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PAA: I once saw someone “Pasken” that it’s better for a girl to watch tv than to open up one of her father’s Seforim. She asked because all she wanted to do after getting home from school and being bored was learn. I was quite quite disgusted with that “Rav”.
Lior: The longer she says she wants out, the less likely it’s Nasnah Eineha and the more likely she doesn’t doesn’t feel happy in this marriage.
And yes, society is different nowadays than then. That doesn’t change any Dinim, but it does help us in judging whether each case is Nasnah Eineha or not.
ithink: It doesn’t matter. A military embedded in a civilian population by lack of choice is still a military embedded in a civilian population. Also, there are lots of open areas, even if the cities are super-crowded.
Lior: Let me give you a perfect Mashal for your case. You are in essence saying that if someone hurts you pretty badly (let’s say they beat you up and maybe even leave some permanent damage), it is your right to torture them every day for the remainder of either of your lives. That is, in a word, evil. I don’t care if the attack was unprovoked.
Lior: Yes, if I break a promise and end a marriage unnecessarily I have done something wrong. Few people would dispute that. However, that does not make it a terrible Avlah to force someone to remain in a marriage they don’t want. And we do Pasken like R’ Akiva. As R’ Schachter says, “falling out of love” is a fair reason to divorce someone.
TLIK: I totally agree with you about the divorce lawyers and Toanim. About your first paragraph though, what choice is there. If the mother makes seemingly-plausible claims, especially if the kids corroborate, you wouldn’t keep the kids away from the father? I agree that charges should be pressed when the claims turn out to be false, but until then what do you do? The safety of the kids has to come first, no?
PAA: That should have tremendous Halachah L’ma’aseh applications Bizman HaZeh. Do you realize what this means? We actually have a Rishon that Paskens on surrogacy. This is amazing. What’s the exact Makor?
42: I’m pretty sure I’ve posted that in the name of R’ Schachter in the CR.
Leibdik Yankel and Lior: I don’t care if she’s being silly in throwing away the marriage. She doesn’t want to be married to this guy. He is forcing her to stay married to him. Ergo, he is forcing her to be married to someone she doesn’t want to be married to or to be single forever. It’s a very simple equation. The fact that you can’t see something wrong with that is beyond disturbing.
Booklearn: Not quite. If he gives the Get and she refuses it, they are still divorced. It was always Assur to be M’garesh Ba’al Korchah. People just didn’t care too often so he added a Cherem.
I would agree that in a case such as Barry’s, if it exists, it may not be wrong to withhold.
leibdik: Forcing someone to remain in a marriage they don’t want to be in is straight-up evil, no matter what your reason. You think she’s in the wrong? That’s fine. You could even be right. It doesn’t matter. It is one of the most despicable things a person can do to force a life of loneliness on another human being. Leaving out any Issurim of Ona’ah, Ahavas Rei’im, etc., people can find technical ways to be be evil and still not violate any specific Dinim. That doesn’t make them not evil.
moishe: So your opinion is that a man has the right to refuse his wife a Get, even if they have been separated for many years and will never reconcile? If so, I hope you never get married.
mz: Thanks. Typos happen.
moishepipik: That is only immediate. According to many Poskim, she cannot claim Maus Alai to immediately receive a Get because Shema Nasna Eineha B’acher. But if they are separated for months and the marriage is over, then Beis Din can force to give a Get. We do not force women to remain in unhappy marriages. Are you actually claiming that if he fulfills his technical legal duties and never hits her that she can’t end the marriage, even if she’s miserable? She has to be chained to someone she can’t stand being with forever? Once the marriage is over (e.g. separated for more than a few weeks and no desire for counseling), he is obligated to give a Get so she can move on. End of discussion.
leibdik yainkel: First of all, Halachically, a partner can usually just up and take his half of the business and leave. So you chose a bad example. Second of all, you chose a bad example because a marriage is nothing like a business. A marriage is life, nothing less. A business is just a job.
Once it’s clear the marriage is over, it is never appropriate. Usually if she continues to state that there is never any chance for reconciliation for a few weeks or more then it is clear the marriage is over and any Beis Din will agree and order her to give the Get.
gefen: From what I have heard, they have not released the ballistics evidence yet so they haven’t proven it, but it was from gunshot wounds and his gun was found next to him. Also, people knew (and presumably were attempting to help) that he was suffering from severe PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) after being in Gaza.
ca: That definitely does not apply to Boston, which has over 600,000 people and about 25,000 Jews (and that’s going by census numbers which counts anyone who says they are Jewish as Jews). Sharon is the only place in that region which has a Rov Jews.
It did not appear on YWN at all. If I had to guess why, it was because they are following American media guidelines about publishing positive things about suicide victims in the immediate aftermath and it would have been very disrespectful to say something negative.
Sharon is something like 80% Jewish, which creates major Shailos about giving directions and/or walking in front of a car stopped at a stop sign on Shabbos.
PAA: You stole that T’shuvah from the Beis HaLevi, no? Siman 6, maybe?
I have heard from sources close to him and his family that he had severe PTSD after being in Gaza for almost the entirety of the operation.
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Lost: Artscroll is currently working on/just finished translating the Midrash Rabbah. I would use theirs. That is not to say that the Sonsino is unreliable, but Artscroll definitely put more work into it (and the footnotes make it worth it).
To respond to earlier posters, it is the exact opposite. The reason Hebrew is so untranslatable is because it is a far less precise language than English. Especially in Chumash (but also in Midrashim), words can have multiple meanings and nuances that any one translation often just misses.
YW: Whoa! Descartes is totally Assur (as is the existentialist meaning behind his statement, probably).
Goq: Aggie is a dirty word in Austin. And the total lack of response tells me he has no Shaychus whatsoever to the Austin sports culture, ergo he’s not from Austin. Heck, that probably shows that he’s never even been to Austin (for anything more than a few days, at least).
Ivdu: It’s around 20 blocks away, I think.
I heard there’s a Brisk Yeshivah up in Washington Heights.
DY: Which is the point. If he was from Austin, he would be a sports fan, even if only casually. And, at the very least, would respond to a pretty strong insult against his area’s team.
In short, everyone in Austin is a Texas fan. If you’re not, then you’re not from Austin.
DY: I laid a trap. He didn’t fall in. Hence, he’s not from Austin.
DaMoshe: He’s not actually from Austin. It’s quite obvious, really.
Malbim: You still have not said why I don’t believe you’re from Austin. Saying that won’t break CR rules. And if you were from Austin, you’d know.
oomis: I think you are mistaken. According to etymonline (an online etymological dictionary) the phrase was coined by cartoonist Billy DeBeck in 1923. There is no record of it meaning anything to do with Jews.
Other potential sources are a pejorative, but it’s not anti-semitic. It was against people who studied both the Old and New Testaments, and is a combination of “Hebrew” and “Jesus”.
There may be an issue if the Kli has a lip. I am not familiar with anything necessitating what you heard, though, for whatever that’s worth.
Malbim: Prove it. Or, at least, correctly tell me why I currently don’t believe that you are. Then maybe I’ll be inclined to not dismiss you as not being from there out of hand.
Malbim: Been there, done that. I really, really don’t believe that you are from there, though. You should have said something at some point but didn’t. Sorry.
LF: Well, the OP has potentially Halachic Nafka Minas, so Talmud Torah sounds like a good reason.
Malbim: Why would I make Yeridah from the Eretz HaKodesh of Las Vegas to “Horns Down” Austin, Texas?
Malbim: How could I ask my LOR when they all moved to Austin?
DY: No no no. You can’t remove the object before the door closes. The door has to actually hit the second guy’s hand and come to a full stop. And this is better than using an object because now there is a second guy who is stopping the first guy’s Ma’aseh, not the first guy himself.
I thought of a Heter, but it only helps once you’ve accidentally opened the door. You need two people. One person stands with their hand in the way of the door were it closing. Then the person who has been holding the door open closes it. It cannot close, because the other person’s hand is in the way. Then, after all momentum from the closer has been expended, the stopper merely removes his hand. This is not even a Grama. He’s not even doing anything, just getting a blocker out of the way (because almost all refrigerators are designed to close on their own as long as they are only slightly open.
I haven’t presented this to Poskim yet, but I think it works. And no, don’t ask me about removing the dam to drown someone. It’s not the same.
PAA: Quoting the T’shuvos R’ Akiva Eiger, correct?
The New York cows one isn’t nice. It’s old, and is calling Hilary Clinton a cow.
2b: There is a famous scene in a movie where a man cures his multiple personality disorder by pretending to commit suicide and fooling his other personality into thinking that he’s actually dead.
HaLeiVi: I intentionally stayed away from this thread and now you brought me into it. 🙁
I dispute the premise of this thread. Shuls and Batei Midrash are Mikdashei M’at. Homes are not.
So yes, Torah, I guess that all Shuls and Batei Medrash should be cleaned by men. 😛
ariele: No, he currently has a personal Rabbi. He has no family Rabbi because, well, he kinda doesn’t have a family (at least, not one that he is responsible for) yet. That’s kinda why he’s looking to get married.
Tu B’av? I’m not at all holding in the Sugya, but I thought the two times given in the beginning of Shvi’is were 30 days and Shavuos? Or is Tu B’av a Chumra on the 30 day Shittah like the opinion in Rosh Hashanah that it can take 2 weeks for the seed to become entrenched in the ground? And if so, why aren’t we Machmir for the opinion of 1 month? We don’t usually hold of the 2-week opinion, I think.
The proper punctuation would be A dog! A panic in a pagoda.
cent: Sure, but I thought he snuck an animal in there somewhere.
cent_cent: Madam, I’m Adam. Still too easy.
2B: Everything’s relative. For me that’s short (well, medium, but not too long). Popa’s is still driving me crazy though. Either I’m missing something obvious or he just made something up without a palindrome behind it.
A canine that causes a disturbance at a Far Eastern tower.
Lior (Joseph): Aseh Lecha Rav is not a Hetter for Lashon Hara. We’re not Catholics, thank you.
42: The woman can talk to him about it because it affects their life. She can say she doesn’t like or feel uncomfortable with him for whatever reasons. She can’t tell the world, but she can tell the guy she is interested in marrying because it affects the potential marriage. If she wants to discuss it with the Rabbi, she can.
But him? What right does he have to tell the Rabbi what someone else feels about the Rabbi. It doesn’t affect the Rabbi at all. It’s none of the Rabbi’s business who likes or doesn’t like him. That’s what Lashon Hara is.