisser chutzpah if you ask me.
everyone just do as you like! if your husband allows it than gr8, lucky you, if not, live with it! but if it is something that means so much to a girl (maybe she really wants to drive for chessed) then it should be discussed prob while dating. I personally know i wouldnt like to give up the freedom that comes with being able to drive and wouldnt be very happy if my husband would demand such of me. guess its something to keep in mind with the list of wants/needs in a shidduch but like good looks it shouldnt be top priority!
intelligent, thanks for all your advice.
bored@work, i trust and know youll make the right decision when the time comes! just be wise! and you wont know if you like kollel life style till you experience it. but being overly supported by your parents who will send a big check to fulfill all of your desires isnt real kollel! but just keep on believing and at the right time the right one will come (and together you will make thee right decision!!)
thank you thinkinghelps, dont know if i’m so wise, i just think things through and try to be logical…whats your opinion on the matter?
come on coffeerd, give us some hints!!! its not fair!
mrs. beautiful, thats true too. i guess we always have to look at something from both sides and think how we would feel if we were on the other side. but then again, back to the point that the meshulachim too have to remember to not be so demanding and understanding how people do have other expenses and cant give everything.
brooklyn, i agree with intelligent that there is nothing wrong with marrying the frist boy you date. many girls have done so and have lived very happy lives, just as happy as their friends who married the 5th, 7th, 10th or 30th. at the right time for all iy”h and if it is the first than b”h! and im glad you think your prety, b”h for your healthy self esteem!
and bored@work, many ppl claim they would love to live in israel for a long, long time but then just havta come home to mommy (im sure you know some ppl like that) but i hope your able to fulfill your dream!
coffeerd, just tell us…dont worry we wont announce it on line and if we know you than we will tell you privately!
got it oomis…! thanks for the clarification … so gr8 to be friends with u!
come on bym!! share with me the sems! i wont tell! lol! and anyhows that rly wont help discover who you are!
on chanuka right after we lit the menorah 3 meshulachim rang the bell. the first one right away demanded $180 and was crying and screaming for more when we said $100…than wen asked if he came along with the other 2 he said no…when they left, they all got in to the same car…
bym, which 4 sems did you apply to?
intelligent, where are you from? where in e”y do you live? the young couple areas such as machal, arzei, maalo dafna…?
lol…the more the merrier…
bored – mayb… first waitin to hear what coffeerd hasta say…im not so fast at giving away my identity…i like bein semi-annonymous.
like bored@work, we always open our door and offer a drink, and sometimes a small snack and act like mentsch…however, it is very hard when the meshulachim come and demand a donation of a certain amount and they wont settle for any less (theyll start yelling and cryign and telling you all their problems) and make you feel very guilty if you cant give them what they want (over $100) . as much as we have to treat them like people when they approach us for tzeddaka, i think they have to learn how to act…it is incredibly rude to demand x amount from people who have their own family support and many other tzeddakah collectors who come asking for money. the economic crisis is hitting everyone. be happy for what you get, dont beg for more and make people feel guilty.
and on a side note, i know a family who trains their kids that whenever a tzeddaka collector knocks on the door and the father is not home they should say “mai tatta nishta aheiim…” and absolutely not open the door. unless their is a father, or someone who can deal with them at home, the door should not be opened.
regarding looks i think everyone has to just be honest with themselves and say they do care bout looks. i dont believe that any girl can truthfully say she does not give a hoot about how her chosson/husband looks…but then again cute and good looking remains in the eyes of the beholder…so what i may consider good looking someone else may consider completely offending looking…but, to each their own (in looks and all areas)
but in all honesty, looks are definitely imp, like bored@work said you have to live with it for the rest of your life (hopefully) so it IS important, but it shouldnt be a top priority, as many things should preceed good looks on any girl’s lists…
remember that looks can come and go…
wowow, the amount of CR friends we all seem to have is like phenomenal! as if real life friends aren’t enough! b”h for friends…
romimu is gr8! i know many people who’ve been there and love it.
coffeerd, what was your job in girl zone? just out of curiousity…
brook – you kno oomis personally?! and got absolutely no prob with her bein a her, was just curious!! shabbat shalom all!
tutzech…who’s fbi-ing?
ooomis, there really is nothin wrong with pullin all nighters every once in a while…everyone hasta sometime or another…and then you just get a couple of large coffees and you manage…but for physical health (and mental) all nighters shouldnt be a every other night thingy…but teenage life soemtim leaves little other options…
and bout the dating…if getting married is a top priority for someone (which it should be and prob is for most teenage girl) than sometimes it should go before school work…most ppl dont schedule dates one day in advance and most colleges have advance set test schedules so if someone is expecting or set to go out and they know they have a test approaching then start studying in advance…basically ADVANCE PLANNING and TIME MANAGEMENT are big keys in life that help everythin run smoother…and remember to leave some time to relax with family and friends…everyone needs some down time…
qwertyuiop, its the same person? is the person (he or she) copyin asdfghjkl?!
she’s a he!?
coffeerd, what job did you have in camp that you had to work really hard? arent camps supposed to fun, even for staff who have to work? are you like HC or somethin? cause thats rly cool.
oomis, a tzadekes u r! for real! we should all follow in your footsteps…
omy…look how the convo goes…from cell phones…to addictions…to jingle bells!!! wowwowwow! wats next?
coffeerd, have you ever been to Girlzone that you know you have to be prepared to work really hard?
will everyone stop bashing bored@work and her mom…
if HaShem provided them with the resources to live on such high standards than b”h, and let them do so. Obviously it should be within the norms but if they can afford to splurge and enjoy doing so than why not?
it is up to none of us here to judge their levels of spoildness…they enjoy living life to the fullest and i’m sure along with their splurging on materialistic things and all the extra fine things in life they also give tremendous amounts of tzeddaka and do lots of chessed…
the prob with over spending comes when the person really doesnt have the money (either they never did or they did and lost it) yet they still spend (overspend) just for the sake of keepin up with the Jones…
everyone has to know what they have and spend accordingly…and remember that not everything you do have has to be flashed in front of everyone…
bym, not always are you able to stop for 3 minutes on a block without getting honked at, forced to move or a cop coming…but when you are able to wait than it prob. is a good idea because like you said if you move you loose it…
but remember: if someone else is also waiting for a spot and about to get it…do NOT zoom up from behind or in fron of them and snatch the spot! it’s not courteous and nice and definitely not worth upsetting someone else !
addiction is when someone becomes physically dependent and then psychologically dependent on a substance. it involves them being dependent on the substance and that they crave it as well as feeling symptons of withdrawal when lacking that substance. yes, many people are addicted to their cell phones but i dont know if we should clinically term cell phones “addictive” in the same way we would title a alcohol or smoking addiction…unless anyone here would experience severe nausea, or have a pounding headache or feel shaky until they have their morning rounds of texting…or how many peolpe how an extreme urge to pick up their phone as soon as they peek open their eyes, just like some people need their coffee to get out of bed?
yes, alot of people are connected to their phones and it appears to be glued to them but the amount of people who are severly addictive (i hope) isnt so big.
and i dont know how much self esteem is connected because many people who have high self esteems have alcohol or coffee addictions…they get pleasure from it and need it to start their days…but could be it has some connection.
tzippi – like bored@work said Oorah’s camps BoyZone & GirlZone are in Gilboa, NY which is about an hour (maybe further) from the Catskills. It’s close to Tannersville. Both GirlZone/BoyZone and Nagilah and great options for anyone looking for a Kiruv program, as is Seed!
and been to Raninu as a camper …also a good camp.
here i am bored@work, been quiet busy….but my vote…mangos a girl! i think! most guys wont sound so stressed over college work and are not so likely to voice their stress as that would deflate their macho appearances…
and bym, i’m studyin in college for a degree in psych and dont recall analyzing mangos and matching to a gender…
alrigthy mango, whether you are a male or female, hatzlacha with your work! actually just took a psych test on stress and one basic principle in managing stress is time management, like curious said. make yourself time frames and stick to that…social support is important as well, any form of it! relaxation training (if your the type to mediatate or do yoga) or any form of exercise is a gr8 stress reliever…
whatever it is, just keep on remembering that in the end it will all be worth of it…and dont let your grades slide!
good luck!
myshadow, no! i wont! i def will go faster, and like i admitted i am neither the safest nor best driver out there but still have to use our shaichel!
yea, im tlaking about the gorgeous on M and 15th! Angelica and Juanita are my ladies!quiet funny to think how we may all see each other many times yet never know who each other is!! lol! and myshadow, who’s elanit? and stay away from quick dry!! unless your in a major rush at the time but have no problem going for another mani shortly after! i do go every friday but i still like my nails to last longer than thru the wknd!
lol! theyre really cute but not very practical! one of the funniest things i’ve seen was a friend of mine who’s k”h 6 feet tall drive up along side me in a smart car!!! was rly funny! looked like her chin was in her knees and her head was going to come throuh the roof! theyre def cute and a big parking help, being that you can squeeze in anywehre, but practical…not really and safe… wonder?!
my shadow, i have also worked in kiruv camp fro the past 3 sumemrs and have formed many close relationships with campers, a number of them who have serious issues and have a tendancy to call me at all hours of the nights, however, it comes to a point (and a hour in the night) where you just need to shut yourself down from the outside world and focus on yourself a little. your phone can charge by your bed (mine does too) but put it on silent! if it is an absolute emergency theyll find some other way to reach you.
bored@work, theres no where or way to relax 4 cheaper? but glad u enjoyed…i suppose you can attribute your splurge as s/t l’kovod chanuka…
my shadow, new to shidduchim too but still its important to know you always must look good…NOT only on dates, so a mani should be a reg thing and your hair should always be done, be it by professionals or you yourself
beacon, as does many flatbushers! maybe well meet there 🙂 but i got a steady weekly appt so i come and go!
bored@work, maybe you should do a little thinkin…going a bit over the speed limit is one thing but speeding just for the heck of it just to get somewhere faster can possibly be incompatiable with the continuation of life, both to yourself and others…is gettin to your destination just a mere few minutes earlier worth risking you life and the lives of others for?! and no, i am not the safest nor the best driver but we have to use our heads…especially when were in control of a very powerful weapon such as a car!
my shadow, its absolutely ridicolous to pay so much for both your hair and nails. esp in brook. in regard to your hair, personally i am very particular with who actually cuts my hair so for that i stay away from chinese but for blows chinese do a gr8 job. the place beacon mentioned i’ve used many times and theyre gr8 but if you dont want to travel far there is also a gr8 place on the corner of Avenue U and East 14th. For cheaper cuts, try Chez Madeline on Kings Highway and East 9th, directly across from Fox’s. monday and tuesdays are special days – $15 for cut and $15 for blow. and for mani – Gorgeous on M!! $6.25 a mani! but tell them not to use quick dry (as long as you have the few extra min to real dry) because quick dry discolors polish and makes it pop and crack! b’hatzlacha and happy dating!
my shadow, watch out for your boss is soooo true!!! its really funny how every time i hear my boss’s approaching foot steps i quickly switch back to some other different tab that is more work related! lol! but this place is addictive…started browsing it out of recommendation from a friend and then finally made a username and now im a frequent visitor and poster!
bruchim habaiim gabs and all others!