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October 18, 2018 2:56 pm at 2:56 pm in reply to: Looking to sell a between 100-250 used Excellent condition seforim #1607132
There’s a place that buys seforim called YBseforim call there 7183122412
Monseymom read the post again, he was answering Joseph not youApril 3, 2018 2:19 am at 2:19 am in reply to: Pictures of women in frum magazines and advertisements #1502440
I find it distasteful (no pun intended) that #1 the frum magazines print ads of taava yetzer hara inciting foods and #2 that they print ads for Pomegranate or pesach hotels next to Vaad harabanim’s starving yiddenFebruary 20, 2018 5:25 am at 5:25 am in reply to: If you had one era to go back in time… where would it be? #1472475
I’d go back to the times of the Gra and Baal Hatanya and try to bring shalom between them… or at least hear them debate who’s right ion the inyan of tzimzumNovember 10, 2017 11:37 am at 11:37 am in reply to: Proper etiquette for bochor speaking to girl’s parents #1401022
The best advice: honestly it doesn’t really matter.. What matters is that you pay attention how the parents interact between themselves.. Look out for a controlling shviger, angry father, or other middos raos. I’m telling you spend as much time as possible with the parents, cause it’s not always noticeable right away. You’re basically marrying your in-laws, so you need to date them thoroughly.
I’ve been trying to move to Baltimore for some time. I think it’s very similar to Lakewood, just not too yeshivishNovember 1, 2017 9:01 pm at 9:01 pm in reply to: My savings account and CDs are earning almost no interest, any solutions? #1394051
I invest in real estate in Baltimore, we make about 30% flipping houses. You can also rent out a house or do a complete rehab and sell for a nice profit
Kitov, just the opposite, in order to avoid a wife that you describe, you better make sure she’s your best friend.
I never understood that chazal. What does it mean if he is zoche-then she’s an ezer, does it mean if he gets lucky? Or is he deserves it? That can’t be cause the gemora says first shiduch is based on mazal and only second on maasim
Joseph, yes, I personally do know of people who told me first hand accounts of how some of these gedolim loved their wives.
a friend is someone who you connect with, in whatever area it might be, based on common interests. The more interests, the better connection the better the friendship. I do believe that the wife has to be a very good friend. Otherwise it’s not a deep relationship. There’s a great book called The river, the kettle and the bird. The lowest level of a martial life is like a river between 2 countries ..i do for you, you do for me. The next level is the kettle where 2 opposite forces (water and fire) come together for a common goal.. In this case to boil the water. But the ultimate level is the bird, when all aspects of life (walking, flying, eating of the bird) are like part of one unit, like the bird itself.
There is no real gender, if you see white spots/cracks in the rezuos, you should take them to a so sofer, they might need a replacement
I’m sorry but some of my best friends are modern.. It’s just easier that way. I try not to judge them, but as they say themselves “you got to live according to the times” which includes watching movies with pritzus, having mixed get togethers on Friday night, etc. It’s everyone else who missed the point. NOBODY CAN EVER DISPROVE ANYONE ELSE’S BEHAVIOR cause as Rav Dessler writes “everyone wants to feel good about themselves, and recognizing one’s faults would be saying to a person with not healthy self esteem, that he not good.” it’s just too painful. SO PLEASE EVERYONE STOP WASTING YOUR TIME, YOU WON’T CHANGE ANYTHING
Make sure you read a wonderful book the Garden of peace by rabbi Arush.. Awesome
INCREASE THE SHLEPPING IN THE SHUL!
I can’t believe it.. Instead of blaming everyone else, why don’t we try to really understand the basics. I’m not talking about chasidim harishonim that took 1 hour to prepare for davening, and 1 hour after, nobody is on that madrega obviously. But we do have to strive to improve our davening just like we need to improve our learning and middos. But even without that, what about basic mentshlechkeit. I daven in a minyan that goes for at least 3 hours on shabbos and nobody out of 200+people complain that it’s too slow and almost nobody talks during davening.
For all you out there who feel davening is what you must do, so then a shul is just a place to be yotzi Zain, where you come and check off that you davened, well guess what, you didn’t. You just came and speed-red the words and left. No wonder you try to shave off time from davening. Instead of complaining like, get a sefer that explains davening and learn it when you’re waiting for everyone else to finish.
But they only learn Kodshim.. Brisker style
The wife has some kind of an issue and feels a need to constantly control me and tell me what to do in a very condescending manner.
Thanks to all who responded, I feel better already.. Special thanks to mensch 1 for rabbi arush book recommendation. I have the book by never got around to it.. But I definitely will now… I basically felt divorced from my wife for many years now, being treated as a slave not caring about me at all. Always feeling a need to control me, etc… I hope the book helps. Thanks againJuly 26, 2017 3:32 pm at 3:32 pm in reply to: Out of the box ideas to solve the shidduch crisis 🚫🥊👰🤵 #1325792
Wouldn’t being allowed to marry many wives solve the shiduch crisis.. i mean rabbeinu Gershons takkanah ended not too long ago, so maybe it’s Hashems way of trying to increase the Jewish population? Chazal say that Moshiach isn’t going to come untill all the souls are brought down to this world. I heard in recently that the Jewish people reaccepted the Takkana but honestly i don’t know what that means
Come on you guys… even goyim know that money doesn’t buy you happiness.. it buys you selfishness and distraction from reality. It’s the first piece in Michtav MiEliyahu vol 1. Also chovos halevavos says for most people it’s a klalah to be rich cause they’re not likely to use they’re money to help their brethren