Workingbochur95

I am not fixating on any girl.
The shadchanim told me that the girls would rather marry closet apikorsim and then simply divorce them, ”
while bochurim like myself or my roommates whom are considered “100% Leshem Shamayim” are טמאים for not being born Yeshivish…

Many of the girls suggested to me are looking for working bochurim.

I would be much happier in a marriage to a girl who would constantly scream at me for not having been born Yeshivish,

as opposed to being married to a more open-minded girl who would give me a hard time for being too machmir on many inyanim.

A girl who grew up LWMO and became RWMO (Rav Kook follower) would have serious shalom bayis problems if she married a bochur who grew up LWMO but started following all of the piskei halacha of the Chazon Ish. The same applies to such a girl if she was to marry a LWMO-raised bochur learning full time in BMG or who learned in Brisk.

@Puhlease You are not answering the question in context.
By “allowed”, I was suggesting that these girls are being indoctrinated into believing
that it is better to remain single at 24/25
than it is for them to date ex-MOdox bochurim who are interested in them.

Please stop fixating on that minor loshon, and focus on the object reality:
These girls are WILLFULLY keeping themselves single, simply because they don’t like the one fact that these bochurim who are interested in dating them happened to have grown up in MO homes,
despite learning in yeshivos which are closer to these girls’ hashkafos in more recent years….

“Allowed” is an appropriate loshon bedieved the shidduch crisis.
If this was YOUR daughter, would YOU ALLOW HER to turn down a bochur for a shidduch simply because she didn’t like that his parents were not the same hashkafa as you?? Why or why not?

None of are you answering the question.

What are the reasons for the taboo against BY girls marrying bochurim like us?
Is there a potential for shalom bayis problems if the husband wasn’t born Yeshivish?

If my values are 100% identical to the Yeshivish velt, then why should the other parties raise an eyebrow over the co-ed mosdos I went to when I was younger?
If My yeshiva in E”Y had and my limud hatoireh כיום have much stronger impact on my values than the Hollywood propaganda I grew up watching on my parents’ television, then why would a standard Bais Yaacov girl say no to me? And are these types of girls at greater risk of having Shalom Bayis issues if their husbands grew up MO????

I do tell shadchanim that I am looking for a girl on the same level as me now.
In spite of that, the shadchanim send me the opposite of what I am looking for.

I am too greasy for girls who follow Modox hashkafos.

I live in NY, and I am 23. I started the parsha when I was 21. I have been having the same problem mentioned above ever since.
Shadchanim I’ve met with have not suggested many out of town girls, in spite of the fact I have always been open to dating them.

I am not demanding to date a model. And I learn only part-time.
I am just asking for eitzus. My question in the OP was,
WHAT DO EX-MODOX BOCHURIM THAT BECOME MORE YESHIVISH DO FOR SHIDUCHIM?
My rebbeim from yeshiva have encouraged us to meet with shadchanim, but the shadchanim I’ve been using are too overwhelmed.

Again, my family is on the left-wing of Modern Orthodoxy, which is borderline OTD. Like most LWMO people,
My family is prejudiced against frummies, and they and they turn their backs on people with sons that are shtark or with daughters who are tznius and marry before 27.

As I have said, I am seeking an alternative to the shadchan system.