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  • in reply to: Which sins carry eternal punishment? #977597
    Lost1970
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    As a teenager I had a strange idea that I could kill people by looking at them and wishing them ill. I did not realize that my “favorite” 9th grade teacher has retired. During my 10th and 11th grades I was in a great fear.

    Even though the fear was strange it did me very much good — I read most of Tanach. I felt horrified by Ahab’s fate.

    in reply to: Which sins carry eternal punishment? #977596
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    >> There are issurei karet; sins for which a person’s

    >> soul gets cut off. Are you talking about those?

    I am sorry, I am worried about losing my share in the World to Come.

    in reply to: Which sins carry eternal punishment? #977594
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    I used to be rude to my parents even in public over a decade ago. But not since 2003. Now I have obtained their forgiveness, and I help them in every way possible.

    I believe that helping my grandmother and parents will count as a mitsva.

    in reply to: What is gehenom? #977542
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    >> I hope you never find out!

    I hope that if I find out I will be free in a year.

    Being fully righteous is very difficult but avoiding the worst sins is a beginning.

    in reply to: What is gehenom? #977537
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    >> And under normal circumstances the maximum punishment

    >> one can get is 11 months in gehenem.

    According to the recent Pew survey, 16% of American Jews and 7% of American gentiles are atheists. They and several other classes of sinners will be punished eternally. (Rosh Hashana 17a)

    I hope I can avoid eternal punishment. One year is not a long time.

    in reply to: Am I going to gehenim? #977253
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    In many secular Jewish households, the younger generation is forced to study science excessively to become doctors/lawyers. Very often such such preoccupation is harmful even for the mental health.

    in reply to: Am I going to gehenim? #977244
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    >> I know it’s not their way to study “worldly” things,

    >> but on the Outside, if you argue against the world’s

    >> age, you are a total religious anomaly.

    46% of Americans and 58% Republicans believe in Creation less then 6,000 years ago. Most Americans respect Torah which they call Old Testament.

    in reply to: Telling parents about lifestyle changes #977385
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    >> I, too, am a mother of a son who chose a different

    >> lifestyle from his upbringing. It was very painful

    >> for us. We were always concerned about this child

    >> and his health issues, and we turned over the world,

    >> sparing no money or time from addressing his issues,

    >> although my husband and I do not have much of either.

    I am sorry it happened. My parents are professors as were most (all?) of my grandparents. I am unemployed, I do not like mathematics, and I am workophobic.

    Probably it causes my family much grief, but what can I do?

    in reply to: Telling parents about lifestyle changes #977372
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    For many secular families if their adult child does not follow the parents steps to become a scientist/doctor/lawyer is a disaster. I am an unemployed son of two professors. I do not like mathematics — I believe it is a waste of mind power.

    The Mitzvot are our debt to G-d and are of eternal benefit. But expanding energy for a professor’s or lawyer’s or doctor’s career is useless unless one has an urge to do such job.

    in reply to: Am I going to gehenim? #977238
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    Fear of G-d is a great treasure and asset.

    The vast majority of my generation has very little fear of G-d.

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    >> Her parents think that aspergers is a mental disorder

    >> and she should be in an asylum or at best a special

    >> needs school.

    I do not give advices.

    I am a 43 yo man. I have Asperger’s Syndrome combined with moderate depression. The worst reaction from people is when they place the same expectations on me as they would on someone who has no disability. Often people with mental disorders are called lazy or weird.

    in reply to: Why do you believe in Science? #976844
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    The Talmud seems to address the issue of the Old Earth — since Aristotle presented evidence for the eternal age of matter. Yerushalmi Hagigah 2.1 begins with a Misna mentioning a very strong prohibition against investigating the pre-Creation history.

    Yerushalmi Hagigah 2.1 XII — XV further states that “It is the glory of G-d to conceal a thing” — pre-Creation history.

    How could the rabbis know that the search for that history will give rise to Atheism in the 20th century CE?

    in reply to: Technology and the Third Beis Hamikdash #1015991
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    >> will there be trains, cars and airplanes after

    >> Mashiach comes? probably. Why should the

    >> Internet be any different?

    Definitely. I hope the technology at that time will be much more advanced then today. Having studied the development of technology, I hope that by that time the Solar System will be colonized and there will be resources for trillions of people.

    Rabbi Asher Crispe has written many optimistic articles about technology.

    in reply to: Baruch Goldstein murders #976198
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    >> You are correct in saying that a minuscule amount

    >> of extremists are wrong for considering Baruch

    >> Goldstein a hero.

    I have studied US conduct in 1945, Korean War, and Vietnam War. In wars with Japan and North Korea, terror bombing which killed hundreds of thousands civilians was US policy.

    During Soviet War in Afghanistan reprisal massacres of Afghan civilians were a part of the policy. The French used similar tactics in Algeria.

    in reply to: How to find a friend/rabbi? #996182
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    >> Please keep us posted on how you are doing. And do

    >> not hesitate to reach out to the Chabad rabbi–

    >> it’s his job to help you!

    Thank you. I hope I will not become homeless/burden on anyone.

    Does anyone know how much assistance can I receive from the state for unemployment/Asperger’s?

    In reality a person can well survive on $12K/year. Most nonmeat food is kosher and inexpensive.

    in reply to: What may I type/calculate on Chol Hamoed? #975851
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    Thank G-d for the work I will need done.

    And thank everyone for telling me.

    in reply to: How to find a friend/rabbi? #996179
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    >> Don’t write yourself off! Don’t limit yourself! You

    >> can learn skills, try to find a job, find a (perhaps

    >> shared) place to live. If there is somewhere you’d

    >> like to see yourself, perhaps find some contacts

    >> and a rabbi there and ask them what they know/can

    >> do to help you make the move a reality.

    I will try. I will have to find some assistance for people with disability. I will definitely not be a mathematician as I hate mathematics with passion.

    in reply to: How to find a friend/rabbi? #996178
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    >> Give him a phone call and tell him about yourself.

    >> I’m sure he will agree to become your rabbi and

    >> to learn with you over the phone.

    Thank you. I do not think it is possible but I will try.

    I hope I can get documents for my disability and some assistance.

    in reply to: How to find a friend/rabbi? #996177
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    >> May G-d grant you bracha V’hatzlacha, B’corave, Mamesh.

    I will pray to G-d for help. Given the weight of my sins no human can help me.

    in reply to: What may I type/calculate on Chol Hamoed? #975846
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    >> Typing on a computer is muttar for anything as long

    >> as nothing is being printed out.

    Thank you. Is it permissible to write programs/computations?

    in reply to: How to find a friend/rabbi? #996173
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    >> Search for your location on godaven.com.

    >> There may be a synagogue that is not Chabad closer to you.

    Thank you. Unfortunately nothing is closer then Chabad.

    in reply to: How to find a friend/rabbi? #996171
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    >> What about MOVING closer to Jews?

    I live with my parents. How can I get material resources to live on my own?

    in reply to: Why do you believe in Science? #976771
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    Even though I hate mathematics, and hated it all my life, I got a PhD in it. Now I can not get a job because any boss will see that I am not interested in the subject.

    Thank G-d I had an experience which will help me not make an idol out of science.

    in reply to: If your spouse did ________ you would________? #975911
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    >> If my spouse does anything, I will love her.

    What will you do if she abuses your children?

    When I lived in Russia I was horrified by the abuse my friends went through at home.

    in reply to: Sort of new #975313
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    >> Sign up at Shabbat.com (it’s free!) and type in

    >> your city.You may be pleasantly surprised to

    >> find other Jews in (or closer to)your neighborhood.

    I did sign in there. Thank G-d, there are many Jews in my town.

    Is there any guide on how to use that site? I am unfamiliar with Facebook, thus I do not know how to use such sites.

    in reply to: 1980s #975178
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    >> the mujhadeen who drove out the soviets were a

    >> mishmash of many afghan tribes

    I have read that many consider the Pashtuns to be the Lost Tribes of Israel. In many respects their fate in 1980s was similar to the fate of the Jews in 1940s.

    in reply to: Is it unethical to get telephone partners in two or more sources? #976221
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    >> I’m a Partner In Torah and encouraged my partner to

    >> get another person to learn with, since she has so

    >> many questions and BH is growing so well.

    Thank you. Being unemployed 43 yo man, I understand that in many places I am not welcome but tolerated.

    In any case I am not looking for any kind of mystical knowledge — just the very basics of observance.

    in reply to: Very bad form of envy #974898
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    Thank G-d and thanks everyone for helping me understand the situation.

    in reply to: Very bad form of envy #974892
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    >> Being “jealous” of people for doing better than you

    >> when you are capable of making yourself better than

    >> it’s a great thing.

    I have read that being jealous of the fact that many Jews are more observant is a great sin.

    in reply to: Midlife Crisis. #974791
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    I have rarely missed a dose after 1997. I am taking Effexor 75mg/day. I guess I need to take at least 300mg/day, but the circumstances which prevent me from taking that dose are private.

    Does anyone know for how much assistance I can be eligible?

    in reply to: Midlife Crisis. #974789
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    >> I recommend going to a social services facility in

    >> your area and obtaining the necessary welfare

    >> benefits you are qualified for.

    I guess I should — I have a triple disability:

    1) Asperger’s Syndrome

    2) Moderate Depression

    3) I hate the subject I have a PhD in

    Does anyone have any more advice? I am indeed Lost!

    in reply to: Is it unethical to get telephone partners in two or more sources? #976217
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    >> Also if you are interested in torah study you should

    >> try to contact a local synagog/kollel and see if

    >> they have a similar program.

    I am unemployed and have neither a car nor license. The closest Chabad is 50 miles away.

    in reply to: What if you weren't Jewish? #974519
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    >> lost- “That is very interesting — gentiles can get

    >> a share in Olam Haba by keeping 7 mitzvot. Most

    >> Protestants and Muslims do so.”

    >> wrong. only if they keep it because moshe told them

    >> to from Hashem.

    I am sorry for my ignorance. What will happen to the majority of people?

    in reply to: Gan Eden & Gehenim #1098000
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    >> I’ve read “outside books” and according to Rabbi Akiva,

    >> one who reads such books has no Chelek.

    I am sorry. Can someone please explain me which books are not permissible? Are the following books harmful/forbidden:

    1) Ancient legends such as Epic of Gilgamesh or Greek legends.

    2) Books not included in the Bible such as the Book of Enoch.

    Even if they are not strictly forbidden, I should avoid further damaging my soul.

    in reply to: Gan Eden & Gehenim #1097999
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    I do not know if I can be fully observant — I tried to increase my level of observance in 1991–’92, winter 1996-’97, 2003 and now.

    At least I should try to integrate as much as I can into a real or virtual Jewish community. That will probably help me keep a better level of observance.

    What will happen to the semi–observant Jews? Will they have any share in the World to come?

    in reply to: Why do you believe in Science? #976756
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    Having read a lot about the science debate on Orthodox Jewish sites, I have found a piece which truly astounds me:

    http://www.jewishresponse.com/blog/client/page.cfm/Does-Judaism-discourage-scientific-inquiry-into-th

    “Let the lips that speak falsely be muted, those who speak of the hidden matters of the Righteous One, with arrogance and disrespect” (Psalms 31:19). This refers to those who speak about the matters that G-d hid from His creations; they are showing contempt for G-d’s honor. Anyone who gets himself honor through the embarrassment of his friend has no share in the World to Come, all the more so one who gets himself honor through disregarding G-d’s honor. That is why the next verse in Psalms speaks of the World to Come: “How great is Your goodness that You have hidden away for those who fear You” – and not for those who show contempt for Your fear. (Bereishis Rabbah 1:5)

    Thus, even though scientists indeed discover many hidden things, they bring great evil.

    That reminds me of the Tree of Knowledge. And of Aher? who found out the great mysteries through the Torah and became a heretic.

    The gentile world has legends of Faust who agreed to suffer eternally in exchange for knowledge.

    in reply to: Mashiach > 6000 #1011425
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    >> Lost1970

    >> We are supposed to believe that he can come at any

    >> moment if we are worthy. Our Rabbis have said for

    >> many years now that Mashiach is close. Hopefully

    >> this is the year.

    Thank you. I am not an expert — I am a beginner.

    in reply to: What if you weren't Jewish? #974517
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    >> Second, I would not be megayer. I could get to

    >> Olam Haba relatively easy being a righteous goy.

    >> Why become a Jew, with all the challenges and trials.

    That is very interesting — gentiles can get a share in Olam Haba by keeping 7 mitzvot. Most Protestants and Muslims do so.

    What I find very fascinating is the fact that Russian Orthodox Christians have a set of rules an order of magnitude stricter then Haredi. Thus militant Atheism was popular in Russia in 1917-1991.

    Thus these extra rules caused more harm then good. The non-Jews were not given these challenges for a reason.

    in reply to: Mashiach > 6000 #1011420
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    I believe he is coming in the year 2240 CE. That will be a time of absolute plenty and much better technology then today. On a scientific forum, I can list technological issues that still need to be perfected by that time for a world of unlimited resources.

    The main question is the spiritual one — who will rise to eternal life? Who will rise to eternal suffering? Who will disappear?

    What will be the fate of semi — observant Jews?

    in reply to: Time to Patch Up! #974191
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    Unfortunately I have been involved in many “flame wars” and exchanges of insults on certain political forums. Thank G-d this forum is moderated, but I have exchanged insults with many people online.

    Is this a severe transgression?

    in reply to: Describing Differences Between Jews #973620
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    >> If you really, really had to make an analogy with

    >> Xian sects, it would be something like this:

    >> Reform — Unitarian

    >> Conservative — very liberal Protestant

    >> Modern Orthodox — Traditionalist Catholic

    >> Charedi — More traditionalist Catholics, or maybe Mennonites

    To my shame I have studied a lot about Christianity. Orthodox Christianity (Russian Orthodox) is much much stricter then any other religion. They have four 40-day fasts a year when they eat neither meat nor dairy.

    Even though USSR was an atheist state, many Russian Orthodox traditions continued. Many of my peers (I left USSR at age 12) were very severely physically abused.

    in reply to: Midlife Crisis. #974785
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    I do not know.

    How do I obtain a disability? I have a combination of Asperger’s Syndrome and Depression. Will it help me get a job?

    If I study in Yeshiva, I can serve G-d and obtain a share in the World to Come. In this world my perspectives are not bright.

    in reply to: Yom Kippur and Atheists #974071
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    >> How about the 1.57 billion (23% of the world’s population)

    >> who believe in Islam? Or 2.2 billion Christians?

    These religions are based on Torah and include the Seven Noachite Mitzvot — all that is required from non–jews.

    in reply to: Gan Eden & Gehenim #1097993
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    >> Look at how a bunch of anonymous posters care

    >> about you. Wanna know how Hashem feels towards

    >> you? Multiply this by a zillion!

    Thank G-d I have access to many audio lectures in Russian. I know English as well, even though I did not fit into this country.

    The loss of fear of G-d is my greatest loss — perhaps one of the worst losses since the time I was 1/3 my current age of 43.

    I have also wasted many years working on Math, Physics, and Statistics which I do not like. I believe that a person reaches maturity at 13/12 and then he/she declines.

    in reply to: Obligatory prayer #984799
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    Thank you.

    in reply to: Gan Eden & Gehenim #1097991
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    I am a Rasha — I do not think I can avoid Gehinnom. I hope that I can avoid eternal punishment.

    I have many sins against G-d and people.


    When I was one third my age I knew almost nothing about Judaism — I only started reading Tanach. But I had real fear of G-d. In 1985, I was in high school. I remember that seeing any fire or hot object reminded me of what may be in store for me. An experiment in Chemistry where magnesium was burned in a crucible was a sort of spiritual experience for me.

    Having lost the Fear of G-d is a great loss — may be the worst loss since my lost youth.

    in reply to: Sort of new #975311
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    Thank G-d for Russian and English language sources.

    Thank you. Toldot.ru has a lot of interesting audio lectures in my first language — Russian.

    in reply to: Sort of new #975309
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    >> Have you ever tried talking to your partner in

    >> torah about “the basics”? If he can’t help you

    >> I would assume he can put you in touch with

    >> another mentor/rabbi who can help you.

    I will try. One of the lessons in life I have learned is that someone who lives on charity is not entitled to anything.

    in reply to: Sort of new #975308
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    >> Every little bit of suffering counts as a big mitzvah.

    Thank G-d I have not really suffered. I am an expert about US justice system — I have read about people who have REALLY suffered.

    in reply to: Sort of new #975307
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    Thank you. Is aish.com orthodox? Will the site help me?

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